cococandy:
Since he can cook and cooks better, plus he has a more flexible job, why is he making his life more difficult by insisting she cooks because he's the man? See as people make their lives difficult because they want to live by the dictates of the society.

He should cook when he can and when he can't let her know he can't.

I won't totally blame the wife. If she been the type that used to do all that before marriage and the changed after marriage, then I'd blame her. Everyone should endeavor to marry those who share their views on marriage. Not marry them and try to bend them into what you feel they should be. Recipe for friction.

For all the guy knows, she may have married him because of his skills in the kitchen.
That's why you don't marry someone and hope they change overnight.

What they need is compromise.
Both of them should meet each other half way.

Since the wife is here as you said, I suggest she stops dragging her feet because he's always doing it. She should sit up and try too. Nobody appreciates being left to do it all. She should stop taking it for granted.

cococandy:


A married guy could have said that too.

I know they aren't that many but I know quite a few who don't mind doing the cooking.

Tallesty1:
You wan taste hell on earth be that.

ebubey:
martins y did u bring my family issue to a public? u shuld learn how to mind ur biz...n 4 those of u insulting me OYO btw my husband loves to cook n his meals re far better... wat do you expect me to do? intimidate myself

kossyablaze:
so na cutehec...u dey mention abi?come 4get me

zeb04:
nobody likes to be forced into anything talk more of an adult who is probably educated and opinionated.

while growing up, the day my elder bros told me I had to be cooking for him morning afternoon night because i was the girl in the house, I didn't serve him for 3years until I left.

you don't force an adult into doing anything just the way you don't force your hubby to provide setting things.you talk about it peacefully like adults

cococandy:

Maybe Mr Gboyegad lives in the west.
That way, he could be married and still have such opinions.
Or he's one of the few who don't live in the west but also share such opinions.

And facts do vary from person to person anyway.
Who made it a fact? someone else can decide that's not the fact for them and we have a right to respect their own opinion.

OP assumed his wife would see it that way.
Hmm. Mistake.

I hope they work it out sha.

emmatok:

Are implying the wife delegate the cooking role to her husband?
If i am the man i will start cooking my own food alone, and stop complaining, lets see how the woman will feel.

Gaidenk:
Cococandy,freecocoa and every other beverage make una show ,dinner is served.

slimmy05:
Woman wrapper. For the dude to nag, it's obvious the wife just spreads her leg like umbrella while he explore all culinary skills just to feed that her watery brain. Oga, don't equate all men like you.

ammyluv2002:
They should both grow up.

misspicy:

And you have MALE as ur sex on nairaland.....thesonofm.ark come see o

GboyegaD:


In my case, cooking can be done by any party, and growing up, there were some days my dad did the cooking and it never made him less of a man. Expectations were made by men and everyone has a right to which expectations he chooses to live by and which ones he changes.

emerged01:
The girl can cook but she won't cook for the guy. I believe it is a psychological problem. The girl hasn't realise that she is no more single. The mentality of the guy has changed,believe he is now a man,whenever he comes back from work,food should be on the table waiting for him. In this kind of situation, I believe the guy has to make demand until the lady starts you using her brain. it is just a matter of time, they will understand each other.

4stylz:
One day all this girl's will give us wrapper to back kids, and wash their clothes self.

4stylz:


See them oo; na so e take dey start; later they will be blaming thier gf .

cococandy:

And what's wrong with that?