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Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by stonecoldcafe: 1:15pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Karleb:Was shocked to read that myself - very shocked. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by henryvirus(m): 1:16pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
HDee:Lol. no religious intervention is needed. back to topic....i used to be almost exactly like him so i understand how he feels. my mum realized this and she took some steps. first i think the problem is from you and his father, the way you treat him sometimes. reduce scolding,shouting,make him laugh more,take him out more,ask his likes n dislikes,consult him before you buy a dress,toy or anything for him. let his father join you too. at first when you do all this he might not respond because he'd be wondering why the sudden change ...thus he will be wary. don't worry persist. and one other thing...as he grows let him choose his own path. just be there to assist him rightly. And he is intelligent i see. also respect his privacy. One other thing dont be angry or scared because he endures pain...he has endurance thats all. also he isnt exactly scared of you, he is just enduring and nursing a little hatred towards you and perhaps his dad. it is good you discovered this early. i personally am still trying to overcome this. so be nice, keep on with it you are a wonderful mother with a shining star of a son. persist even though it seems as if he is not responding. i hope this helps. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by thelish(f): 1:17pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
MhizDeedy:OK ma. thank u |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Dramadiddy(m): 1:19pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Ur child is angry at either u or ur husband.. Dats y he doesn't open up or even feel at home in his own house but he's happy wen he's out or in school or away from u guys.. U can tlk to him to know if he's offended by anything wich I'm sure he is.. And do not spank him, U need to be his best friend... He is definitely smart and a good boy |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by SAMBARRY: 1:19pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish:the point is its not normal for even an adult to bear that amount of pain and even keep quiet talk more of a child. For Him to keep quiet it means he's afraid of expressing his feelings because he knows you'll hit him again You'll be a very vicious mother inlaw o 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by kokomilala(m): 1:21pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Fear is of the devil.Anywhere it occurs, there can be no doubt of its source.Hold your son close to your bosom and, holding his head, say: God hasn't given you the spirit of fear, but of power , love and a sound mind.That's taken from 2 Tim., 2 :7. Aside that,let your love be full or perfect for your child, because perfect loves drives out fear.Fear involves punishment.1John 4:18.Once he has this Spirit of love, he'll overcome fear. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Nobody: 1:23pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
MhizDeedy:that's true.... I think there is more behind the story, She said she don't want him to be like his father, so something is wrong somewhere |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by thelish(f): 1:23pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
SAMBARRY:I wasn't even there, when it happened. came in n saw him crying. its not about me, its his character. my anger was that, how can u keep quiet n u are in danger oya bring cane come flog me ooo. My dear am not a wicked mother n can never be. Am trying to be a better mum. I have really learnt a lot here. If am wicked, the brother should have been scared of me as well. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Nobody: 1:23pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish: U re welcome but pls pls pls am so against flogging children, u know d more u flog or beat him d more his body get used to it, he wil cry no more, if he offends u or do smtn nd talk to him, let him see that what he did is wrong and let him see reasons to stop doing them nd always let him knw u love him nd u av his back. Nobody is perfect we all make mistakes, hope ur husband do show love to him, to take him out to play football, hang out together, watch his fav cartoons with him. U don't want ur baby becoming rebellious in future, so u CATCH THEM YOUNG. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Nobody: 1:29pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
sonofananimal1: Yeah maybe, I just can't take it wen children re flogged, tz like torture to me. My dad never laid his hand on me to beat or anytin he believes in talking to me, with that i respect him more than anytin. Not every1 has to pass tthru torture. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by SAMBARRY: 1:32pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish:then something is obviously not right. Do you disgrace him in the presence of his brother or compare him to his brother or buy things for only his brother and leave him out instead of buying for him to. Like do you show favouritism to his brother and leave him out .Please draw him closer and apologise for all the WICKEDNESS you have metted out on him because trust me kids can carry such memory for years and resent you meanwhile you won't know. The day one thing leads to the other and you ask why did you do this he will say did you remember what you did to me when I was a kid 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by HDee(m): 1:33pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
henryvirus: this should be for the OP 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by STENON(f): 1:33pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Son: Mummy, Where is my Dad? @ OP, Have you given an answer to that question for him, before I'l continue with what I'm about to say. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Nobody: 1:36pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by henryvirus(m): 1:37pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
HDee:my apologies |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by eby001(m): 1:37pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
