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Are Relationships Pointless? by Nobody: 3:05pm On Feb 18, 2016
First of all I am a healthy, attractive 22 year old male
that has lived a pretty ordinary life without too many
highs or lows in general, I guess you could say I've
glided through life without experiencing much
happiness or sadness which has caused me to become
very complacent or well just neutral I guess?
I did fairly decent in school with mainly B's in all of my
classes because I never went beyond what was
necessary to pass... anyways moving on... I have
dated 8 girls since the age of 14 but I never really
cared enough to ask them out, they took the initiative
instead and i was like uhm, ok, why not? But after a
week or so I would break up with them because I never
cared enough to call somebody every day and I like my
space, I mean hanging out/dating is okay but doing it
more than once a week is just a bummer in my
opinion, it's just such a drag.
I also have pretty much no interest in sex at all, I mean
it's O.K once in a while if a girl wants too but I don't
enjoy it enough to actually go out of my way to have it
if you catch my drift? It's definitely not worth working
for it at all, I would rather just drink a couple beers and
meditate under the sun or read a good book, maybe
even take a jog for a half hour or something lol. I just
think it's funny when girls are trying to be flirty around
me or call me hot/cute or whatever and I'm more or
less just zoning out and nodding my head to them and
wondering what I'm going to do after lectures so I can
escape my colleagues/people in general.

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Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Nobody: 3:08pm On Feb 18, 2016
I think about the way I am and notice how different I
am from most guys, I mean I do produce normal
amounts of testosterone and have facial hair/muscles
so it's not any imbalance I'm sure.
Now that i look over it I guess I just hate having any
responsibility and prefer to be free from any schedule/
duties, I mean I have always wanted to be a bird as far
back as I could remember I just love the idea of having
wings and being able to fly wherever I want without
any constraints, I really envy them to be honest which
might sound funny to others lol. I just don't see a point
in having a social life when it just means you have to
talk to them once in a while to keep the friendship/
relationship from dying off so I don't even bother
starting them in the first place, I mean now I know why
people are always saying "YOU'RE AFRAID OF
GETTING CLOSE TO OTHERS!" to me all the time, I'm
afraid of the worthless commitment and I'd rather just
do my own thing, so in a sense I'm not afraid at all I
just don't care, isn't that funny lol?
I pretty much just typed all of this so I could get your
opinions on my personality, I don't need help or
anything I just would like to know if it's normal, and if
other people are like me. I'm actually glad I don't
suffer from negative emotions like other people and
am able to enjoy the simple things in life like bird's
chirping in the morning or a beautiful cool day,(too bad it's harmattan) sad
I just think that relationships are a waste of time
because people are so misguided and get too caught
up in the pointless things in life like their job or
boyfriend/girlfriend that they don't realize everything
has passed them by until they are retired, the thought
of that makes me sad, the world is a cruel place and
humans are the only animals that intentionally kill one
another for trivial reasons, they just need to step back
and get in tune with reality instead of religions that
speak of peace and love but in truth just promote
bloodshed for the god they worship in a cloak and
dagger method, lol anyways sorry about all that I was
letting my mind wander a bit so yeah. Hope u liked it
smiley

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Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Royle2014(m): 3:17pm On Feb 18, 2016
OP... I just finished reading one hefty chapter of my biopharmaceutics text nd I cant read dis ya long epistle gan... Summary abeg
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Ginaz(f): 3:18pm On Feb 18, 2016
All this episodes are for what?
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Rone16(f): 3:18pm On Feb 18, 2016
Lol your reading of books is really rubbing off on you which is both good and bad.I think you're just in your own zone and you never want to leave there.Sometimes you have to step out of your comfort zone to grow and experience things.Even birds fly out of their nests,they just don't stay there throughout their entire life because it's comfy.My opinion though smiley

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Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Nobody: 3:21pm On Feb 18, 2016
Yes o relationship are pointless since i started dating my gain has been NOTHING!
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Nobody: 3:21pm On Feb 18, 2016
Yes o relationship are pointless since i started dating my gain has been NOTHING!

