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Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by Kimoni: 9:25pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
raumdeuter: Haaa Dayo, you fall my hand . And I was nearly going to call you to come and confirm what Coogar was saying MKO didn't mind those children living under his roof o He trained them and never bothered that he was fending for them His only issue was that they wouldn't partake of his inheritance. That's fair enough IMO |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by coogar: 9:40pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
Kimoni: how would she achieve that? bush fallowing or crop rotation? Kimoni: i had the opportunity to stay near MKO's house back then. none of those love-kids stayed with him. once the women hinted they were pregnant with his baby, he just gives them huge money for the upkeep and that was it. huge money to the women, crumbs to MKO. he had a plan & he had the last laugh. 25 of the kids failed the DNA test & they got nothing from his vast estate! |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by raumdeuter: 9:40pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
Kimoni: Fending expenses for a man like MKO is nothing. MKO's house would probably be like a hostel. Maybe he doesnt even know the number of kids they claim he has. I heard the story of one Alhaji that he would be like "Hmm who is this fine girl that just passed. I no go mind reach there oo" Until his PA would now tell him thats the daughter of your second wife. MKO probably doesnt know the number of people who eat in his house daily. I am sure random strangers ate and lived under his roof and he didnt care since he had multiple houses and rarely stayed in one place for more than 30days at a stretch. But the OP isnt as rich and would care about another mouth stretching his finances A lot of men would prefer people not to know their wife is cheating and simply play deaf and dumb until another major issue comes All the married women sleeping around, that everyone on the street knows, Do you think their husband dont know as well? Or all the Kema Chikwe, Ita Giwa, Patricia Etteh, Diezani etc that we heard politicians are chopping from Atiku to OBJ to Jonathan Do you think their husband are blind and deaf? |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by coogar: 9:48pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
raumdeuter: they know very well...... they just play possum and carry on like nothing happened. as for MKO, only the children of simbi & kudirat stayed in MKO's house. the others grew up with their mothers scattered all over lagos. MKO did the fending cos it was easily affordable to him. |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by Kimoni: 9:54pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
coogar: she will add manure
But he wasn't living with all his women naa, even some of those who had his baby for real didnt live with him If he could count the nos of his children, he would not have asked them all to do a DNA test first before sharing the inheritance But it remains a fact that he never minded taking care of all those kids while he was alive |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by Kimoni: 10:00pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
raumdeuter: Hahahahha funny story but in the same way, the OP is also comfortable enough to cater for another child. He should go ahead to do so In his will, he can also request for a DNA test as a condition for inheriting...no wahala But divorcing her is a NO NO |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by raumdeuter: 10:09pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
Kimoni: How do you know the OP is comfortable enough to cater for a child not his. Also Where is the biological father in all of these? Those are legit concerns. What of his the guy takes the child in and 5-10yrs the guy shows from somewhere that hewants his child and wife. The OP would have wasted time and resources tending to someone elses property Cos someone that you have a child for is beyond just a casual encounter. EVen most women would forgive infidelity but when a child outside is part of the baggage it changes the dynamics. Some ppl have even gone to the extent of trying to kill the other woman or the child If its just cheating and nothing attached thats easy to forgive and forget. How many women don chop clean mouth by the time they go and return from the office today alone? A child in the mix changes everything because its a lifetime bond. You can probably have genuinely forgotten someone you slept with casually 10yrs ago but if a child is involved you cant forget for life 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by Kimoni: 10:23pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
raumdeuter: Two reasons - OP: In a while , God opened was and things got better, I was able to cater and provide for my family financial needs. Then again, he never complained about taking care of an extra child as being a problem, meaning, an additional mouth is not a biggie Cos someone that you have a child for is beyond just a casual encounter. EVen most women would forgive infidelity but when a child outside is part of the baggage it changes the dynamics. Some ppl have even gone to the extent of trying to kill the other woman or the child Agree but the girl is ready to remove the pregnancy... Lol...cheating (chop and clean mouth style) is not easy for women like that ooo, we are emotional beings. Love and sex go hand in hand for us...but topic for another day sha 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by raumdeuter: 10:32pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
Kimoni: That one na story and blackmail If you go to Lagos tonight you would see thousands of girls going to bed with men not their boyfriends. Is there a love and sex disconnect here? many girls even string multiple boyfriends along till weeks to wedding when they drop one. So where does this emotional being go? Sex is usually exchanged with comfort. love is just another way to make it sound better. If you know how many girls are ready to develop undying love for Dbanj right now and drop their long term boyfriend or the village girl who immediately falls for the rich dude from lagos within 5mins of meeting him. Tell me how many girls got pregnant for an abroadian guy while still dating their Nigerian (backup) boyfriend Dabota Lawson too is really emotional being There is no difference between male and female everyone is looking for their own interest |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by Kimoni: 10:36pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
raumdeuter: Dabota Lawson - chairman/ceo - Billionaire's wife int'l no be small sontin oo Abeg Dayo, those ones are outliers jare...not the norm at all |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by coogar: 11:38pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
Kimoni: hehe! manure indeed!
