I have always had the bad habit of lack of forgiveness, people complain I don't forgive nor forget. I have soon learned that bearing hurt is allowing the devil to live rent free in my system. Though I made a post new year resolution to try to be more forgiving. Because recently, a man bashed my car and in rage I grabbed him amidst his screams and threw him into my boot while I zoomed off amidst shouting by people and the police nearby, it was only as I approached my house did I realise the stupidity in myself and quietly brought the man out ". He could have thought I wanted to cook him for dinner. Anyway I hope to make progress and hopefully pray this change transcends to my love life. But I have a big problem.

I can't stand to be decieved, to be decieved by a lover is the greatest pain I can bear or forgive. When a lover cheats, the sex never hurts me but the knowledge I was decieved and in the dark. I have had great satisfyingly long relationships with gfs who cheated and never hid it. Somehow it never bothers me cos I knew about it. Guess I am weird or a chronic amebo.

I need to learn to deal with this hurt and learn to forgive it. It's the most common way people hurt others, thus very important I learn it to help my anger issues. How did you handle yours or are you currently handling yours. My temper is too great and even the bible says it's a fool who is quick to anger. Abeg am tired of living like one. Thanks for your help

I think we humans ain't all that perfect. So let's not all see ourselves as Jesus Christ.

Expect less so that u won't be hurt beyound recovery or forgiveness

Wen such happens,jux slow down and take a deep breath..trust me u wil be fine..

zyzxx:
Expect less so that u won't be hurt beyound recovery or forgiveness

This works.

If you can tell yourself ''She/they really don't know what she/they are doing,'' it's a step ahead and a basic of learning that everyone has flaws. Forgiveness starts from your conscience, just like my signature below...