Nd op YES u are normal!
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by kibzz(m): 3:22pm On Feb 18, 2016
Hey ginaz sup
Ginaz:
All this episodes are for what?
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Nobody: 3:25pm On Feb 18, 2016
Rone16:
Lol your reading of books is really rubbing off on you which is both good and bad.I think you're just in your own zone and you never want to leave there.Sometimes you have to step out of your comfort zone to grow and experience things.Even birds fly out of their nests,they just don't stay there throughout their entire life because it's comfy.My opinion though smiley
lol thats a funny opinion and a bit contradicting too. At the end of the day, comfort is what everyone's after
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Nobody: 3:26pm On Feb 18, 2016
Rone16:
Lol your reading of books is really rubbing off on you which is both good and bad.I think you're just in your own zone and you never want to leave there.Sometimes you have to step out of your comfort zone to grow and experience things.Even birds fly out of their nests,they just don't stay there throughout their entire life because it's comfy.My opinion though smiley


why are u hiding your face? are these guys sending u countless pm's too? how was your val? Did you made love that night? smiley smiley smiley
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Nobody: 3:30pm On Feb 18, 2016
sickstars:
Yes o relationship are pointless since i started dating my gain has been NOTHING!

Nd op YES u are normal!



lol your comment gives me the impression you don't plan to stop dating anytime soon. 'since i started dating' but what is it you look for in relationships you can't get at home. Is it the constant sex? Cause if its comfort and emotional attention i think oursiblins and parents have that covered. Things like this bother me.
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by cruzita(f): 3:31pm On Feb 18, 2016
undecided na handout abi biography be this?
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Creamish(f): 3:31pm On Feb 18, 2016
U are still very young...it's pointless for you now. Wait till u get to ur 30s..then it would make sense. wink

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Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Rone16(f): 3:32pm On Feb 18, 2016
irunooboo:



why are u hiding your face? are these guys sending u countless pm's too? how was your val? Did you made love that night? smiley smiley smiley

Lol I just felt like hiding it.No they aren't .It was cool and no I didn't.How are you?
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Nobody: 3:33pm On Feb 18, 2016
mayonnaise:




lol your comment gives me the impression you don't plan to stop dating anytime soon.

grin thats if i get that "real nigga" if i cant find him

I join the single's club

jamming single ladies by beyonce
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Rone16(f): 3:34pm On Feb 18, 2016
mayonnaise:
lol thats a funny opinion and a bit contradicting too. At the end of the day, comfort is what everyone's after

Yeah I guess
But still..
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Nobody: 3:37pm On Feb 18, 2016
Creamish:
U are still very young...it's pointless for you now. Wait till u get to ur 30s..then it would make sense. wink



getting married. That's a bridge i'll have to cross. Understood. I hope i'l meet a lady that sees the world the way i do. But, dating so many people as is the trend now is pointless or so i believe.

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Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Creamish(f): 3:38pm On Feb 18, 2016
mayonnaise:




getting married. That's a bridge i'll have to cross. Understood. I hope i'l meet a lady that sees the world the way i do. But, dating so many people as is the trend now is pointless or so i believe.

It's only a matter of time.
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Nobody: 3:39pm On Feb 18, 2016
Rone16:


Lol I just felt like hiding it.No they aren't .It was cool and no I didn't.How are you?


fine smiley are u through with exams? do you live in lagos?
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Nobody: 3:44pm On Feb 18, 2016
sickstars:

grin thats if i get that "real nigga" if i cant find him
I join the single's club
jamming single ladies by beyonce

