amicable09:

Ahn!
I came to encourage the OP when I saw a moniker like mine... I don't know how I feel seeing my 'moniker sake' ... I feel like crying and laughing at the same time.

Nice moniker though.
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OP, I'm happy your mum is making the house uncomfortable for you. You are too comfortable at home for a guy. I mean who comes out to say they are beginning to hate their mum because she's not giving him money for airtime? If it were she didn't give you transport money to go for test or interview in another state cos you've run out of savings I'd have said she overdid it but mere call card?

Upgrade your hate game!

Leave the house everyday! Engage yourself in sth productive whether you are paid or not and your mum will be happy. Try it for one month and you'll see changes.

swaggprofessor:
Sincerely bro, talk truth, na wetin u use graduate?. Answer the question silently and then u go know y!!!!!!!!

Holywizard:
I am so sorry to say this but it is actually the truth.
Ever since I graduated last year my mum has made my life a living hell.
I ve tried severally to get used to her bad attitude but all to no avail.
She complains on every thing I do. In fact once she wakes up from sleep she must look for something to complain with.

Since I graduated, I automatically stopped receiving cash from them & they (she & my dad) doesn't even care whether I have money to recharge my phone. Since last year they haven't given me ordinary #1000 & once I complain they will say 'no money' but my mum especially keeps buying unnecessary things. No money but she'll buy new shoes, clothes, bags, cell phone etc which she won't even put on.

Last week, our last born of de family came back from school & she took him out for shopping & she spent not less than #50,000 on him. Everything she does now is on the boy. My mum can even wash the plates on behalf of him. Everything he does is right. She protects the boy like an egg.

When an old friend wanted me to come over to PH so that I'd be managing his business before I go for service, my mum refused, saying that the days are bad via money ritualism. All my elder siblings called me to talk sense into me that I should just stay back, I missed that big opportunity because I'd ve been having like hundreds of thousands in my bank account.

My parents doesn't care about my welfare. Right now I don't have up to #1000 in cash & in bank. I think they hate me & I
I hate my mum the most!!! I just feel like leaving the house for them.

LaExpert:


Like seriously, I doubt the comprehension ability of many.

The op complained of two things.
1. Unequal treatment of his siblings by his parents.
2. Blocking his hustle.

Most people did not see the second

if she can't help him then she shouldn't block him.

if she's trying to protect her son from rituals, then she should help him with funds to start up something for himself. it is clear that the funds are there.


Op, consider other options and present them to your parents them to approve so u can be independent, if they don't approve any, request for their suggestion and select the one you're okay with. if they don't have suggestions, you may have to demand for allowances till you get to have something they are cool with. in the worst case scenario, you should impose your decisions on them but be ready to bear the consequences. you have the right, you're an adult

shitshappen:
Some of us are late bloomers, Pele. It I really difficult to launch at this current state of the economy. And it's entirely wrong of his family to abandon him just because they saw him through school.
I get his sense of entitlement though, but he's not made until he's made.

5k for you from me. Claim it if u want it.

DonOms:
@OP: Firstly, your parens don't hate you. You just have a different understanding from theirs and none of them discussed their reality with you but acted it out, hence your confusion.
And majority of those who gave you 'tough' advice up here don't hate you either, they have just told you the truth in a harsh tone.

I don't believe you're lazy. You haven't just started to come to terms with the "survival of the fittest" race you automatically signed up for upon graduation.
So here's what you must do:
1) Stop hating your mom. Show her love because it's a privilege you have a mother under whose roof you live and eat.

2) Convert your hate (towards your mother) into passion for what you have interest in and to learn a skill (or get a temp job) that can fetch monetary gains. This will help you a lot as you go for service in the coming months and even beyond.

3) DO NOT EXPECT HELP FROM ANYONE. Don't get me wrong. You can accept help, but never expect it's someone's job to give it. This will give you a sense of responsibility that will give you the edge you need in this competitive world of ours.

