Sagamite:

I am cool, bruv. Hope you are OK.

If the poster is based close to Brummie, I guess you can help distract her abit.

NO u didnt  Am fine bro jst enjoyin me day off.

1 cousins, 1/2 cousins, 1/4 cousins, 1/8 cousins, 1/16 cousins, they all have one thing in common-''cousins'' no matter how u try to make the relationship look so distant, they bitter truth is you guyz are cousins. so if you get involved you will be practicing incense. so ask your self, if you wanna be doing that,
i mean going against biblical ethics just cos you wanna satisfy some lust.

you berra get your head straight and concentrate on building a future, you are too young and too inexperienced for a committed relationship now, and who told you u wont find a guy like that again,   rubbish, at 18 you still have alot of paces to go, faces to see, and believe me, your taste at 18 wnt be your taste at 25, so be careful what you wish 4.

This is realy seriouse but its true of the saying that love could be blind . but my dear you need to know this that what is right is right no matter the circumstanceses . your case is what can be solves just by determination ,good guysare not finished on earth all you need to do is to ,be patient and pray i assure you your guy will surely come and meet. note once again what is right is right there is no understanding to it.

follypimpi:

quote author=Sagamite link=topic=312605.msg4395087#msg4395087 date=1250859578]
I am cool, bruv. Hope you are OK.

If the poster is based close to Brummie, I guess you can help distract her abit.

NO u didnt  Am fine bro jst enjoyin me day off.

Yes, I did. Rock on.

@ poster

Where in the UK are you based?

izeek:

why are u all telling her 18 is too young.
at that same age am sure most of u were phocking like it was going out of fashion.

we seem to have missed the point of this thread and that is the fact that she is bothered about the family ties.

dear am not too big on cousins doing cousins.
be it second half cousins or extar time cousins.
just let it be.
family is family and bible frowns @ it.

_{the only time bible allowed it was in the era of adam and even, and hey they had no option. agro for kill them.}

Una no go kill me 4 NL!!!!!!!!!!

I think I know exactly what you are feeling at the moment because I have been in such situation. Mine actually surface at a time I needed it most. I had met this girl in Lagos and had been on each others heed for about 8months though never promiscuous because we were taking time to see things mature. She made me traveled to my village that December since she was travelling too, so I had to visit her in her village only to found out that she is a daughter to my mom's cousin. shocked at the sight of familiar faces but pretended I was just on a neutral visit. thought it was a kinda mix-up so I asked questions and it was confirmed that we were actually related. when I queried further, I was told a riddle of "a tree planted in the middle of a sea yet it shoot out its root to tap water from other stream".

So deary, this is just one of the things in life that we cant change, and if we attempt to change it, it takes away most things/people that makes us who we are. You just have to let go! make him see reasons!

johnniet:

This is realy seriouse but its true of the saying that love could be blind . but my dear you need to know this that what is right is right no matter the circumstanceses . your case is what can be solves just by determination ,good guysare not finished on earth all you need to do is to ,be patient and pray i assure you your guy will surely come and meet. note once again what is right is right there is no understanding to it.

thanx very much i appreciate ur comment

@Topic and To Whom it may concern:

1. Must the relationship be based on the parents being cool about it or you guys being realistic about what you want to achieve?

2. If our major concentration/concerns is making both parents/granny happy about their lads date/affair, don't you think its also irrationally unfair to these folks?

3. In as much as i would not say "Hey girl you found the right guy. Go on" and neither would i say "Stop it! Its a taboo" i believe she could have more candid reasons why they should or should not go ahead.

4. I would carefully quote her words for us to know that the journey is quite far between them and does not have prospects
"Im 18 years old" possibly first love
I've been told we were cousins but I wasn't so sure she needed to confirm
we got along so well and we developed a really strong bond this wouldn't clarify my claim yet until you read this
i guess i kinda feel something too coz we have a strong bond and he's really hot and a really good guy,

They probably have been having some important close-door session to be able to ascertain this remarks.

5. Its simple, they are just having a nice time which would result to nothing real.

6. She needs elderly advice and guidance to help her take right steps

7. Remember! You cannot correct her or help her by first telling her what she's doing or intends to do is bad or will never work out. First make her see reasons for either continuing or discontinue the INFATUATION.


RegaRDS
I'm Drunk

To some tradition it's not incest.

