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Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by Nobody: 8:56pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
yvelchstores: Lovely! Yeah, it is good to work on oneself when things are not going smoothly. It is more fruitful than the attempt to change the other by, for example, nagging. And it makes us indeed grow and better people ... at least at times. |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by austine4real(m): 8:57pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
Na ur type dey form mayweather junior marriage issues com dey wori u . When u'r ready psychologically u'll surely gets married no need to rush . Wish u best of luck |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by presentley: 8:59pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
Bros, why not kukuma change the topic of your post to "Are you married?" No worry, shebi your topic go hit front page, when it gets there also ask every other respondents whether or not they are married. Cc:lalasticlala |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by Nobody: 9:04pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
Mindfulness: Luv u too hun 1 Like |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by yvelchstores(f): 9:04pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
Marxxx:oh yes I sacrificed. I don't like much kitchen work,my spouse has a big appetite, I had to adjust. Love is responsibility and sacrifice. This is d love in marriage, stepping up, doing things u ought to do rather than tins u want. On d really nice side, it's good to knw someone is there for u always... 2 Likes |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by Marxxx: 9:05pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
olymurphy:Hmmmmmm...I like this. Truth be told I think if I will ever get married I will need to date for less than a month. This is because we might end up separating before we finally resolve to get married! Lol...So it's possible to just get married and do the patching as we sail....You guys did great! Kudos... 1 Like |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by jashar(f): 9:09pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
You Don't Have To Get Married. It's No Big Deal. 1 Like |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by Marxxx: 9:21pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
jashar:You!!! I thought the spirit of God has made you pass over this topic. I hope your twin doesn't get here. People have a wrong impression about you when you are not married I know what am talkin about from work place to family. As you approach the peak of your career you need a good Network. Oftentimes people are not comfortable with you holding meetings and private discussions with their spouse when you are not married...and management loves it when when you have something to look after.....let me not type much...I know you are joking and troublesome...go joor |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by Nobody: 9:22pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
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Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by Nobody: 9:22pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
Marxxx: Ur welcome dear. Well my transition was pretty tough. I pretty much gave up my whole life. Had my kids v soon after marriage. Twins. And there were health challenges. I've pretty much given up my whole life for my kids I've had very little support. Was pretty intense. I wasn't very prayerful and I really feel that really had an impact on all that happened. So please get more prayerful and closer to God right from now. You will have to give up a lot eg like free time, socialising time, you know just time to just relax and be. But you will be gaining a lot too. |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by Marxxx: 9:23pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
yvelchstores:Am so happy for you...kudos |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by Marxxx: 9:27pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
fem29:I learned a lot. Thanks...tell the kids marxxx says hello...I hope you are very strong now? I believe in God. Thanks |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by jashar(f): 9:29pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
Marxxx: See ya head like egg. And I'm being serious though. Forget societal pressure et al oooo. Your life is your life. In case you get married out of pressure and the wifey ends up being unhappy, who will the people blame in the end? Live your life to the best of God's ability. On the last day, no special marks for being married. Instead sef, the way you treated your spouse can even give you negative marking. Aside: if I wanted Dyt, I would have mentioned her. But I didn't. Enjoy. |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by Marxxx: 9:32pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
jashar:you just did... ... 1 Like |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by jashar(f): 9:34pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
Marxxx: Oooops. Don't worry, she won't come. But he might. |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by Marxxx: 9:45pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
jashar:you are funny |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by jashar(f): 9:47pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by Marxxx: 9:59pm On Apr 24, 2016 |
jashar:Alright dearest take care. Get to the bus station early so that you won't have to trek 10miles...and for the "egg head", that is another topic for another day... |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by captainhoo: 12:20am On Apr 25, 2016 |
time to learn. you can drop some words too for the single ladies. .some of us are too lazy to create topics |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by jashar(f): 7:54am On Apr 25, 2016 |
Marxxx: |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by zed7: 9:15am On Apr 25, 2016 |
