mamalemon:


go an marri & stp lickin edwife and kimoni rotten pusssy.

How sure are you they are not my wives? .

dinachi:

How did you manage to escape from your curse and come to nairaland?
Go back and die of your well deserved frustration, stroke, HBD!

The same way u escaped from yours. Frustrated goat.

There is something seriously wrong with your husband man.

What kind of Rubbish thing is that ehhhhn?

U r busy in the kithcen nko and he still walks out on the food on the table coz u never complete the service?

Na wa for him ooo.

Please I didnt say you shouldnt serve him food but please find out why your husband is doing that.

I hope its not what am thinking oooo

Hmmmmmm now he go look for excuse come bring him girlfriends and second wife into your house.

Ahhhh please just talk to him jeje ehnn. Just find out what the problem is.

He should understand u were busy in the kitchen and so he can share it out himself.

U know what, I have concluded that ur Husband is lazy and a baby!!

QueenHeart:
Hunger neva wire am.wen it does no body will show him d road to d kitchen,na pot him go dish from.silly man

I tell ya. Who has time to over indulge a grown ass man. When hunger wire am, he go knw Wat to do.

babygirlfl:
Kimoni and edwife, after reading your last few posts, it's clear that you two are the ones who are still living in the past. I am not a vindictive person and what the two of you have written there just shows how vindictive you two are. It's sad.

Abeg! Jst ignore them. Ain't worth the hassle

MrsChima:


Did she say she was a feminist? Just because a female created a thread complaining about her husband and the woes on their marriages has nothing to do with feminism.

If she chooses not to be submissive and perform dumb sh1t doesn't make her a feminist. It means she has exercised her freewill not to be submissive.

Some submissive wives have horrible husbands. It doesn't save a marriage if there is no love, respect , effective communication , and compassion from BOTH parties.

#teamagainstchildmarriages

You know, the whole OP has to be twisted to fit into the mantra in family section:

Feminists do not make good wives.

Else what relationship exists between a woman who at worst can't manage her time and feminism?

A wife who had taken time to cook and dish the meal in a cooler did not think of slavery... it is now time to dish it that she starts thinking of slavery?

SMH

bankot123:
I would implore you to stick to the Facebook advice given to you. Most of the opinion given on this thread are from teenagers who does know the meaning of marriage and what it takes to make a home.

My own opinion which has been working for me for the past ten years, is for you not only dish but sit and eat together with him. It strengthen the bound and add spices to your marriage. Your husband loves you so much for him to have pointed it out to you.

Drop your pride and concentrate on building a great home. Everything lies in your hands.

You can't compare your marriage and what works for you to another marriage. There are no 2 marriages alije and sitting at the dinner table doesn't strength marriage if there aren't any love, respect, compassion, and effective communication.

Sitting at the table and dishing food is a choice. Some people do not converse while eating, some people aren't always hungry at the same time, and communication is not only effective during dinner but when 2 parties are available to listen and converse.

There is no set time and place for bonding and there has to be a deeper intimacy for effective bonding to occur.

SonOfEl:
INDOMIE CHEWING GUM GIRLS, ALWAYS HIDING UNDER THE COVER OF "BUSY"

A WISE WOMAN KNOWS WHAT HER HUBBY DOSENT TOY WITH. AND IF SHE HAS TO MAKE AN EXCUSE, SHE KNOWS WHERE AND HOW TO APPROACH HIM.

NO MAN WILL SEE HIS WIFE ILL, INDISPOSED, TOO BUSY, OR AWAY AND STILL BE OFFENDED FOR NOT BEEN SERVED.

OP WANTS THE THREAD TO BASH THE MAN SHE VILLAINIZED.

ALL THIS IMMATURE WANNABES SPEWING TRASH WILL DEFINITELY LEARN THE HARD WAY.

Indomie chewing gum boys always hiding under the cover of 'I am the man'. A wise husband should know that he should be considerate and understanding.
A wise man builds his own home but the foolish man tears it down with his own hands

mamalemon:



enjoy yur rotten pussy.
Ed wife d owerri whoree living in uk with her ugly husband.
kimono d ijebu ugly ashawo.

You know so much about my queens. You must be a fan. PM me to join my harem. . A trial will convince you

Joy1706:

Indomie chewing gum boys always hiding under the cover of 'I am the man'. A wise husband should know that he should be considerate and understanding.
A wise man builds his own home but the foolish man tears it down with his own hands

*laughs* it that all you can offer?

bukatyne:


You know, the whole OP has to be twisted to fit into the mantra in family section:

Feminists do not make good wives.