Drunk Drunk Drunk  
Call a spade a spade
This is semi incest , feelings or no feelings
I dont know wat is rational in  cousins datin eachoda
This has nuffin to do with the happiness of the  parents

smooooooth:

1 cousins, 1/2 cousins, 1/4 cousins, 1/8 cousins, 1/16 cousins, they all have one thing in common-''cousins'' no matter how u try to make the relationship look so distant, they bitter truth is you guyz are cousins. so if you get involved you will be practicing incense. so ask your self, if you wanna be doing that,
i mean going against biblical ethics just cos you wanna satisfy some lust.

you berra get your head straight and concentrate on building a future, you are too young and too inexperienced for a committed relationship now, and who told you u wont find a guy like that again,   rubbish, at 18 you still have alot of paces to go, faces to see, and believe me, your taste at 18 wnt be your taste at 25, so be careful what you wish 4.

It is in no place under the law you can't date marry your cousin. There were many cases in the bible where relations marry.  Isaac was married to Rebekah, his first cousin once removed (Genesis 24:12-15).

I guess if she's 18, this things would blow away with time. Just have the feeling the dude wants to use her to achieve some stuffs, seen it before, see it again!

All said, you are young, you can use your heart, when you get older you use your head. It would be a shame to still use your heart 7 years from now!

Boyz know how to get teenage girls emotional

@Poster
I have to give you some honest Facts(4 real).Firstly it depends on which tribe you're coming from!

1)If you are yoruba- Consult your Babalawo and the rest is history!
2)If you are Hausa- Consult the Sultan or Sharia court Judge and after 100 strokes of Koboko you guys are OK.
3)If you are Igbo- Pls Sister i take God beg you,its a NO NO otherwise you'd incur the wrath of Ndi Nna Ochie(Calamity)
4)If you are from Kogi,Akwa ibom,Edo- Then u have no probs as its called "United Family peppersoup" there._{forgive me pls}!  

@poster
Why don't yo ask his grandfather's half-sister's son or daughter if it is alright to hang out with this guy ?

amosexy:

Drunk Drunk Drunk  
Call a spade a spade
This is semi incest , feelings or no feelings
I dont know wat is rational in  cousins datin eachoda
This has nuffin to do with the happiness of the  parents

Ok, A Spade is a Spade not Shovel but WTM what's semi about incest?

spikedcylinder:

Isn't that incest?

Wouldn't agree with you completely. Look at the relating point also, i would recommend Ben20001 post and the Biblical view up there

koolchicco:

@Poster
I have to give you some honest Facts(4 real).Firstly it depends on which tribe you're coming from!

1)If you are yoruba- Consult your Babalawo and the rest is history!
2)If you are Hausa- Consult the Sultan or Sharia court Judge and after 100 strokes of Koboko you guys are OK.
3)If you are Igbo- Pls Sister i take God beg you,its a NO NO otherwise you'd incur the wrath of Ndi Nna Ochie(Calamity)
4)If you are from Kogi,Akwa ibom,Edo- Then u have no probs as its called "United Family peppersoup" there._{forgive me pls}!

hahaha, well im actually half yoruba half ibo, wot do i do then? LMAO!

U're just 18, crack it as joke to ur mum or told her ur friend is in such dilema

Gal, truly understand how you feel. Now the first thing you are to do is to make enquiries (an elderly person) about ur customs and know if it permitts dating or marrying a distant relative but if it frowns against it then there are a thousand and one guys out there who u can always hook up with

nawtiichic:

hahaha, well im actually half yoruba half ibo, wot do i do then? LMAO!

No wonda you are confused

rita@NL:

No wonda you are confused 

hahahahaha !_{unu ga egbu mmadu 4 here oo!}

koolchicco:


hahahahaha !_{unu ga egbu mmadu 4 here oo!}

no mind the chikala jor
Anywayz bros i neva see ur handi-work for utube for dayz oo,wetin happen na?

rita@NL:

no mind the chikala jor
Anywayz bros i neva see your handi-work for utube for dayz oo,wetin happen na?

Rita nwamme m,ur very funny.I don already advice d chikala on what to do.
As for my utube stuff,be ready to enjoy some new blockbusters coming ur way soon.I've already made some order but they're seem to be taking their time in sending 'em.You know,nowadays they tend to seize 'em at the airport if its plenty._{by d way,have u seen all d movies in my channel yet?}

^
I don watch every oo ,i come dey look say u disappear
But thx bros

Btw . . .na MrLanko be dis

** juz pass'n **

nawtiichic:

hahaha,  well im actually half yoruba half ibo,  wot do i do then? LMAO!

Well if you're Mixed,then you can as well 'Mix' the respective recommendations as stated above._{Double deliverance awaits u!}

rita@NL:

^
I don watch every oo ,i come dey look say u disappear
But thx bros

Btw  . . .na MrLanko be dis 

MrLanko sef u too much!But how u come be. . . _{Anyway we know where we go talk am!}

Marry am jare!