did i miss a beat in this discussion. . . . . . . . BUT why is this girl called a slut?!
is it because she gives great bj? some men´s insecurities are UNBELIEVABLE!!!!!

Maybe because she was paid for sex.

BlueDiva:

Maybe because she was paid for sex.

exactly.

@ Poster;

I understand your dilemna, because a friend of mine was in the same situation when she found out that my ex- bf was cheating on me. Not exactly the same situation, but ultimately she did the right thing and told me the truth about the whole thing. However this is how I think you should do it.

a) Sit ur friend's gf down and ask her if she has told him the truth. If she hasn't, tell her she has to tell him about all she has ever done and how many guys. Give her time to do it, a time limit of 2 weeks (or less) to confess to him, and tell her not to engage in any physical gymnastics with him during that period.

b) If she agrees to the above suggestion, you are home free and you dont have to undertake the nasty job of breaking your friends heart and risk being called a jealousy- ridden homewrecker. If she doesn't, then give her an ultimatum and tell her that you will tell her bf within a time limit ( 2 weeks would be ok ) if she doesnt inform him herself.

c) If in 2 weeks she still hasn't told him, then for the sake of your own conscience and your reputation as a good friend, feel free to break the bad news to your friend. Do it gently, however, and not in an accusatory or malicious manner. And try to assure him that she would have told him herself but that she was too scared of hurting him and losing him after learning about her past.

Trust me, in any relationship , love is good but sometimes it's not good enough if it's coupled with deception.

@ Luvbooks,

I'm really impressed with your brilliant idea.
It reflects your maturity and intelligence.

Agva

How old is your younger brother who did the arranging?
Can we exchange contact details, I am in Abj next week and would
like some company to be arranged for me.

Brgds
KB

^^^^^^^
Walk into any campus and rent a chic, naija girls are that cheap these days.

@topic
Tell your friend now or he will hate youif he finds out. no dulling.

@ poster

it might be wise to mind your own business. you dont know what your gf has done in the past, and luckily for you there might not be somene togive u all the gorry details. im sure ur friend knows she is an expert hence y she is a queen to him, after all to become an expert those take practice.

waw have nothing to say here

BlueDiva:

Maybe because she was paid for sex. 

THE AMAKA:

exactly.

and also @ agva

well let me try to understand what you mean and clarify a few points.
if this girl specifically ask your bro for money BEFORE they could have sex and told him that without money/gifts there would be no sex THEN you can therefore call her a prostitute/hoe.
as much as this girl took money from your bro , there is NO women in 9ja that would have turn down money/gifts after sex, NONE because different men show their gratitudes in different ways. some hand money, others give gifts and some even propose marriage.
women expect something from us all and if you aint giving something, the 9ja babes are super fast to call us men tight/cheap etc
it can be a gift, a handout, paying the restaurant bill or just plain recharge cards BUT the fact remains that, most, if not every women expect some ¨gifts¨ from men.
if a women taking a ¨gift¨from a men is automatically a slut (in your world) then you have to look at all the women in and around you (i do mean ALL) and call them sluts too.
also it is safe to say that if you bro knew that she was a prostitue and went down with it then he is a sorry human being too and DEFINITELY not a ¨playboy/playa¨

Brownjay this matter is simple.

When a girl is 'arranged' for a guy who just arrives from outside the country, it is a clear case of prostitution. In other climes it would be described as an escort service to cater to his needs while in the country. She undoubtedly was paid for spending time with the guy during his brief visit and now is the girlfriend of another person.

If I was the current guy in question, I'd definitely like to know about my girlfriend's past - there's no telling how many times she's been 'arranged' for people. Not good at all.

debosky:

Brownjay this matter is simple.
When a girl is 'arranged' for a guy who just arrives from outside the country, it is a clear case of prostitution. In other climes it would be described as an escort service to cater to his needs while in the country. She undoubtedly was paid for spending time with the guy during his brief visit and now is the girlfriend of another person.
If I was the current guy in question, I'd definitely like to know about my girlfriend's past - there's no telling how many times she's been 'arranged' for people. Not good at all.

Ah ok!!!!! sorry i didnt know about these practices but thanks for letting me know. i thought arranged was more like a blind date thingy.
9ja, na waoh!!!!

