Before I start, criticism, new or better ideas and correction is welcome.
#standtobecorrected

You're at the corner of a NL room , doing some mindless chore when suddenly you find yourself face-to-face with a little cutie who's gazing back at you with that glassy, wide-eyed look that all us guys with one track minds love to see. You smile and make some ridiculous remark about something totally pointless, but she lights up anyway and gives you a rockin' return smile like mumu she be. You might even get a flash of that doe-eyed, "take me" look. Pre-occupied with the weighty decision of Cheesy Poofs vs. Raw Onion Crunchies however, you have no time to humor her along any further.

So after this brief but enlightening exchange of pleasantries you turn away and ignore her. You then spot the girl a few minutes later while up at the counter checking out, but now she won't even look at you -- or she gives you that quick "too bad" look and vanishes into the parking lot. A few minutes later while returning back home you think to yourself... "Geez, was that chick flirting with me or what?..."

And so it goes... another unlikely SURPRISE chance to hook up with a hot little number shot down the tubes. All because you either forgot in the moment or don't actually even know how to respond to a sudden flirt that sneaks up on you. Hey, been there my friend... this used to happen to guys ALL the time! Not all that frequently mind you (ha!... I wish) -- but whenever I DID happen to stumble across a surprise flirt like this the result was always the same... down in flames!

That's because my response to a flirt that sandbagged me was always predictable: complete and total lock-up. A perfectly juicy opportunity lost forever -- something to grit my teeth over later on that night when I think about it over and over again, wondering what I could've done differently.

I have thought about this problem in depth and I've tried to look at it logically and without emotion as much as possible. Here's what I think: that a lot of this failure to engage can be chalked up to simple DISBELIEF even more than fear. Disbelief in the sense that by the time the gravity of the situation sinks in past my cynical BS filter and I realize... "hey, this chick is flirting with me!" the magical moment is gone and the opportunity lost.

This is why I believe that an absolutely critical social skill when it comes to being good with women is the ability to switch mental gears and spring into action at the VERY FIRST SIGN that a chick might dig you! Don't waste time pondering why this could be happening or anything else, just act! Go ahead and connect with her FIRST and get her number or PIN or NL username if you want or whatever you can, and THEN sort out all your anxieties later. You know, all those useless academic questions such as: "would this girl be compatible with me", or "what's wrong with her that she's flirting with me?..."

Alright then, with this basic idea now firmly established let me share a few of my thoughts on this ONE particular maddening aspect of gaming women: the surprise flirt.

1) Don't Freeze-Up wondering why YOU could be her guy. The single biggest killer in this situation is hesitation. Like so much of the sport of gaming women, timing is everything. However, in this situation minutes don't matter, SECONDS matter. When a chick opens a sudden flirt you literally have a window of opportunity available to you that's measured in mere seconds. You should almost see a ten second counter open up over her head that immediately begins running down 9....8....7.... to remind you of how little time you have to act in a way that plays perfectly off her opening volley.

The big mental block here is a defeatist self-image of yourself as not being "flirting material" or "worthy". But while you're wondering why a chick this cute would actually be flirting with a lowlife such as yourself, precious seconds are tick, tick, ticking away -- and with it goes your chance to score a number!

Therefore:

MAJOR FLIRTING RULE #1: If she's not immediately seeing the reaction that she was hoping to see from you, (that you are socially skilled enough to respond to a flirt) the woman will almost always take this as an immediate rejection! Once that happens she will pull back (I've actually seen them physically snap back) and the flirt is OVER. Women have no tolerance for rejection, and will rarely ever try to bull their way through it like a guy would, especially here on NL . Therefore, you must be very careful to seem IMMEDIATELY open and accepting of her offer to flirt around with you, and take up the verbal volley with good humor!

MAJOR FLIRTING RULE #2: You never know what any other person in the world considers to be their "type", so don't let the question of what "she" might see in "you" even cross your mind for an instant. Who cares? You've seen tons of hot chicks hooked up with gross, grubby dudes, haven't you? Just accept her judgement and GO WITH IT! No over-thinking of what's going on -- no suspicion of motives, no paranoia, no disbelief. None of that junk must be allowed to intrude into your mind at this critical moment when you're "on the clock". That crap will only result in a freeze-up, and once that happens it's game-over.

2) A Sudden Flirt is always your chance to shine. It doesn't matter if your silly little joke is lame or if your words are stuttering or smooth (or even exactly WHAT you say to her) -- the important thing is that you are attempting to react to her gift of a flirt in a positive way that reflects those good feelings right back at her. You are playing the game! Your willingness to pick up a flirt speaks volumes about yourself... and it's all good stuff! It says that you are active socially (and therefore something of a catch), that you have good self-esteem, you're pleasant around people AS A REFLEX, and so on.

This is the best way to communicate these sorts of qualities to women... with your ACTIONS rather than your bragging words!

Think of it this way: you've been given the opportunity to put yourself over with a deliberate charm rather than being forced to apply a load of "pick up artist" blather -- and you should always SEIZE this type of chance with enthusiasm because they doesn't come by too often. A woman initiating a flirt is taking a big personal risk to give you a fat GO signal in the only way that she knows how -- admittedly a bit awkward and the entire "surprise" thing is somewhat unfair -- but unfairness ABOUNDS throughout the universe of man-woman affairs of the heart. Why should this aspect of it be any different?

