3rdlegxxx:


Hi you..

https://www.nairaland.com/2991693/3rdlegxxx-year-older-16.03.2016-march#43818056

Sup.....

contactwale:
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By the way, I can't verify an insider gossip that this imbroglio has nothing to do with the women, but mostly with one of the twins, who's a lavish spender and more extroverted. Jude being the older brother and Manager, of course, wanted to control him but Peter won't have it and wanted him fired. Paul won't have that, and so they came to this sorry pass.

NB: Notice that I kept using man and wife. That is because I am strongly of the view and inclination that marriage is (and has to be) between a man and a woman, male and female-as God ordained it. However, I'm pro-choice, which means, I won't bother with any choices you have decided to make in the matter, so long as they do not affect me directly. Even my male dogs know so.

Emeka Oparah is the Director, Corporate Communications and CSR, Airtel Nigeria. He blogs at www.wilberforce.com.ng

http://www.wilberforce.com.ng/2016/03/the-p-square-split-why-blame-wives.html

Excuse me with respect to the bold words, Peter has the right to spend his money the way he wishes, he deserves his share of the business profit, he made his money and should be responsible for his management or mismanagement of his funds.

He is an adult who shouldn't be intimidated or prevented from managing his funds especially by his brother or extended family. His wife or employee can be his financial advisor.

Abagworo:
No matter how hypocritical the OP tries to be the fall of P Square has been in waiting since Peter got married to a woman not accepted by anyone in their family. I don't know of Europeans but in Igboland and Africa marriage is between families and not individuals. The fall of Peter in the coming years will serve as a lesson to many. He might end up being dependent on his wife and the wife will start seeing him as a liability.

Another tribalistic and egoistic bigot

I love this man. And I love above all his reasoning. We might be soul-siblings as regards our shared thoughts on Marriage.

In Africa, Nigeria in particular, we continue to see the woman (wife) as the outsider and thus fail to understand God's teaching on Marriage.

My opinion (and really I don't have any) on the P-Square 'saga', let them act according to how it suits them. They are old enough (men enough) to know better.

U wan make I siddon read all dese story wen pu dey outside dey make money, later I go come join some people dey blame Buhari abi?

U wan make I siddon read all dese story wen pu dey outside dey make money, later I go come join some people dey blame Buhari abi?[b]

haqueurate:
Emeka okpara couldnt have spoken better on this issue.
I said it yesterday that the culture of expecting to poses your brother after he gets married and builds his own family is wrong
how can jude come to social media and call his brothers wife a greedy dog? His he the one who will marry peter, or peter needs to come to him to produce a wife "desirable to jude" for him
who is jude without psquare? So in a bid to protect his meal tickets (in this case psquare) he seeks to destroy their happiness and relationships.
why are igbo people like this? I pity igbo women, they have to watch over their shoulders constantly to prevent bcoming victims to hateful and greedy brother in laws (our brothers property syndrom)
Jude knows even if he kills peter he can never come and claim his brothers property simply because lolas yoruba relatives will have non of that...... checkmate jude dont even bother killing peter because you cant claim his property kerpish?

....Igbo women do not need your pity cos you are supporting Peter simply because he married Lola..that is all.

halfricanadian:
Nobody blames d wives.

They shd b able to put their men in order

don't assume.I strongly do blame them.even if it seems like they don't have a hand of which I don't believe. Either directly or indirectly. Do NOT under estimate the impact/influence of wives in the family.they've got strong power based on that.

