Hope he won't turn to a gold digger later on.

No now child. The problem ain't your man here. The problem is you. U r the one who is going to feel as if he is sponging off yo finances, u r de one whose gona feel angry becoz u wil b feeling like yo money is being overused, den u gona b frustrated and start shouting @ hi and u gona cheat on him wit a rich dude, and u gona stop respecting him. Mark my words

no big deal dear, the most important thing is d true love btw you both and in as much as u are willing to double ur level of respect for him as your husband and for his relatives too by not making it obvious you earn better , and also don't in any way try to take up his responsibilities so he wouldn't think he is irrelevant . i have a similar situation and my marriage would be 5years by September and God has been awesome. its all in your hands if you want it to work. good luck.

all dos pple asking u to leave d guy are dey ready to find a replacement for him?.....i kw sum1 who's salary difference wuz abt 1m (d man 200k & d woman 1.2m) d guy wuz abt witdrawing but d pastor interceded & counselled dem & 2day D're gud......respect ur man & always pray 4 him.....learn to avoid money related misunderstanding & always reassure him of ur luv

MRBrownJ:


if thats how little you think of him, then you have no business marrying this man (whether richer or poorer than him)

Haba! We are humans na,wat I mean is that won't he start feeling less of a man when I have to be the one picking all the bills.

holuwatunmishe:
no big deal dear, the most important thing is d true love btw you both and in as much as u are willing to double ur level of respect for him as your husband and for his relatives too by not making it obvious you earn better , and also don't in any way try to take up his responsibilities so he wouldn't think he is irrelevant . i have a similar situation and my marriage would be 5years by September and God has been awesome. its all in your hands if you want it to work. good luck.

Wow! Thanks for the advise

ZeeAfrica:
No now child. The problem ain't your man here. The problem is you. U r the one who is going to feel as if he is sponging off yo finances, u r de one whose gona feel angry becoz u wil b feeling like yo money is being overused, den u gona b frustrated and start shouting @ hi and u gona cheat on him wit a rich dude, and u gona stop respecting him. Mark my words

I will never do a thing like that,am only scared he will feel am cheating on him.

NemzySeries:
all dos pple asking u to leave d guy are dey ready to find a replacement for him?.....i kw sum1 who's salary difference wuz abt 1m (d man 200k & d woman 1.2m) d guy wuz abt witdrawing but d pastor interceded & counselled dem & 2day D're gud......respect ur man & always pray 4 him.....learn to avoid money related misunderstanding & always reassure him of ur luv

Thanks for the comment

lovesmile16:



Thanks for the comment

U're always Welkom......reassure ur man da hiz ur king & dunt 4get to send me an invite......I'm less dan 27 & an applicant...studied "Intelligence and Security studies " incase U've got a slot 4me.....enjoy ur man

lovesmile16:



I will never do a thing like that,am only scared he will feel am cheating on him.

hehehe money always changes woman. U gona even want to control him, n u gona get angry if he just sits down n watches tv.hehehe give it time, den u wil see wat m al abt

NemzySeries:

U're always Welkom......reassure ur man da hiz ur king & dunt 4get to send me an invite......I'm less dan 27 & an applicant...studied "Intelligence and Security studies " incase U've got a slot 4me.....enjoy ur man

Okay

ZeeAfrica:


hehehe money always changes woman. U gona even want to control him, n u gona get angry if he just sits down n watches tv.hehehe give it time, den u wil see wat m al abt

Not all women oo

lovesmile16:


Not all women oo

lets hop u r right,

lovesmile16:


Not all women oo

lets hop u r right,

Smellymouth:
Not again.....I've never heard of any man who has a problem with his spouse earning more than him. All we here is that its somehow emasculating, and the only people who ever say this is.....Yep.....You guessed it, --" WOMEN!! .

Its like the idea of men having issues with this, is an idea which they've made up in their heads because they actually like the thought that it somehow hurts a man's ego. But the truth is it really doesn't.

If it hurt our egos, we wouldn't walk ourselves into a relationship with a higher earning girl.....Its called logic, and it is very black and white.

you'd be surprised it does hurt some men's ego, not all tho.


there are some men who can't just stand a woman making it in life than them , I have heard of several men say it.....a guy once said if his wife is getting promotions at work he would go to her office to destroy her reputation , so if I earn more money than my man before marriage I'll be concerned , this is Nigeria bro


one of the reasons why am working hard to settle down with my present bf cos he's free minded.

ZeeAfrica:


hehehe money always changes woman. U gona even want to control him, n u gona get angry if he just sits down n watches tv.hehehe give it time, den u wil see wat m al abt

see money changes humans shikena, especially men . a man that was faithful when he was poor would change when he becomes rich, that is the bitter truth..... I have heard of several cases , men helped by their wives and they turn their backs on them and their children.


its not only women that do that .

esosa993:




see money changes humans shikena, especially men . a man that was faithful when he was poor would change when he becomes rich, that is the bitter truth..... I have heard of several cases , men helped by their wives and they turn their backs on them and their children.


its not only women that do that .

bt thru it all dey stil take care of deir wives n dnt mind if dey spend deir cash. Weras woman wud mind a million times, if he has to always spend her cash

Pls stay away frm dat marriage.

It's obvious d "money" issue is already givin u a cause for concern and it will remain so and even escalate if u go ahead wit d marriage.

The only option is to switch income and dat depends on u. Wat I mean is for u to hand ur salary to him at d end of every month and vice versa until he is able to increase his finances.

If u love him, u will protect his ego. But I doubt our ladies of today can do dis.

