I am so angry with my fiancee. I am trying to furnish the apartment I rented for us to live in after marriage and I asked her for 40,000naira to assist in doing that and she said she doesn't have any money which I know is not true because she has a well paying job.

She is not the demanding type and doesn't ask for cash like other women so I assume she has money.

I am not happy with her because she knows I am still trying to come up financially and I could do with her assistance in furnishing that house.

Am I wrong to ask for her financial support?

The info you gave us is one-sided na. Personally, I have no qualms in contributing financially if the man recipocrates. Where I have a problem is when I have to do every other thing in the home including contributing financially. Haba, I'm not a super woman na. It is called eating your cake and having it. Maybe you have hinted to your fiance before that you are not going to be a hands-on husband and she has in return decided that she'll leave you to be the sole breadwinner. These are things you should have talked about at this stage in your relationship. It won't be fair for you to expect a financially independent woman slash 19th century woman as a wife when men I've since moved on from being the 19th century sole breadwinner. You are just going to drain her both physically and psychologically. You don't want to end up with a bitter wife.
On the other hand, if none of this is the case, then you need to have a serious talk with her immediately. It is called tough love. Sit her down and decide how family expenses and chores will be handled. Both of you would have to make a compromise one way or the other. If you can't work this out now, then you are probably making a huge mistake in your choice of spouse. It simply means you don't complement or suit each other. It might be time to end this.

Hhmmm

for the mere fact that she isn't the demanding type i see no reason why you should be upset with her
she may have lotta important things to do with her money which you may not even know cos she never asked you for help

person nor dey ask you for money, so u don bliv say her salary reach am so tey she fit dash out
Abeg leave the babe

My brother calm down... let 40k not bring a discord BTW u two.. just calm down and manage with what you have at the moment...

Kick that girl out....

I repeat,

Kick that monster out!!!

You know why??

Even if she doesn't have 40K, can't she give you even 10k, just to show support??

Kick that female devil outtttttt

Oh gosh

Some comments can make u puke

there is a reason she aint a wife yet

You are wrong because you are sounding like, it is compulsory she contribute. She's also preparing for the wedding you know, she has her self and other things to take care of tooo.

Some men are shameless, they never stop asking after the first. Dont blame her, she is trying to be smart and probably has foreseen smthing.

Izen:
The info you gave us is one-sided na. Personally, I have no qualms in contributing financially if the man recipocrates. Where I have a problem is when I have to do every other thing in the home including contributing financially. Haba, I'm not a super woman na. It is called eating your cake and having it. Maybe you have hinted to your fiance before that you are not going to be a hands-on husband and she has in return decided that she'll leave you to be the sole breadwinner. These are things you should have talked about at this stage in your relationship. It won't be fair for you to expect a financially independent woman slash 19th century woman as a wife when men I've since moved on from being the 19th century sole breadwinner. You are just going to drain her both physically and psychologically. You don't want to end up with a bitter wife.
On the other hand, if none of this is the case, then you need to have a serious talk with her immediately. It is called tough love. Sit her down and decide how family expenses and chores will be handled. Both of you would have to make a compromise one way or the other. If you can't work this out now, then you are probably making a huge mistake in your choice of spouse. It simply means you don't complement or suit each other. It might be time to end this.

We have discussed something like that before. We agreed that she will be solely in charge of kitchen work and I can assist with other stuff around the house.
We didn't discuss finance before but I have hinted to her that I expect her to contribute financially.

@OP no offence to u, and i know all fingers are not equal, but uve nt even married her and uve started sharing responsibilities with her is unmanly. telling her to bring money 4 d rentage will make her loose respect 4 u, i believe that as a man, u must fully provide on ur own a home 4 ur wife to stay and the home fully paid 4 by u. dat brings respect nd humility 4rm her.

sexymoma:
for the mere fact that she isn't the demanding type i see no reason why you should be upset with her
she may have lotta important things to do with her money which you may not even know cos she never asked you for help

person nor dey ask you for money, so u don bliv say her salary reach am so tey she fit dash out
Abeg leave the babe

I am actually glad that she isn't the demanding type. Can you believe in our two years relationship she has only asked me for a gift once and she compensated by buying me very nice stuffs on my birthday.
No regular asking for credit card like other girls.

but she has a lot of money so I expect her to contribute to furnishing our future home. After all she will also live in it with me.

SAINTSAMURAI:
@OP no offence to u, and i know all fingers are not equal, but uve nt even married her and uve started sharing responsibilities with her is unmanly. telling her to bring money 4 d rentage will make her loose respect 4 u, i believe that as a man, u must fully provide on ur own a home 4 ur wife to stay and the home fully paid 4 by u. dat brings respect nd humility 4rm her.

I didnt ask for money for rentage, I asked for money to furnish the house.
I will like to be fully I'm charge of anything financial in our lives its just that my business is not doing very well at the moment.

