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Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Nobody: 4:59pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
Dyt: When I saw that he doesn't like teaching, I entered silent mode for some seconds picturing what Op is going through. Uhmmm. Not good at all. The kids are growing. their expenses are increasing and he's having a choice? God will see her through sha. |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Dyt(f): 5:03pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
Rukemi291: He's having to make choices again Maybe she should stay home too and join him praying 2 Likes |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Nobody: 5:38pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
Dyt: The problem is that no woman can sit down and fold her arms when she knows the family needs her. Only men can. 4 Likes |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Dyt(f): 5:42pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
Rukemi291: Seem those kind of men are the types we have these days Phew 3 Likes |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by yebo36(f): 7:25pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
Dyt:My sister we had a heated up quarrel around 12 to 1am all because of this issue but i won't stop, this thread has made me accept the bitter truth. |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by yebo36(f): 7:34pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
Dyt: I agree with you both. Do you know at times i think the woman suffers most in marriage. Don't know who to share it with so i keep it to myself Wondering why men leave responsibility for their wives. Anytime i make up my mind not to support the family again, the kids are affected. U cee come tomorrow, i will report to a man he calls father, nobody knows ve been the one covering for him. 4 Likes |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Niceman4u(m): 7:35pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
it must b quite a hard time. I feel ur pains. Its nt easy. All u need to do is more prayers, u can search for jobs online, it may nt b so easy bt I knw there many job sites u can search nd register for jobs, God wil help u Madam. I must commend u for standing by ur man despite d challenges. Its well Madam! 1 Like |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by yebo36(f): 7:45pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
Niceman4u:Thank you sir. |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Nobody: 7:54pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
Tundeiab: Thank you. I am happy this came from a fellow man |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Nobody: 7:56pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
Tundeiab: You are a REAL man. Kudos |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Dyt(f): 7:56pm On Nov 29, 2015 |
yebo36: If you decide to leave now They will say cos he's broke whereas he's lazy Sorry to say He's not a man enough Haba Yes I blv in support but not for 4yrs and still choosy? As a woman myself I don't mind cleaning sef so long it pays my bills 1 Like |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Nobody: 12:39pm On Nov 30, 2015 |
Please take it easy with the fights. Yes, stand your grounds. Pele sis. Dyt... funny u. |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by marriagebliss: 4:27pm On Nov 30, 2015 |
yebo36:My sister I will readily offer you my sincere advice if you give answers to the questions below. How long have you been married? How many kids do you have? and what is your final take home at the end of the month? What have your husband been doing for the past four years? Is he educated if yes what is/are his qualification (s) if no what is /are his hobby (ies) what was he doing when you met him or has he been jobless even before the marriage. Answers to the above questions will help me to give you a sincere advice from point of knowledge. Stay strong and remain Blessed. |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by marriagebliss: 4:47pm On Nov 30, 2015 |
marriagebliss:I made my post before reading through the thread. Most of the questions I asked was answered in pages 1 and 2. Let your husband wrap his pride and go to town in search of what to feed his family with. Complain less and prayerfully uphold him before God and allow Holy Spirit to work in him to make him the man he ought to be. I pray that things work out well for you and your husband so that you can take proper care of your two kids. Stay strong and remain Blessed. |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by thorpido(m): 5:27pm On Nov 30, 2015 |
Rukemi291:The ego in those men won't let them be seen outside of the house doing certain jobs but it's just some men.A lot of men can't bear to stay home when there's a family to feed. Yebo36,talk to the elderly man your husband respects and get him to have a frank talk with your husband.I agree he is not doing enough and men who have their wives financing the home tend to get lazy. He should seek opportunities that require little skills and build himself from there. 2 Likes |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Tundeiab(m): 8:14pm On Nov 30, 2015 |
fem29:God bless you my sister. It's annoying, to say the least. |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Dyt(f): 8:48pm On Nov 30, 2015 |
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Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by yebo36(f): 11:10pm On Nov 30, 2015 |
marriagebliss: Thank you. This is exactly what the elderly man told me this evening. I didn't know i had so much pain in me until i was narrating my ordeal. He warned me not to complain and be careful who i share this with, he also told me something funny - he said i should start alternating the meals i cook for him. He said that way, he will start feeling uncomfortable. Trust me, started it this evening. I only made what the kids will eat. 2 Likes |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by yebo36(f): 11:15pm On Nov 30, 2015 |