Marxxx: U are right. Personal experience is quite different from observing others. My greatest fear in life was getting married. Just like u, i enjoy staying alone, having my moments. Though I love kids but I detest kids jumping up and down and turning everywhere upside down. However, i knew i wanted to marry and have kids. I just had to set my fears aside. I looked for a woman whom had similar qualities like me. A woman who detest drama, not lousy, doesn't believe in associating with d whole neighborhood. The first step is to find a woman who shares same values with u but u must also love her. That is where d challange is, cos u might have to search for a while. If u succeed, then marriage is pretty much easier from there. Of course they would be challanges but that is normal. Even best friends have challanges. U just have to learn to accommodate inlaws, it is inevitable. But pray u have reasonable inlaws who are ready to give u space. Funny enough i have kids who are hyper and turn d place upside down but i have no choice than to clean up after them. Being a family man means u have to make lots of sacrifices and learn to be tolerant. I still appreciate my quiet time when my family is asleep or travel but i do miss them when they travel or i travel. In summary, u'll get used to it. The first step is the scariest, after that it gets easier. The important key is marry a woman u are very compatible with. 10 Likes |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by Eketem: 9:40am On Apr 25, 2016 |
Talk about it and agree on it before marriage. We did and we had a wonderful blissful first year. Talk and reach decisions on issues no pretence. We agreed on finances, who pays what bill, how we would operate a joint account, how much monthly we would both contribute, house chores, who does what, relatives, how long a visit can last and what is expected from the visitors so as not to stress any spouse. When we agreed on the our family constitution we had a wonderful first year full of romance and loving up. No drama 4 Likes |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by Nobody: 2:30pm On Apr 25, 2016 |
Marxx the fact that you are putting much thought into this is very encouraging Many people just rush in for the wrong reasons and due to societal pressure and without taking a step back to look at themselves, understand their weaknesses and strengths and work on areas that need working on if required before they get married. Oga and I are different. He is the very friendly, jokey, people people person, the nuclear and extended family man with 100 arms, while I am a lot more reserved, but what's makes it easy is we both fill the gaps. He will cover up for me if I missed an aunty's birthday party and I will write that formal letter or shop around for a better deal on something. You sound like someone who loves his own company and space, so really you need someone who understands this and compliments you and wont throw a tantrum if you don't do the things that they expect or the lovey dovey bloke they see on Nollywood. Having said that you will also have to understand that sometimes you will do things that you dont really feel like doing or things that don't feel natural to you, but you do them because number one you are doing it for someone you love and number two that person too is doing some things that maybe she doesn't feel like doing but does them because she loves you and wants you to be happy There is a lot of compromise and love your Also marry someone who has the same short and long term vision as you. Also do put it in Gods hands. 5 Likes |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by Nobody: 2:32pm On Apr 25, 2016 |
Marxxx: You are most welcome dear. They are hale and hearty now. We thank God. What you should take from it is marriage and children is very hard work but can be very rewarding.Take your time to marry the right person, never rush. And praaaayyyyy seriously about it. It will work out fine. |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by nnamdiosu(m): 2:35pm On Apr 25, 2016 |
Swissheart: maybe he wants to apply na. since you have the wisdom. pls I beg consider him in case he proposes 1 Like |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by Natascha(f): 5:42pm On Apr 25, 2016 |
OP I know the feeling Im a woman, and I dont want children. Neither do I want to get married. Children and Marriage will just cramp my whole being, Lock me down, inhibit my freedom and rob me of my identity. Im not anti-kids, I don't hate kids. I just dont want them. I dont need children to make me feel like someone. Im already someone 4 Likes |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by Enjoyurmouth: 8:23pm On Apr 25, 2016 |
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Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by Zahrabinnta(f): 12:50am On Apr 26, 2016 |
The concept of marriage scares me so much,the idea of having to live with someone every single day for the rest of my life terrifies me tbh I'm an introvert and llooove my space and I just hope I'll be able to adjust when the time comes. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by YourCoffin: 12:02pm On Apr 26, 2016 |
OP, no more marriage and relationship nonsense from you please. Those are frivolities and should be left for those who are designed to engage in frivolities. I like the way you think- even though it's rigidly one-directional, which I suspect is a consequence of your consulting firm's engagement approach, it's satisfactorily holistic. Write s/th Marxx like jare. Dissect s/th other than marriage and relationship. Even how to cut cost while browsing Nairaland sounds fun |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by Dyt(f): 2:03pm On Apr 26, 2016 |
Marxxx: jashar: |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by Sparkles003(f): 2:42pm On Apr 26, 2016 |
. Your post got me laughing. Never compare your marriage to that of others whether your married or not. rather speak the word of God into that marriage that is yet to be, envisage in your inner mind the kind of marriage you want, while dating lookout for one that has the same desires you want for your marriage. 1 Like |
Re: Married Guys; How Did You Cope During Your First Year In Marriage? by PresVA: 3:13pm On Apr 26, 2016 |
Natascha:Hmmmm, hope you would say same thing when you're old and not so strong again??. ..Except you live in a place where they've old people's home Without family, life will be so boring. . It will be just work work work.. and party atimes... when you're old, you'll be so lonely. . You need people to call your own... Besides, when you see that prince charming, your wish is mostly to change Also, nobody says children make you who you're. . It's all just part of life.. God also said we should go into d world and multiple 1 Like |
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