Kimoni:

They are both guilty of that naa

he's not guilty of impregnating another woman.

Besides, he doesn't really mind the infidelity, it was an open marriage afterall. He's more concerned about the baby that's not his. And I am wondering, isn't that to be expected in an open marriage?

most men don't mind the infidelity actually.....it's the issue of paternity fraud that cooks the goose!

Bullshit

coogar:

he's not guilty of impregnating another woman.

We can't say that with all certainty

most men don't mind the infidelity actually.....it's the issue of paternity fraud that cooks the goose!

This is news to me, seriously...except you are kidding

Kimoni:


Google inspired translation

I can't even read what you wrote eddy love

e joo:please

Ko t'ope ma:you are welcome ma.....

Ewuro4:

He deserves it, she is a goner.. Case closed.
@2nd paragraph ... HUH?? but I have an idea what you're talking about.

I know you know. I am scared of posting anything there...make missile no wound me...

edwife:


e joo:please

Ko t'ope ma:you are welcome ma.....

Lol..you try small actually but that Nos 2 translation get k-leg sha

But you tried

Just teach me gifs and this will be history

edwife:



e joo:please

Ko t'ope ma:you are welcome ma.....



I know you know. I am scared of posting anything there...make missile no wound me...

Lol.. I see. Fear not my dear No missle fit swerve your way... Dem dey watch face..

WOJU O

Kimoni:


Lol..you try small actually but that Nos 2 translation get k-leg sha

But you tried

Just teach me gifs and this will be history

Thank you and that one go hard o....

Gifs are pretty expensive,so try something else.

Olorun a da fun e.

edwife:



Olorun a da fun e.

Hahaha

Ewuro4:


Lol.. I see. Fear not my dear No missle fit swerve your way... Dem dey watch face..

WOJU O

Kimoni:

We can't say that with all certainty

if there's such a love-child anywhere, i think he would have mentioned it. he was honest enough to admit his own infidelity. he has no single reason to hide that info.

This is news to me, seriously...except you are kidding

only insecure men worry about the infidelity of their wives. real men just dust themselves, brush their shoulders and simply move on.

what has been done has been done - screaming, shouting, beating will not ünfuck a cheating partner. however, sneakishly planting another man's child under my roof will be fatal!

Ewuro4:


Hahaha

Don't mind kimoni,i don marry second husband,an alhaji.I was told to learn yoruba in 3 months to inherit tassans of dollars ,she dey dull.

coogar:


if there's such a love-child anywhere, i think he would have mentioned it. he was honest enough to admit his own infidelity. he has no single reason to hide that info.

He has been sincere alright but the thing is, he himself can't be too sure he is not fathering a child outside. Some girls will rather keep mute about it than tell, especially when they know it's not a welcome news.

only insecure men worry about the infidelity of their wives. real men just dust themselves, brush their shoulders and simply move on.

Coogar tun de o

This thing you are saying is news to me and I don't buy it

what has been done has been done - screaming, shouting, beating will not ünfuck a cheating partner. however, sneakishly planting another man's child under my roof will be fatal!

Fathering another man's child shouldnt be the problem actually, you are only improving humanity. People adopt children everyday, so what's the biggie? Naija fathers train as many children as they can - biological et al, it's never considered an issue.

coogar:


most men don't mind the infidelity actually.....it's the issue of paternity fraud that cooks the goose!

This one is a lie.
Men mind.

There's no human in this earth no matter how emotionally detached that won't mind their wife or husband sleeping with someone else.

Except by mutual agreement. Even then, jealous feelings still creep up.

Kimoni:

He has been sincere alright but the thing is, he himself can't be too sure he is not fathering a child outside. Some girls will rather keep mute about it than tell, especially when they know it's not a welcome news.

in other words.....
to the best of his knowledge, he has no love child. he's not guilty!

Coogar tun de o
This thing you are saying is news to me and I don't buy it

ask around....
it's those insecure guys that make infidelity a do or die issue.

Fathering another man's child shouldnt be the problem actually, you are only improving humanity.

in this scenario, the man already knows what he's getting o.