easy to say.
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Nobody: 3:45pm On Feb 18, 2016
mayonnaise:
I think about the way I am and notice how different I
am from most guys, I mean I do produce normal
amounts of testosterone and have facial hair/muscles
so it's not any imbalance I'm sure.
Now that i look over it I guess I just hate having any
responsibility and prefer to be free from any schedule/
duties, I mean I have always wanted to be a bird as far
back as I could remember I just love the idea of having
wings and being able to fly wherever I want without
any constraints, I really envy them to be honest which
might sound funny to others lol. I just don't see a point
in having a social life when it just means you have to
talk to them once in a while to keep the friendship/
relationship from dying off so I don't even bother
starting them in the first place, I mean now I know why
people are always saying "YOU'RE AFRAID OF
GETTING CLOSE TO OTHERS!" to me all the time, I'm
afraid of the worthless commitment and I'd rather just
do my own thing, so in a sense I'm not afraid at all I
just don't care, isn't that funny lol?
I pretty much just typed all of this so I could get your
opinions on my personality, I don't need help or
anything I just would like to know if it's normal, and if
other people are like me. I'm actually glad I don't
suffer from negative emotions like other people and
am able to enjoy the simple things in life like bird's
chirping in the morning or a beautiful cool day,(too bad it's harmattan) sad
I just think that relationships are a waste of time
because people are so misguided and get too caught
up in the pointless things in life like their job or
boyfriend/girlfriend that they don't realize everything
has passed them by until they are retired, the thought
of that makes me sad, the world is a cruel place and
humans are the only animals that intentionally kill one
another for trivial reasons, they just need to step back
and get in tune with reality instead of religions that
speak of peace and love but in truth just promote
bloodshed for the god they worship in a cloak and
dagger method, lol anyways sorry about all that I was
letting my mind wander a bit so yeah. Hope u liked it
smiley
mayonnaise:
I think about the way I am and notice how different I
am from most guys, I mean I do produce normal
amounts of testosterone and have facial hair/muscles
so it's not any imbalance I'm sure.
Now that i look over it I guess I just hate having any
responsibility and prefer to be free from any schedule/
duties, I mean I have always wanted to be a bird as far
back as I could remember I just love the idea of having
wings and being able to fly wherever I want without
any constraints, I really envy them to be honest which
might sound funny to others lol. I just don't see a point
in having a social life when it just means you have to
talk to them once in a while to keep the friendship/
relationship from dying off so I don't even bother
starting them in the first place, I mean now I know why
people are always saying "YOU'RE AFRAID OF
GETTING CLOSE TO OTHERS!" to me all the time, I'm
afraid of the worthless commitment and I'd rather just
do my own thing, so in a sense I'm not afraid at all I
just don't care, isn't that funny lol?
I pretty much just typed all of this so I could get your
opinions on my personality, I don't need help or
anything I just would like to know if it's normal, and if
other people are like me. I'm actually glad I don't
suffer from negative emotions like other people and
am able to enjoy the simple things in life like bird's
chirping in the morning or a beautiful cool day,(too bad it's harmattan) sad
I just think that relationships are a waste of time
because people are so misguided and get too caught
up in the pointless things in life like their job or
boyfriend/girlfriend that they don't realize everything
has passed them by until they are retired, the thought
of that makes me sad, the world is a cruel place and
humans are the only animals that intentionally kill one
another for trivial reasons, they just need to step back
and get in tune with reality instead of religions that
speak of peace and love but in truth just promote
bloodshed for the god they worship in a cloak and
dagger method, lol anyways sorry about all that I was
letting my mind wander a bit so yeah. Hope u liked it
smiley


Open a diary undecided
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Rone16(f): 3:45pm On Feb 18, 2016
irunooboo:



fine smiley are u through with exams? do you live in lagos?
Yeah I am.No
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Nobody: 3:50pm On Feb 18, 2016
mayonnaise:



easy to say.

How?
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Nobody: 3:52pm On Feb 18, 2016
Rone16:

Yeah I guess But still..

but still...."socialise" right? Lol.
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Nobody: 3:58pm On Feb 18, 2016
sickstars:


How?


well you're a lady. You were brought up to find prince charming. It won't be easy. Not as easy as it is for most men.
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Nobody: 4:00pm On Feb 18, 2016
Suigeneris93:


Open a diary undecided

it'll be boring.
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by yinkeys(m): 4:01pm On Feb 18, 2016
Relationships ain't pointless if you're with the right one. Symbiotic relationships are d.ope.
Just be patient, you don't know what it feels like to find a diamond in this filthy world. smiley
My experience: I've briefly being with someone that has everything I need in a woman, a good head on her shoulder, a good christian,she's genuine,really real, a motivator, i dont know how she does it but she tends to subconciously give biblical answers whenever i ask for her opinion on stuffs, all pretty & all brains too, a summa cum laude for that matter. I left because I wasn't financially ready for marriage. I'd run back whenever I'm ready hopefully she'll still be single

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Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Nobody: 4:02pm On Feb 18, 2016
mayonnaise:



well you're a lady. You were brought up to find prince charming. It won't be easy. Not as easy as it is for most men.

cry cry wat does it take to find prince charming

I dont even care bou prince charming but sumone to love me in d right way
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Nobody: 4:03pm On Feb 18, 2016
Rone16:

Yeah I am.No

Where
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Rone16(f): 4:03pm On Feb 18, 2016
irunooboo:


Where
Abj
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Rone16(f): 4:04pm On Feb 18, 2016
mayonnaise:



but still...."socialise" right? Lol.

Yeah...You necessarily don't have to get a gf
Re: Are Relationships Pointless? by Nobody: 4:05pm On Feb 18, 2016
Rone16:

Abj

Come to ekiti smiley

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