..@op you are correct.Unfortunately in this primitive part of the World called Africa/Nigeria,women are blamed for every single thing including the stvpidity and immaturity of men...na so.

noblegrex:
don't assume.I strongly do blame them.even if it seems like they don't have a hand of which I don't believe. Either directly or indirectly. Do NOT under estimate the impact/influence of wives in the family.they've got strong power based on that.

their wives their marriage their family problem o boss

halfricanadian:

their wives their marriage their family problem o boss

yeah I got you.their family problem. But do you know as long as you become a celebrity you're no longer yourself anymore. Your problems becomes your fans discussion.any thing you do becomes their headache.you're a public figure no longer private figure. Celebs and their fans=tree and water.

noblegrex:
yeah I got you.their family problem. But do you know as long as you become a celebrity you're no longer yourself anymore. Your problems becomes your fans discussion.any thing you do becomes their headache.you're a public figure no longer private figure. Celebs and their fans=tree and water.

Seriously dats celebs head aches not mine

I hate a fake nd crowded life

halfricanadian:

their wives their marriage their family problem o boss

yeah I got you.their family problem. But do you know as long as you become a celebrity you're no longer yourself anymore. Your problems becomes your fans discussion.any thing you do becomes their headache.you're a public figure no longer private figure. Celebs and their fans=tree and water.. Abi who made them celebs in the first place. Their fans of course. If you're shouting,jumping and dancing very well but you've got no one to hail you,to scream your name,crush on you or even make some critics,then you're nobody.so their probs is their fans probs for those who really care so much.

AntiWailer:


1 of the eediots spotted.

No logical contribution, no counter post, no brilliand argument.

Just a one liner because he wakes up to think he is super intelligent than others.


Damn you too !!!

This thing pain you like rubbish. Very childish indeed. Final full stop

silverspringle:
If you are this old and still ve this type of mentality, then i give up on you....that you're so unlucky to marry a bad wife, then what of your mother/sisters/daughters? You also address them this way? I'm not even rooting for women in this case buh at your age, u sound very hallow and dense in your reasoning. I am Nigerian woman, well brought up and can cook too and a lot of my folks are like that...

Who this dusty woman talking very prematured. Damn

contactwale:
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I have been following the "developing" story of the feud among the Okoye singing and dancing twins, P-Square, and their older brother Jude, but not with keen interest. The reason is because musicians (performing artistes, generally) by their nature, are given to squabbles, which are, sometimes, orchestrated to attract attention. Of course, many of the fights are real and often lead to splits, legal actions and even deaths, in extreme cases. Needless recounting some of them as we have a surfeit of such well-known fights locally and internationally.

So, why am I on about the P-Square fight, which, according to latest news, has led to the split of the twins? Among the reasons being adduced for their disagreement and eventual split is the role of the women in their lives. Interestingly, I know Lola, Peter's wife, having worked with her in V-mobile, now Airtel. Even so, I cannot say what her role has been in the whole saga and I don't want to personalize the issues, but I want to dismiss the insinuation that the bickering among the erstwhile "tight" is a result of the influence of their wives.

Let me start by saying that a family means man, wife (wives) and children. Any other person, including siblings, parents, cousins, aunties, uncles, nephews and nieces are part of the extended family. The moment a man marries, the definition of "family" must change otherwise there will be trouble. Let me put it on record immediately that I am NOT advocating total abandonment of the extended family, but that must come only after the immediate family. So, if you, a man, used to consult your mom or dad or brother or sister or uncle or auntie before taking a decision, your wife becomes your primary source of advice as soon as you get married. This is a reality most young men do not face until they start facing problems.

According to the Holy Bible in Mathew 19:46. Jesus said: "Have you not read that He who created them from the beginning MADE THEM MALE AND FEMALE. FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH '? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate."

Under normal circumstances, this quote wouldn't require any explanation or interpretation but the extended family system practiced in Africa, especially in Nigeria and particularly the kind we have in the South East, has tended to undermine this crucial Biblical injunction. And this is one reason some people, in hasty generalization, have concluded that the Okoyes are being manipulated by their wives and as such have lost the "anointing" of carrying on together.

Now, much as I do not have any evidence to the contrary, I wager that the men rather than their wives are architects of their current conditions. Primary among my reasons for saying so is that if indeed their feud is engineered by their wives or one of the wives, then they have failed in managing their wives. Any man who cannot control his wife's excesses and vice versa is not serious.