People adopt children everyday, so what's the biggie? Naija fathers train as many children as they can - biological et al, it's never considered an issue.

adoption is different altogether from paternity issue. why can't you see one has deception written all over it and the other is free will?

the infidelity can be dealt with....deception via paternity fraud crushes men and that's when naija wives get hacked to death!

cococandy:

This one is a lie.
Men mind.

most men don't mind....
he has a go-to procedure the moment he's certain his partner has been cheating. it's not always convenient, i'll give you that.

There's no human in this earth no matter how emotionally detached that won't mind their wife or husband sleeping with someone else.

the deed is done!
he's moving on and doing away with the cheating partner. what's there to mind? made men leave a bit of their heart for unforeseen contingencies like infidelity. so when it happens, there is a shock absorber waiting to take most of the hit. the rest is easy to deal with from them on.....

Except by mutual agreement. Even then, jealous feelings still creep up.

jealousy can creep up - that's part of the reason he's kicking her out. i am not saying a man won't mind and continue to be with the cheating heifer. i am saying since he's already set a standard for himself & should his partner cheats, she's out of his life. why then cry or curse over spilt milk?

Well if she's out of his life for cheating then he minds.
When you say he won't mind means it's okay by him.
So it's your choice of words here that's bringing the misunderstanding of your post.

coogar:


in other words.....
to the best of his knowledge, he has no love child. he's not guilty!




ask around....
it's those insecure guys that make infidelity a do or die issue.



in this scenario, the man already knows what he's getting o.



adoption is different altogether from paternity issue. why can't you see one has deception written all over it and the other is free will?

the infidelity can be dealt with....deception via paternity fraud crushes men and that's when naija wives get hacked to death!



most men don't mind....
he has a go-to procedure the moment he's certain his partner has been cheating. it's not always convenient, i'll give you that.



the deed is done!
he's moving on and doing away with the cheating partner. what's there to mind? made men leave a bit of their heart for unforeseen contingencies like infidelity. so when it happens, there is a shock absorber waiting to take most of the hit. the rest is easy to deal with from them on.....



jealousy can creep up - that's part of the reason he's kicking her out. i am not saying a man won't mind and continue to be with the cheating heifer. i am saying since he's already set a standard for himself & should his partner cheats, she's out of his life. why then cry or curse over spilt milk?

cococandy:
Well if she's out of his life for cheating then he minds.
When you say he won't mind means it's okay by him.
So it's your choice of words here that's bringing the misunderstanding of your post.

he won't mind as in not doing the following.....screaming at her, beating her up, doing revenge pörn or whatever today's kids do to cheating partners.

he will just let her go jejely....dust himself and move on. life is too simple than killing one's self over a promiscuous partner.

But the sad part of it is that each time i visit home to check on my family , I usually detect infidelity in my wife, I used to find a place in my heart to forgive her because i know she is also human because its not easy been alone , because i am not holy too lol.

It wasn't a one-time infidelity act Coogar, she had always been cheating and he had always been forgiving her because he does same - open marriage.

Pregnancy is an outcome that should be expected from this act and it can happen with any of the sperm donors. He knew all along he was not the only one donating sperm to her, right? So where lies the problem sir?

cococandy:



I bet if the husband was the one that gave woman belle outside and I said she should accept the baby then I'd your example of a good woman.

Mtchew

how could anything better be expected.the man hasnt even been absolved off his own admitted sins.why dont you say something that doesnt have to reveal something personal withing.show some grace.you would frankly say those things to a man outside? Are you afraid of being a good woman?

Kimoni:

It wasn't a one-time infidelity act Coogar, she had always been cheating and he had always been forgiving her because he does same - open marriage.

you are making my point.
he had no problem with her infidelity. most men always half-expect this to happen anyways. it's those church jew-men that expect 100% honesty from their partners.

