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Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by Nobody: 10:23pm On Dec 22, 2015
And plzz....how does diz change d fact DAT....Buhari is d best president Niqeria has ever had?............
Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by Demmocrats(m): 10:23pm On Dec 22, 2015
Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by Princesschi(f): 10:24pm On Dec 22, 2015
awww, God bless all wonderful dads

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Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by nnamdiosu(m): 10:26pm On Dec 22, 2015
mcdokwe:
I was born into what I consider a street life, public compounds and all its troubles.

My hustling parents still made sure I got the best especially in education but that didn’t in any way help as I picked up the most annoying and shameful personality.

I even as a kid would keep late nights without carrying out household chores and when it becomes apparent that I couldn’t escape my parents “do good,” opt to sleep out in trucks and sheds, I would occasionally sneak in and proceed to make under the bed my beautiful foams, this habit was cultivated to mitigate the effect of the surprise floggings mum especially had this habit of using deep into the mornings when she’d flog sleep out of my eyes. By the time she’d drag me out, I’d be fully awake to bear the consequences of my sins. How I managed to stay top of my class in primary school then still escapes me as I’d play my life out on daily basis.

I would pilfer on people, unsuspecting people whose heart I easily warmed up into and would sustain my belly and as such could keep avoiding home.

Oh! God bless my mum and grant my dad eternal rest. I’d constantly make “withdrawals” from their “home banks” and with it, live large in school. And constantly devised various methods to avoid detection. My neatly wrapped note books served as conduits to hide my loots to avoid detection and when that method failed, I resorted to hiding them in shoes, pens, I’d tear up the folds of my shirts and shorts and pass the folded cash into them. God knows if I had continued like that, I would have ended up a highway robber and maybe dead by now.
I was closely marked so I no go do, but two loose seconds were more than enough for me to hit a bounty when need be. I was a nightmare to my parents and at appoint when my dad moved and left us to the care of my mum, my constant acts made my dad make up his mind to come and take him along lest I killed his darling wife with HBP.
It is totally and completely ignoble thing to do, and looking back, I wonder what prompted me into such.

While staying with my dad, he once called me and told me how I was his favorite child. Till date, I still can’t tell how and why, because apart from the consequences of being the black sheep of the family, I was often the last to get gifts as they bothered me not.

Yes, I spent more time with my dad possibly due to the close marking I needed to keep my deviant behavior in check and naturally predisposed to his kind of job, but I still didn’t and haven’t seen how I was the favorite child; but I was deeply touched. He spoke of how my act pains him more than it would have if it were to be from anyone else and it sunk, he also said I wouldn’t stop being his favourite child notwithstanding. Today, thanks to those words, I’d rather dig poo to feed than pilfer on anyone. Well, the house chores are still there but I can at least shout my younger ones into doing them.

My Dad’s words (sweet and not the curses) made me a better person that I am today.

I had hoped that he lives for me to show him how much proud I was prepared to make him but death had other plans which were stronger.

sweet and sad. at least u still gat ur mama. do to her as u wanted to do to papa. make it up to her. God gave you grace. wish he could give my brother too.

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Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by cutechi(f): 10:34pm On Dec 22, 2015
So touching............ parent love.
Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by Nobody: 10:35pm On Dec 22, 2015
francescainnoce:
Awwww!!!
Your confession is accepted and your sins ar forgiven.hahahhahahahah (joking)
OADN...@ op, I am so pleased with your testimony.
Your experience isnt rare as most children who grew up in such environment come out of those challenges in distinct ways but I'm glad you pulled through just as you have narrated and may God continually rest the soul of your dad. Amen
[b]I tap into this testimony as a point of contact [/b]to my most favourite relative who seem to be facing those times now and he is 26 which kind of gives me worry not knowing when he will pass that stage.
You know that moment when you see his peers doing great and you give shiver wishing he would follow the likes but then who knows...
I believe God will see him through one day.
Amen

Christian Sister Point of Contact cheesy cheesy grin cheesy
Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by Pidggin(f): 10:35pm On Dec 22, 2015
Seriously your dad loved you. Your stubbornness and bad behavior must haved caused many days and nights of pain to your parents. Thank God you are now a changed person, good luck from now onwards.

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Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by JudgementHammer: 10:38pm On Dec 22, 2015
Op. I'm touched. God bless you for changing. I like seeing joy coming back to a soured soul. Ur dad was a good influence and a great pride, r.I.p to him.

Take care of ur mum in spite of the floggings of that time. It was out of desire for ur change.

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Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by Nobody: 10:43pm On Dec 22, 2015
The OP just told a story I am very familiar with. The only difference in mine and the OP's story is the absence of my dad. This is more like the experience project. Thumbs up!!!

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Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by therapistmrs: 10:48pm On Dec 22, 2015
you are blessed with good parents.God bless them.

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Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by Aarenasbaba(m): 10:55pm On Dec 22, 2015
From ur write up, I can see that you are completely a changed person....may God bless our parents and grant ur dad eternal rest....

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Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by anochuko01(m): 10:59pm On Dec 22, 2015
kind words are medicine to the soul......I hope someone teaches our Yoruba mums this.

