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Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 12:50am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Kimoni: Afia how much Nna mehn Ka m si ebe a puo,ha awu o uwa ha na chi ha acid |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Kimoni: 12:58am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Babymama1: Open another thread naa, e don tey 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Macmilla(m): 3:01am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Babymama1:My dear, I no know oo. Every little brat looking for who to intimidate. 6 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by babygirlfl: 3:03am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Macmilla: Thanks. With men like you, there is hope for Nigeria. 5 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Macmilla(m): 3:16am On Jun 10, 2015 |
babygirlfl:It's annoying when a family sees a wife as a nonentity they can always clean their dirty hands on. My sister-in-law calls me by my name even when I'm older than her by 4yrs. But I know she loves and respects me completely, some times, even more than the husband (the respect part only o ). If I want her to wake by 2am to prepare me food, I can do it and she will not complain, but I dare not try it, cos it's the rest of my family that will kick my asss even when she is not complaining cos she is our wife, not our househelp. That's how we love her. Yet she doesn't call us brother or uncle or auntie. We love it that way. 9 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by babygirlfl: 3:26am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Macmilla: You have a lovely family that operates the way a family should operate. It's easy to know the type of family people grew up from. There are many dysfunctional families who brought up children that treat women and wives in a horrible way. It gives me joy every time I come across families like yours. 9 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 6:55am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Shollypopzz:Dayumm! Sholly smashed a rotten egg on her face. Thanks for sharing babygirfl 7 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by SAMBARRY: 7:33am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Why na Ewuro4: |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Bibol(f): 7:33am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Babymama1: @ bolded, Wisdom is the principal thing. As a personal rule I dont start what i can't sustain. Not every family takes all these things seriously. There are more important things to worry about Besides every culture has some practices that may not be too relevant these days 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 8:47am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Vyolet: Ehen |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by yetseyi(f): 8:48am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Interesting thread Reminds me of my cousins, their wives and the brouhaha this name calling caused. A wife (sister S) to one of my cousins ( Their parents dont seem to take this kind of topic serious) usually calls her husband siblings by name except the hubby's elder brother. Now her hubby should be around 7 years older than her, He has an elder brother and 2 younger siblings She calls the siblings by their first name even though the direct younger sibling to the hubby(a female)is about four years older than her, there are other cousins in the family that are in the same age range of the female sibling and for whatever reason she started calling one of them (sister Y) by her first name (that side of the family takes this matter very serious). Now every member of the family knows that the other side of the family doesn't care about all this stuff and even their wives know, so the wives takes advantage of it by showing attitude, i mean common courtesy they lack and I m not exaggerating. There was a function and sister A called sister Y by her name I guess publicly. Sister Y reminded her publicly that firstly both of them are not mates, secondly she is also married and her husband has siblings she doesnt call them by name that just because sister A calls her husband direct siblings by name doesn't mean she can call her too It was a funny scenario which could have been avoided if sister A had studied that part of the family well. I am not really an advocate of calling aunty or no aunty. I seem to be neutral about it but if its going to save you some stress pls call aunty especially when the person in question is older than the wife. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Nobody: 8:49am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Babymama1: Hmm me I don't understand oo. In my family and extended family we do not have such a rule. It's strictly by age , you respect your elders, be they sis in law, brother, sister, anything. Maybe it is in certain Yoruba tribes that they have this rule 4 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by pinky1974: 10:44am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Hummmm, please for u to av a peaceful home n for ur marriage to work u can use words like Iya oko mi for her n Mummy wa for your mother In law Wishing you all the best o Plenty Lessons in marriage O God bless 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by bukatyne(f): 11:26am On Jun 10, 2015 |