Don't leave home now. NYSC will evict you anyway. Just get busy in your current environment and make yourself relevant. Things will get tougher for you from now but see it as a learning process and make the best of it. The best advice for you isn't 'grow up,' it is 'rise up.'

spafu:
If I catch you, I swear you no go recognize your body odour again. What rubbish are you spewing out here? I left my parents at 18 years of age, enrolled myself for a tutorial classes and registered myself for three GCEs till I made all my papers and struggled to get admission and then sponsored myself from my diploma up to my M Sc degree. And here you are still collecting or expecting to collect money from your parents even after graduation. Are you not ashamed of yourself? When will you grow up and become a man? Why won't your mum complain and make the house uncomfortable for you? As long as the place remains comfortable for you, you won't take a step to get out there and make a life of your own. She is helping you man. Go out and be a man.

Holywizard:
I am so sorry to say this but it is actually the truth.
Ever since I graduated last year my mum has made my life a living hell.
I ve tried severally to get used to her bad attitude but all to no avail.
She complains on every thing I do. In fact once she wakes up from sleep she must look for something to complain with.

Since I graduated, I automatically stopped receiving cash from them & they (she & my dad) doesn't even care whether I have money to recharge my phone. Since last year they haven't given me ordinary #1000 & once I complain they will say 'no money' but my mum especially keeps buying unnecessary things. No money but she'll buy new shoes, clothes, bags, cell phone etc which she won't even put on.

Last week, our last born of de family came back from school & she took him out for shopping & she spent not less than #50,000 on him. Everything she does now is on the boy. My mum can even wash the plates on behalf of him. Everything he does is right. She protects the boy like an egg.

When an old friend wanted me to come over to PH so that I'd be managing his business before I go for service, my mum refused, saying that the days are bad via money ritualism. All my elder siblings called me to talk sense into me that I should just stay back, I missed that big opportunity because I'd ve been having like hundreds of thousands in my bank account.

My parents doesn't care about my welfare. Right now I don't have up to #1000 in cash & in bank. I think they hate me & I
I hate my mum the most!!! I just feel like leaving the house for them.

DonOms:
@OP: Firstly, your parens don't hate you. You just have a different understanding from theirs and none of them discussed their reality with you but acted it out, hence your confusion.
And majority of those who gave you 'tough' advice up here don't hate you either, they have just told you the truth in a harsh tone.

I don't believe you're lazy. You haven't just started to come to terms with the "survival of the fittest" race you automatically signed up for upon graduation.
So here's what you must do:
1) Stop hating your mom. Show her love because it's a privilege you have a mother under whose roof you live and eat.

2) Convert your hate (towards your mother) into passion for what you have interest in and to learn a skill (or get a temp job) that can fetch monetary gains. This will help you a lot as you go for service in the coming months and even beyond.

3) DO NOT EXPECT HELP FROM ANYONE. Don't get me wrong. You can accept help, but never expect it's someone's job to give it. This will give you a sense of responsibility that will give you the edge you need in this competitive world of ours.

Don't leave home now. NYSC will evict you anyway. Just get busy in your current environment and make yourself relevant. Things will get tougher for you from now but see it as a learning process and make the best of it. The best advice for you isn't 'grow up,' it is 'rise up.'

ericmor:


Op, u can seek for assistance or help but do not rely on it bcs man do fail but God never fails. Just trying to put a touch on wat dis brother has said.

Totfulguy:


Please leave the house. Judging by your name "holywizard" you are confused (A wizard cannot be holy). People who have put in their best for you deserve gratitude not hate. You need to leave the house before you make front page again for the wrong reason.

Manueleee:

Remain Bless My Brother. I pray not to depend on my parent anymore. When will he be a man na? A graduate for dat mata. Chineke nekwe num o.

radiokilla:

what of me na.