......but parents dey try sha

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Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by Abaski9: 11:15pm On Dec 22, 2015
mcdokwe:
I . I had hoped that he lives for me to show him how much
proud I was prepared to make him but death had other
plans which were stronger.
I was
sorry dear

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Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by adelujohn(m): 11:19pm On Dec 22, 2015
Hmmmm. Lovely
Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by omoikea(m): 11:21pm On Dec 22, 2015
that's pure psychology he used on you...

that feeling that makes you feel special will always make you to want to act in special ways and continuously formed YOU!!!

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Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by Nobody: 11:27pm On Dec 22, 2015
Op... I can relate with this, growing up on the streets of mushin...
Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by all4gud(m): 11:29pm On Dec 22, 2015
Studies showed that one or more of your child /children will be like you. You are expected to do as your father did. Bless. Don't curse
Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by SexyStrawberry(f): 11:35pm On Dec 22, 2015
So now wey ur papa don die, na him u know say u go change abi? undecided
All these stubborn children dey always get better parents while the really nice kids are blessed with the worst kinda parents
Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by FILEBE(m): 11:45pm On Dec 22, 2015
Nice one Op! Nice. This goes to say that violence shouldn't be the answer. I am really happy for you and i hope you spread this legacy to your siblings, your children children and my children too. We need to restore our moral values et all.
I wish our nowadays children whose ambition is to become Agberos, stripers, prostitutes and the likes.

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Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by Nobody: 11:59pm On Dec 22, 2015
Nice story and thank God it ended well.

But if some of us decide to also write ours, hmmm,.. even the dreaded wud salute with maximum respect.

IF I REMEMBER THOSE YEARS, ALL I DO IS TO SAY THANKS MUM FOR MAKING YOUR SON SEE THIS DAY WITH YOU EVERYDAY PRAYERS
Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by airsaylongcon: 12:00am On Dec 23, 2015
mcdokwe:
I was born into what I consider a street life, pub.

For me it's my "warrior" mum that played the role your dad played. Not like I was her favourite child (I knew who that was) but she was such a tigress that I had to curtail my excesses. Her "backhand" slap was legendary amongst my siblings. They always came from your blindside and struck their targets with ferocious precision. I had to learn to anticipate them while they were booting in her brain and take evasive measures. She had a way of twisting her lips when the thought had arrived at mechanical action. I was a specialist slap dodger. Add that to the fact that I hated food and she being a nurse felt insulted by having a skinny kid. I was dealt several rounds of slap to ensure that I swallowed my food.
I wasn't "wayward" like you but that's because she smelt my deviant nature early. I stole everything from biro to computer games from my classmates. And she ensured I publicly returned every of her discovery. Mehn I just got tired of the embarrassments. Till this day I still have a love for fancy pens though I don't "pinch" them anymore. God grant her eternal rest. And I'm NOT sorry to say that I sometimes torture my girl by comparing her to my mum but I DO NOT THINK THERE EVER WAS OR WILL BE A WOMAN BETTER. The fights she fought with my dad cos of me is a different kettle of boiling hot water

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Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by Opiosko: 12:22am On Dec 23, 2015
This is very interesting. Now that what you are stealing at home cannot sustain you, you are now pifering on peoples emotion to get your daily bread undecided
Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by eROCK247(m): 12:35am On Dec 23, 2015
mcdokwe:


While staying with my dad, he once called me and told me how I was his favorite child. Till date, I still can’t tell how and why, because apart from the consequences of being the black sheep of the family, I was often the last to get gifts as they bothered me not.
Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by eROCK247(m): 12:37am On Dec 23, 2015
mcdokwe:


While staying with my dad, he once called me and told me how I was his favorite child. Till date, I still can’t tell how and why, because apart from the consequences of being the black sheep of the family, I was often the last to get gifts as they bothered me not.

Ur dad definitely deserves a national award! Meanwhile my prioritised prayer point as we step into a new year is: "Dear God, don't give me a child like OP

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Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by zonax(m): 1:25am On Dec 23, 2015
Such words do have far reaching effects than any other corrective measure could ever have. I can relate.
Meanwhile nice story. You have an excellent command of diction which is uncommon with those that grew up in such neighbourhood as you painted.

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Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by sanmiajanaku(m): 1:43am On Dec 23, 2015
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Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by pus20: 1:56am On Dec 23, 2015
Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by Codyt(m): 2:02am On Dec 23, 2015
allanphash7:
Tales by moonlight
Do me a favor and get a life!!! undecided

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Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by Codyt(m): 2:03am On Dec 23, 2015
eROCK247:


Ur dad definitely deserves a national award! Meanwhile my prioritised prayer point as we step into a new year is: "Dear God, don't give me a child like OP
End time prayer request! grin grin cheesy grin
Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by Nobody: 2:23am On Dec 23, 2015
saint047:
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Re: How My Dad's Loving Words Made Me A Better Person by Shakur86(m): 2:47am On Dec 23, 2015
Good parents are the best gift of any child. Nothing can be compared to our parent's love.

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