3) Let Her "Win" the Flirt. Remember, SHE started this and so it's HER play. That means if you pick up her flirt and give it right back in a fun and friendly way, then SHE WINS! By that I mean you've confirmed her charm as a woman... she "won" your male attention! Get it? This sort of thing is thrilling to a woman and puts her in an instant happy / satisfied mood from which you can naturally be expected to seek to want to get together with her again soon. It plays into all her most dreamy "chick flick" fantasies!

Anyway, once you've spread around the good vibes you should then...

4) Follow Up Immediately. Get her name and number and pop it straight into your cellphone, or use a paper... whatever you have to do to make it possible to hook up with her again before she forgets about you or has second thoughts. Even better, offer to meet her somewhere within the next 1-3 days at some "happening" place... a nightclub, corner bar, a nearby special event, whatever. Whatever fits YOUR particular style and is centered around a place that you would normally frequent and know something about. Figure out what this actual place should be IN ADVANCE and have it stored in your noggin always ready to whip out and use at key moments like these!

Don't overthink this: simply INVITE (don't "ask" and especially don't beg! ) her to meet you at XYZ Club this Friday night... you know they have great steamed clams or killer Buffalo wings, etc. Make it a safe, public venue that you would usually hang out at... somewhere she would certainly know about if she lives in the area. Invite her to meet you there for a drink or to watch you play softball(if she loves it). "You seem very charming (cool, fun-loving)" is all you need to say. Even if she is not

Simple words spoken WHERE THEY ARE WELCOME will rock her world!

Inviting her out to a public party spot also has the added benefit of making you seem like a social, happening guy -- rather than nervously asking for her "magic 11 digits" like some porn-bookmarking nerd. Tantalizing a woman to JOIN YOUR WORLD as opposed to doing you a favor by even agreeing to see you again makes a rockin' statement about your High Male Status! Such impressions may be unspoken and subliminal, but this is what makes them so psychologically powerful as well.

So in review, DON'T EVER WONDER "WHY ME?" -- LET HER WIN THE FLIRT -- HAVE A STANDARD PLAN FOR FURTHER CONTACT. Write these simple but effective rules for responding to a flirt down on a card and stick them onto your bathroom mirror so you can stare at them every morning hovering right next to your heinous, unflirtable mug . This will drive these concepts deep into your brain so that the next time you get hit with a surprise flirt from some little hottie right next to you, you'll be able to react cooly and professionally within seconds.

Almost as swift as the glint of lust sparkling in her eyes!

it will tk me upto 5days nd 6hours to read this OP tk note*

nickkylawve:
it will tk me upto 5days nd 6hours to read this OP tk note*

in the first place, its not for women
its for males.

henribj:


in the first place, its not for women
its for males.

thanx jare.... no mind her! she z waiting to be flirted

henribj:


in the first place, its not for women
its for males.

bcoz I didn't read it NA I nevr noticed

nickkylawve:
it will tk me upto 5days nd 6hours to read this OP tk note*

if u wont read.. then don't comment

donTbone:


thanx jare.... no mind her! she z waiting to be flirted

hahahaha
oya guys do the needful.

nickkylawve:
bcoz I didn't read it NA I nevr noticed

alright

Awwwwww

henribj:


hahahaha
oya guys do the needful.

#Applyingpowderonmyface!!!

donTbone:


#Applyingpowderonmyface!!!

haaa, you no need powder nah
meanwhile which color of powder? white powder or brown powder??

henribj:


haaa, you no need powder nah
meanwhile which color of powder? white powder or brown powder??

The two

Wanna use the brown as foundation!

donTbone:


The two

Wanna use the brown as foundation!

lol
you don dey find these girls dem trouble o
no let them remember you

henribj:


lol
you don dey find these girls dem trouble o
no let them remember you

Before nnko!
if dem no sha get money for marykay, person go sha package!

donTbone:


Before nnko!
if dem no sha get money for marykay, person go sha package!

hahaha
packaging is not a sin o

But guys are usually the first to comment on girls' thread.

henribj:


in the first place, its not for women
its for males.

Oya make i go apply this furmula abeg,op if in no work...........

Adasun:
Oya make i go apply this furmula abeg,op if in no work...........

Try am with ur neighbor abi Landlord daughter first

Nuellah02:
But guys are usually the first to comment on girls' thread.

that is open for debate.
who says guys comment first on threads started by girls?
where are the proofs of that?

U sure is nt dust?

donTbone:


#Applyingpowderonmyface!!!

nickkylawve:
U sure is nt dust?

whats d face for?

Wats d tongue 4

donTbone:


whats d face for?

nickkylawve:
Wats d tongue 4

That moment when you attempt to kiss him and this hilarious
sneezing comes in, accompanied with mucor!

Na bad gal u wan be!

Shoro niyen

donTbone:


That moment when you attempt to kiss him and this hilarious
sneezing comes in, accompanied with mucor!

Na bad gal u wan be!