Secondly, any brother who doesn't recognize his brother's wife and her important place in his life is foolish. Thirdly, any brothers who do not pre-empt the influence of their wives even before they marry and plan for such an eventuality are not wise. Fourthly, how much acculturation do men give their wives when they are bringing them into a strongly-knit family, if there's anything so called. Fifthly, and this is for those who erroneously believe that because they are twins, Peter and Paul are not supposed to fight, the fact of blood relationship doesn't obliterate the fact of individual differences.

The last point is at the core of my submission. As siblings grow and acquire experience (socialization) they begin to manifest their differences. Even identical twins. Even Siamese twins! This is even more so when they get married and form their own families and begin to deal with other dynamics of life and living. So, as we say in Mbaise, if the music changes, the dance steps must also change. If you used to barge into your brother's bedroom before, you must knock and wait to be admitted, after he gets married. It could be as simple as that!

Unfortunately, most guys prefer to play the ostrich with regards to their change in status and especially with regard the consequences-until trouble starts. And even when trouble does start, they pretend there's no trouble and avoid confronting it until it snowballs into a crisis, like we are currently witnessing with P-Square. Perhaps, a stitch in time could have saved nine.

So, I posit that the importance attached to extended families is exaggerated. While it is not a bad idea in the strict sense of the word, it has the potential to cause rifts, divisions and wars. By the way, who hasn't heard about sibling rivalry? In most cases, it starts even without spouses-as kids and teenagers. It's just there. Vicious, at times. Unforgiving. Never-ending. And as soon as the spouses arrive, they are so easily and unjustifiably made into scapegoats.

Gentlemen, while I urge prayers and wish divine intervention in the sustainable existence of family ties, a lot depends on the man to protect his wife and at the same time safeguard the cohesion of the extended family. In the face of a choice, I'd rather keep my wife and children (my immediate family) than hang self-destructively on the other one.

So, in the case of Peter and Paul Okoye, if they have to split to make progress and avoid uglier consequences, let them split. After all, one mother can birth but not one god (chi) creates. It might as well be that the individual differences which Peter and Paul have successfully masked over the years can no longer be hidden. Let's not rush to blame the wives, if we don't have compelling evidence other than our African tendency to blame the women for every family feud.

By the way, I can't verify an insider gossip that this imbroglio has nothing to do with the women, but mostly with one of the twins, who's a lavish spender and more extroverted. Jude being the older brother and Manager, of course, wanted to control him but Peter won't have it and wanted him fired. Paul won't have that, and so they came to this sorry pass.

NB: Notice that I kept using man and wife. That is because I am strongly of the view and inclination that marriage is (and has to be) between a man and a woman, male and female-as God ordained it. However, I'm pro-choice, which means, I won't bother with any choices you have decided to make in the matter, so long as they do not affect me directly. Even my male dogs know so.

Emeka Oparah is the Director, Corporate Communications and CSR, Airtel Nigeria. He blogs at www.wilberforce.com.ng

http://www.wilberforce.com.ng/2016/03/the-p-square-split-why-blame-wives.html

This is erudite. Excellent. A thousand likes. Nwafor Igbo Ka ibu.

halfricanadian:


Seriously dats celebs head aches not mine

I hate a fake nd crowded life

crowded yeah! But fake hmmm. Do you call celebrity life a fake one.I don't believe it. Dear, its good to be a celebrity o.even when they're so much critizise they still love the fun and the joy of being a celeb. But if you can't handle such pressure,its better to stay on a low profile and Enjoy you lovely life.But you cas still be a celeb and be cool.no qualms. But I don't think their life is FAKE oo babe.

noblegrex:
crowded yeah! But fake hmmm. Do you call celebrity life a fake one.I don't believe it. Dear, its good to be a celebrity o.even when they're so much critizise they still love the fun and the joy of being a celeb. But if you can't handle such pressure,its better to stay on a low profile and Enjoy you lovely life.But you cas still be a celeb and be cool.no qualms. But I don't think their life is FAKE oo babe.

