Lezzlie:
It was a one-off, he didn't plan to cheat when he set off for the party. Cut the guy some slack. He isn't a habitual cheat or a cold one.

Habitual or cold one are just degrees that depict extent of something, a cheat is a cheat, occurence of cheating is irrelevant in this matter, when once or constant

Gender misconception!!! Read my last post to bukatyne!!!

The idea of a woman working harder and longer than her husband shouldn't surfice, that in itself is a distortion marriage of distortion and it's part of the subtle themes of the narrative.



Are you endorsing for women to work harder and longer than their husbands?

danbrowndmf:
got a new profile pishure.:p

No face?

pcguru1:


I am endorsing for women to work harder and longer if they desire, and husbands should support their wives, I find it weird someone has to attempt career suicide to make another party happy. infact closing by 8:00pm is early she even has it good.

Lezzlie:
Splendid idea for the family and society at large .

pcguru1:


Look Lezzlie I have no problem with Kunle cheating or finding comfort in an ex's arm, it's his personal life and marriage, he's free to destroy it as much as he wants, what i find silly is trying to blaming this on working nature of the wife without providing a solution or communicating with his wife.

The reason i asked "Are you married" .........never mind, it's actually irrelevant so am guessing Kunle is a victim here.

misspicy2:
No face?

Lezzlie:
Will the communication has reduced Jane's working hours? Would it have altered the exhausting nature of her work?

If I framed the plot where kunle suggests his wife take a less time-demanding job, the females here will scream male chauvinism all over the thread!


But Kunle didn't set out to cheat; he didn't foreconceive the idea.

pcguru1:


i know right but seriously think about this, what happens should the husband die. you do know the woman has to be the man, that has been my case it's why i support women to take their career life serious, however a responsible woman knows not to put her house in negligence, there are Women MDs in bank who still take care of their family. It's a wrong message to say as a woman you can't be too successful just because are you want to keep your home happy. weird right

elektra:




Kunle did not set out to cheat, this means that even if his wife had provided that 'loving atmosphere' he would have still cheated because it was not preconceived. So why the heck is his wife to blame for his indiscipline? You desperately what the wife to take 100% blame for kunle's actions but I do not understand why and no one on this thread does.

In fact if he had planned to cheat on his wife with the ex because he was tired of being neglected it would make your point stronger.

Lezzlie:


Self contradictory, if you don't care for Kunle and his actions you shouldn't care for the solution to the problems his action caused, after all, it is his marriage isn't it?

Lezzlie:
For the second time, I'll ask you read the narrative again.
If the wife has provided "the loving atmosphere" kunle would have declined the invitation.

Remember he did decline at first then remembered the lonely super, and long wait.....

Lezzlie:


I was being utterly sarcastic in the post you quoted with this.
My take? Women should balance out between family and career. With her preference titling more towards family.

I personally love teaching jobs and business where her time is flexible and freer.

Husbands should make their wives their next of kin in any circumstances. Men often die before women anyways, either by nature's call or fate's betrayal or health interruption; we always find a way to go first.


When fully career driven woman only begins to know what she missed after middle age and retirement, then the sad dawning that she's spent her youth and life running the roadmap and objective for a government who don't care two grains of beans about her, or a private firm who can replace her with the speed of Porsche 911.

She'll come back to the family and wonder where she didn't prioritise well.

misspicy2:

What again?

danbrowndmf:
i was Dabing na.

Lol,looks nice,and you are getting fleshier

Lezzlie:
To begin with, women aren't predisposed to cheating as are men.

Bottom line, it takes much more for women to cheat.

romme2u:

such a nice rhetoric

misspicy2:

Lol,looks nice,and you are getting fleshier

Lezzlie:



The notion of role reversal needn't arise. Millions of women don't work and stay at home and tend to the family without the predisposition to cheat.

And whoever told you the mental and physical endurance of men and women are the same?

misspicy2:

danbrowndmf:
This comment gah me checking that picture again. fleshier ke? Oni believe nko ti mon pass through bayi tin ba so fun e.

Its normal baba

I will still call,soon

romme2u:

this early morning, u want give me badluck for the day.
abi ur winch dey fly for day time

how na

Lezzlie:


I was being utterly sarcastic in the post you quoted with this.
My take? Women should balance out between family and career. With her preference titling more towards family.

I personally love teaching jobs and business where her time is flexible and freer.

Husbands should make their wives their next of kin in any circumstances. Men often die before women anyways, either by nature's call or fate's betrayal or health interruption; we always find a way to go first.


When fully career driven woman only begins to know what she missed after middle age and retirement, then the sad dawning that she's spent her youth and life running the roadmap and objective for a government who don't care two grains of beans about her, or a private firm who can replace her with the speed of Porsche 911.

She'll come back to the family and wonder where she didn't prioritise well.

misspicy2:





how na

bukatyne:


1. Anybody (male/female) who prioritizes work over family will always meet an empty home at the end of the day

2. The amount of employees (male/female) who are 'fully career' driven at the expense of their families is a small percentage; infact, most employers have to deal with employees who are disengaged.

3. The time of commuting to work is a major problem especially in areas like Lagos that's why you have more cases of 'career over family' instances here. Banking jobs that have been so demonized in Lagos are embraced in other parts of Nigeria. A relative of mine leaves home past 7am and returns latest 7pm (and yes, she is a banker) etc. etc.

4. Except you are talking of maggi and supermarket business, entrepreneurship ain't beans. Infact, they work 24*7 to make their business run smoothly. Even market women in big markets go every early to the market and leave late abi they are not wives?

5. Anybody that will cheat will cheat. If Kunle respected his marriage, he would not have gone with his ex, it is simple mathematics. Until he has reported his wife to her parents, his parents, the church, her friends, his friends, threatened to separate etc. he has not exhausted all options.

cc: pcguru1

Lezzlie:



Most of your submissions are passable, however, number 4 deals on market women. They are their own bosses and they work by their own time. They have the prerogative to employ an assistant or not.

They don't go to strange towns or booked in hotels for seminars and conferences.

And they don't go on transfers too. And running a market isn't as mentally and physically tasking as building a carrier. Women have been trading for years!

I've never found this well-worn catchphrase convincing "anyone that will cheat will cheat"

It's a quick resort to condemning defaulters while providing an escape from looking into the specifics.

bukatyne:


I see your intent is to justify Kunle cheating...

Good for him.

bukatyne:


Big market women don't travel to look for goods?

Whatever bros.

eyinjuege:


It takes nothing for a woman who is BORED and TIRED of her marriage to cheat!!!

eyinjuege:



Please, it's a complete fallacy to say women have to premeditate and do some high falloting strategic planning before they cheat.

eyinjuege:


Opportunities abound! There are fellow married men who's speciality is to chase after married women who they believe have more to lose and won't be as clingy as the single girls. Heck, even some single guys have no respect for marriage.

People meet randomly in trains, buses, supermarkets, on the road in traffic etc and exchange numbers and start dating from there.

misspicy2:

Its normal baba

I will still call,soon