Why are relationships so hard today? Why do we fail at love every time, despite trying so hard? Why have humans suddenly become so inept at making relationships last? Have we forgotten how to love? Or worse, forgotten what love is?

We’re not prepared. We’re not prepared for the sacrifices, for the compromises, for the unconditional love. We’re not ready to invest all that it takes to make a relationship work. We want everything easy. We’re quitters. All it takes is a single hurdle to make us crumble to our feet. We don’t let our love grow, we let go before time

It’s not love we’re looking for, only excitement and thrill in life. We want someone to watch movies and party with, not someone who understands us even in our deepest silences. We spend time together, we don’t make memories. We don’t want the boring life. We don’t want a partner for life, just someone who can make us feel alive right now, this very instant. When the excitement fades, we discover nobody ever prepared us for the mundane. We don’t believe in the beauty of predictability because we’re too blinded by the thrill of adventure.

We immerse ourselves in the inconsequentials of the city life, leaving no space for love. We don’t have time to love, we don’t have the patience to deal with relationships. We’re busy people chasing materialistic dreams and there’s no scope to love. Relationships are nothing more than convenience.

We look for instant gratification in everything we do – the things we post online, the careers we choose, and the people we fall in love with. We want the maturity in a relationship that comes with time, the emotional connect that develops over years, that sense of belonging when we barely even know the other person. Apparently, nothing’s worth our time and patience – not even love.

We’d rather spend an hour each with a hundred people than spending a day with one. We believe in having ‘options’. We’re ‘social’ people. We believe more in meeting people than getting to know them. We’re greedy. We want to have everything. We get into relationships at the slightest attraction and step out, the moment we find someone better. We don’t want to bring out the best in that one person. We want them to be perfect. We date a lot of people but rarely give any of them a real chance. We’re disappointed in everyone.

Technology has brought us closer, so close that it’s impossible to breathe. Our physical presence has been replaced by texts, voice messages, snapchats and video calls. We don’t feel the need to spend time together anymore. We have too much of each other already. There’s nothing left to talk about.

We’re a generation of ‘wanderers’ who wouldn’t stay at one place for too long. Everyone is commitment phobic. We believe we’re not meant for relationships. We don’t want to settle down. Even the thought of it is scary. We cannot imagine being with one person for the rest of our lives. We walk away. We despise permanence like its some social evil. We like to believe we’re ‘different’ than the rest. We like to believe we don’t conform to social norms.

We’re a generation that calls itself ‘sexually liberated’. We can tell sex apart from love, or so we think. We’re the hook-up-break-up generation. We have sex first and then decide if we want to love someone. Sex comes easy, loyalty doesn’t. Getting laid has become the new getting drunk. You do it not because you love the other person, but because you want to feel good. It’s all the temporary fulfillment we need. Sex outside relationships isn’t a taboo anymore. Relationships aren’t that simple anymore. There are open relationships, friends with benefits, causal flings, one-night stands, no strings attached – we’ve left very little exclusivity for love in our lives.

We’re the practical generation who runs by logic alone. We don’t know how to love madly anymore. We wouldn’t take a flight to a far-off land just to see someone we love. We’d break up because, long distance. We’re too sensible for love. Too sensible for our own good.

We’re a scared generation – scared to fall in love, scared to commit, scared to fall, scared to get hurt, scared to get our hearts broken. We don’t allow anyone in, nor do we step out and love anyone unconditionally. We lurk from behind walls we’ve created ourselves, looking for love and running away the moment we really find it. We suddenly ‘cannot handle it’. We don’t want to be vulnerable. We don’t want to bare our soul to anyone. We’re too guarded.


We don’t even value relationships anymore. We let go of the most wonderful people for ‘the other fishes in the sea.’ We don’t consider them sacred anymore.

There’s nothing we couldn’t conquer in this world, and yet, here we are ham-fisted at the game of love – the most basic of human instincts. Evolution, they call it.


From the Internet.

With foreign girls, it's easy as pie

Greene66:
With foreign girls, it's easy as pie

Says a liar

Greene66 that aint true. I think its all an evolution process. Expect the worse cus true relationship is gettin endangered

I totally support agree with the:.
We are not prepared...
We are not prepared for the Compromise...
We are not prepared mostly for the sacrifices...
We are not prepared for the Unconditional Love (Though No Love is unconditional because even Jesus Loved us and Died for a reason)...
We are not prepared to Invest all that it takes to make a relationship work...
If you look/read carefully at the points above and those in the Original thread, you would notice that what kills a relationship is SELFISHNESS.
Selfishness birth the many things that kills a relationship. Yes! The Me-Myself-and-I mentality cripple and destroy a relationship. So sad...

Because most relationships are built on lies and Sex these days.

Daft writeup.

It's strange ooooo

men that shyt is long, couldn't,no , wouldn't read it all
but y'all saying you are in love are really not,especially kids of this generation all wanting to get in each others' pants
lemme spell it out for you boys and girls
that's L U S T!!

Oga blame the economy. There is no middle class anymore in the society. You are either rich or poor. Back in the days it was not all about money but civilization and ignorance couple with hunger has swayed our minds to think relationship is an investment. Even the cost of getting married now can make a guy choke. Some girls see relationship as a profit making venture. That's why i say blame it on the economy.

Hmmmmmmmmm....

I'm afraid cos it seems true love has gone extinct.the love that kept our fathers and mothers marriages,the love that surpasses all odds,the love that grows stronger every passing day.Now its no more,all thanks to modernity

This is deep!!!

Op thank you for this master piece...you hardly find a stable relationship nowadays, really dunno whats happening, if you view ma topics, you'd see a topic like this...relationship is not just working these days.

True. It's just so unfortunate. What is more annoying is that the bad girls keep getting the good guys and when you ask a guy you really like out he childishly stops talking to you again. I think i'm going to start asking girls out come 2017

Aitee1:
This is deep!!!

Very deep. "Let he that has ear, hear" kind of deep.