jnrbayano:


You see why I type very little and straight to the point?

I never justify lack of self-control. The Op too. I only said that a lady who is voluptuous is already sexually attracting.

I also suggested that a wife should not relegate her duties such as cooking for her husband, serving the food to her husband dressing the bed etc to her housemaid the time I said "employing another helper (woman)"

I pointed out what a wise wife does. She prays for her husband and mitigate temptation from the family.

Her foolish counterparts rather bring hell (temptation etc) to their homes.

Good morning.

daimlerbenz:
It's not the same bro. The maid there in the Bible refers not to househelp. Don't equate both.

Arijosh:
the thing come dey pain you?

LadyFiona:
I won't lie here. It makes you feel and look gooood that you're being admired but acting on that is where problems lies, especially when you have someone that will be hurt in the process of actualising your obsessions. What I am mean is that it goes both ways for both men and women it is not exclusive to men, Once you got the fond glances/attentions/ flattering and the works from an admirer/coworker that you are not getting from your significant other, you fall flat if you are weak, unfaithful, amoral and a nincompoop.

SAMBARRY:
go and ask Google search engine. It will give you befitting answer that are meant for fools like you

ndidibabe:
I guess you are a full house wife. I'm a banker and I leave home as early as 5am and won't come back till 9pm due to traffic. Now, tell me how I can do without a maid. The mistake most ladies make today is to run after rich men and erase the word 'God fearing' from their dictionary. I'm happy for whom I am today and what my man has turned to be. He wasn't a millionaire when I met him but he was a very good christian . Today, he is rich and he is still very God fearing. We have two maids. The two of them have very big boobs but honestly, my man is too big to be randy.

wakacome:
@Op how old are you??your point is foolish,childish and pathetic.....if u know u truly feel that employing a full grown maid is the problem then employ a male maid now ...or houseboys no dey??my point is a married man that sleeps with another woman that is not his wife is pathetic and we should condemn it and not try to justify nonsense....ok what about men that slept with their daughter??na the wife u go still blame??what about men that sleeps with small small girls wey never even get bre*ast...na the wife u go still blame abi??ode......or u know dey hear news......

Do not try to justify a man acting like a dog and with no self-control by sleeping with his maid all in the name of temptation.....nonsense...so many kids on Nairaland these days.......am sure if you hear a news that a woman slept with the houseboy you will be quick to call her dog,slut and several names but now you are trying to justify a man sleeping with his maid just because your foolishness and dumb upbringing made you to think men are permitted to act like a dog abi??while women should keep their body....fool!!!!

SexyStrawberry:


U know, everyone have their lives to live, the most important thing in this life is to have a humble beginning, I am happy for u, I am not a full house wife, I am not even married yet, but no matter what career I choose in life, I am going to make sure that it doesn't come in BTW me n my family, I will make sure it doesn't keep me away from my kids, I mean I will make sure I won't be a stranger to my kids, when I am married, there are lots of things I could do to make me have time for my family, presently, I am my own boss, and I am doing well in my business, what I am trying to say is, for me, anything that will keep me away from my husband for long period of time, I'll cut it off, I must be around my kids a lot and make sure I cook their meals myself with my very own hands, feed my husband and give him great sex *winks* I can do all these and still be a big business independent woman.
I give kudos to u married female bankers sha, I ain't gonna be no fucking banker when I am married, it best fits for single girls who have no husband to come back home to, if I am a banker and I get married, I QUIT! My family comes first biko.

cococandy:


A minor can't work for pay legally.
So whoever you're paying to keep her as your maid is exploiting her with your help.
I'm sure you won't like to give your own child out to work as an underage maid to anyone but will encourage others to do so to children of poorer parents who are ignorant and greedy and won't mind using their kids to survive.

The earlier you learn that self control is the way out, the better for you. The solution is not using children as maids. It's for those guys who have minds like yours to learn to control themselves.

I don't know what's all these nonsense one reads here everyday. We are talking of how to move the country forward and you're busy propagating child labor because in your mind all men lack self control. If the ladies insult you guys with that phrase, you will start crying. But here you are lending credence to the generalization that men have no self control. Are all of them like you?

Do you all sleep with your female classmates and female colleagues because you come in contact with them everyday? So a man can't have an adult female employee without thinking of sleeping with her? Do you hope to one day employ people as a boss or will women be out of the question because you don't trust yourself around them?

What's wrong with you self?

This is not one of those topics that one will be like just ignore them they are talking nonsense. You're actually here propagating child labor. An offense for which people serve jail time in saner climes.

Pls stop this nonsense. It's enough.

bluice2:



I completely disagree with you. I stay alone and have had two female maids (24 & 29yrs respectively) that come clean up everyday. One handles the interior and the other takes care of 4 adult dogs (bathing, feeding, cleaning of kernels). Tho they come late mornings and leave evenings, I get to meet them on weekends when am home. I have never for once had to urge nor even the thought of even admiring them nor wanting to sleep with them. They have worked for me 3yrs and counting.

