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Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Ewuro4: 7:05pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
naijababe: My mom calls one of my distant aunt Orente ( she's very short and robust ). My long lost uncle married an isale eko/ ijebu woman , she's soo fine , polished & LEARNED and calls me "olo mi" I have butterflies when she says that, ori mi ma n wu everytime and I accord same respect to her big time ( she's over 20 years older than me ) I'm her iya oko anytime. 5 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Ewuro4: 7:09pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
hahn: What Topic ? I think she already stated her input on the topic. you take life too seriously. chill abeg. |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Ewuro4: 7:16pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
Bottom Line : People should learn to Respect other Ethnic group culture doctrines. The fact that 'for the life of you' can't grasp the logic/reason behind that practice doesn't give you the audacity to rubish it. Period. There are countless external cultural practice I don't understand too and asked myself 'why'. I don't go ahead and call them names. 3 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by samtol4(m): 7:18pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
teekay213:what will you loose by calling "aunty" |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by hahn(m): 7:43pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
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Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by teekay213(m): 8:00pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
samtol4:she said her pride when i asked her same question...that her younger bro and sil rap together like age mate whenever he come to see her.and asked me if i can call my younger bil or his age mate "bro".i just had to rest my case.she says she's not calling her "aunty" no matter what. |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by SAMBARRY: 8:27pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
Ewuro4:AUNTY Jidegirl kulu temper 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 8:28pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
Ewuro4: Bullsh1t!! There should be a clause or an exception to your statement. It was some people's culture to kill twins, It was some people's culture to bury people alive with a dead King, it was some people culture to enslave people, it was some people's culture to marry off under-aged children. Shouldn't such culture be rubbished?? The whole idea that a wife should call a younger SIL auntie stems from the ideology that the wife is a property that has been sold to her husband's family. They have ownership and she is to submit to their will, even those of the kids. The culture is very condescending to women and as women, we don't have to condone it; we can change it. One should not condone ignorance because it is one's culture. Culture changes. As long as humans create and define their culture, it will always change because humans change. Nothing is stagnant, so we shouldn't expect culture to be permanent. @op: I blame your husband 100%. What husband would keep quiet while his younger sister is telling his wife to call her auntie?? Instead of facing your SIL, face your husband. If your husband agrees with his family, there is nothing you can do about it. In fact, his younger sister has the guts to tell you to call her auntie because he allows it. 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 8:37pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
Ewuro4: Well, I'mma call you ayiluko |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Ewuro4: 8:45pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Chinum: 8:56pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
Shollypopzz: GBAm GBamer Gbamest 13 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 9:53pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
teekay213:n I agree, I would not be able to do it either . I would die a little bit inside everytime I had to say it. And the girl lives with them so she would have to call her anty all the time, maybe if it was someone I only had to see once in a while I could manage it 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by cococandy(f): 11:22pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
@bold I thought that was pretty obvious. But then you never know... It's such things that give people liver to come into your own house and slap you. Shollypopzz: 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 11:38pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
teekay213: You see why I could never marry into the Yoruba culture Over their dead body will I call a girl 10 years my junior aunty Never ever !!! and I will make that clear from the very beginning If I were this wife I will make sure that little girl leaves my house to go live elsewhere What nonsense? Someone that should be washing my pants and bra,mopping my kitchen and asking me what she should while putting ma at the end of every sentence Where is the respect of elders I hear them talk about? Abi married woman is not included in it That part of the culture has it totally twisted This is insane IMHO 4 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 11:45pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
cococandy: Doesn't it sound strange to you I hope non yoruba girls are reading this thing before they enter one chance That's why when I hear them talk about respecting elders I just dey laugh A lot of hypocrisy in the whole thing Me call a Girl i senior with 10 years and above aunty because her brother pitied me to marry me or what I dey craze? 7 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by cococandy(f): 11:45pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