I dont need a celeb life period

halfricanadian:


I dont need a celeb life period

its cool.

noblegrex:
its cool.

I dont care not like i was brought up or trained to be one

Psquare.

halfricanadian:


I dont care not like i was brought up or trained to be one

haa. Madam. I don enter am today o. No be fight o. If you want celeb life o hooo. If you no want am uhmmm. So no be by force oo. Even the people wey want am sef no see am.besides,its not about upbringing.abi what are you talking about.

henrydadon:
anyone who blame the wife obviously doesn't have a good sense of reasoning ..they are old enough to make their own decision

Wait until u're married, then u'll know aw influential ur woman can be wen u've issues with a sibling, friend or parent.

the P-square DUO are simply not ripe for marriage.

lol.... Ur sayin trash.... dou I couldn't finish cos... am nt sure u dd summary in secondary school.... hv other tins to read....

Godblessaplus1:
Dear Psquare, I want to ask * WHY E BE SAY * una wan split after all these years? Coz u guys seem to have forgotten that there is * NO ONE LIKE YOU * in Africa, and u also forgot that God used * IFUNANYA * to make it a * POSSIBILITY* for u guys to be * UNLIMITED * today. I feel so bad over your latest * STORY* coz * I LOVE YOU* and i urge u to deal with your present situation * PERSONALLY * and do not let your * BEAUTIFUL ONYINYE’s * make you split. Don’t forget that they are only there to * CHOP YOUR MONEY *. I know that * E NO EASY* but u guys should try not to get involved in any * BIZZY BODY* because it will only lead to more * DANGER * in your carreer, Omo WAHALA go dey and your fanswill no longer be able to dance * ALINGO * again. settle the problems u guys are having, coz e get as e dey * DO ME* anytime i hear say u guys want to * BREAK IT *. I also heard that you brought * OGA POLICE*in to the matter. I want u guyz to be * MORE THAN A FRIEND * to avoid any * TEMPTATION * which will lead to * GAME OVER*, we are hoping to hear your * TESTIMONY *

oh boy u try well done

so jude is the cause?....Why do I feel uve spoken wt the wife and concluded too.....many sides to these boring story

THEY ARE THREE (3) THINGS THAT EASILY CAUSED DISAGREEMENT IN UNITED FAMILY
1. WIFE
2. CHILDREN
3. MONEY

IF ALL THESE STATED ABOVE IS NOT WELL TREATED THEY CAN CAUSE EVER LIVING ENEMY TO THE UNITED FAMILY

Ngokafor:





....Igbo women do not need your pity cos you are supporting Peter simply because he married Lola..that is all.

ok then no more pity for you people o, when next I see a widow been humilated, shaved and made to drink water used in washing dead body and also chased out of her home with her children by greedy brother inlaws..... I will just know its a proud cultural heritage of yours.

Iolite:


Simple

halfricanadian

So if the men don't want to be put in order nko. The women should now come and commit suicide se.

MarieSucre:


halfricanadian

So if the men don't want to be put in order nko. The women should now come and commit suicide se.

loool see firing chai only me swallow d bullets screaming my tommy open eye jesus wept

To ur question if dey dont want to b put to order wives shd always pray nd go for girls night out have fun nd b free

No matter ow long prayers will reset men heads

AntiWailer:
How on earth will any f00lish family member stop me from marrying a lady that already gave me 2 kids ? So she should go and i marry another wife and they have a step mum or what ? Are people this stupeed ?

Their mother warned NEVER to bring that particular lady into their family. Their mother said that particular lady would be the undoing of P.Square. Their mother probably saw through that yellow pawpaw. What is so difficult in respecting the memory of the dead woman?