fragilebeing:
Summary: I got to know about a consulting firm here in Lagos and without second thought, I decided to start doing freelancing with them, reason being that it will be a great opportunity for me to put into use what I learnt in school. The freelancing agreement was not without a baggage that I will get absorbed into the system once there is any chance.

Fast forward, recently, the company underwent some expansion and restructuring and I was properly interviewed for a position that fits my ability and profile. While at this, I was rated by the other higher personnel to be very okay in terms of performance as I not only deliver on time, but also assist in fixing some office computer systems that had software problems which was not part of the job prescription anyway.

Problem: It all started when we asked to do presentation on some topics. In my case, I concentrated on identifying problems and suggesting possible solutions to them, surprisingly, the feedback I got was that I wasn't right. I immediately asked for another time to re-present it and my request was granted. Now, even before the time for presentation, I did a pre-presentation to all my colleagues and they say that it was ok, but surprisingly when they were asked to air their views on my performance after the presentation proper and I was given 70/100%, only one of them gave a positive comment, the rest said almost negative stuffs concerning my performance.

The climax was when the Boss asked me to go back to school as I don't know anything.

These got much better part of me and the thought of coming to work is no longer appealing.
I can't even think straight anymore...
Staying amidst of people is no longer fascinating let alone being among colleagues in the office.
I feel like it would have been better if I never existed in the first place.

Some of them laughing to my face consistently is bullying the crap out of me.

Please how can I overcome this?

Please don't mind my punctuation... I can't think straight right now.

dammytosh:


Yes....
It is element of pride that makes us feel we know a lot and once that is proven to be false, it hits us hard.

So when u calm down and try to be better no matter how good you are, it makes you see statements that says you don't know much as a challenge rather than as an insult.

dammytosh:


That was just a careless statement from some one. That statement is not relevant.

What should be the focus is that he did something and the person feels it was not good enough.

It could av been a customer or client that said the same. You have to just put ur heads up and move on.

BABANGBALI:
Ti e ba e

Originalsly:
If you know you need not go back to school...why stress? Look at other angles. Let's reason. ... you just joined the staff... the new guy... the junior guy. Did you stick to your assignment .... doing it well? No... you took it upon yourself to go fix computers...couldn't wait for them to ask. You took it upon yourself to find solutions to other problems.... then do presentation pointing out ways in which the company can make strides. Now when you display such smartness...and problem solving abilities... the real bosses would take note... and guess who may have a big promotion?...a big raise in pay?...and whose job may be in jeopardy? Your fellow workers...all of them senior to you... and your boss would not wait around for just arrived you to become their boss. They know the possibility and are taking no chances...their jobs and positions must be secured....so guess who they would want to see go? For now. ..stick to your assignment only and all would be well.

LaurelP:
Bro you seem to have low self esteem. if an ordinary word from someone can bring you down like this, the u need to watch out before u commit suicide.
STOP CARING TOO MUCH WHAT PEOPLE SAY OR THINK ABOUT YOU. What will be will be and u cant satisfy human beings. Just do what u think and know is right and leave the rest to God.

freecocoa:
While I understand what you said, I must say, you sounded like it's the Op's fault, so just wanna say that, OP shouldn't have to apologise for being smart and putting that smartness to work, it's the bosses and colleagues who are threatened by someone's strengths, instead of working to become better themselves, that should be ashamed.

Even if OP wasn't asked to help before he did, so long as it was with good intentions and not taking over/doing someone else's job to make that person look bad, then I think he deserves some credit.

XCLUX:
Mumu if d op needs your opinion he will buy u a brain.

baby124:
Nigerian bosses can be extremely stu*pid. They don't know how to talk at all. At their position they don't know it all either. Why knock a young person down if you are not a lunatic. Sorry OP, don't define yourself by other people's madness. Your boss is a mad man. There is criticism and then destructive talk. He probably has very low self esteem and feels he needs to drag you down. Thank him for HIS opinion and keep working on yourself and find another job quick. Such personalities cannot be productive only destructive.

baby124:

Don't mind them. It is the fear of being called ITK that is making Nigeria as backward as it is. And the mumu boss is sitting his obese yansh calling someone who made an effort names.

This is why owners of companies should get to know their employees one on one. The boss is there to supervise, you the owner are in charge of managing and ensuring you retain and groom the best talent for the growth of your company.

