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Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by thelish(f): 12:16pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
funlord:after this ur brilliant advice, u con spoil am with insult? |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Nitefury: 12:17pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
I'm not sure of the type, but I'm of the opinion someone is "abusing" that child at home. Which is why he keeps to himself at home but is free outside. Op, do you have a maid? Older kids? Relatives staying with you? What about his Dad? Or perhaps stop spanking him 4 Likes |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by thelish(f): 12:20pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
classicB:thanks sis. very slow to anger, even if angry he won't express it. He prefers to watch cartoon n play games. he is only outspoken when he is really happy. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Karleb(m): 12:21pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish: You spanked him for bearing pain? Fear God now! 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by HDee(m): 12:21pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
sonofananimal1:lol she could also adopt your method, she needs every possibility. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by U2ice(m): 12:21pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
boyesola: Hmmm dnt say dt oo....d earlier d better bro if ma mum ad done same I wouldn't grow up n start teachin mysef to b outspoken... I rather beat my boi for bin stubborn,fearless n headstrong dan beatin him for bin cold @op u av killd his confidence @home wiv all d shouting...psychologists in d hous cud help tho |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by tspun(m): 12:22pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
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Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Nobody: 12:23pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
HDee:THAT METHOD IS NOT GOOD AT ALL OHH. THE CHILD MIGHT COME BACK TO HER SOME CERTAIN POINT IN LIFE |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by kay1one2(m): 12:24pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
writetopoker: Keep displaying more ignorance. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by HDee(m): 12:26pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish:okay all the best. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Nobody: 12:29pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Teempakguy: I think she is harsh or hard sounding in her tone, my son behaves the same way.. docile at home and a party animal in school. My wife uses the same tone she uses for her subordinates at work.. the questioning tone.. rather than saying words such as "Let me know when you get to a point that you need help understanding" she says "You don't understand?" in a rising tone and her expression is a serious - what is wrong with you. Children are very sensitive to facial expressions and tone of voice.. this is why Teachers are trained to speak in a language and tone that encourages the child to speak out and express himself.. not afraid to make mistakes without getting penalized. Most parents do not know how to interact with children this way 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by thelish(f): 12:29pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
marketoro:we take him n his brother out regularly, he likes outing. I give him my fone to play games, but can't see any improvement. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by timm1990(m): 12:30pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Make he dey smoke igbo 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Nobody: 12:31pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish: What!!!! That happened nd u even spanked im? oh dear I think m going to loose it. U re thinking he can bear pains but he is not feeling loved, he is trying not to make u see him weak, he is trying to be strong for himself. Pls stop spanking him 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by thelish(f): 12:39pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
femi4:thanks for ur input |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by djfabsobis(m): 12:39pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Leave him at school..... |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by cmecproblem(m): 12:41pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Oh dear, your son might be autistic, please get him to a good medical facility for immediate checks. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by SAMBARRY: 12:44pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
MhizDeedy:you are a wicked mother. How can you do that to a 4year old. Just 4.you too need to be beaten. See how you have scared the boy to death that hr cannot voice out his pain and you still beat him on top. you deserve 10 strokes of cane 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Nobody: 12:44pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Stop trying to force him to change,that could be his nature. Always create time to play with him,ask him about his friends,teacher and school activities.See if he has interest in other things like painting,doodling or drawing which you,his dad and brother can do together. Lastly,show affection by hugging him and tell him you love him because i see he keeps his emotions to himself. He can be an introvert and still be confident |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Nobody: 12:45pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
SAMBARRY: Exactly but y re u av quoting me instead of her? 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by INTROVERT247: 12:47pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish:He is growing up to become a genius only if u can bring him up in the right way,do everything u can to understand the type of person he is and create his interest in things that can improve his intellectual capacity so that when he is mature enough all his thought will be on anything that can improve him academically. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by SAMBARRY: 12:53pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
MhizDeedy:sorry jare as the thing pain me reach ni.na op get that one no be you @op do you know what you are doing is very dangerous. By the time he grows a thick skin to your impulsive beating he will become unnecessarily aggressive over sensitive and touchy as an adolescent with zero self esteem. Besides you're sending a wrong message that beating solves everything is when he gets to secondary school you will begin to see the manifestation of everything you've done for that boy. When he and his classmate have a disagreement he believes violence will solve the matter (because that's what you have taught him) When you are called from home to come and pick your son who has beaten his classmate to coma you'll know what's up 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by SAMBARRY: 12:54pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
INTROVERT247:exactly. You cannot force a melancholic child to become choleric. Besides he's still growing 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by thelish(f): 12:59pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
SAMBARRY:iya wura ose oo. thanks for this piece |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Nobody: 1:00pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
SAMBARRY: As in ehn, as I am reading these sef I am close to tears, this boy is really suffering in his house. Aww that small baby needs parental love nd care |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Nobody: 1:00pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish: You've got an introvert boy. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Nobody: 1:01pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish: you have turned the boy into a robot ! hes too scared of u, u too, u are too harsh.. my step mother too is a little bit harsh on her 3 year old son, dont force children to do what they dont want to.. just monitor them while doing it.. i really feel sad for the boy tho.. be nicer and dont ever beat him.. u are his mom, not the wicked maid 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by stonecoldcafe: 1:02pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish: Now that is weird; I hope you are not the one with the problem. I can not imagine spanking a child cos he/she is expected to cry and they failed to do so. Shudders! Another thing. Is he the only child for now? I'm asking cos perhaps if he had siblings he may be more open but then again only children could also be chatty. It depends on the child's temperament. Finally how is the atmosphere at home? Sorry to ask but do you quarrel, cry out or scream at the hubby a lot? Does your husband yell a lot at you or anyone else? Do you people do this in the presence of the kids? I tell you kids don't need to see or hear such things. Please search yourself. Do people stay with you guys like relations? What is the boys behavior with them? If you have examined every one of the above and its fine then I'll say don't worry. The kid is fine; give him time to grow. Good luck 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Nobody: 1:05pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
MhizDeedy: u look kissable. # i might be wrong tho |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by thelish(f): 1:06pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
MhizDeedy:Thank u ma'am. I appreciate ur write up. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by SAMBARRY: 1:08pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
MhizDeedy:That's where all this wife beaters get their behaviour from any small thing gba any small thing gbo because their mother is teaching them that they should use violence to react to any small misunderstanding.even you as an adult how will you feel if your husband intimidated you so bad that you cannot even express how you feel again and then he mistakenly slammed the door at your hand and then beat you for not voicing out. You too take pin and pinch yourself and know how it feels like before doing it to another person na op you go be very wicked step mother and scary mil o |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by thelish(f): 1:13pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Karleb:No, for keeping quiet. |
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