thorpido:Thank you my brother, did that this evening and he promised to talk to him. |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Nobody: 11:37pm On Nov 30, 2015 |
yebo36: I feel your pain, however do what you need to do, but please do not starve a man who has no other means of income. There must be other ways to get him to get up and do something but please do not punish him with hunger He is still your husband at the end of the day 7 Likes |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by nikenry(f): 1:28am On Dec 01, 2015 |
mavany:Lucky you you took d right decision. I wish you gud luck in your search of an ideal partner. A man with a strong inner drive to succeed in life. 2 Likes |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by nikenry(f): 1:42am On Dec 01, 2015 |
Sis, I truly understand what you are going true. Just be very careful. You know you complained earlier that he already lost some weight. Pls be careful with him, lest he breaks down.He is still your husband, you know. You starved him of food last night, pls if you are awake now, I will suggest you wake him up now, go down on your knees and beg him. Let him see d reason why you took DT action, and the need to rise up again and provide for his family. Let me confess to you that I am personally going through d same experience you are undergoing. It is not easy @ all. Such men tend to often make one seem wicked. I feel your pain sis! yebo36: 2 Likes |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Nobody: 3:54am On Dec 01, 2015 |
Calm down woman, since you have discussed it with God, He will surely do it, everyone have where shoe pinches 1 Like |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by yebo36(f): 5:05am On Dec 01, 2015 |
I felt bad myself, i have never done it before but i need to be a bit pushy. Am just to alternate the meals, i told him i did not have enough money to cook and believe me, i felt guilty. 1 Like |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by yebo36(f): 5:13am On Dec 01, 2015 |
phemierowl: Yes and mine has been pinching for four years and i have prayed all this while don't you think i needed more than prayers. Even God gets pushy with us at times to pass a message across. Please correct me if am wrong that's why i came out here, can't discuss it with family over here. 1 Like |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Pidggin(f): 7:21am On Dec 01, 2015 |
yebo36: He does not like teaching? Continue accepting excuses from him, I only feel sad for the kids. |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Nobody: 7:43am On Dec 01, 2015 |
To the people saying he must teach even though he doesn't like teaching Would you want your kid to be taught by a reluctant teacher? I certainly wont Teaching is not for everyone OP its up to you how you deal with this He is your husband You chose him There must have been something that made you choose him over anyone else You can see it as his problem only or you can make something you both attack According to you the man had a job when he met you, its not that he was lazy then Nigeria is very stressful and hard and with very few jobs Right now he needs your support Everyone has their own shoe that is pinching and cross that they bear His is his job For some people its health issues and some people its extra marital issues You are on N30K a month, which shows that good paying jobs are not that easy to get on Nigeria even for graduates. God help Nigeria. I dont advocate laziness Infact I dislike lazy people However one of positives of marriage is being able to support each other in trying times. 2 heads is better than one In his weakness lend him your strength He needs it Sit down and discuss the future together and direct him where you both want to go during this weak period. If he had a medical disorder, you wont abandon him but you will stick by him I don't think that any man wakes up in the morning and hopes and prays that his wife will cater for him, only gigolos do that and that's for plenty plenty money. Even if you want him to hustle, tell him directly what you want him to do in a clear and concise language. I know its been very hard and I applaud all that you have done up until now. I will not support you starving him. He is not just anybody. He is your husband. I pray that God visits your family and all this will all be a thing of the past in Jesus Name. 4 Likes |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Nobody: 7:52am On Dec 01, 2015 |
Another thing to be mentioned is Nigerians quest for a degree regardless of the courses How many job openings are there available for someone with a degree in philosophy in Nigeria? He was at a disadvantage from the first day he put the course down on his Jamb application form. I dunno what type of career guidance is being given in secondary schools. |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by Nobody: 8:51am On Dec 01, 2015 |
HE MADE EVERYTHING BEAUTIFUL IN HIS(GOD) TIME, ALL WILL BE WELL, YOU HAVE DONE THE BEST THING REPORTING THE SITUATION TO HIM, WAIT AND SEE HOW HE WILL GO ABOUT IT MADAM yebo36: |
Re: ADVICE! What Can I Do To Help My Husband Financially by confun: 9:35am On Dec 01, 2015 |
Wen I was single, I didn't understand the bible verse " if a man cannot provide for his family, he is worse dan an infidel", bt wen I got married, I understood it clearly; a woman is laid with so much responsibilities, taking care of d house, ensuring d kids are well dressed and fyn, ensuring the husband eats at d right time and dresses well, etc, if u come join it with providing money as d bread winner, honestly, d woman can quench, of course she must bring in some cash, bt not as d bread winner for God's sake, its not easy, any man dt can't provide for his house should be stoned abeg....sorry Op, am just talking generally, am not directing to ur husband o. 3 Likes |
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