An owner cannot leave such responsibility to some boss who has no future ambition. And this same boss can probably not even compete with his colleagues in the industry if he is so closed minded anyway. It is the owner's loss. I am sure as an owner I will fire that boss without pay if I as much as smell something like this is going on in my company. Shior. This is how they destroy other people's hardwork and then start complaining that they don't have job or the owner is wicked.

LaurelP:
Bro you seem to have low self esteem. if an ordinary word from someone can bring you down like this, the u need to watch out before u commit suicide.
STOP CARING TOO MUCH WHAT PEOPLE SAY OR THINK ABOUT YOU. What will be will be and u cant satisfy human beings. Just do what u think and know is right and leave the rest to God.

dammytosh:
calm down.


They might be jealous of you or it is possible you still have a lot to learn.

Your presentation skills might suck. You don't have to be proud, settle down and learn. It takes nothing from you.

When they say I am not good enough, it is an opportunity to be better than them because I won't rest until they admit so.


I learnt a very long time ago that LOW LIVES derive joy in talking INTELLIGENT people down just to make you feel less of yourself and make them feel good about things.

lion042:
because you don't know anything

fragilebeing:


From being rated ok to being under probation...

And then the constant laughing to my face by my colleagues... marveling at my woe...

To criticizing my presentation after saying it was spot on before the main presentation...

Well....... I'm too downtrodden to type.

fragilebeing:
Summary: I got to know about a consulting firm here in Lagos and without second thought, I decided to start doing freelancing with them, reason being that it will be a great opportunity for me to put into use what I learnt in school. The freelancing agreement was not without a baggage that I will get absorbed into the system once there is any chance.

Fast forward, recently, the company underwent some expansion and restructuring and I was properly interviewed for a position that fits my ability and profile. While at this, I was rated by the other higher personnel to be very okay in terms of performance as I not only deliver on time, but also assist in fixing some office computer systems that had software problems which was not part of the job prescription anyway.

Problem: It all started when we asked to do presentation on some topics. In my case, I concentrated on identifying problems and suggesting possible solutions to them, surprisingly, the feedback I got was that I wasn't right. I immediately asked for another time to re-present it and my request was granted. Now, even before the time for presentation, I did a pre-presentation to all my colleagues and they say that it was ok, but surprisingly when they were asked to air their views on my performance after the presentation proper and I was given 70/100%, only one of them gave a positive comment, the rest said almost negative stuffs concerning my performance.

The climax was when the Boss asked me to go back to school as I don't know anything.

These got much better part of me and the thought of coming to work is no longer appealing.
I can't even think straight anymore...
Staying amidst of people is no longer fascinating let alone being among colleagues in the office.
I feel like it would have been better if I never existed in the first place.

Some of them laughing to my face consistently is bullying the crap out of me.

Please how can I overcome this?

Please don't mind my punctuation... I can't think straight right now.

freecocoa:
OP, I can imagine how you feel as I've been in a similar situation(only that in mine, I asked the boss why she hired me if I didn't pass the test, shame nearly killed her ). Don't let what they did define you as you know that's not who you are, of course you'd be hurt as(as should be) but dust yourself up and work at being better than you already are, there's always something new to learn, you'd be surprised.

You also need to consider the possibility that there may be something you didn't do right, might actually just be an oversight, and because your boss is an a$$, he showed himself. As for your colleagues, believe it's nothing but envy/wickedness, that's the only explanation for their pettiness.

Now I don't really know you as a person to say you don't rub it in people's faces that you 'know', but I have to consider that, you know, that can really rub the wrong way, so I'd advice you desist from it, (again, I'm only assuming) still, this not a justifiable reason why you should be spoken to in that way.

Just cheer up, it's not really that serious if you are sure of yourself and yes, you can be, it's not a crime, just work at being better. See you talking of wanting to die, for this world wey dey sweet like this? No let me tell you say you no get sense o.

UIA04:

I suspect you are one of his backstabbing wicked colleagues.

freecocoa:
What are you talking about? A careless statement from someone, that isn't relevant. Please how is it irrelevant? So it's okay to go about calling people useless after they put in their efforts to work?

So if I do something and my boss thinks it's wrong(regardless of whether it actually is) its cool he says whatever he wants to me? I don't understand this.

What difference does it make to who said it?