Is it good to be friends before dating, yes or no.

Well I would say its ok to be friends first; because being friends would enable you to know him/her deeply before you begin to consider about getting emotional involved.

My bf and I were best friends for 2 years before we started dating. Now if I count the dating part, its 4 years and still going strong so I guess its good

absolutely, my other half and i were very good friends before we started dating,

just new to the chart room??i saw dis topic and am intrested in it becos i have a girl dat want me to be his frnd but inside of me i need to be very close/loving/caring with her, so my new frnds kindly help me out wit a bit of advice,

It's the best!!!

The sesker u sounded so great, are name is F*N*I and she's in my department and i just started talkin with her not quite long,but at first i told her we sh'd be ordinary friends and she said no probes, but now i see her as no more as a frnd but rader want an intimancy btw US?HOW CAN DAT WORK,

Its very good. You guys should 1st be pals before you start hitting it.

I think being friends first is very good for a relationship.

I feel it depends on what ur looking for. if you're looking for a keeper i'll say its okay to be frnds but not like best frnds. i feel u shld become best frnds while ur dating.

but one thing for sure don't get relegated to "being frnds" if you want to be more. Thats really sucks and a very wussy move.

i feel its good to be friends b4 dating but not best of friends

Friends before dating? that would rub off the shine! But ok, the issue of trust woulda been built up, so maybe it aint a bad idea. Never tried it though. Too much chemistry .

TheSeeker:

In my opinion, being friends should have its limits. When you're friends, what do you talk about? Do you both have an intention of dating each other or is it going to happen at a random time? What are you both on about with your friendship?

From experience, some girls won't be quite comfortable with you when you have become very deep friends. If you have plunged into that pool of very very deep friendship, the relationship will not work; and most pathetically, the girl will tend to shy away from dating you. Reasons ranging from the fact that you're so used to each other and there may not be really much fun, to she being shy, to she being generally uncomfortable and not knowing where to start from.

I say you shouldn't be friends for such long a time before you start dating or you will miss the chance, because when the relationship starts in the first place, it may definitely crash. That you know a lot about each other doesn't guarantee that you'll not break up even in the most hurtful manner.

I beg to differ on all such opinions becos there is wat is called 'Taking It To Another Level'. The friendship level has it limits dat u can't cross n still remain friends. Wen u cross such limits u inevitably are saying u want anoda level. So you most definitely can go from friends to lovers if u dare.

As to good or bad I believe it's all in the transition. If both parties transit with the clear view of where they are heading it will be good. If either 1 should loose sight of wat it all means they'll crash n burn - bad.

Good - if the people involved are both serious and committed to making it work. if you are going to do it otherwise make sure its going to work.

Bad - if its not taken seriously and one party tries to use the other as you not only lose a lover you lose a friend at the same time.

for me i think is better to hit the point at initial place instead of waisting time, am speaking from experince, there is one girl that i toast and i told her that i want her to be my girl friend, i mean my lover gues what she told me, sorry we cant be lover because i have a boy friend we can only be friends, that funny

dont be frds for long
cause when i consider some one to be a friend then frds we are for life

It completely depends on the individuals, sometimes some people find it awkward, whilst you have those friends who are merely pretending that they are in a platonic relationship, and they can make the transition pretty smoothly. In terms of time, yes I understand that a friendship can become so permanent that if the two people felt they had complementing personalities that they would find it difficult to transition. However, I believe that it's never wise to do anything if it feels forced, I witnessed a friend tell me how this amazing friend of hers who had all the qualities she wanted in a man was her close friend all along (1 year). However, when she admitted that she had feelings for him, he withdrew, it seemed to him, he was not attracted to her personality and her as a person, but just interested by her, intriguied by their discussions.

This made me realise that compatibility isn't the only requirement needed for a relationship. There needs to be some attraction, hopefully some physical attraction also, with this combination, it's perfect. I guess those 'fake' platonic relationships are those where the relationship is built on the fact that the two people get along so well, but also there is an undercurrent of sexual attraction to the opposite sex. I think these friendships are the types that stand a greater chance in being successfully converted into lasting relationships .

There's a song by Jason Mraz: Lucky. The line goes: "I'm lucky I'm in love with my best friend, I'm lucky to have had what could have been. ."

"They don't know how long it takes, to find a love like this." And yes the lyrics are right, a relationship like this is very unique.

@poster,
Definately,YES!!! That way u don't have to start from scratch wif all those awkard moments!

TheSeeker:

I say you shouldn't be friends for such long a time before you start dating or you will miss the chance, because when the relationship starts in the first place, it may definitely crash. That you know a lot about each other doesn't guarantee that you'll not break up even in the most hurtful manner.

This is where I have no choice than to agree with you.

If by being friends it means that the person in question actually 'likes' you as a human being and not only lusts after you, then by all means, be friends first off.

It's good, until a certain point. . . . . otherwise I begin to see you like a brother. . . and once you are viewed that way then we aint going anywhere.

No. dont be friends

I think your life partner should be your best friend,  so personally I think it can work and its a good idea.  From now on I am only going to see people I have been friends with for a period of time first. However I wouldn't do it with a friend I have had for years unless I was sure it was going to work.

duh u've got to be friends 1st, or what other way wuld u get knw each other

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I absolutely agreed with what "the seeker" said. I've had similar experience

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dating a friend is always very good but most ladies would never want to date a friend tht they already see as a brother, note tht they wouldn't want to but tht doesn't mean it can't happen

the best ones are friends tht never intended to date but it suddenly happened.(talking 4rm experience)

being friends before dating is a great idea. some people make great friends but are horrible as a couple ya know.