cococandy:
Word.


Even the juju is bullshyte excuse sha.

MusingsOfALady:


women in denial would rather believe it than hold their husbands responsible.

Some guys too use it as an excuse to claim victim.

ladyju:


You decided that my toto no sweet again.... What d hell. I love se.x but I can stay 10 yrs without it. It's all about discipline You all can call me heartless.

Kachisbarbie:
succinctly put!

There's a thread on frontpage where a wife bathed her husband with hot water for sleeping with her own mum. Even though her action was barbaric, I saw people asking :-
"what of her mum, why wasn't she bathed with hot water too?"
"Wasn't it consensual?"
"Was it rape?"

For heavens sake, she took a vow with her husband, not her mum. Same applies to every infidelity case out there, be it from the husband/wife. If your partner(spouse) can't exercise some selfcontrol, I don't see how it's the fault of the random chick/dude out there.

joseph1832:
Yes whenever I want to say kachisbarbie have a lot of sense, one look at your signature and I hold my peace!

But I find it true that those guys who cheat on their girlfriends/wives are the ones who can't stand to see their wives/girlfriends with other guys, I mean their jealousy go on overdrive.

Kachisbarbie:


lollll
My sense is now under National Assembly's screening, because I decided to give homegirls an idea on how to have it all? ?

How am I supposed to know how cheats behave bikonu? @emboldened...

SAMBARRY:
Take 5.

Your head is correct

This are the kinds of thread one ought to be seeing on nl.not eye sores like how fela prefers sleeping with me than the rest of his wives

Or how I'll waylay and bath my husband mistress with acid
like one useless agbaya woman waylaying her husband's mistress only to find out that the agbaya 43 year old man is following a 16 year older ss2 girl.wetin them one beat inside that one body?

E no even be court matter because firstly he'll be accused of pedophilia.as if that's not bad enough his first daughter is 17 ,the second is 15 and the last son is 10.na for nl we dey see am o.

Is it a woman that has a child older than her rival go dey follow her rival fight or exchange insults?

MusingsOfALady:


Waylaying a girl you believe is your husband's girlfriend can get you beaten and disgraced. Any girl who has no moral scruples about sleeping with a married man probably would have none about beating his wife.

So confronting the girl can actually lead to you getting beaten.

Also you may end up in jail if you hit her with an object and she collapses and dies. Will your husband not marry someone else?

Confronting the other woman is always a bad idea. The exception is probably when you have a relationship with her (like she's your friend or something)

SAMBARRY:
please redirect your advice to women who intend to do that or already doing that

MusingsOfALady:


It wasn't actually directed at you personally . Just commenting on the example you gave.

SAMBARRY:
ahem.better. then full here well well.the ones kanwuliajara refers to awon anti I carry blokos for my head like cross of Calvary

byvan03:
Makes sense but majority of these girls initiate these relationships nowadays, there really is no right or wrong reaction to spousal infidelity as far as am concerned. Whatever you can live with, do.

Swissheart:
Hmmn.....I see no reason why a good woman would go waylay a younger girl because she is going out with her husband.Most of the married men who cheat do not portray their wives as good women,they cook up crazy stories to gain sympathy and even to avoid rejection from the younger girl.God help us sha

MusingsOfALady:


I will disagree with you. Even if the girl asked him out, couldn't he say No just like you do when men ask you out? That she asked him doesn't make him less responsible for his actions.

Also that you can live with something doesn't make it right.

byvan03:




Once the girl in question isn't under aged, she should take equal responsibility as the man. She is as guilty as the man, on what basis do you classify right or wrong? Everyone cannot measure with your yardstick.

These girls cannot be excused, if the man will serve any penalty, they should serve same. If you are going to condemn evil, do that on both sides. You can't tell people how to react to spousal infidelity, they will react as they deem fit.

byvan03:




Once the girl in question isn't under aged, she should take equal responsibility as the man. She is as guilty as the man, on what basis do you classify right or wrong? Everyone cannot measure with your yardstick.

These girls cannot be excused, if the man will serve any penalty, they should serve same. If you are going to condemn evil, do that on both sides. You can't tell people how to react to spousal infidelity, they will react as they deem fit.

byvan03:




Once the girl in question isn't under aged, she should take equal responsibility as the man. She is as guilty as the man, on what basis do you classify right or wrong? Everyone cannot measure with your yardstick.

These girls cannot be excused, if the man will serve any penalty, they should serve same. If you are going to condemn evil, do that on both sides. You can't tell people how to react to spousal infidelity, they will react as they deem fit.

bukatyne:


Babes, I don't agree this one.

The husband took a vow with his wife and he is the one mandated to keep it.

Yes the other lady is committing fornication but whose business is it?

On the flip side, if the lady has a boyfriend, will he blame the married man for his girlfriend's unfaithfulness

Wondered why husbands do not call fire and brimstone on their wife's lovers?

They understand that the issue is the cheating wife.

Let them pray from now till next year or pour acid on all their husbands' lovers....

If the husband has decided NOT to change, it is an exercise in futility.

byvan03:




Once the girl in question isn't under aged, she should take equal responsibility as the man. She is as guilty as the man, on what basis do you classify right or wrong? Everyone cannot measure with your yardstick.

These girls cannot be excused, if the man will serve any penalty, they should serve same. If you are going to condemn evil, do that on both sides. You can't tell people how to react to spousal infidelity, they will react as they deem fit.

byvan03:




I really understand where you are coming from but this girls cannot be excused. It's just like saying that the thief is blameless because I kept my money carelessly. I really believe that they deserve whatever the husband got as his penalty in good measure, shaken together and running over. I feel no pity for these husbands nor their mistresses.

If the man will burn at a stake for his shyte, the girl should too. There is a reason why an accomplice is expected to serve some time in a real life criminal case. It's a different pot of soup if the mistress is under aged.

SAMBARRY:
the girl follow them make vow? She has nothing at stake.it's the man that's responsible for the vows and mind you there are some married men that lie that they're single just to get into the honey pot and the wife won't understand that the man lied

byvan03:




I get you kulyie, assuming the girl is ignorant of his marital status but majority are aware. You see some wives begging these girls not to destroy their homes yet the bangers will scorn the poor woman and continue without empathy. If this woman goes wacko and decide to chop off her husbands head with a Samurai sword, I expect two heads, the Cheat and the Cheatee .

These girls are inexcusable, they are part and parcel of the infidelity and therefore shouldn't be excused with the usual cliché " she made no vow to be faithful to you ". They have to partake in any consequences the scorned wife decides to met out if she so desires.

byvan03:




Once the girl in question isn't under aged, she should take equal responsibility as the man. She is as guilty as the man, on what basis do you classify right or wrong? Everyone cannot measure with your yardstick.

These girls cannot be excused, if the man will serve any penalty, they should serve same. If you are going to condemn evil, do that on both sides. You can't tell people how to react to spousal infidelity, they will react as they deem fit.

bukatyne:


I am not excusing the girl but the wife has nothing to do with her just how the husband/boyfriend of the girl has nothing to do with the cheating husband.

In God's court, He might punish them together How He would punish a boy & girl who commits fornication.