Pregnancy is an outcome that should be expected from this act and it can happen with any of the sperm donors. He knew all along he was not the only one donating sperm to her, right? So where lies the problem sir?

procreation & recreation are 2 different things. the guy never agreed to procreation and that is the reason his heart is bleeding. if the wife had stuck to using sex as recreation, our dear friend wouldn't have created this thread.

coogar:


you are making my point.
he had no problem with her infidelity. most men always half-expect this to happen anyways. it's those church jew-men that expect 100% honesty from their partners.

procreation & recreation are 2 different things. the guy never agreed to procreation and that is the reason his heart is bleeding. if the wife had stuck to using sex as recreation, our dear friend wouldn't have created this thread.

We are getting there...procreation and recreation

So her mistake is wanting to procreate with another donor? Fair enough. But she has come up with a solution...abortion. That solves it, innit?

troy20:

how could anything better be expected.the man hasnt even been absolved off his own admitted sins.why dont you say something that doesnt have to reveal something personal withing.show some grace.you would frankly say those things to a man outside? Are you afraid of being a good woman.

Something within like what? Here comes the personal jabs.
If I slap you now they will say I've started.
Carry your smelly self away from my opinions and give the OP advice if you have any.


Is it a taboo for you to be a good man and scream how horrible it is for him to be cheating on his wife too? Ewu awusa.
I'm not your typical candidate for pretentious grace and goodness. If you want to be good, balance it. Don't keep it one sided.

And fvck off pls.

Kimoni:


We are getting there...procreation and recreation

So her mistake is wanting to procreate with another donor? Fair enough. But she has come up with a solution...abortion. That solves it, innit?

i'd rather she goes back to her father's house to go through the abortion process. it's got nothing to do with me - it's outside my jurisdiction.

coogar:


i'd rather she goes back to her father's house to go through the abortion process. it's got nothing to do with me - it's outside my jurisdiction.

Lol...you want to renege on your marital vows? Over an issue that can be resolved amicably

Kimoni:


Lol...you want to renege on your marital vows? Over an issue that can be resolved amicably

marital vow became useless the very day she allowed another man's seeds to germinate from her humus soil.

coogar:


marital vow became useless the very day she allowed another man's seeds to germinate from her humus soil.

humus soil ko...she can undo the do

You don't have to pay for it sef

Kimoni:


humus soil ko...she can undo the do

You don't have to pay for it sef

in the process of undoing the do, what if the top soil loses all its nutrients thus preventing subsequent fertilisations?

Speechless!!!!!! Op I don't envy you one bit!!!!!

Hmmmm no be small thing o. Sheet really does happen...what the fork was she thinking? Hian...getting preggy for the assistant husband is a nono. May God help the dude do the right thing cos l life with the chick is unsafe.

cococandy:


Something within like what? Here comes the personal jabs.
If I slap you now they will say I've started.
Carry your smelly self away from my opinions and give the OP advice if you have any.


Is it a taboo for you to be a good man and scream how horrible it is for him to be cheating on his wife too? Ewu awusa.
I'm not your typical candidate for pretentious grace and goodness. If you want to be good, balance it. Don't keep it one sided.

And fvck off pls.

no b nairaland you go talk wetin you no fit see me face to face talk na abi.u even de dis cheap.

troy20:

no b nairaland you go talk wetin you no fit see me face to face talk na abi.

Then face your front,mind your business and your own posts.
If I feel someone can't address me face to face in real life, I'd give them levels, ignore them and not go poking them in the first place.

I think coogar is right. Most men if they hear their wife is cheating wont flip or even ignore and pretend to be unaware

Its when aa child comes into it that it becomes a big issue

E.g The Late MKO, Do you think he doesnt know his wifes are sleeping around? But when it came to sharing inheritance he demanded a mandatory DNA from everyone

Also the OP, knew his wife was sleeping around but he didnt throw a huge fit until belle issue entered

coogar:


in the process of undoing the do, what if the top soil loses all its nutrients thus preventing subsequent fertilisations?

One of the easiest things in this world is the undoing...it's now simpler than ABC. But then, if it's a problem, after the undoing, she can always prove the humus soil is still fertile and very able to sprout beautiful seeds. Technology can help with that. Still no reason to divorce her