RiloKiley:


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I've heard of women who asked to be induced at certain dates that had nothing to do with medical reasons. One wanted her child's birthday to coincide with hers. Her first doctor refused but another one agreed to do it. It was successful.

I suppose when you are paying privately, you get to dictate the tune to an extent...and as such you are free to cast your net as wide as you wish till you find someone to do as you wish.

But here, the medical practice is regulated..rules are implemented and adhered to strictly and since you are not paying, the emphasis is on attempting to have the child with as little intervention as possible. Choices like that are offered out of necessity not on a whim.

pwettyJasmine:

You are a man not a woman, how come u know CS takes longer to heal. FYI im a mother of 2 i had my 1st child with normal delivery and the 2nd via CS and in my opinion CS healed faster. In less than 1mnth i was back 100% but when i delivered normally the episiotomy (cut) my Dr gave me lasted for months, couldnt sit well, to straff no even near that. For me i cant opt for natural anything again if i want to have more kids. C S is the way. All those open eyes thing na suffer. Ive experienced both so i know exactly how it goes

Which is why it all boils down to choice - however this choice is made, is of no business to anyone else other than the couple involved (accompanied with a doctor's advice of course), but they still don't get it.

I think you're like the fourth or fifth female poster here talking about the positives of CS as experienced personally, but you all either get completely ignored or shouted down...

This particular line of thought isn't what they want to read...herd mentality.

crackhaus:

Which is why it all boils down to choice - however this choice is made, is of no business to anyone else other than the couple involved (accompanied with a doctor's advice of course), but they still don't get it.

I think you're like the fourth or fifth female poster here talking about the positives of CS as experienced personally, but you all either get completely ignored or shouted down...

This particular line of thought isn't what they want to read...herd mentality.

Is it the logic of a genius?

The moment she brought it online and made it public, it became everybody's business who cares to share their opinion on this thread.

cococandy:
And your two legs get hanged up on stirrups like pork for sale , with your crotch the cynosure of all eyes. Why do we even bother to wear clothes afterwards?.
Oh my.

Lol. I tell you, ehnnn,it was scary initially but not anymore.

Mindfulness:




Is it the logic of a genius?

The moment she brought it online and made it public, it became everybody's business who cares to share their opinion on this thread.

It's been two days, get over this argument and stop crying.

You can't understand why any woman would consider doing as her husband wishes to please him regardless of risks, it's as simple as that.

The question that was asked in the very first post of the thread:
Does it really change down there after childbirth because most women will say that it doesn't, wasn't even dealt with.

That's the opinion she sought...not what you think of her husband, her self-esteem, or her capabilities as a mother.

And you still think you're alright...

crackhaus:

It's been two days, get over this argument and stop crying.

You can't understand why any woman would consider doing as her husband wishes to please him regardless of risks, it's as simple as that.

The question that was asked in the very first post of the thread:
Does it really change down there after childbirth because most women will say that it doesn't, wasn't even dealt with.

That's the opinion she sought...not what you think of her husband, her self-esteem, or her capabilities as a mother.

And you still think you're alright...

There is nothing to get over but a lot to laugh at.

I can perfectly understand why a woman would consider doing as her husband wishes even if she puts herself and her baby at risk.
It's nothing that we haven't seen yet. There are also mothers who will cover their husbands even when those molest little children. Nothing new. All in the name of love and devotion.

I am sure you would advise your own sister in the same way you have advised OP - if you have any.

Wrong thread to enter. I can almost smell the baby lotions and mommy thingy on my phone

Women dey try o.


...*quietly hops out after bookmarking*

Mindfulness:


There is nothing to get over but a lot to laugh at.

I can perfectly understand why a woman would consider doing as her husband wishes even if she puts herself and her baby at risk.
It's nothing that we haven't seen yet. There are also mothers who will cover their husbands even when those molest little children. Nothing new. All in the name of love and devotion.

I am sure you would advise your own sister in the same way you have advised OP - if you have any.

Not your problem, isn't this the point I've been making?

From wife to sister to who next I wonder.
And you still think you're alright




Still haven't answered the OP's question BTW...

crackhaus:

Not your problem, isn't this the point I've been making?

From wife to sister to who next I wonder.
And you still think you're alright

Let's stay with the sister. Tell us how you would advise her to bring your nephews to this world?

Mindfulness:


Let's stay with the sister. Tell us how you would advise her to bring your nephews to this world?

Let's stay with the topic. If you're so interested in my affairs and want to stop guessing, holla at yo' boi.

crackhaus:

Let's stay with the topic. If you're so interested in my affairs, holla at yo' boi.

We are still on the topic.

So tell us, how would you advise your sister AND your wife?

Would you tell her to have the safest delivery possible or would you encourage her to take risks and go against nature?

Never mind!

I know your answer.