The kid's mum deserve a slap. Something is definitely wrong. Seeing a kid swings mood on changing environment shows that he/she doEs not like the Setup or someone is abusing him. The abuse may physically, mentally or sexually. ........Parents should stop comparing their wards percieved bad habits to their father/mother/older siblings 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by kinah(f): 1:45pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish: afternoon ma, the fear u said is in ur son could b due to an event u ain't aware sat he nos abt. Am deeply hurt cos he is a 4yr. He might b psychological affected at home. Kindly sit and think, study him properly. Observe d way he react to somethings at home. Normally would Av cast blames on u Bt no man is an island of knowledge. Experience is d best tch. Am sure u will learn frm it. U cn also talk to d boy. His brain is developed enof to make little decisions. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by thelish(f): 1:45pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Thanks for all the criticisms and advice. I appreciate. I have learnt new things today. I use to scold him often, but when I asked few people, they told me what to do, which am applying this days. I will still do more. I play ball with him most times, I hate cartoon but force mysef to watch with him, I give him my fone to play games, whatever he wants, we try our best to provide, we take him to children fun park to play, nor be say we too get ooo. but just to make him happy n associate with other kids. God will help us to be better parents. Amen. 4 Likes |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by thelish(f): 1:48pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
eby001:oya come n slap ooo. lol |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by kinah(f): 1:50pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish: u ain't psychologically prepared to b a parent. we are all born with natural instinct to care for our young ones no one teaches a hen/baboon ow to care or bring up its child. Yea u seek advice frm pple, Bt individual differences wat works for me won't work for u. just take it to God in prayers. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by eby001(m): 1:52pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish: Lady I'm seeing my neighbour your in quote. 1)You get angry easily 2)Your husband is quiet type that keep to himself and he is the only 1 that can put up with your attitude 3)You can sometimes get violent(tendency to pick up a fight) 4)You may have come from a family where you fight for everything eg polygamous family 5)You rarely overlook people's mistake 6)You rarely admit to your mistakes All these might not 100% correct, but going by your posts 50% will be true. Madam it's time for you to reflect on your life. 5 Likes |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by olaolaking: 1:52pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Dear thelish, Please I beg you in the name of God. Take your son to a psychiatric clinic. I beg you again. Please take him to clinic. I which my parents knew this in the past. I wouldn't have suffered all the mess. Your son is not free with you, he is not feeling comfortable in the mist of those who close to him. It is a psychological problem. Please forget about all this people saying everything is ok. Talk to them at the clinic, they will ask so many questions that will make you know that your son is having hormonal problem. The earlier the better. I am exactly victim of same condition as your son. My Dad finally killed me because he scolded me 24/7 because of my attitude. This is an in born and your son is at 80 percent risk of depression. Take your son to a psychiatric clinic. I beg you again. Please take him to clinic. cc:thelish 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Georgekyrian(m): 1:53pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
libertyfather:Liberty pls make a good inquiry about ur daughter, the friend she roams about with in school,the teacher, ask her, check her to know if she has been assulted/molested sexually in anyway.. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by thelish(f): 1:58pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
kinah:hmmmm. love ur ideology. I know how to care for my child OK?? we learn new thing s every day. I might be handling him d way I was raised, which may not be perfect for new generational kids. My dear u don't know it all. when u need help, keep pride aside and ask questions. Thanks 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Nobody: 1:59pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
MhizDeedy:for your mind ! are u yoruba? if yes, bawo ni? |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by kinah(f): 2:03pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish: hands off God help us all. didn't say I no it all sis. we are all learners! |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Nobody: 2:04pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
vickerz: Yeah ayam nd ayam fyn |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by kinah(f): 2:05pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
[quote author=eby001 post=36224690] Lady I'm seeing my neighbour your in quote. 1)You get angry easily 2)Your husband is quiet type that keep to himself and he is the only 1 that can put up with your attitude 3)You can sometimes get violent(tendency to pick up a fight) 4)You may have come from a family where you fight for everything eg polygamous family 5)You rarely overlook people's mistake 6)You rarely admit to your mistakes All these might not 100% correct, but going by your posts 50% will be true. Madam it's time for you to reflect on your life.[/quote nice one bro. u hit the nail on d head wella |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Emade(m): 2:07pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Try n also make hime ur friend |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by dblaisepascal(m): 2:08pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish:Teach him like u are discussing with a friend... u can aswell get a clue from his school teacher, and make sure u add some spice/jokes while teaching him....u can both watch some lecture cds together, ensure u engage conversation.. spend more time with him... education starts from home not sch...goodluck |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by thelish(f): 2:13pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
kinah:Thanks sis. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Nobody: 2:16pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
MhizDeedy:ok, is u based in lasgidi ? |
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