unapapadeycraze:



so you have forgotten about the guy that deflowered you? Lies. If you see him again, you will wanna give it to him again. You think say e easy to open a lady's gate. She will nvr forget. Btw, do you still see the guy that deflowered you abi una don lose contact?

PunkyV:


Your thoughts on this issue arent reality, that's number one. I'm not saying I have forgotten him, that's number two. Of course I still remember his name, but I dont see or think of him any differently than any other person. No butterflies. Nothing. He's just another guy I used to know.

Yes, I still see him every now & then. Every time I see him, I think to myself, "What did I ever see in him?" Simply because I've met better since him Plus it doesnt help that my taste in men has evolved since then. He's nobody special! I wouldnt let him hump a leg, today! I'm no longer the me of back then...that's what it boils down to at the end of the day.

HurtgenForest:
I wonder what Seun himself thinks about this.

unapapadeycraze:


@your taste has evolved. More reason guys should fvck all these girls giving them green lights as early as possible. As they grow, they begin to wisen up, they begin to have a change in taste like punkyV


Now, you are no more a lie, you are a truth teller.

PunkyV:


Lol, I think it's natural to outgrow some things as you get older. He's just not my "type" now. He's a cool guy though. There's no bad blood between us to this day. He's the only one that has never hurt me, to be honest.

unapapadeycraze:



why is it that most ladies don't get married to the guy that deflowered them? Wetin dey cause the break up?

unapapadeycraze:



why is it that most ladies don't get married to the guy that deflowered them? Wetin dey cause the break up?

HurtgenForest:


Then why do some people keep saying that once you are not the first you can never get all of her heart?

I just don't get it.

PunkyV:


I guess every situation is different. Life gets in the way. Mine got into trouble & was sent away (to jail). At the same time I also moved away for school, so we lost touch.

unapapadeycraze:



you sha dey find front page. Lalasticlala weds HateU2. Can i get an amen?

Amen bro after breaking us up abi

HurtgenForest:


So a woman can wholly love her husband even if he was not the one that deflowered them?

unapapadeycraze:



awwww, pathetic. Na wa oh. He still came back to that area, i thought he would feel ashamed.

Btw, even if he didn't go to jail, there was possibility that you were gonna leave him after gaining admission into the tertiary institute. It has become the norm these days. They are well exposed in school then the new boyfriend comes in.

HateU2:
Amen bro after breaking us up abi

PunkyV:


Lol, he's now a HARDENED criminal that's in & out of prison. I wouldnt trust him not to mug me

No, I was still in high school then, but had to relocate to another area after a death in the family. I didnt even date for a couple of years after him, because I was still dealing with grief, so it was not a matter of being "well exposed".

unapapadeycraze:



really! Was he like dat when you guys started the relationship abi he changed along the line?

How come you guys now still see each other till this day?

unapapadeycraze:




i'm reuniting you both na. Lalasticlal.a, will you marry hat.eU2? It's you luv her so much.

HateU2:
Tanks, u can now go

PunkyV:


He was a little rough around the edges even when we started dating, but then he started experimenting with drugs & doing crime. He progressed & just became a totally different person.

I think I've seen him thrice in total, in all these years. I still visit the area because I have relatives there. So the times I've seen him was when I was visiting & he happened to be out of jail lol. He just got out last year Nov/Dec, but I've heard he got arrested yet again, this time for 15 years. He's a career criminal now. He scares even me.

unapapadeycraze:




no wonder you don't think about him again. I thought you ladies like badt guys? Perhaps, dats what attracted you to him. What really attracted you to him in the 1st place? I mean before he started misbehaving.

PunkyV:


Lol, well he is good looking (even now) & can be very sweet. I guess I was going through a bad boy stage back then, being a teenager & all. He could fight at the drop of a hat. There were always stories of him beating up some guy, etc. That to me was hot & manly lol. That was until I witnessed how unstable he can be when he saw me talking with another guy. It was all innocent, I swear I'm not lying lol. Anyway, he started raging in full view of people & drew a knife on the other guy. I ran like the wind because I've never seen a stabbing before. After that I started realizing that maybe I've bitten more than I can chew & was starting getting scared of him. He never laid a hand on me though. He was very sweet & loving. I remember one time he bought me a music box on my birthday. Just to be sure, I asked if he had stolen it Well, he was a thief so. But OMG, you could have sworn I accused him of murder or something he had not done before, because he EXPLODED in anger, making me regret ever asking such a sensible question

ZeeAfrica:


nawa for u oo. Guese u wer dating a tsotsi. Hahaha lol, girl ddnt yo momma ever teach u to select gentlemen and nt street guys. Coz yo guy sounds like he might have been a pantsula or something. I am even imagining him dressed like a trompies member. Chai, some girl don suffer ooo

PunkyV:


LMAO. It was a stage. And yes to dressing like trompies, it's like you've met him Typical, right? It's the mistakes we make when we're young & dumb.

You've been to SA? You sound like you know quite a lot about the lifestyle

ZeeAfrica:


hahhahaha lol babe, i can just imagine him.kikiki yes i have been to de south. Hahhahaha i travel a lot, so mzansi is one of de places i go to, sometimes

HurtgenForest:

Let me first say I am sorry for opening another thread that has to do with virginity because so much has been said on this already.

I often hear that a lady will never forget the man that deflowered her and that her heart will always be attached to that man no matter how wonderful any other man is that comes into her life.

Ladies is the above true?

Ladies can you deeply love a man you get married to when he is not the one that deflowered you or is the above true?

I need matured minds to look at this please not kids and jokers.

PunkyV:


Your thoughts on this issue arent reality, that's number one. I'm not saying I have forgotten him, that's number two. Of course I still remember his name, but I dont see or think of him any differently than any other person. No butterflies. Nothing. He's just another guy I used to know.

iLUMeN8:

really? don't take this the wrong way but I find this hard to believe. I remember my first kiss like it was yesterday, bumped into her a couple of months ago and to my amazement part of me still felt something. if I could feel that way about a kiss then I think a girl should feel something even if it is resentment toward the dude that was responsible for her first shag.

PunkyV:


Well, I am not you. Just because YOU experience things a certain way, doesnt mean it's like that for everybody. I for one am not one to dwell too much on past events. Meaning, if it didnt happen today, I dont care for it. There's not one person I feel what you just described for. So, you see? We're all wired differently. When *I* move on, sometimes it becomes very hard to even recall how the person made me feel. It's like out of sight, out of mind. No emotional memory whatsoever. I heard it's an illness & I'm glad I have it

iLUMeN8:

not even nostalgia? you really are dead inside . illness is putting it mildly, what you have is a disease. you need help!