Mindfulness:


We are still on the topic.

So tell us, how would you advise your sister AND your wife?

Would you tell her to have the safest delivery possible or would you encourage her to take risks and go against nature?

Never mind!

I know your answer.

Lol... am I married to my sister?
Is Cesarean Section a heart transplant or brain surgery?

I don't even know what you're here trying to get at...thought you were done yesterday, you bored or something?

crackhaus:

Lol... am I married to my sister?

Is Cesarean Section a heart transplant or brain surgery?
I don't even know what you're here getting at...thought you were done yesterday, you bored or something?

You know EXACTLY what I am getting at.

Mindfulness:


You know EXACTLY what I am getting at.

I also know EXACTLY why you're not alright.

crackhaus:

I also know EXACTLY why you're not alright.

I am not alright because - according to Crackhaus - I don't like to please my husband and for this reason I have a problem with women who do.

Mindfulness:


I am not alright because - according to Crackhaus - I don't like to please my husband and for this reason I have a problem with women who do.

Like I said before, get over the argument and stop crying...

Didn't even know you had a husband, since when?

crackhaus:

Like I said before, get over the argument and stop crying...

Didn't even know you had a husband, since when?

I am not crying, I am enjoying you being illogical and emotional. It's kinda cute.

Mindfulness:


I am not crying, I am enjoying you being illogical and emotional. It's kinda cute.

Lol, I'm the emotional one when you are the one getting upset over stretched vaginas and a husband insisting on Cesarean Section to avoid it - to the extent that you believe any woman who undergoes the procedure, is just not fit to be a mother.
And you still think you're alright..

Clap for yourself.


So you are married now, since when?

crackhaus:

Lol, I'm the emotional one when you are the one getting upset over stretched vaginas and a husband insisting on Cesarean Section to avoid it - to the extent that you believe that any woman who does the latter, is just not fit to be a mother.
And you still think you're alright..

Clap for yourself.


So you are married now, since when?

Instead of advising a woman like you would advise a sister and tell her to have the safest delivery possible and one that will be better for the baby, you are here discussing blind devotion. If this is not emotional, then I know not what is.

Have you got sisters?

And how many baby mamas do you actually have?

Mindfulness:


Instead of advising a woman like you would advise a sister and tell her to have the safest delivery possible and one that will be better for the baby, you are here discussing blind devotion. If this is not emotional, then I know not what is.

Have you got sisters?

And how many baby mamas do you actually have?

Oh you mean the way you and your crew advised her by saying her husband has no respect for her and only loves her punny more than he loves her...so that when she gets home, she will go start a conflict with her husband and quarrel with him for loving only her tight punny - this is how y'all advise your own sisters obviously. NAH, I ain't interested.


Sisters? Baby mamas?
Uhmmm...holla at yo' boi baby, I'll tell you all you need to know.

crackhaus:

Oh you mean the way you and your crew advised her that her husband has no respect for her and only loves her punny more than he loves her...so that when she gets home, she will go start a conflict with her husband and quarrel with him for loving only her tight punny - this is how y'all advise your own sisters obviously. NAH, I ain't interested.

And you see nothing wrong with a husband asking of his wife to have CS even if it is a well-established fact that it should only be performed if necessary? And you think it's normal to mess with the natural process of giving birth in the name of love and devotion?

She should be encouraged to take good care of herself and do kegel exercises instead of putting herself and her child at risk.

Thunder fire you for disrespecting motherhood Crackhaus. Count yourself lucky your own mama didn't have to put up with this kind of nonsense.

Sisters? Baby mamas?
Uhmmm...holla at yo' boi baby, I'll tell you all you need to know.

I am not that curious.

Mindfulness:

And you see nothing wrong with a husband asking of his wife to have CS even if it is a well-established fact that it should only be performed if necessary? And you think it's normal to mess with the natural process of giving birth in the name of love and devotion?

Did you even follow this thread from the beginning?

I already made it known that I'm not holding brief for the man regarding his insistence...
I didn't even need to put that out, but still I did because I know some of you who ONLY think unidirectionally will start making assumptions.

She should be encouraged to take good care of herself and do kegel exercises instead of putting herself and her child at risk.

Ohh, so now you want to give constructive advice.

Are you done calling her and her husband names, or questioning her motherhood capabilities?

Something is wrong with you.

Thunder fire you for disrespecting motherhood Crackhaus. Count yourself lucky your own mama didn't have to put up with this kind of nonsense.

Lmao @thunder fire me... You just killed me girl, I'm literally laughing out loud. Emotional!

Me, disrespect motherhood?
Am I not the only person who stood by the woman here so far? I should be given a medal for my goodwill...

I remember asking you if you were going to stop at wife or sister, now it's mama...maybe grandma is next...

