Good morning Nairalanders.

I know this forum has been providing vital solutions to problems from time immemorial hence the need to pour-out my worries on this forum to get solutions become inevitable.

I was preparing for the final between Portugal and France yesterday when my girlfriend called me she will be coming, that I should be at home by 5pm. I was like why today of all day now! I told her I won't be around that I will be going to my parents place that evening. She began to act cold via the phone and later told me she will come let's go together. I haven't even seen your parents one on one she said... I was like which kind stubborn babe is this... I replied let's see about it but it will be better we make it another day. Don't worry today is the perfect day she said and cut the calls.

I tried calling no answer. This babe has come again because she don't like hearing football. We have had issues on this football matter severally but I told her she can't dictate what I will do or not, that I started watching football before I meet her. She first stop me from playing my soccer game when she is around. my friend have to call me when coming during the weekend to play games if she is around or not. I had to stop doing it when she is around to avoid problems.


Fast-forward... She came few minutes to 5pm. She was looking superb, probably to impress my parents. The desire for romance and sex came but I have to rebuked it because if it start, then my match is cancelled. How do I tell her I ve changed my mind from seeing my parents to watching football she never like or want to hear when she is around. We talk and talk till about few minutes to 8. She observed I wasn't coming closer to her as usual. She was like, a you expecting another woman. I smiled...

Then I busted it. Baby lets go and watch match. This one is very interesting. It's a final match. Ohhh match again. Aren't you going to your parents place again? I said my mum called to tell me she won't be around. She became relaxed. Please cancel the match... I want to cook something, you need to assist me. I was like baby am not hungry. I ve eaten. I am watching my food intake this period. She said that's my own, she wants to cook and I should be with her. The hatred against her started again. I said if you don't want to follow me to watch the match, eat your food alone. You can't stop me this time. Even my mother can't stop me from watching this final.

I left the kitchen. I called a friend to reserve a seat for me. She was frowning bitterly . I have made up my mind already. Few minutes after Ronaldo was brough -down, I received a text from her. " Dear so your match is more important than me" you can forgo me just because of match you can still watch later...it's a pity you don't love me. All I was thinking is how Ronaldo will come back again. I didn't give the message a second thought.


After the match. I was so happy Portugal won after the heat from France. That is when I read her message again. I quickly ran home. It was almost 11:30pm. She has slept. I send her a romantic message and told her am sorry about it but she should try to let me enjoy my football.

She woke up this morning. She was still frowning that I abandoned her for common football. I try to make her understand how important and interesting the match is to me. She left in anger and said I should either choose my football or her. That when I have made up my mind, I should let her know.


Though decision for me to make. I am not scared of loosing her anyway but I don't want us to break-up just like that... I'm not ready to drop sports again because of her. I told myself the sacrifices is too much, maybe I have to let her go... I have made up my mind not to call her.


Nairalanders what do you think on this issue? Matured advised only...

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skarlett:
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Lol...


Correlate it to the issue...

Hmm but why are some guys so obsessed about football, aww how I love my boo #team no football# but they use video games to am, anyways my advice is that since you are so addicted to football and ur mama sef can't take it from you as you've said, I think the problem here is that you go out to watch your match, why don't you watch it with her in your room abi aw much is Gotv or Dstv, she is feeling neglected you can watch your match inside your house with her, she will adapt dont worry by her actions she cant afford to lose you

ayooladee:
dont you have a Tv, DStv or are you out of subscription, dont you have a mobile internet banking in you phone, well i have nothing to say go and marry the game

The match wasn't aired on our local TV stations. I don't ve DSTV. My cable wasn't showing the match.


Even if I ve DSTV, I find it boring watching match alone hence I go to viewing centres where I will meet my friends and we watch and discuss together. It fun that way. I am not sure you know more about watching football. What has mobile internet banking get to do with watching football with my friends.

I are one sided in your judgement.

mizzbouqui:
Hmm but why are some guys so obsessed about football, aww how I love my boo #team no football# but they use video games to am, anyways my advice is that since you are so addicted to football and ur mama sef can't take it from you as you've said, I think the problem here is that you go out to watch your match, why don't you watch it with her in your room abi aw much is Gotv or Dstv, she is feeling neglected you can watch your match inside your house with her, she will adapt dont worry by her actions she cant afford to lose you

Gotv didn't air the match. My neighbours cable too didn't. The fact is that I just want to watch the match with my friends. Do you think guyz going out to watch football don't ve DSTV in their houses. It's boring watching football alone. It's like you celebrating your birthday alone. How does it look like... you should know.