Holywizard:
Thanks, i'll appreciate

Holywizard:
I am so sorry to say this but it is actually the truth.
Ever since I graduated last year my mum has made my life a living hell.
I ve tried severally to get used to her bad attitude but all to no avail.
She complains on every thing I do. In fact once she wakes up from sleep she must look for something to complain with.

Since I graduated, I automatically stopped receiving cash from them & they (she & my dad) doesn't even care whether I have money to recharge my phone. Since last year they haven't given me ordinary #1000 & once I complain they will say 'no money' but my mum especially keeps buying unnecessary things. No money but she'll buy new shoes, clothes, bags, cell phone etc which she won't even put on.

Last week, our last born of de family came back from school & she took him out for shopping & she spent not less than #50,000 on him. Everything she does now is on the boy. My mum can even wash the plates on behalf of him. Everything he does is right. She protects the boy like an egg.

When an old friend wanted me to come over to PH so that I'd be managing his business before I go for service, my mum refused, saying that the days are bad via money ritualism. All my elder siblings called me to talk sense into me that I should just stay back, I missed that big opportunity because I'd ve been having like hundreds of thousands in my bank account.

My parents doesn't care about my welfare. Right now I don't have up to #1000 in cash & in bank. I think they hate me & I
I hate my mum the most!!! I just feel like leaving the house for them.

Holywizard:
I am so sorry to say this but it is actually the truth.
Ever since I graduated last year my mum has made my life a living hell.
I ve tried severally to get used to her bad attitude but all to no avail.
She complains on every thing I do. In fact once she wakes up from sleep she must look for something to complain with.

Since I graduated, I automatically stopped receiving cash from them & they (she & my dad) doesn't even care whether I have money to recharge my phone. Since last year they haven't given me ordinary #1000 & once I complain they will say 'no money' but my mum especially keeps buying unnecessary things. No money but she'll buy new shoes, clothes, bags, cell phone etc which she won't even put on.

Last week, our last born of de family came back from school & she took him out for shopping & she spent not less than #50,000 on him. Everything she does now is on the boy. My mum can even wash the plates on behalf of him. Everything he does is right. She protects the boy like an egg.

When an old friend wanted me to come over to PH so that I'd be managing his business before I go for service, my mum refused, saying that the days are bad via money ritualism. All my elder siblings called me to talk sense into me that I should just stay back, I missed that big opportunity because I'd ve been having like hundreds of thousands in my bank account.

My parents doesn't care about my welfare. Right now I don't have up to #1000 in cash & in bank. I think they hate me & I
I hate my mum the most!!! I just feel like leaving the house for them.

Holywizard:
I am so sorry to say this but it is actually the truth.
Ever since I graduated last year my mum has made my life a living hell.
I ve tried severally to get used to her bad attitude but all to no avail.
She complains on every thing I do. In fact once she wakes up from sleep she must look for something to complain with.

Since I graduated, I automatically stopped receiving cash from them & they (she & my dad) doesn't even care whether I have money to recharge my phone. Since last year they haven't given me ordinary #1000 & once I complain they will say 'no money' but my mum especially keeps buying unnecessary things. No money but she'll buy new shoes, clothes, bags, cell phone etc which she won't even put on.

Last week, our last born of de family came back from school & she took him out for shopping & she spent not less than #50,000 on him. Everything she does now is on the boy. My mum can even wash the plates on behalf of him. Everything he does is right. She protects the boy like an egg.

When an old friend wanted me to come over to PH so that I'd be managing his business before I go for service, my mum refused, saying that the days are bad via money ritualism. All my elder siblings called me to talk sense into me that I should just stay back, I missed that big opportunity because I'd ve been having like hundreds of thousands in my bank account.

My parents doesn't care about my welfare. Right now I don't have up to #1000 in cash & in bank. I think they hate me & I
I hate my mum the most!!! I just feel like leaving the house for them.

Holywizard:
I ve notin to leave de house wit