Else what relationship exists between a woman who at worst can't manage her time and feminism?

A wife who had taken time to cook and dish the meal in a cooler did not think of slavery... it is now time to dish it that she starts thinking of slavery?

SMH

I get your gist however chatters needs to stop throwing around the word feminist especially if the person has not expressed themselves to be a feminist.

We often times throw an adjective on a chatter if they fits the mold or definition of that adjective. However, a woman choosing not to dish or complaining that her husband wants her to dish food HAS nothing to do with feminism.

It will soon become a mantra that a woman who doesn't kiss ass and say no is automatically a feminist.

Bullsh1t.

blessedtwins:
You sound like my soon to be ex husband.brutish and selfish

"Soon to be ex"? Sounds like there is yet hope.

I am first and foremost an advocate of marriage on NL - wishing a great union on everyone who truly desires it. Your situation is tragic, but hopefully still retrievable.

A wife who is humble and loving will not consider serving her husband as evidence of his being brutish and selfish. Hope you can both make the necessary adjustments and heal and restore your marriage.


TV

Joy1706:

Indomie chewing gum boys always hiding under the cover of 'I am the man'. A wise husband should know that he should be considerate and understanding.
A wise man builds his own home but the foolish man tears it down with his own hands

Hmmm. Nice.

Na wa o all this on op dishing ,serving food?

O ga o . Madam not really a big deal as I even think the cooking is the real stress. but oga sef no try if madam was held up doing something else.

where is the camaraderie that a couple should have? All this rigid rigid 'I can never' 'I can't ' you must' why not dish the food and jokingly bring it up later. And that is on the part of both parties.



Phew Life is not that hard.

bukatyne:


There are many perspectives to it

I do not even know how wife dish/do not dish meals related to Jesus

Thanks

It's alright. To me, if you love your partner, all these are irrelevant. So irrelevant.

adesbreath:
What if she has a new born to attend to ..I don't see anything wrong in the man dishing out his own food, it's the same man that will tell her the food is cold if she dishes it..do you know if she has a help? They should both try and compromise

Nobody has said there is anything wrong in the man dishing out his own food...neither is there anything wrong in the wife dishing out her husbands food.


TV

raayah:
I personally don't mind dishing food for my husband but if I cannot do it because i'm busy. He should understand.

Men are not babies.
They should be able to plate their own food.
Its better because you will be able to access the amount of food you want instead of sending your wife up and down.

Since its marriage, communicate with your husband. Tell him you are not comfortable and suggest a better way of serving his food. I would suggest putting the food in a big dish while your husband serves himself from there.


It seems you already do this. You are doing all the housework and cooking meals for him and he is still asking for "complete service". I think you married a baby. If he is hungry, he will plate his food. I think there is a bigger issue in your marriage.

someone is being misled here. OP you should be happy that you have such a romantic husband. how many men will have time for the dinning table (if not to eat beside his laptop in his room with his attention on one half unclad lad chating him up om fb). abeg feed your man with kiss and enjoy your marriage jor.
|Wish you happy married life

MarvellousGod:
Indomie children? .. I'm far from it....

I didn't say men shouldn't be traditional cos it's none of my business, I can't tell men how to live.... I didn't also say wives shouldn't serve their husbands food afterall I serve mine food.. but what's the big deal in dishing out food if your wife isn't available to do it? To the extent of rejecting the food? I really don't get it ... In an healthy marriage, this shouldn't be an issue at alll.....

The wife that also brought this petty issue to the social media has something going for her....

As someone said this kinda couple may also be fighting about who's supposed to switch off the light at night. .. Such flimsy stuffs! !.. na them sabi abeg....

Lol Ok I got you. Sorry for being rude. You nice.

creepsyme:
dont get it wrong, wat is in dishing food dat a man cannot do? after all the cooking from ur wife? @%=÷teammenwholovetostresswomen$#@%

If this will be an issue in Ur marriage, will u prefer a divorce to dishing out the food?

TV01:

"Soon to be ex"? Sounds like there is yet hope.

I am first and foremost an advocate of marriage on NL - wishing a great union on everyone who truly desires it. Your situation is tragic, but hopefully still retrievable.

A wife who is humble and loving wil not consider serving her husband as evidence of his being brutish and selfish. Hope you can both make the necessary adjustments and heal and restore your marriage.


TV

There is nothing wrong with serving food and eating with the spouse but when it has become an order or requirement without prior discussion is the problem.