he pays the baby-momma in one lump sum once they tell him the baby is his & that was it. the lump sum was crumbs to him so it didn't really matter. the OP is not as rich & this pregnancy has made his heart bleed. the infidelity isn't the issue, the deception before the confession is the main issue. |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by Kimoni: 11:54pm On Oct 12, 2015 |
coogar: To err is human, to forgive is divine He should forgive and forget. According to the OP, she has used everything within her to promise there wont be a reoccurrence. It's the fault of the fake wrapper that sperm donor used. She will be more careful next time. Meanwhile, did the OP ever confess his own sins to her? |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by coogar: 12:14am On Oct 13, 2015 |
Kimoni: what she did was unforgivable!
there shouldn't be a next time....
he doesn't need to..... he is yet to impregnate any of his mistresses. when the woman was just shaggïng herself to stupor, there was no confession at all. the OP just sensed foul play here & there and played possum! |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by RoyalRoy(m): 12:18am On Oct 13, 2015 |
Why do i find this a bit Hilarious? I guess it's a case of birds of same feathers!!! Forgive and forget (if its easy for you) |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by armyofone(m): 2:25am On Oct 13, 2015 |
Exactly, i have a feeling he was doing the same while oversea. Open relationship should be discussed and everything should be analyzed. What if should be added to the discussion. She is chopping like me too no wahala, then don't complain carry your cross brother. RoyalRoy: |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by Exponental(m): 8:20am On Oct 13, 2015 |
Forgive her and let her abort.
1. You condoned infidelity
2. Taboo does not have any effect on you cos you are the husband. |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by Exponental(m): 8:20am On Oct 13, 2015 |
Forgive her and let her abort.
1. You condoned infidelity
2. Taboo does not have any effect on you cos you are the husband. |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by freshcvvs: 8:39am On Oct 13, 2015 |
Aitee1: And does this stop her from using her common sense? You dey cheat, yet can't protect yourself. The man wey dey cheat no carry pregnant woman come house na so? |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by Aitee1: 8:46am On Oct 13, 2015 |
freshcvvs: How are you sure there's no babymama somewhere waiting for the right time to surface Stop defending the op till you hear from the so called wife. quit the sexist sentiment already both op and the wife are bird of a feather case closed, it's only the innocent kids in their care I pity!!! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by freshcvvs: 9:24am On Oct 13, 2015 |
Aitee1: Work with what the OP released and don't assume or bring in things not stated. Why bang raw except you actually wanted to get pregnant? Wetin concern my comment with sexist sentiment blabbing? Where is the defense here? They both cheated or cheating but one lacked common sense, so where is the defense here or is exposing stupidity now a crime? |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by Aitee1: 10:22am On Oct 13, 2015 |
freshcvvs: From your comment it obvious you're the type that judge one sided, so no need proving a point you're paying a deaf ear to, do have a trouble free day! |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by freshcvvs: 11:04am On Oct 13, 2015 |
Aitee1: Chai..embarrassed on your behalf! |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by SURElee(f): 11:24am On Oct 13, 2015 |
akinsneh101: You wrote, Even you are not holy. So I deduce u also had affairs while you were away. If so, una two see una self marry well well and fit each other. So make unaa enjoy. |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by allycat: 1:26pm On Oct 17, 2015 |
Please see a gynaecologist and ask when she conceived. Pregnancy is counted from the last period and not from the day of conception. I say this because I know a child who was given to another man because of this confusion. She was already in secondary school before the fathers mother saw her and insisted on a DATE ST because the girl looked like her daughters down to birthmark. Fortunately the three families involved settled the matter maturely. |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by Rukkydelta(f): 1:38pm On Oct 17, 2015 |
Lie lie |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by LordReed(m): 8:22pm On Oct 17, 2015 |
plaetton: It is not a mere rationalization because on what grounds can he express moral outrage when he confessed he was also unfaithful? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by LordReed(m): 8:50pm On Oct 17, 2015 |
freshcvvs: coogar: I am pretty sure if it was the OP who had the illegitimate child you both would join your voices to those urging the wife to accept the child but here the shoe is on the other foot what do we get hmm? 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by coogar: 8:53pm On Oct 17, 2015 |
LordReed: if a man has an illegitimate child, he's not going to bring it home and claim it's his wife's baby. if you cannot see the difference between a man with a love child outside & a woman that brought a bastärd home with the intention of making her husband believe the baby was his then i cannot help you. 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by freshcvvs: 9:15pm On Oct 17, 2015 |
LordReed: coogar: |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by LordReed(m): 10:09pm On Oct 17, 2015 |
coogar: Ok so if the woman had admitted it was not her husband's then it would have been ok? |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by coogar: 10:15pm On Oct 17, 2015 |
LordReed: of course...... it's the deception men cannot stand. raising a kid i was made to believe it's mine when it isn't is the crushing blow. most sane men can withstand the infidelity.......paternity fraud is what men cannot cope with. there's a big difference! 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Got Pregnant For Another Man.. I Need An Advice by LordReed(m): 10:19pm On Oct 17, 2015 |
coogar: LoL! What was I thinking expecting a different answer. Of course you'd say this but should it have happened you'd still say the woman should be sent packing, be true to yourself and admit it. 1 Like |
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