@ spikedcylinder

been watching you gal, wild luv to spike ur cylinder someday

Yea, whatever.

another poor mans ugly daughter. how did your friend inherit this knid of liability?

tpia:

wow, I still cant get over this thread.

So in this day and age when girls will bend over backwards showing all kinds of submissiveness and wishy washyness in the name of getting a husband, someone can deal her boyfriend dirty slaps, break his fingers, nearly blind him and the guy still ends up marrying her?

With the way some people breathe fire and brimstone on this nairaland sef identifying who is and isnt "wife material" I have to say this story flies in the face of African logic.

Even the women wey dey cook 24 hours, scrub floor 15 hours, kneel and prostrate everyday for at least 5 hours while greeting their SO all in the hopes of getting him to marry them, and the man will still do shakara examining a bevy of girls to see if any of them is worth marrying.  Meanwhile this "bad" lady has snagged a guy and whisked him to the altar.

Life is strange oh!!!!!! abi na fake story?

chei!!! Is it the sex? She's got some tricks up her sleeve?

crescent:

What about 7 solid good year of courtship after one month into marriage the situation go awry and bad than the one here. I  have seen such situation. Hence no matter how long is your courtship you can predict and claim to understand your spouse even 30%. Human being are deceptive when they want something. Pray and seek for GoD guidance

I adviced him not to rush into divorce but he wont listen.Frankly speaking,he was adviced against the marriage
but he did nt listen.

Kx:

.She is from a poor background.
When d guy went home some days ago to brief her parents on his intention to divorce,d mother"rolled"
on the ground crying and pleading.I asked what the father's input was,and he confessed that the
father said he wont appeal because he had always bn warning the daughter to change and bcome responsibible
but she wont listen.

Mortiple:

@poster
With all due respect, this your friend must be a SAINT. You took time to enumerate the sins of this devil-incarnate of a lady but NEVER mentioned one FAULT of your friend. Haba!

Kx:

In addition,the fact that he does not help anybody does not mean he
does not "pay" women!
Infact,ask him for 10 bucks,he will say he did nt have a dime
but when a woman surfaces from no where,he "pays like shell"

d-ROC:

This is why I said "Lets Stop Dating Poor Girls". Have you all seen the result?

This kind of attitude could only come from a poor and uncultured girl. The guy probably married because he thought he was in love and that with his money he could save this girl. This is obviously a street girl and no lady at all.

If this guy had married according to class and temperment all this could have been averted. We all make mistakes in the name of love but when a monumental mistake is made due to neglect of foundational principles, it could be difficult to blame anyone other than yourself.

I would have advised him to stay on in the marriage but for the fact that his life may not be worth living if he stays on.

Timmmy:

Wow! This is serious. Please i think everyone should sit down and learn from this story. It happened so that you and i can learn from it.
@ poster
according to what you wrote here. The girl has showed him the type of person she is by stapping him and doing all sort of things before marriage. The guy knew all these before and he agreed to live his life with her that way. So, i dont see any reason why she want to divorce her. And again in the presence of God and the entire congregation he was asked if he will love her for better for worse and he said yes. Then what else. I think this is just the beggining. Now, what i will say is that, [i]let him be closer to God very well, because spirit is telling me now that his wife is possed with evil spirit. Let him pray very well that God should reavel this secret to him. Honestly she will change with prayer. [/i]And if he divorce her, what is the tendency that he would not marry someone worst than that? He will win the battle if he's patient and prayerful says the LORD. Peace

Akaraoku$:

@ D-ROC
Guy y're on point in a way though.But poor background does not neccessarily mean poor morals;there are gals who are actually from wealthy families or doing well for themselves with awful manners.My point, luk b4 u leap n above all seek wise counsel, cos there's an igbo proverb that says "ebe nwata no na ebe akwa atuaka ,Nne ya anoghi ebe ahu ,Nna ya anoro ya"

demystify:

I see no reason to blame the lady.
The question is; is the guy good? is he treating her well as well? isn't he doing anything to provoke her anger? he saw red light before the marriage and yet tied it, what kept him?

To me, he gotta find a way of solving the problem,  divorce isn't always the solution.  If the lady is not a confirmed lunatic, and they are both adults and matured, let them solve it maturely.

Since he has a problem of observing before entering, what makes him think he will meet a "better" person after this one?

Besides, wouldn't be a bad idea if we hear of the lady's side of the story.

@Kx, stop playing lawyer for ur friend. . . defending him in all spheres.  you know his good sides only and the lady's bad side ONLY. . . he told u the bad story so u may take sides with him. . . not fair.