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Ladies! Top Reasons Why He Hasn't Asked You Out!! by Bisiebae(f): 6:34pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
He doesn’t know you’re
interested: Ladies here’s the thing about
us- we think we can read everyone’s
mind. But believe it or not, that super-
hero power doesn’t exist…and it especially
doesn’t exist when it comes to the men in
our lives. The bottom line is that men
don’t know what you’re thinking. I’ve
heard from numerous young men who
would love to take the next step in a
relationship but they feel like they are
getting absolutely no “vibes” of interest
from the girl they’re interested in.
If he hasn’t pursued you yet, maybe it’s
time to show a little interest. Don’t be
afraid to say hello, start up a conversation,
or make some plans. You are just as
capable of furthering your friendship with
this guy than with anyone of your friends.
So go ahead and show a little love (and by
a little, I mean a little. We ladies have the
tendency to go all out), and then step back
and see what happens.
2. He’s just not that into you: So you went
ahead and showed a little love, and still,
nothing. It’s time to consider the
possibility that maybe he’s just not that
into you. I know a lot of women have the
tendency to jump to this conclusion
immediately, and start getting down on
themselves wondering: Am I good enough?
Am I pretty enough? Is there something
wrong with me?
Here’s my conclusion with this whole
thing. Maybe it has nothing to do with
you, and everything to do with him. If
he’s not that into you…then he’s not for
you. I always remind my single friends
that at the end of the day, you want to be
with someone who is just as crazy about
you as you are about them. Don’t force the
fit with a man who doesn’t appreciate you
just where you are at. You are worth far
more than that. Maybe it’s time to
consider moving on. There are plenty of
fish in the sea. Wait for someone who
views you as a catch worth finding.
3. He’s afraid: Believe it or not girls, some
of these eligible bachelors are just as
insecure and unsure as you are. Afraid of
rejection, of heart break, and of failure- it
takes a lot of courage and confidence to go
ahead and make a move, and some men
aren’t there yet.
If you are worried your secret interest
might be fearful, the best thing you can do
for him is pray. Ask God to give him
strength and courage, pray for his heart,
soul, mind and strength. There’s nothing
you can do to erase his fears besides
prayer, because ultimately, fears are
something that must be healed from
within. This is God’s thing if you know
what I mean.
4. He’s working through his own issues: I
think the biggest favor we can do for
ourselves as women is to stop blaming his
lack of pursuit on ourselves. If he’s not
asking you out, there is a good chance it
has so much more to do with him, and so
very little to do with you. Many of the
guys I’ve spoken to explained that their
failure of pursuing a girl is a reflection of
the fact that they are still getting their
“stuff” together. Figuring out his career,
finding a good job, moving our from under
his parent’s roof, dealing with past hurts,
or getting right with God are just some of
the things I’ve heard from men who are
working out some things in their lives.
I applaud those men, because at the end of
the day a healthy relationship begins with
two people who have done some good solid
work on themselves. Those who are
willing to put the work in up front will
have so much less work to do when they
are united with another in holy
matrimony. If he’s not ready to pursue
you now then there’s a good chance it’s
better he didn’t!
Take that as a sign and instead of waiting
around obsessing over his next move, use
your time to reflect on your personal
journey. What areas of your life need
some focus? Some healing? Some work?
What goals should you be working
toward? Take some time to do some of
this work in your own life. Because
healthy people will always make for
healthy relationships.
5. He doesn’t think the timing is right:
Sometimes timing can be a matter of
perspective. I remember the months of
developing a friendship with my husband,
wondering when would be the right time to
take the next step and start dating.
Looking back, his idea of the right time,
and my idea of the right time were totally
different.
But in reflecting at my story I also know
this: God’s timing for our relationship was
so outrageously right. There were so many
things that could have gone wrong had the
timing been anything other than what it
was. I think what it comes down to is that
the only One who really knows what good
timing means, is the inventor of time
Himself. Seek to connect with God, to
know His heart, and ask Him to lead both
you and your certain interest to just the
right time in just the right way. God is
good and opening the doors for things that
are right, and closing them hard for things
that are not. |
Re: Ladies! Top Reasons Why He Hasn't Asked You Out!! by chiefolododo(m): 6:41pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
olé( Spanish sign of approval) |
Re: Ladies! Top Reasons Why He Hasn't Asked You Out!! by Olasco93: 6:57pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
Nice research work you've done. Please OP, try and modify the post by seperating those points with paragraphs to make it more interesting to read... You know Nairalanders especially the 'Ladies' love reading interesting piece/articles well written, orderly, sensible and insightful as this one. |
Re: Ladies! Top Reasons Why He Hasn't Asked You Out!! by halfricanadian(f): 7:00pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
were as club is goin on On a monday |
Re: Ladies! Top Reasons Why He Hasn't Asked You Out!! by Smartguy001(m): 7:02pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
All dis ur long myth can read it o...but simple answer she doesn't meet my standard hehehehe |
Re: Ladies! Top Reasons Why He Hasn't Asked You Out!! by Nobody: 7:39pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
And the list continues... Op, try to work on paragraphing your write up |
Re: Ladies! Top Reasons Why He Hasn't Asked You Out!! by Bisiebae(f): 8:10pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
sorry guys, I had written it for awhile now, so I just Copied and pasted it from my Website... happy reading! |
Re: Ladies! Top Reasons Why He Hasn't Asked You Out!! by necosla016(f): 8:18pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
Thumbs up OP. It'll be helpful somehow. Thanks! |
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