I was having a drink with a friend, one discussion led to the other and we found ourselves discussing marriage. We are in our early 30s and we could only joke about getting a woman and settling down (though I inwardly wish I av a child by now).

At first we were teasing each other about marriage, then my friend got serious and said he finds it difficult to actually date a lady, he said whenever he approach any lady he likes and try initiating a convo,they don't jst give their time, they relunctantly give their names and walk off. Some who manage to drop their numbers won't even respond to calls, chats and texts and he would get tired of their 'forming' and let go.

Although I still teased him about not knowing the right tactics..but deep within I felt somehow abt it. When we were younger, we get any lady of our choice without stress, I am wondering why is it more difficult now that we are more responsible and doing fine at work to get a good lady than our wayward days? And funny enough, to get sex is easy (we avnt been sleeping around o, we stil have some decency). Although, I don't see that as an issue cos I stil believe I can get any woman wen I am really really ready to marry in probably 2yrs time. But alone, I begin to think if I won't find mysef in his position cos lately, I havnt been after ladies as such (Work is bae for the now lol). I thought they say Real recognises Real? Why ain't they recognising the 'Realness' in him/us?

Guys, is my friend the one 'responsible' guys experiencing this?

Cc: @Lalasticlala baba, kindly help a brother and take this to d promise land.