NemzySeries:

U're always Welkom......reassure ur man da hiz ur king & dunt 4get to send me an invite......I'm less dan 27 & an applicant...studied "Intelligence and Security studies " incase U've got a slot 4me.....enjoy ur man

heheheh see dis criminal opportunist! So if she get slot, she go leave her man and call u ba? Keep dreaming to rep where u did nt sow

lovesmile16:
My fiance and I have been dating for like 2 years now. We are planning our wedding but the problem is that I earn 3 times what my man earns(I just got the job 3 months ago). Its not his fault because he has all it takes to get my kind of job(good result,intelligence,smartness) but unfortunately,he hasn't found one yet. I love him and he loves me too. We are friends and compatible. He is happy I earn well but friends and family said I should hold on with the wedding that men have ego issues that I should look for someone that earns more than me to avoid issues in the marriage that this kind of marriages hardly work. How true is this? Please married people, I need ur advice,can it work despite that the woman earns more than the man?

I will advise you to go ahead with the marriage if you truly wish to marry him, life take different turns and don't see only the present, ignore the advise of those giving you contrary advise because its one of the reasons why marriages fails nowadays. Imagine ladies leaving a guy to go marry big boys in the private sector and after few years the guys loose the job and then the other guy gets a career job in public sector with his future secured. At the end of the day waywardness & other vices comes in which will finally leads to divorce of the private sector guys. The moral of all this is just that life can take different turns but if you know you truly love the guy and you are cool with marrying him. Go ahead with the marriage and I pray God bless you union in advance

esosa993:




see money changes humans shikena, especially men . a man that was faithful when he was poor would change when he becomes rich, that is the bitter truth..... I have heard of several cases , men helped by their wives and they turn their backs on them and their children.


its not only women that do that .

Yes,it's common with men

pedrilo:
Pls stay away frm dat marriage.

It's obvious d "money" issue is already givin u a cause for concern and it will remain so and even escalate if u go ahead wit d marriage.

The only option is to switch income and dat depends on u. Wat I mean is for u to hand ur salary to him at d end of every month and vice versa until he is able to increase his finances.

If u love him, u will protect his ego. But I doubt our ladies of today can do dis.

Its not giving me any issue,my problem is his ego. Men want to always be incharge.

lawnreigh:
I will advise you to go ahead with the marriage if you truly wish to marry him, life take different turns and don't see only the present, ignore the advise of those giving you contrary advise because its one of the reasons why marriages fails nowadays. Imagine ladies leaving a guy to go marry big boys in the private sector and after few years the guys loose the job and then the other guy gets a career job in public sector with his future secured. At the end of the day waywardness & other vices comes in which will finally leads to divorce of the private sector guys. The moral of all this is just that life can take different turns but if you know you truly love the guy and you are cool with marrying him. Go ahead with the marriage and I pray God bless you union in advance

That's just it,no one knows tomoro. Things do change.

pedrilo:
heheheh see dis criminal opportunist! So if she get slot, she go leave her man and call u ba? Keep dreaming to rep where u did nt sow

Lol,abeg free the poor guy abeg

esosa993:





you'd be surprised it does hurt some men's ego, not all tho.


there are some men who can't just stand a woman making it in life than them , I have heard of several men say it.....a guy once said if his wife is getting promotions at work he would go to her office to destroy her reputation , so if I earn more money than my man before marriage I'll be concerned , this is Nigeria bro


one of the reasons why am working hard to settle down with my present bf cos he's free minded.

My fiance is free minded too

lovesmile16:


Yes,it's common with men

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yea very very, but since you said he's free minded you have absolutely nothing to worry about.... other factors that could change him his is friends, but if he has good friends and he's a good man then there's nothing to worry about

esosa993:


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yea very very, but since you said he's free minded you have absolutely nothing to worry about.... other factors that could change him his is friends, but if he has good friends and he's a good man then there's nothing to worry about

Okay,that's true

lovesmile16:


My man doesn't seem to have any problem,but won't he start feeling funny later on?

you better don rush into the marriage. give it time to really see how he handles it in long term. are you willing to not complain about cooking and cleaning even though you earn more. are you willing to help him through his hour of need. does he like money. does he have pipe dreams. is he hard working. how does he behave around his friends and female family members (is he an alpha or beta). learn to read the signs o cos it's till death do you part.

mikolo80:
you better don rush into the marriage. give it time to really see how he handles it in long term. are you willing to not complain about cooking and cleaning even though you earn more. are you willing to help him through his hour of need. does he like money. does he have pipe dreams. is he hard working. how does he behave around his friends and female family members (is he an alpha or beta). learn to read the signs o cos it's till death do you part.

Ya that's true

My dear no disadvantage I d earning. D only disadvantage is d background (family, academic etc) u two coming from. It should be of same background to a large extent. But not earning

lovesmile16:


Its not giving me any issue,my problem is his ego. Men want to always be incharge.

Yap dnt you want him to be in charge before?

pedrilo:
heheheh see dis criminal opportunist! So if she get slot, she go leave her man and call u ba? Keep dreaming to rep where u did nt sow

even common sense on a sunday like dis u dunt av.....did she say her man wuz jobless? did I say she shdnt help her man if she had d chance to? mr man u shd b more reasonable @ dis time of ur life....I'm asking 4 assistance not money or food u hear....(poverty/slavery mentality @ work) even d bible said seek & ye shall find so were is d "criminal opportunistic ideology" coming frm? or u jst felt like wondering aimlessly online 2day?......av sense IJN (& d whole hauz wud say.......AMENNNNN)