Hei Ibiakwa. Ichoro igbu mmadu on this thread? Anyway not hating on any tribe but it's cool to call nonsense when you see it. Like that Troy guy was on my neck because I mentioned something I don't like about Igbo culture. People should learn to not take such things personal. And of course move on from outdated things. Babymama1: 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 11:51pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
Can they send these aunties on errands? Just asking You will send aunty to cook and sweep the floor too? Can you scold aunty when she misbehaves? 3 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 11:53pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
cococandy: Not hating at all just calling BS by its true name which is BS And to think that people are saying just go ahead and say it 3 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 11:58pm On Jun 09, 2015 |
Macmilla: What happened to her name Doesn't she have a name,must she have a title? 3 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 12:00am On Jun 10, 2015 |
teekay213: I support her totally That is pure abuse of a wife If this is her stand she needs to stick to it from day one Call the girl by her baptismal name and if she refuses to answer,she has the right to send her back to her mother's house In the Igbo culture it is expected that a new wife will wake up and sweep the house and compound etc Well I didn't There were kids in that compound and I expected them to do the sweeping and they did The younger serve the older never the other way around You set your precedent and it will go that way from day one 6 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 12:14am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Babymama1: Don't be a bigot............you're exposing yourself. Just the same way you stood your ground to an Igbo in-law, you can also do the same to a Yoruba in-law. 3 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 12:16am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Shollypopzz: I frankly don't care what label you choose sweetie Takes no hair off my arms Just being frank here I just say it like e dey me for thorax Have you read the number of people telling her to just go ahead with it? It's not making any sense whatsoever to me 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 12:20am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Babymama1: I can bet that if a wife opens a thread and complained about her Ibo in-laws asking her to sweep the house and compound, a lot of Ibos here would tell her to do it because it is their tradition. Except you have a way of proving that Yorubas adhere to tradition more than Ibos do. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 12:21am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Shollypopzz: Remember I said expected Nobody asked me to sweep Read me well And if anyone were in the same situation I would say the same exact thing I say From day one you decide how you want to be treated and set your standards And if you are the youngest there by all means sweep that compound and sweep it well A girl 10 years your junior insisting you call her aunty is absurd and people agreeing with this makes it even more absurd Whatever culture it may be 4 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by ladygogo: 12:32am On Jun 10, 2015 |
@Op. I wont tell you to call your SIL aunty cos i dont call mine aunty. I call them by the names their parents gave them. shikena. This part of yoruba culture makes absolutely no sense to me. 4 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 12:33am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Babymama1: Actually, you are the one that needs to "read me well". I never contradicted your stance on the issue; I support your opinion that that particular tradition is absurd and oppressive. My problem with your post is when you gave the excuse that situation like this is why you cannot marry into a Yoruba culture. That makes no sense because you later posted a tradition among the Ibos that was equally absurd. If that tradition didn't stop you from marrying into the Ibo culture, why should a similar tradition in the Yoruba culture stop you from marrying a Yoruba man? Moreover, a lot of Yoruba posters have stated that that particular tradition is archaic. 5 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by ladygogo: 12:35am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Shollypopzz: True Tea. How are you these days? 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 12:37am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Bikonu is this wife also expected to kneel or bow and greet this aunty? |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 12:41am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Shollypopzz: Let the thread move on Respond to the thread and ignore me totally unless of course you can answer my question above I have made my points |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 12:43am On Jun 10, 2015 |
ladygogo: I am good, thanks. Just hustling hard so I don't end up like Sagam1te. |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 12:46am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Threads like these are very educational You learn aspects of people you never knew Now an Igbo girl marrying a Yoruba man knows what she may be up against I bet you there are many who are reading this here for the first time in their life It was on a forum like this that I heard yorubas say that in Yoruba culture,when a woman gets impregnated by a married man and bears a child for him,she automatically ascends to the status of a wife. I said eh,repeat that And other yorubas collaborated that statement That was an eye opener And the day I said that ihe di iche di kwa 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Kimoni: 12:47am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Babymama1: Osisi has seen market ooo |
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