Sometimes, you really bring out the Nigerian in you and I begin to suspect if you're not typing from a village somewhere in one forest...
Where do you live again?

I am not that curious.

Good for both of us... I wouldn't want you to be curious either, that's freaky.

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Did you even follow this thread from the beginning?

I already made it known that I'm not holding brief for the man regarding his insistence...
I didn't even need to put that out, but still I did because I know some of you who ONLY think unidirectionally will start making assumptions.

Finally.

Ohh, so now you want to give constructive advice.

I have been giving constructive critisicm from the beginning.

Are you done calling her and her husband names, or questioning her motherhood capabilities?

I have not only insulted her but ALL women and men who put their child's well-being at risk and I am ready to repeat it.

Something is wrong with you.

But it feels right.

Lmao @thunder fire me... You just killed me girl, I'm literally laughing out loud. Emotional!

Deliberately.

Me, disrespect motherhood?
Am I not the only person who stood by the woman here so far? I should be given a medal for my goodwill...

You didn't stand by her, you stood by her husband. Who you want deceive?

I remember asking you if you were going to stop at wife or sister, now it's mama...maybe grandma is next...

It helped.

Sometimes, you really bring out the Nigerian in you and I begin to suspect if you're not typing from a village somewhere in one forest...
Where do you live again?

Good for both of us... I wouldn't want you to be curious either, that's freaky.

Curiosity killed the cat and the cat wasn't me.

@cococandy, shebebaby and onegai.... Thanks alot, i appreciate. I'm only in my second month,first trimester feeling weak, with little or no appetite for food, have this nauseating feeling. The only thing i seem not to get tired of eating is boiled maize. I can finish 4or 5 cobs at a time. what do i do pls

isokey:
@cococandy, shebebaby and onegai.... Thanks alot, i appreciate. I'm only in my second month,first trimester feeling weak, with little or no appetite for food, have this nauseating feeling. The only thing i seem not to get tired of eating is boiled maize. I can finish 4or 5 cobs at a time. what do i do pls

my doctor gave me vitamin B6 and some other antiemetic to help with the nausea. I took it once a day with the prenatal vitamins and it worked.
Little bit of ginger in your mouth works too but only for a short time.

Maybe you can ask yours. See if they have something that can help you.

Also check that pregnancy thread you might find some useful tidbits there. https://www.nairaland.com/889053/pregnancy-pregnant-going-through-high

It's just too long a thread though. Gotta warn you.

isokey:
@cococandy, shebebaby and onegai.... Thanks alot, i appreciate. I'm only in my second month,first trimester feeling weak, with little or no appetite for food, have this nauseating feeling. The only thing i seem not to get tired of eating is boiled maize. I can finish 4or 5 cobs at a time. what do i do pls

lol

isokey:
@cococandy, shebebaby and onegai.... Thanks alot, i appreciate. I'm only in my second month,first trimester feeling weak, with little or no appetite for food, have this nauseating feeling. The only thing i seem not to get tired of eating is boiled maize. I can finish 4or 5 cobs at a time. what do i do pls

Eat away, that's what your baby craves. . But on a more serious note, coco has mentioned ginger which I used, but it was the biscuit I ate.
It does help but eating dry foods like crackers, have regular nibbles at them helps with the nausea. The key is to eat very small but regular meals to help ease the nausea.
First trimester is the yuckiest, one more month Hun and you'll be feeling fly.
Have you started taking your folic acid?

@cococandy... the thread is damn long, entails the good, bad and the ugly....i stopped reading it jarey. Yeah I've started with the daily supplement. I'll try the ginger biscuit or make tea with ginger.

shaybebaby:

oooo do share, I'm curious now. I think it varies from hospital to hospital. Not offered till I begged, by then it was too late. But I had my own private room which normally you have to pay for but I didn't. Luck of the draw I guess on the NHS.

Dont mind me jare
I was playing superwoman

Because I was induced, they gave me an epidural before hand so I don't feel any pain during contractions. Apparently contractions of an induced labour are more painful than a natural labour.

I then decoded I wanted to feel what contractions actually felt like, so when the anaesthetist came to top up the epidural I said not to worry . . .
Only things went wrong very soon after and the baby's cord was round his neck and they had carry out an emergency C/S, but because I wasn't topped up the surgeon said we couldn't wait for an epidural to take effect and immediately gave me General anaesthesia to knock me out.
It took me days to really recover from the GA.

sighs!!!!
holy spaghetti...
I'm so scared, I was just picturing each person's experience and none seem to go down well with me.
Natural or CS, epidural or whatever.. This is very scary..
But I'd hope and wish for natural delivery, when this time comes , I can't let a needle go into my body how much more a blade.. HELL NO!!

E no dey change anything down there. Why do you think men go back there again and again. Having more children after the first one means that the 'place' is still irresistible.