Sarona:



Like recently I just got back from the hospital because I had a terrible pain on my lower abdominal and there was blood in my urine I tool some tests and they told me I had UTI (urinary tract infection ) and I thanked god that it was just that!!! They gave some antibiotics and it cured and for everyones information were Muslims were "expected" to keep our virginity until marriage because adultery is second biggest sin you will commit.

Speechless3:
Honey voicing it out is the only way. Her hubby cannot be that stupid to think she is loose, except she married a jackass.

Sarona:



Like recently I just got back from the hospital because I had a terrible pain on my lower abdominal and there was blood in my urine I tool some tests and they told me I had UTI (urinary tract infection ) and I thanked god that it was just that!!! They gave some antibiotics and it cured and for everyones information were Muslims were "expected" to keep our virginity until marriage because adultery is second biggest sin you will commit.

Cutehector:
Lol get married first.. den u will understand.

Speechless3:
If you say so but you ma sef know my runz na. This kain thing no fit happen to me o.

Cutehector:
Lol na person like obontami wey fit u for husband

Speechless3:
LOL Abeg who him be o. Oooops nature calling. Good night dear.

Sarona:



Like recently I just got back from the hospital because I had a terrible pain on my lower abdominal and there was blood in my urine I tool some tests and they told me I had UTI (urinary tract infection ) and I thanked god that it was just that!!! They gave some antibiotics and it cured and for everyones information were Muslims were "expected" to keep our virginity until marriage because adultery is second biggest sin you will commit.

foriz4u:

I learnt Muslims get married underage. sorry to ask... I hope u r above 20/22... cos we hardly have virgins at this age nowadays.

Sarona:



No, We were both virgins.

Sarona:


I just turned 21

foriz4u:

hmmm... interesting...its fine shall...but nepa just take my light now as u reply to my question o...I hope u r not telling lies because I've dis superstition that light will always b interrupted when a lie is been told. so babe talk truth. is evrytin u r telling us tru??

Sarona:


I don't have a reason to lie.

Sarona:
Hi, please only mature minds reply because I'm such in a pain each and passin day I've just been married for 5 months I love, adore and cherish my husband! more than anyone in my life cuz he's just a rare soul and not that im braggin but iam a very very lucky woman and blessed to be able to call him mine.


Now the problem is that since day one of our marriage I've not been able to enjoy se x, I use to fake it at first but then the pain got real and I was done with it because he rushes everytime without pre-intimacy and im never aroused! So i started telling him we can take our time and it's going to be great if we do that! I didn't want to make his ego hurt by telling him ive never once been satisfied!! And he was never able to tell it because I am wet but not turned on?? Why is that? Could something be wrong with me?!

Sarona:
Hi, please only mature minds reply because I'm such in a pain each and passin day I've just been married for 5 months I love, adore and cherish my husband! more than anyone in my life cuz he's just a rare soul and not that im braggin but iam a very very lucky woman and blessed to be able to call him mine.


Now the problem is that since day one of our marriage I've not been able to enjoy se x, I use to fake it at first but then the pain got real and I was done with it because he rushes everytime without pre-intimacy and im never aroused! So i started telling him we can take our time and it's going to be great if we do that! I didn't want to make his ego hurt by telling him ive never once been satisfied!! And he was never able to tell it because I am wet but not turned on?? Why is that? Could something be wrong with me?!

Sarona:
Hi, please only mature minds reply because I'm such in a pain each and passin day I've just been married for 5 months I love, adore and cherish my husband! more than anyone in my life cuz he's just a rare soul and not that im braggin but iam a very very lucky woman and blessed to be able to call him mine.


Now the problem is that since day one of our marriage I've not been able to enjoy se x, I use to fake it at first but then the pain got real and I was done with it because he rushes everytime without pre-intimacy and im never aroused! So i started telling him we can take our time and it's going to be great if we do that! I didn't want to make his ego hurt by telling him ive never once been satisfied!! And he was never able to tell it because I am wet but not turned on?? Why is that? Could something be wrong with me?!

Sarona:

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PinkBarbie:
If you want the satisfaction, go and collect it. Talk to your man. Tell him what turns you on. Tell him you like him to spend time doing uuhumm (you understand).

MrsPhyno:
Nawao. How can someone be so naturally bad at something that people are supposed to be naturally good at? I thought that the whole "it's instinctual" argument for no sex b4 marriage was good but apparently not......

I guess other men can tell u how to say it to ur hubby in a way that would not permanently damage his presumably sensitive male ego. All I can say is that if you love and appreciate him in every way other than sexually, it will inevitably spill over into that aspect of you life. He should take instructions from you tho sha, altho I know some women are very reticent sexually

Mcbussy:




I doubt if she even knows what turns her on

This is why men can't hold on to those virginity myths. When ur a virgin and u get married to a virgin, who's gonna lead the show?... Now her hubby does it soldier style; straight to d point.

OP, my best advice is that you should talk to ur man. Even if you cant tell him that u don't enjoy sex with him because ur afraid of denting his ego, I think u can say it in such a way dat wouldn't affect his ego. Tell him you enjoy it but you still feel alot of pains....tell him to show more care by spending more time on pre-intimacy. Saying it this way shouldn't make him feel bad, I think he'd feel sorry he's hurting you. He'll most likely improve on pre-intimacy and during this process of exploration, you should focus on the act and free ur mind from worries...you might actually get to discover your "soft spots" and direct him on how to get you aroused.

Another thing I noticed from ur initial post. You get wet, yet u feel pains. There is a chance that arousal is not the problem. If you feel pains despite being very wet, I think it has to do with his size. Just talk to him and let him know he hurts you in the process. Then get him to take things gentle and slow. If he does it dis way, coupled with a reasonable amount of pre-intimacy, it would reduce d pains u feel and it's a matter of time before ur vagina expands to the right size to fit him perfectly.

The most important thing is communication.

Cheers.

Sarona:



I know , I shouldn't have waited that long but I kept telling myself that I might enjoy it today or it might get better tomorrow cuz it doesn't work even if I tell him let's take our time hes just too aroused and says he has to go. I'm in sooooo much pain after and I'm really concerned for my health I wish I didn't take this long nd kept silence

Sarona:
Hi, please only mature minds reply because I'm such in a pain each and passin day I've just been married for 5 months I love, adore and cherish my husband! more than anyone in my life cuz he's just a rare soul and not that im braggin but iam a very very lucky woman and blessed to be able to call him mine.


Now the problem is that since day one of our marriage I've not been able to enjoy se x, I use to fake it at first but then the pain got real and I was done with it because he rushes everytime without pre-intimacy and im never aroused! So i started telling him we can take our time and it's going to be great if we do that! I didn't want to make his ego hurt by telling him ive never once been satisfied!! And he was never able to tell it because I am wet but not turned on?? Why is that? Could something be wrong with me?!

obiorathesubtle:
uuuuh.. I'm guessing this guy isn't the guy you dated before now..


Anyway.. Tell him how you feel, don't be afraid to hurt his ego.. It'll motivate him to do better and care more about your needs or sexual satisfaction(however you want to put it)..

dyadeleye:
That's why we have something called courtship before marriage......I guess you would have made the necessary amendment before all these.....by the way, time still dey....its just 5 months ....God bless