Am a young African woman living in the united states ,and have been dating a 37 yr old nigerian man(am 30) for sometime now .I love this man very much and i have been there for him and when times were hard ,i have carried him .Our relationship would be perfect it it isnt for these issues.Money while i share mine freely ,he is stingy with his he has never given me a penny,he expects me to take care of him financially,and be responsible for his financial obligations , though he has a job,and when am unable to he gets angry and says as his women am supposed,at times he has given me ultimatums either i give him or we are through .He is hesitant to invite me to his home because of his mother saying she wouldnt approve of me.She wants her son to marry a nigerian.Like i said i love this man so much and to some extent he loves me . he does have a positive side he is intelligent ,hard working,and when its just me and him without the money & me not going to his house issue things would be perfect.I need help on how to deal with these issues,

Girl please move on.

Let me tell you from experience, if a Nigerian man loves you he will open his wallet to you and will never demand money from you. Most will find it insulting to take money from their women. Are you sure he is not Ghanaian (sp)?

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Thanks chaircover. At poster, sorry but your "boyfriend" is very married and all his money is going to his family that is why he has a good job but he begs you for money. Run now before you make a mistake. I am giving you this advice for free. If you marry him and come here crying for advice I will charge you for the cyber slap I will give you

~ What's not right with this thread? ~ 37 year old Nigerian collects cash from u, doesn't allow u visit him 'cos of his mum? . . .he's both intelligent & hardworking blah blah blah. . . ~ *hiss* ~ Verify his age & nationality and modify your post. ~

Czarskit:

~ What's not right with this thread? ~ 37 year old Nigerian collects cash from u, doesn't allow u visit him 'cos of his mum? . . .he's both intelligent & hardworking blah blah blah. . . ~ *hiss* ~ Verify his age & nationality and modify your post. ~

Czarskit!!!! Don't break my ribs o . . .

Outstrip:

Thanks chaircover. At poster, sorry but your "boyfriend" is very married and all his money is going to his family that is why he has a good job but he begs you for money. Run now before you make a mistake. I am giving you this advice for free. If you marry him and come here crying for advice I will charge you for the cyber slap I will give you

lol @ cyber slap!

~Hail naija gals, they really know naija guyz very well~

His mother will not approve of you because you are not his wife, he already has one my dear, and no man in his right mind who is WORKING, will demand money from his woman, he is only doing this to you, because 1. you let him 2. he knows you love him (and will do anything for him).

However, it's your life oh, I am your junior, but I seem to be having a bit more sense right about now, move on,

Naija dis - naija dat!
@poster, u sure he ain't from ur country? Naija men rather be the heads: financially and other wise.
I think he's from Niger Republic; not Nigeria! Watcha think? Rotflol!

Honestly, some nigerians r like that,even worse.move on,he's a con man.

na koni koni love he de play u oo oh oh oh

na koni koni love he de play u oo oh oh

do we still have 37 yr old working men living with heir moms?

chaircover:

A 37 year old man won't take you home because his mother wont approve of you & he won't spend any money on you but wants yours.

Sure he isnt married?

Pls confirm this,

steal his money !!!!!!!!!!!!!

is that all you can say

hahahaha at 30 poster you are still daft
i mean how can a 37 year old man feed you wit lies that even a 2 yr old cant accept

you give him money and uve never been to his house,dated him for sometime,yet u dont know he is married right?

ok his mum wont accept you meaning you both can never end up together is it not enough for you to pack ur bags and baggages and walk out of his life?

what man will tell u dis lies about his mum staying with him and you wont grab immediately dat he is lying, did they smash your brains or what,or do you reason with your anus? i mean

this is just so DAFT. i mean, are u even really 30

Thanks everyone for all the advice , i saw my boyfriend today and as usual he huffed and puffed tried to bully me into giving him some cash.i stood my ground and calmly told him this atm has closed down, am tired of carrying him on my back,I asked for my keys and packed his bags am now planning on changing my phone number as well. while most were quick to judge dating overseas is hard,while back home you get a clear picture of who you are dealing through their ties in families,friends,etc here you meet people from different countries and what you know about them is based on what they tell you.In my case we live in a small town with very few Africans and i hoped that though we are from different countries,we are both Africans it would work out

chandalala:

Am a young African woman living in the united states ,and    have been dating a 37 yr old nigerian man(am 30) for sometime now .I love this man very much and i have been there for him and when times were hard  ,i have carried him .Our relationship would be perfect it it isnt for these issues.Money  while i share mine freely ,he is stingy with his he has never given me a penny,he expects me to take care of him financially,and be responsible for his financial obligations , though he has a job,and when am unable to he gets angry and [b]says as his women am supposed,[/b]at times he has given me ultimatums either i give him or we are through .He is hesitant to invite me to his home because of his mother   saying she wouldnt approve of me.She wants her son to marry a nigerian.Like i said i love this man so much and to some extent he loves me . he does have a positive side he is intelligent ,hard working,and when its just me and him without the money & me not going to his house issue things would be perfect.I need help on how to deal with these  issues,

LIES!!

Good thing you given him the boot.