Toks2008:


Ride on pastor preach it.

Oga Ade e don tey wey dem don dey preach say fornication na sin but has it stopped some people from doing it or will it stop even you from falling as an imperfect human?

Oga i don give my life to christ 27years ago and i know that while preaching against sexual sin will help,i also believe that we should flee just as the bible admonishes us so lets leave preaching for now and not take steps that will lead us to temptation.

DrGroove:

Are you married? Because bachelors can control their sexual urges but married men lack the ability.

chiibekee:
I think a kid here is a help not a maid. will still be going to school with ur children but the major thing is that the kid must be older than ur own kids so that she will stay with then when they are back from school. That's my opinion though.

Toks2008:


Some guys will always say they are different until they come face to face with the situatiion.

Which man will accept that he has the tendency to cheat on his woman? how many ladies have used that phrase...my man is different...just to realize how myopic they have been.

A man no matter how highly placed can decend so low as ladies put it to sleep with a dirty looking maid if she is allowed to do stuffs that madamm should do and that is the message im passing accross.

An2elect2:
And why should a woman keep a maid in the first place? Is your home of secondary importance that it should be at the mercy of your career?

What is more joyful, nurturing a beautiful, healthy home or chasing imaginative dreams and money?

Yes men should exercise self control, but we should help them too! Underrating the power of our weak flesh over our wills, is tantamount to blindness and self deceit. Don't fool yourself! A wife should flee from the temptation of employing a maid too and face her matrimonial responsibilities! If not, why are you a wife then? Said my own.

pickabeau1:


Your hate for married men and men in general is astounding
Who did this to you

Why did u not tell him u were not interested

DrGroove:

Lol..i hate nobody!! Just saying it the way it is!! A bachelor can have a form of sexual discipline,not a man who has a wife.Afterall,wife will do nothing than beg,fast,pray and cry!

pickabeau1:


Do u intend to marry

Please don't

Your mindset... gosh

pickabeau1:


Do u intend to marry

Please don't

Your mindset... gosh

DrGroove:

I am married!
Marriage for societal respect and recognition..The "Mrs" title.Nothing more!

pickabeau1:


You forgot to mention kids

Interesting perspective...

DrGroove:

No..Kids are welcomed without marriage.These days,it's very common.No biggie!

WafiJoe:


Dude in as much as I like your post, I don't like it when people try to BEND the scripture to any shape to suit their talks/sermon. Here is an NIV translation of the same scripture below:

Proverbs 30:18-19 New International Version (NIV)

18 “There are three things that are too amazing for me,
four that I do not understand:
19 the way of an eagle in the sky,
the way of a snake on a rock,
the way of a ship on the high seas,
and the way of a man with a young woman.

You and I knows that at as the time of old, a young lady is mostly call a maid(en), like we call young girls; "chick" today. So please do not abuse the bible.

tete7000:


A randy man is randy not because you keep maid but he is by nature unable to exercise restrain over his libido. If he can sleep with your maid, he also has capacity to sleep with your sister,with your cousin, with a randy aunt and even his mother-in-law if situation arises. People keep maid often time out of necessity rather than out of convenience. If you don't keep maid because of your husband will you also isolate yourself from female family members because of a randy man? Let us call a spade a spade, whoever is that man that can't keep away from her wife maid is not fit to be called a human-being, unfortunately even animals when not on heat have a measure of control over their sexual urge. It is all about self control, a gift God is willing to give anyone who yields his life to Him.

Toks2008:


Some people can argue o.kai

Are maids not females? or girls? which one be house help wey you join?

man slave
male servant
gate man

all na man

some versions use girl
some maids
and some in the next verses even spelt it out so we are on same page bro.

Mindfulness:


He could have said it without telling people to employ minors and without claiming that men are unable to resist temptation.

Then I would have agreed with him 100%.

An2elect2:


Oh dear, i know a randy man is a randy man. And which man doesn't have the proclivity to be randy? Are you a realist? Are you a Christian? Because reality has proven countless times that humans are evil-inclined and therefore are prone to nefarious acts and the last thing they need is an opportunity to try their sick natures.

No man should stand in the face of sexual temptation and beat his chest that he can overcome it. Your self control here, should be too flee from it. If your hand, will cause you to sin, cut it off. This is a figurative speech and its importance in this matter should not be relegated.

If you have heard of countless tales where men have slept with their maids, you should take precaution and avoid any form of temptation whether you have succumbed to it before or not, because YOU, a sinner, CAN FALL FLAT....VERY FLAT. And i bet you will be surprised because you don't know how bad we can be.

Friend, you are boasting. Maybe one day life will expose you and then you will come to realise how weak you are.

The society is now teaching women wrongly. Why should a woman employ a woman like her to do what she is suppose to do if she values her marital life! At the end of the day, we will end up talking about misplaced values.