I told her let's go together but she refused because she don't like football. Don't you think ladies need to respect guyz decision sometimes.

oh bro... just try to take her to watch the game with you someday, not in just a regular viewing centre but probably a bar and just get ready your bank account by buying her from the shawarma to asun and the gala and try tease her into guessing players. that way you can tame her into watching the game with you but at your account peril and try not to get carried away in the game and show her you still aware of her presence. soon you start reducing the chops and co till she become a die hard barcelona fan like my fiance.

doctorkush:
oh bro... just try to take her to watch the game with you someday, not in just a regular viewing centre but probably a bar and just get ready your bank account by buying her from the shawarma to asun and the gala and try tease her into guessing players. that way you can tame her into watching the game with you but at your account peril and try not to get carried away in the game and show her you still aware of her presence. soon you start reducing the chops and co till she become a die hard barcelona fan like my fiance.

Hmmmm


This sound interesting anyway... just that she hate football games. she might even decide not to go there fit anything like ball exist there.

Even if it will work.. it should me a Chelsea fan...

You don't conform someone to become what you want, you accept and tolerate him for who he his. Then probably influence. The approach is wrong, forcing you to just drop something you like. Talk to her to strike a balance, and if she still acts sturborn, drop her so fast and hard she breaks the floor.
She's not respecting your views and desires in this case.

How can a girl be dictating how you live your life. Give am red card card sharply.

butanep:


Gotv didn't air the match. My neighbours cable too didn't. The fact is that I just want to watch the match with my friends. Do you think guyz going out to watch football don't ve DSTV in their houses. It's boring watching football alone. It's like you celebrating your birthday alone. How does it look like... you should know.

I told her let's go together but she refused because she don't like football. Don't you think ladies need to respect guyz decision sometimes.

Gotv aired the match bro. Supersport select. That's the station I watched it

I remember I use to have an issue with the way my ex then was into movies... I let it slide and let her watch her movies even when we are together, then the worst part came... She always insist that I see the movies with her... I am not a movie kind of person worst still is that I dislike series not because it's not interesting but because it's time consuming, addictive and I know I will never complete it so why should I start what I will not finish but that happens to be the exact kind of movies she loved then... I could get her anything as gift but she appreciates most is when I spend time to see a movie with her... (but note I am lover of Mafian movies but not crazy about them)...

Hahahahaha.. Smh. Wetin we do these wicked people nor?
Girls, wetin come be una own, ehhn?

debonairprinx:
You don't conform someone to become what you want, you accept and tolerate him for who he his. Then probably influence. The approach is wrong, forcing you to just drop something you like. Talk to her to strike a balance, and if she still acts sturborn, drop her so fast and hard she breaks the floor.
She's not respecting your views and desires in this case.

Guy you nor get mercy at all... I should drop her so fast and hard that she breaks the floor. abeg ooo... I nor want hurt someone daughter. I am trying to be diplomatic in the situation. I don't want to take harsh decisions. I'm still finding it difficult how will a woman am dating tell me to stop watching football. That means when we are married, she will tell me not to walk my friends away from my compound.

I won't yield to her request anyway.

butanep:


Gotv didn't air the match. My neighbours cable too didn't. The fact is that I just want to watch the match with my friends. Do you think guyz going out to watch football don't ve DSTV in their houses. It's boring watching football alone. It's like you celebrating your birthday alone. How does it look like... you should know.

I told her let's go together but she refused because she don't like football. Don't you think ladies need to respect guyz decision sometimes.

Actually she can't change you from being who you are, she will endure if she loves you there are somethings one do for love but let her know its not that you are choosing the game over her that its just one of the things that makes you happy

discoprophet:
Hahahahaha.. Smh. Wetin we do these wicked people nor?

Girls, wetin come be una own, ehhn?

Boss I don't understand oooo. Women are taking it too far nowadays. When I was growing up, my mum didn't tell me to stop watching football, a girl am dating now is telling to stop or I forget about it.

See threat... she wants to turn me to mumu before my friends. so when they are discussing football, I go mute.

Is there still need to apologise on this?

Guy you can't marry football or can you ?you better forget football for now and embrace your woman.....

mizzbouqui:

Actually she can't change you from being who you are, she will endure if she loves you there are somethings one do for love but let her know its not that you are choosing the game over her that its just one of the things that makes you happy

Sound brilliant. Thanks for this suggestion.


I just pray she doesn't insist on me quitting sports. I will better quit the relationship.