yetseyi: A wife should have the common sense to address her in-laws older than her by 'Aunty Y'/'Uncle Y' or 'Mummy X'/'Daddy X' While I am a strong advocate of scrapping nonsense culture, I equally advocate wives/husbands make use of common sense and courtesy. Would she address her married elder sister by name or disrespect her? 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by SAMBARRY: 11:41am On Jun 10, 2015 |
pinky1974:see village woman o iya oko mi and mummy wa. What the fk did you grow up in a cave? This is 2015 in case you have forgotten and not 1974 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by SAMBARRY: 11:43am On Jun 10, 2015 |
Gbam. You have earned yourself a nice lunch today. Oya sweery mi bukky bukatyne: 1 Like
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Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by coogaluta(f): 12:25pm On Jun 10, 2015 |
bukatyne: Why? Don't people call people older than them by name? Why can't I call my elder sister by name? Or because she is married? We just like to over-emphasize things that don't matter.....imagine someone saying they were taking it for granted, like she became their student the moment she married into their family. I'm a huge believer of MUTUAL respect but calling people aunty is the least of my worries. I have friends that are 10 years older than me, married with kids and they go by their name! Respecting them is another story altogether. if I were in op's shoes however, wisdom is profitable to direct! She should think of what she wants-'to be right or to be happy'! 4 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by queensmith: 12:38pm On Jun 10, 2015 |
ArchEnemy: This is where the first mistake has been made - because the precedence or tradition of calling your in laws such is due to the woman actually being regarded as 'lesser' Just because she has married into the family doesn't mean she needs to degrade herself in such manner - I assume the op isn't in the village, isn't uneducated and whether or not she has uneducated in laws is the problem of her husband and not hers. If the mother in law can kick up a fuss in such trivial matters she doesn't deserve to be entertained. It starts with 'you must call your younger ones aunty and uncle' where does it end? Before you know it they will have less respect for you and start demanding more. You have to nip it in the bud. 6 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Yesinde(f): 1:49pm On Jun 10, 2015 |
naijababe:opelenge, eyin afe, oko iyawo, omo ile iwe. too much self 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Ewuro4: 1:51pm On Jun 10, 2015 |
SAMBARRY: stop bringing me back on this thread kuilye abeg. tooth cavity recipients boku here , the pain is excruciating And I repeat.. Bottom Line : People should learn to Respect other Ethnic group culture doctrines. The fact that 'for the life of you' can't grasp the logic/reason behind that practice doesn't give you the audacity to rubish it. Period. |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by ArchEnemy(m): 1:52pm On Jun 10, 2015 |
queensmith:Queen you ve a point. But would you rather let anyone generate discord in your home simply because you don't wanna call somebody aunty? Is the fight worth it? 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by queensmith: 1:58pm On Jun 10, 2015 |
ArchEnemy: she's already generating discord, she could have easily said shes not a fan of how her daughter is addressed. Instead she kicked up a fuss, tomorrow she'll start something else. One better not allow anybody to tear her home down. If the MIL doesn't want to behave she can be phased out. 3 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by SAMBARRY: 1:58pm On Jun 10, 2015 |
Ewuro4:na teeth you dey use type? |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by ArchEnemy(m): 2:13pm On Jun 10, 2015 |
queensmith:not to that extent cos you ll still need her. But she should not be the one calling the shots 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by yetseyi(f): 2:16pm On Jun 10, 2015 |
bukatyne: I always frown at any sort of disrespect to whoever is involved, cousins, wife any body at all. I just feel she should have known better. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by yetseyi(f): 2:29pm On Jun 10, 2015 |
coogaluta: coogaluta calling elder sisters aunty or not depends on the family. I just feel one should go with what works in one family. For e.g I call siblings and cousins within the same age range by name . If you are out of my range I can add sister but then that's what works for us. In some families even if you are a month older you must add 'sister' or aunty. For a wife I would also say observe what works in your husbands family. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by ladynice: 3:35pm On Jun 10, 2015 |
pls wat is e and o |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Chinum: 3:49pm On Jun 10, 2015 |
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Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by SAMBARRY: 4:25pm On Jun 10, 2015 |
Yesinde:what does eyin afe mean? |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by SAMBARRY: 4:28pm On Jun 10, 2015 |
ladynice:e is a yoruba word used for referring to someone older than you in yoruba land o is used for your mate and someone younger 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by SAMBARRY: 4:34pm On Jun 10, 2015 |
Chinum:don't mind her lady nice |
Re: My Mother-in-law Hates Because I Refuse To Call My Sister-in-law "Aunty" by Ewuro4: 5:32pm On Jun 10, 2015 |
SAMBARRY: No but Your oral health says a lot about your lifestyle and class . I dont engage such people in discussions. Yetseyi nice one 2 Likes |
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