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Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by freecocoa(f): 11:51am On Dec 28, 2015 |
Mindfulness:Well, I don't know why desire something I don't need, especially in this context. |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by Nobody: 11:54am On Dec 28, 2015 |
God bless you! 1 Like |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by kelvinclint(m): 12:06pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara:lol. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by Nobody: 12:15pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
freecocoa: Because neediness is a prerequisite to problems in a relationship; different topic though. |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by kelvinclint(m): 12:25pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
Now, talking about divorce,
in most African divorce
cases, the man lives the
woman and the woman is left
miserable, because all she
was designed to be was a
wife, and not an individual
with personal goals. If
African women were taught to
be achievers as much as
they were groomed to be
wives, they would have been
more self-dependent in the
face of divorce.
This infact rubs off on the
children, because in most
cases the children are left
with the struggling mother
who can't take proper care
of them without a man.
Funmilayo Alakija is a classic
example... She is the richest
black woman on earth. Her
husband left her, and her 4
male sons. Somehow she
strived hard enough to
create her own heaven and
her children to live in.
If she was just a good wife,
and not an achiever, where
would she and her 4 children
be today? 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by bennyrazz: 1:39pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
Mindfulness:buhahahahaha @ bolded. If only money could buy true happiness. Don't be deceived by their glittering appearances and lifestyles, if some utter or confess their innermost thoughts with you, then you will know that the rich also cry. Yes the article says, girls should act like kings not queens |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by Nobody: 3:01pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
bennyrazz: I am sure they confided in you and told you how money does not buy happiness and how lonely all of them feel. I am also sure a relationship / marriage is a guarantee to happiness. 9 Likes |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by bennyrazz: 3:33pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
Mindfulness:the only thing that guarantees happiness in life is "fulfilment". If you are not fulfilled in marriage, career, education, how can you be happy? fulfilment is like that thirst you need satisfy. 1 Like |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by Nobody: 3:48pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
bennyrazz: Different people find fulfillment in different things and an unmarried woman can feel happier than a married woman and vice versa. It is very individual. 10 Likes |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by CircleOfWilis: 4:51pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara:pls come back...we missed ur presence 1 Like |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by bennyrazz: 4:52pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
Mindfulness: life is hinged on destiny. Fulfilling your destiny is very tantamount |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by Nobody: 5:01pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
bennyrazz: If there was a destiny, I would not have to fulfill it as it would fulfill itself. I don't believe in the concept of a destiny. 3 Likes |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by bennyrazz: 5:06pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
Mindfulness:Do you believe that there is a God? |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by Nobody: 5:07pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
bennyrazz: YES! I am convinced that there is a God. What about you? |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by bennyrazz: 5:11pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
Mindfulness:who convinced you? |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by Nobody: 5:18pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by bennyrazz: 5:26pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
Mindfulness: Psalm 14:1 it is only a fool that will say in his heart that there is no God. Have had encounters, i've seen things, I've experienced things. Do you believe that Jesus Christ came to the world to die for the sins of mankind to reconcile us back to God? |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by Nobody: 5:35pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
bennyrazz: Maybe he did, maybe he didn't. I will have to think it through. |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by quivah(f): 6:02pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
lilmax:But he's right 4 Likes |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by quivah(f): 6:07pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
bennyrazz:Destiny Who's that? 2 Likes |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by KanwuliaJara: 6:08pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
CircleOfWilis: Make I finish holiday season. Too much going on offline. |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by eyinjuege: 6:56pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
bennyrazz: Sorry to butt in, but marriage does not guarantee happiness either. I seem to know a lot of women who are miserable in their marriages, and barely tolerating it. Most stay in the marriage just to avoid the ruckus and stigma a divorce would have caused, and these are career women who are not financially dependent on their spouses. Happiness is a gift you should give yourself, and if you wait for anyone to do that for you, then you're on a long thing. That's why you should have a life, and love yourself first. Do things that would make you a better person, because your family and others around you will enjoy the better improved you. 9 Likes |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by bennyrazz: 9:23pm On Dec 28, 2015 |
Mindfulness:really? thinking it through? you are not a christian? |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by bennyrazz: 9:58am On Dec 29, 2015 |
eyinjuege: I actually came back to read this part of your post. And I think, this is the missing ingredient most people lack in relationships. If you don't love yourself, you can't love others, if you don't have it, you can't give it. if you are not happy, you can't radiate happiness. cheers 1 Like |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by SAMBARRY: 10:29am On Dec 29, 2015 |
The angry/bitter men association of nl chapter have arrived So what is wrong in women achieving things of their OWN before marriage But it must be all about marriage. Chaiii Even some of the crack heads and Dustbin pushers are still cooling their heels in nl prison for daring me Ahhenn so as I was saying 7 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by SAMBARRY: 10:35am On Dec 29, 2015 |
bennyrazz:now you're talking like a real man 1 Like 1 Share
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Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by bennyrazz: 10:40am On Dec 29, 2015 |
SAMBARRY: cheers 1 Like |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by SAMBARRY: 12:19pm On Dec 29, 2015 |
bennyrazz:same to you |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by UIA04(f): 4:43pm On Dec 29, 2015 |
Mindfulness:Let me tell you something my brother no matter how successful a woman is in life she still desires a man to be by her side whether they are married or have chosen to just partners for legal reasons don't let them deceive you with I am single and loving it o they may not want to be poor as you described but I tell you whenever they see married women their is still a pang of envy |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by UIA04(f): 4:55pm On Dec 29, 2015 |
@op you described marriage like it's a cage and were a womans goals are limited once she gets married. Marriage is very important and when it is blissful both of you can achieve your goals together have you seen Mrs alakija. Folorunsho marriage wasn't a limitation at all. It's about mindset You can't eat your cake and have it if any woman would ask me whether to make sacrifices between her career and her children I would choose children cause when you raise a child well you are raising a whole lineage well 1 Like |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by Nobody: 5:35pm On Dec 29, 2015 |
UIA04: There are unmarried women who are much happier than some married women. As eyinjuege has said "Happiness is a gift you should first give yourself and if you wait for anyone to do that for you, then you're on a long thing.". 5 Likes |
Re: Women Need To Be Taught To See Beyond Marriage by Nobody: 5:35pm On Dec 29, 2015 |
bennyrazz: No, I am not! |
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