Serving food and eating with your spouse is a gesture but it does not count as a measurement of how much a spouse love you.

Joy, patience, understanding, meek, support, respect, empathy, encouragement, positive motivatuon, and peace is what helped one feel less resentful and mistreated.

She has prepared the food and a considerate response would be to say thanks. Why disturb the peace in your home if you know you do not have a malicious woman?

Why disturb the peace over petty things? Choose your battles and every battle isn't meant to be fought or won.

MrsChima:


Hmmm. Nice.

its no longer reasoning, its now the battle of the sexes.....are you ashamed of yourself?

if you read my post she responding to, then I am sorry for you......nice kor, noose ni...... foolishness.

bukatyne:


Stop talking with both sides of your mouth

You command or you don't?

Or you define command with 'Mama I think...'

See wifey is intune with my preferences as if you are not also intune with hers Oya na try your fantasy with her Abi your one-flesh no reach that side?

When you start 'commanding', let us know

Till then, take the back seat when commanders are talking

kikikikikikikikikikikikikikikikikikiki

You are still here prating .

I command absolutely . When a man presents properly and enunciates his wishes clearly, he doesn't have to command repeatedly. Authority doesn't always have to be on show, leadership is in some regards about empowering.

A truly submissive wife does not have to be bossed, but you wouldn't know this as there are no leaders, no commanders and no authority is wielded in your "equalist" household .

Christian wives know how they do - feminists don't be pained

Ephesians 5:22 - Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
Ephesians 5:24 - Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
Colossians 3:18 - Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
1 Peter 3:1 - Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands,
1 Peter 3:6 - as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good


"Lord Commander" TV

sinizia:


Thanks and Amen.


I blame all these madness on the way our society brought our men and ladies up. I love my tradition but not at the expense of my humanity. Imagine what those ladies on FB are spewing!! They have no iota of self-worth at all. Zero self-esteem. Then they will raise their daughters up with that sick mentality and belief and the ill-fated cycle goes on and on. I felt a pang of mad anger reading the stúpid replies of those ladies. Imagine what a lady is saying; "please spoon-feed him if he wants it too before another lady does it for him." I'm dead sure if their husbands sleeps with anything with a Vajayjay, they'd blame ONLY the various women and not the husband with a wandering prick. I don't blame we men for calling women fish brains sometimes, those ladies up there justifies the assertion.

Absolutely.
The ladies can keep on deceiving themselves. Wherever I smell a character flaw I will say it.
You don't treat people like that. You accord people respect and do not diminish their humanity.
they can try to mask the whole think by 'rubbing the man's head', lmao but the truth has to be said that you are married to an immature prick!
#demoniclove

I do not like my husband touching the food that I have prepared and I will dish his food because how I want the food to look on his plate. I am a chef so it is a chef thing so sue me!

If I tell my husband to serve himself he will ask me what is wrong because he will think it is a trick. He will serve himself without an issue but again each person and marriage is different.

We have to remember that people!!!!

Opynion:






someone is being misled here. OP you should be happy that you have such a romantic husband. how many men will have time for the dinning table (if not to eat beside his laptop in his room with his attention on one half unclad lad chating him up om fb). abeg feed your man with kiss and enjoy your marriage jor.
|Wish you happy married life

pls talk some sense into her head, that is if she would receive it and take correction.....before she labels you as a villain.

I hate when my husband want to sample the food before it is done! Oh my gosh, he will wait until I depart the kitchen and steal a piece of meat!

Meat thief!

"Add a little salt"
"Can I have a piece?"
"Can I lick the spoon?"
"Can I sip the soup?"
"Add more pepper"
"Add more maggi"

Argggggghhhhhhhh!!!!

Why??!!!

SonOfEl:


*laughs* it that all you can offer?

*laughstoo* is it not the same thing u offered?

Joy1706:

*laughstoo* is it not the same thing u offered?

battle of the sexes. I also knew all along this is what its about, not sincere marriage matters....

good luck to your marriage.

you know what? fight him, bad mouth him, in short, DIVORCE HIM....so you can have your peace.

yimu.

SonOfEl:


its no longer reasoning, its now the battle of the sexes.....are you ashamed of yourself?

if you read my post she responding to, then I am sorry for you......nice kor, noose ni...... foolishness.

Just because you disagree with her statement doesn'tmean I do.

You are entitled to your opinion and so does she. I will be whatever you wanting me to be as long as it helps you feel better.

I see you looking Mr. Royalroy. . I am behaving.