LuveU2:
Some men are shameless, they never stop asking after the first. Dont blame her, she is trying to be smart and probably has foreseen smthing.

What do you think she has foreseen?

halfricanadian:
there is a reason she aint a wife yet

Shut up.
Her character is okay.
I love her and would have married her since if not for financial setbacks.

Cutehector:
My brother calm down... let 40k not bring a discord BTW u two.. just calm down and manage with what you have at the moment...

She has really been very tolerant and understanding towards me so that's why I am even trying to overlook her selfishness.
Not many women will agree to date a guy like me who has been living under his parents roof and has no car or fixed job.

Lamborghini:

Shut up.
Her character is okay.
I love her and would have married her since if not for financial setbacks.

Shut up too

Who talked bou her attitude

I said she is nt a wife yet so u can kno if u can put up with her

halfricanadian:

Shut up too
Who talked bou her attitude
I said she is nt a wife yet so u can kno if u can put up with her

Blablabla I don't care what you think at all.

Lamborghini:

She has really been very tolerant and understanding towards me so that's why I am even trying to overlook her selfishness.
Not many women will agree to date a guy like me who has been living under his parents roof and has no car or fixed job.

alright. Dats a nice one. Just be patient. U can't remain in a condition forever. It's just not possible

Lamborghini:

What do you think she has foreseen?

Future begging...and then she might have no choice than to surrender her income. I fear men like you o

As a man you must learn to control the urge to beg a lady for money cos you may find it hard to stop esp if she is the type that earns big and worse does not ask you for money.

LuveU2:
Future begging...and then she might have no choice than to surrender her income. I fear men like you o

As a man you must learn to control the urge to beg a lady for money cos you may find it hard to stop esp if she is the type that earns big and worse does not ask you for money.

My asking her is not the same thing as begging.
She is supposed to contribute financially.
She might as well start now by assisting with buying of furniture.

Lamborghini:

We have discussed something like that before. We agreed that she will be solely in charge of kitchen work and I can assist with other stuff around the house.
We didn't discuss finance before but I have hinted to her that I expect her to contribute financially.

1. What do you mean by kitchen work? Food stuffs or what?

2. ASSIST her with other stuffs in the house? Is a lady not supposed to be the one assisting? You're in CHARGE. What is your own specific role?

3. Why should you be getting married soon and not discuss finance?? Its a very important aspect.
My guy is there more to this story you're not telling us?? Don't believe this

Lamborghini:

Blablabla
I don't care what you think at all.

Ok no b fight Na

Abeg invite me come wedding

Lamborghini:

I am actually glad that she isn't the demanding type. Can you believe in our two years relationship she has only asked me for a gift once and she compensated by buying me very nice stuffs on my birthday.
No regular asking for credit card like other girls.

but she has a lot of money so I expect her to contribute to furnishing our future home. After all she will also live in it with me.

be sincere ooo when was the last time you asked about her welfare as in the way she live her life... don't be surprise if she tells you she has one big project at hand buh because you never asked she didn't bother telling you... she s a rare gem, u sef know buh u jos dey form for here ni

layla129:

1. What do you mean by kitchen work? Food stuffs or what?

2. ASSIST her with other stuffs in the house? Is a lady not supposed to be the one assisting? You're in CHARGE. What is your own specific role?

3. Why should you be getting married soon and not discuss finance?? Its a very important aspect.
My guy is there more to this story you're not telling us?? Don't believe this

By kitchen work I mean everything regarding Kitchen work.
And the wife is the one primarily in charge of handling house chores, but she should get assistance from her husband.
Don't believe the story if you don't want to.
I can't be bothered what you believe or don't believe.

sexymoma:
be sincere ooo when was the last time you asked about her welfare as in the way she live her life... don't be surprise if she tells you she has one big project at hand buh because you never asked she didn't bother telling you... she s a rare gem, u sef know buh u jos dey form for here ni

Yea you're right, I tend to get caught up in my job and not display much romantic affection.

I even was so busy that I forgot her birthday last month. But we have settled that matter.

Lamborghini:


Yea you're right, I tend to get caught up in my job and not display much romantic affection.

I even was so busy that I forgot her birthday last month. But we have settled that matter.

You see!! pls jos let her be... if she isn't stressing you i see no reason why you should... what if you guys aren't dating nko, you nor go do your furniture yourself?

sexymoma:
You see!! pls jos let her be... if she isn't stressing you i see no reason why you should... what if you guys aren't dating nko, you nor go do your furniture yourself?

But we are dating so I shouldn't do it myself.

Lamborghini:

But we are dating so I shouldn't do it myself.

Thank Goodness you mentioned "dating", i bliv you wouldn't want me to go back to my prev. converse you still want me to remind u that " she may have lotta important things to do with her money"

sexymoma:
Thank Goodness you mentioned "dating", i bliv you wouldn't want me to go back to my prev. converse you still want me to remind u that " she may have lotta important things to do with her money"

So furnishing the house she will live in with her husband isnt important?