I will call her later so we can talk about it.

jejemanito:
1. Your Girl Is The Clingy Type And From My Own Experience, Clingy Girls Are Usually Those Sated In A Sea Of Inferiority Complex
2. You Sound Like A Coward, The Type Who Find It Hard To Look People Straight In The Eye And Tell Them A Bitter Truth. Your Girlfriend Asked You A Simple Question And Instead Of Telling Her 'I Am Going To Watch Match' You Told Her You Were Going To See Your Parents. What Brand Of Fvckery Is That?
3. Two Of You Need To Start Talking To Each Other. I Mean REAL CONVERSATIONS That Will Draw Out Your Hearts To Each Because From All You've Written Up There We Can Deduce That She's Refused To Accept Or Even Try To Relate With THE YOU IN YOU And You Are Just Scared To Tell Her
4. Or Just Maybe You Don't Even Like Her That Much 'cause Your Tone In Describing Why You Don't Want Her To Leave Gives No Impression That You Even Think Of Her As A Wife Material

I agree with 100%

joceey:
Guy you can't marry football or can you ?you better forget football for now and embrace your woman.....

I can't become a remote control to a woman. I wasn't brought up that way. I quit playing games because of her, then I should quit football because of her. God forbid bad thing... I am not a slave to a woman neither am I desperately in need of a woman for dating.

If I can't take my stand now as a man, when will I? When we are married or when we start having children. It will better she knows what I desire now.

Haha reminds me of the time when I went to a girl 's place on a Saturday... I mean a girl that I really liked but Chelsea was playing.
Omo I dropped my phone at her place and asked her if there was any viewing Centre around... Chelsea lost, I didn't get the girl but I would do that over again

Why will she want to stop you from what you love when it is not stealing or crime? Try and apologize sha. I just think she is over reacting and its annoying. I love dancing, is it rght for my boyfriend to ask me not to dance again simply because dancing is not his thing? When its not dirty dancing? Please talk to her o. She is being possessive. Am in a relationship with a man that loves soccer. He can never miss a chelsea game except its something that has to do with life. I had to start watching soccer with him. I love seeing him in those crazy moments, till I started going crazy myself.

halfricanadian:


I agree with 100%

You don't know my woman. I know her very well. Sometimes you have to play pranks to your woman, then when it fails you tell her the truth so both of you face the reality. I told her so she can changed her mind from coming but since she didn't, I had to spill the bitter truth.


The fact am not scared to loss a woman doesn't mean I don't love her. If a woman want to exercise control over me, l shouldn't correct it because of love abi... love can't make me eat Shit.

I don't think marriage is all about love. Love is overrated that's the reason couples can say I love you today and divorce tomorrow.

Relationship should be based on compatibility and understanding. If we aren't compactible and can't understand our needs and desire, then we should go separate ways.

smilinseun:
Haha reminds me of the time when I went to a girl 's place on a Saturday... I mean a girl that I really liked but Chelsea was playing.
Omo I dropped my phone at her place and asked her if there was any viewing Centre around... Chelsea lost, I didn't get the girl but I would do that over again

My fellow Chelsea fan... how far now?


Babes will want to control our lives... how can they tell us to stop doing what we started as kid.

When you watched foreign matches, you even see more of babes. Our Nigerian babes see football as horror movie. How do we change this mentality?

butanep:


You don't know my woman. I know her very well. Sometimes you have to play pranks to your woman, then when it fails you tell her the truth so both of you face the reality. I told her so she can changed her mind from coming but since she didn't, I had to spill the bitter truth.


The fact am not scared to loss a woman doesn't mean I don't love her. If a woman want to exercise control over me, l shouldn't correct it because of love abi... love can't make me eat Shit.

I don't think marriage is all about love. Love is overrated that's the reason couples can say I love you today and divorce tomorrow.

Relationship should be based on compatibility and understanding. If we aren't compactible and can't understand our needs and desire, then we should go separate ways.

Eaxctly aint scared of loosing any guy too

She indirectly stopped you homies from coming over and stopped you from playing and stopped you from watching bruh better run away she'll make your life miserable later

Lalasticlala... how far... what will you do?

halfricanadian:


Eaxctly aint scared of loosing any guy too

Are you sure? Ladies are very possessive in nature.

butanep:


I can't become a remote control to a woman. I wasn't brought up that way. I quit playing games because of her, then I should quit football because of her. God forbid bad thing... I am not a slave to a woman neither am I desperately in need of a woman for dating.

If I can't take my stand now as a man, when will I? When we are married or when we start having children. It will better she knows what I desire now.

Guy I understand you am a guy too that loves football I am good in playing soccer but sometimes in life they re some things you have to ignore to let peace reign...you ain't looking at things from this angle she is scared of loosing your through that medium..let me tell you that and also don't you knw that in the gathering of some many young men and bachelor's stupid advices and motives is been given if you truly love soccer's so much then get the dstv in your house. I have a family friend that use to go to the beer parlor with his friend to watch match and drink, but the girlfriend was not happy about it did you knw what she did? Every weekend she get beers for the guy and his friend to always drink in the guy house and also the guy was forced to get a dstv in the house and they are happily married now.Except you don't have it in mind to marry her..They are lot of sacrifice you take and do for love,not a matter of control the rest in left to you to decide Adios