misspicy:

am fine....you good?

Sincere4u:

Fine lady you've made very good points but I think the man is just under temptation. You can imagine bringing home a girl as pretty as you to a man who has flirted so much before repentance and ordination as Pastor. His past could eventually get the better of him. I think the man needs help. The girl is simply too hot. OP should confront him with her findings right away before sending the damsel away with an explanation to the elder sister.

misspicy:

am fine....you good?

kosplateau:

When she doesn't contribute jack!

espionagesavvy:
Dear Cynthia
I caught my husband of five years sniffing the panties of my 15 years niece. I don't know if I should confront him or let the issue lie.
I also think he bought my niece a new blackberry phone because the day I insisted on making my niece tell me where she got the phone, he became too overprotective of her and we almost fought over the issue.

My niece recently lost her father, making my sister a widow who let go of her children to stay with her relatives, that is how my niece came to stay with me,
On the 26th of November 2015, I saw him at the backyard next to the heap of clothes my niece brought out to wash, he picked up a pant, my niece's pant and sniffed it, I almost screamed where I was.
Also I keep noticing the look they exchange, very flirtatious.

Lastly my niece is acting like she is his wife, she dishes his food even before the children's food, doesn't knock before opening the door of our bedroom, and the most disturbing is, she asks my husband where he is going when he wants to go out as if she is his wife, my husband is 37 and this girl is 15, I suggested to my husband that we send her off to a boarding school, he rejected the idea and even got angry with me saying it will affect the girl psychologically, as if I want to dump her in a boarding house and run away. I want to confront my husband but I have no evidence, and for my niece I respect my eldest sister so much that I don't know what to do, I feel like an outsider in my own home.

P.S. My husband is a banker and also a pastor at our church.

I sincerely need your advice.
Thank you.

Sad depressed housewife in Ikeja

HaneefahRN:

Being tempted by the woman's 15yr old niece? Do u listen to urself? I don't understand what u're driving at.
OP, sorry but ur husband is a mad, shameless man without conscience. It's better u confront him and also take that girl away from that house. From their body language something is definitely going on already.

Sincere4u:

Fine lady you've made very good points but I think the man is just under temptation. You can imagine bringing home a girl as pretty as you to a man who has flirted so much before repentance and ordination as Pastor. His past could eventually get the better of him. I think the man needs help. The girl is simply too hot. OP should confront him with her findings right away before sending the damsel away with an explanation to the elder sister.

frostylook:
Madam,permit me to say that you are partly enabling the situation.
What exactly is confusing you in the matter? Since when did your niece begin commandeering your kitchen to the point of dishing your hubby's meals? Where are you then? You sit back to form madam?
So in the process of using your niece as your maid,you foolishly handed over power to her to become the wife of your house. And you even come here to cry that you are helpless? Good Lord!! You obviously have no grip on your home! I advise you drop that victim mentality you have adopted because your laxity is starting to cost you your home. Do you even realize your niece needs help which only you can give her right now?
You say you caught your hubby sniffing her panties and you did nothing?!! Why didn't you take the matter head-on there and then? You are waiting to gather more evidence? Will that be when you finally catch him bleeping her on your matrimonial bed and you come back to tell us your niece has snatched your hubby?
Pls,take the child home to her mother and explain to your sister what transpired. You can send the upkeep money to them when it is due.
If your husband protests,tell him point blank about the day you caught him sniffing like a goat and that you won't wait for more suprises before you step up to protect your niece.
Then its left for you to call your man to order!! If he can act like this to your sister under your very nose,then you won't like to hear what he's been up to outside the home. Goodluck

Piddo:
Post too dramatic to be true. I say its made up just for fun. Which woman will see all these signs and not know the obvious fact that the husband is shagging the so called niece? Did you all notice that the poster is MALE? Phantom story!!

catlova:

I just read ur diary update. an open letter.
U dey waist talent oooo.

hehehehe.....who dash monkey banana wch kin fake talent I get
Happy new month sir....oju to ri ibere lo ma ropin re o

donephi:
Kin mata the ni ko? Happy new month

ah ah ban monta fa....... yayakarke?


same to you sir,how is d family

misspicy:

hehehehe.....who dash monkey banana wch kin fake talent I get

Happy new month sir....oju to ri ibere lo ma ropin re o

espionagesavvy:
Dear Cynthia
I caught my husband of five years sniffing the panties of my 15 years niece. I don't know if I should confront him or let the issue lie.
I also think he bought my niece a new blackberry phone because the day I insisted on making my niece tell me where she got the phone, he became too overprotective of her and we almost fought over the issue.

My niece recently lost her father, making my sister a widow who let go of her children to stay with her relatives, that is how my niece came to stay with me,
On the 26th of November 2015, I saw him at the backyard next to the heap of clothes my niece brought out to wash, he picked up a pant, my niece's pant and sniffed it, I almost screamed where I was.
Also I keep noticing the look they exchange, very flirtatious.

Lastly my niece is acting like she is his wife, she dishes his food even before the children's food, doesn't knock before opening the door of our bedroom, and the most disturbing is, she asks my husband where he is going when he wants to go out as if she is his wife, my husband is 37 and this girl is 15, I suggested to my husband that we send her off to a boarding school, he rejected the idea and even got angry with me saying it will affect the girl psychologically, as if I want to dump her in a boarding house and run away. I want to confront my husband but I have no evidence, and for my niece I respect my eldest sister so much that I don't know what to do, I feel like an outsider in my own home.

P.S. My husband is a banker and also a pastor at our church.

I sincerely need your advice.
Thank you.

Sad depressed housewife in Ikeja

onome2013:
It's so unfortunate, most especially as u confirmed your husband to be a pastor. Though very sensitive issue that requires careful handling, In case your guessing may be wrong.
However, pretend as if you're not seeing both of them until you have your proof, if the result is true, trash her out of your house ,while you carry your husband for proper deliverance.,as he maybe posses with the spirit of dog or he-goat

onome2013:
It's so unfortunate, most especially as u confirmed your husband to be a pastor. Though very sensitive issue that requires careful handling, In case your guessing may be wrong.
However, pretend as if you're not seeing both of them until you have your proof, if the result is true, trash her out of your house ,while you carry your husband for proper deliverance.,as he maybe posses with the spirit of dog or he-goat

daretodiffer:


Are yu minding men?

They whip out perfect excuses when it concerns them regardless they believe that the woman must endure and be mature

But if it were a woman, you do not want to imagine all sorts of names they would have called the woman by now

zinachidi:
all these pant smelling men sef,.. YUCK!!!!!!


Maybe he no more likes the smell of ur own pant.

Twaci:
First of all......ewwwwwww!

Now, i would advise you talk to your husband. Tell him the disturbing facts that you have noticed and is not comfortable with and hear his side of it all.

But if it persists, send her back to her mother to avoid stories that touch

Excuzeme:


She conveniently made the niece and "underage", made her husband a banker and then tried to insult God by making him a Pastor!
Then she spiced it up with pant sniffing!

But in all, you could understand the devilish and evil mind of someone who could concoct such stories --- Man Haterz!

BTW: I think some of these Nairaland Mods are just plain Ediotic people. Probably a pack of juveniles.

onome2013:
It's so unfortunate, most especially as u confirmed your husband to be a pastor. Though very sensitive issue that requires careful handling, In case your guessing may be wrong.
However, pretend as if you're not seeing both of them until you have your proof, if the result is true, trash her out of your house ,while you carry your husband for proper deliverance.,as he maybe posses with the spirit of dog or he-goat

daretodiffer:


I pity your wife

People like should be castrated