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Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by thelish(f): 2:19pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
olaolaking:Thanks bro |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by dblaisepascal(m): 2:27pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Boxer007:UR JUDGMENT, 14yrs jail term awaits u in Nigeria, highly spirited street guys are patiently waiting to stone u to death immediately u leave khirikhiri ,, d vultures are patiently waiting to feed on ur carcass, strange ants are waiting to feed on ur remains,, as for ur soul, d worse toments in hell, awaits it for eternity..... permit me to say- u look so disgusting....... wasted sperm perhaps |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by SAMBARRY: 2:30pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Let me call all the other mom's with adolescent children to educate you more based on their experiences with their own kids tearoses please kindly step forward EfemenaXY KanwuliaJara Ewuro4 Chillisauce edwife Oya o.put mouth |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by libertyfather(m): 2:34pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Georgekyrian: Thanks that has been my concern the molested issue, but she says nothing, which I believe nothing is happening and seeing it as some kids tinz...anyway I pray nothing like that happens to her and other kids.....and I keep trying my best checkin on her and pray God do the rest |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by thelish(f): 2:34pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Dramadiddy:his withdrawal is mostly when it comes to book work. Maybe its our method of teaching him as well or the things are too hard for him at his age. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by fpeter(f): 2:39pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish: you're a sick mother, you're the cause of the boy's problems. I bet he hates you already...if you don't stop torturing that boy by the time he's 10, he would not only withdraw emotionally from you but from the rest of the world. You need help yourself I bet your mother raised you in very harsh conditions so now you don't know how to handle your son rather you're reliving your childhood experiences. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by free37: 2:42pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Nice post. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by FrodoB: 2:47pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Please take your child to see a Child psychologist. A family member 's child had similar experience and was eventually placed on medication and the child is better now. The restrictions to our health care doesnot really cater to child psychology but there are a few good doctors out there. Please try not to spank him, please try and commucicate with him. You are not a bad mother, you are just doing what you think is right. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Boxer007(m): 2:51pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
dblaisepascal: Boo boo don't be a scared little chicken because noody is arresting anybody. I would love to f***k you in the asss and will pay you more if you can make me relaxed, happy and keep me entertained. Boo Boo, do you want my address? |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by adedayourt(m): 3:05pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish: I think the bolded is the reason he keeps to himself at home in the 1st place. cus for u to be thoughtful of REDUCING barking at him means u don dey do am no b today. Though its a good place to start from you can also engage him in frequent casual chat even when his topics dont totally interest u, u can giv him best of ur audience. it ll go a long way in breaking him out of "shell u pushed him into" its a home not a barrack its a mother son relationship not a captain rukee relationship Go make ursef the best MUM nd FRIEND ur son cud imagine |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by sennyaca(m): 3:19pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
olaolaking: God bless you Bro, you've spoken my mind, the boy may be going through this psychological issues as a result of some trauma which may have occurred earlier to him, a psychological assessment will unveil more about this. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by HDee(m): 3:22pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
henryvirus: accepted! |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by bodekom92(m): 3:22pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Alomo meta, ogidiga meta, olosho pupa meta, fun ojo meta, and your son's problem will be solved.(Na play o)... I don't see this as a serious issue, I grew up that way and I'm doing very fine. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by olaolaking: 3:26pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish: Exactly one of the problems. He is not comfortable around you. During my time, I will never let my parent know what ever things happened to me outside. No matter how, I just take it like that because I was not comfortable with their helps. Can you imagine. I also want to add that, he will prefer to swallow a lot of cheats from others because he does not want to be heard. He is not comfortable with been heard. If it is like this, it is hormonal imbalance of the brain. and it is likely to be hereditary.. Please. Don't let this boy suffer the same thing I suffered. I was browsing with my phone when I stumbled on this. I have to drop everything I was doing to go to the nearest cybercafe. Please go to Clinic NOW to help this boy cc:thelish |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by thelish(f): 3:33pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
fpeter:I trip for ur quick judgment ooo. not as bad as u tink dear. he doesn't hate me. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Ruq: 3:36pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Thing is kids like this are intelligent, after a while we shut up the part of us that cares. He will grow up to never expect people to love him, I just always expected people to hate me, I don't even know how to react when loved, plus I don't understand when people say their bored, I never get bored of myself. Even up till now no one really understands me, only my junior sis, and I really regret all what I did to her for no reason. Maam you don't know what you're ruining, in my case I have grown to love the monster they created. Good thing is you want change, I can almost tell you're rarely in a good mood. maybe you dont even like your marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Ruq: 3:37pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish: He will hate you if it continues, I remember always wanting to be on holidays and never going back home. 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by fpeter(f): 3:54pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish: no quick judgment here, i have written based on your post. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Nobody: 3:54pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish: Why would you spank a child for being quiet!?!? I'm sorry but you're the problem. I'm reading all the feedback your getting and your responses. Its like your not even comprehending whats being said to you. 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by MRBrownJ: 4:10pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish: kai!!!!! whatever he does, he gets a beating... no wonder the poor chap is scared to be himself. sadly, i dont blame you because this is probably A) how you were raised or B) how you get rid of all the tension in your life. 3 Likes |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by darlenese(f): 4:25pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
You are the problem , your son is confident but it seems u have no relationship with him. He is kinda confused about u, that's why its important you make a child understand why u are spanking or scolding them, if they do not understand why you are not happy with them it could be a problem, cos they will start withdrawing from u. Start discussing with him and u will be amazed that he knows more than u ever imagined . 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by writetopoker: 4:31pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
femi4:including ur parents |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by donefezy: 4:33pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Brandnew2: thelish: Brandnew2 you've said it all. He is a boy, when he is grown his heart wil get harden and wouldnt like the mother 1 Like |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by darlenese(f): 4:41pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
I feel for this child , he isn't getting any parental love from u and hubby so sad, forget those trash about seeing a psychiatrist jor, u and ur husband should work on yourself and stop hurting that child emotionally , I felt like crying when I read where u said u spanked him for keeping quiet I,m a mother just like u but it sad to hear this from u 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by femi4: 4:41pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
writetopoker:Omo ale jatijati......Aja legbe e Olodo rabata....parents indeed |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Nobody: 5:02pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish:What child loves a parent who always spanks him for intangible reasons. Just STOP SPANKING HIM. #Shikena! 2 Likes |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by lyman720(m): 5:45pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Systematic Desensitization is an exposure therapy that psychology used to help effectively overcome phobias (Fears) and other anxiety disorder. You can google it and read about the 3 steps to follow. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by writetopoker: 6:21pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
femi4: Idol worshipper, Mumu |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by eby001(m): 6:35pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
kinah:I hit the nail on the head cause I'm a victim too. Though I loved my mum but we were never on same page, never agree on any issue for once. She likes comparing me with my dad who I barely know before hIs demise....... To make the matter worse my elder sis(who understand me a little) is in far distant place. She will always reminds me that "you can't choose your family else a mad woman does not deserve to give birth to A child, but we can choose who we become" I'm always withdrawn to my comfort zone(my space). sometimes there is this 'feel good factor' if you hurt, because I always have it that you cannot love me rather it all man for himself. |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by Lawsimon(m): 6:37pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
thelish: |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by eby001(m): 6:41pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
Ruq:Yeah, you re damn right. I remember going on holiday was the best part of my childhood. My mum will have to come calling cause I will lied that resumption is at a later date not beCause I hate going to school, I just want to be away where I can have sleep without fear |
Re: How Can I Help My Son Overcome Fear? by kinah(f): 6:46pm On Jul 24, 2015 |
@eby001, we all Av a story to tell one way or d oda. |
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