MRbrownJAY:

if you bro knew that she was a prostitue and went down with it then he is a sorry human being too and DEFINITELY not a ¨playboy/playa¨

!!!

whatta topic sorry but us girlz are no slutz men r pigz

Dicey situation. I think you should let him know because he will not be happy with you.

oge4real:

Dicey situation. I think you should let him know because he will not be happy with you.

i agree.
let him know, and if he has no problem with it, he will continue to date her.
or if he does he will leave her, and thank you for being a good friend and looking out for him.
if he catches an STD wont you feel guilty?

Anything is possible! She must have changed b/4 or after meeting your friend for the better.
But if she still goes around being paid for sex while dating your friend, then advise him. Life no get duplicate o!

I think you should just mention to your friend that you recognise her but you're not sure, if you make up your mind in future to stick your nose further you can expose her, otherwise you can just leave it at that. Your friend might pressure you to tell him where from, he might ask you questions about who she was, and which circumstances you met her, but if you just keep a tight lip and just act like you genuinely can't remember, it would work, thing is most people would blurt out where they met her from, or if the friend jokes about something close to the truth, the truth can be detected from the guy's reaction.

There should be some sort of system of telling friends about things like this. Maybe some anonymous cards??


It all depends on how much you think your friend's at risk.

1. Has he been 'in love' before or frequently.
2. How long has he been dating her.
3. Has he talked about being serious or getting married to her.
4. Has he been behaving very differently??

A friend of mine never told me the truth about a guy I knew, he warned me slightly, but reassured me that the guy had changed for me, and that the guy was a homeboy of his. Only to find out that the guy wasn't serious about me, and then the friend was like; "I knew it from the beginning." My point is, it sucks not knowing from the get-go some vital information about someone you're dating. However in all honesty, I probably would have succumbed to the belief that; "he's different now."

Gaggi:

^^^^^^^
Walk into any campus and rent a chic, naija girls are that cheap these days.

@topic
Tell your friend now or he will hate youif he finds out. no dulling.

Best response so far!

This is exactly what i'll do, place your guys before any woman who isn't your wife yet!

@poster
Before u take any action find out if the girl continues her 'arrangee' behaviour. If she still is like that then u can let ur friend know but if not u have no business bringing up her past, it should be between her n her man. If he wants to know let him ask. Don't play the Mister Good Guy with someone else's love life.

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@ Frank3.16

One thing I hate about ladies is that they like fighting a lost battle.

are u girls comparing a player to a slut?

we all know that plays are praised (even u girls encourage players) and sluts are looked frowned upon (even though we patronise them)

its left for you girls to make the right decision instead of trying to compete with the guys becasue u will definitly be on the loosing side. you can decide not to allow a player downgrade u to upgrade himself.

Okay first of all I cannot believe you’d justify being a player or buying sex and on the same breath condemn a girl who slept with someone for money. it’s like you are claiming automatic vindication because you are a man? Because it’s a Man’s world? Because the ‘system’ encourages it? Gee!!

Now I think it’s high time you guys got down from your high horse and quit this outrageous hypocrisy. What is wrong is wrong whether it’s done by a man or a woman. Just because the culture accepts it from the men doesn’t make it right. And shame on the man who would have the guts to ‘throw the first stone’ when he knows he has sinned and justify his actions because he’s a man.

It’s easy for you guys to play the men’s card at your convenience isn’t it? I’m ashamed of what this world is turning into. . . . .

@ Poster
Like I said earlier . . ‘let he who has not sinned, be the first to cast the stone’. The girl is good to your friend, does her past really matter? Is your friend a saint? If she loves him and he loves her, don’t even try to come b/w that. Afterall you accidentally discovered her past, what if you never knew? Or do you think the next girl your friend will meet will be innocent of that crime. As far as she’s not cheating on your friend and her past might be one of dose youthful exuberances, just let it go!!

topup:

I think you should just mention to your friend that you recognise her but you're not sure, if you make up your mind in future to stick your nose further you can expose her, otherwise you can just leave it at that. Your friend might pressure you to tell him where from, he might ask you questions about who she was, and which circumstances you met her, but if you just keep a tight lip and just act like you genuinely can't remember, it would work, thing is most people would blurt out where they met her from, or if the friend jokes about something close to the truth, the truth can be detected from the guy's reaction.

There should be some sort of system of telling friends about things like this. Maybe some anonymous cards??


It all depends on how much you think your friend's at risk.

1. Has he been 'in love' before or frequently.
2. How long has he been dating her.
3. Has he talked about being serious or getting married to her.
4. Has he been behaving very differently??

A friend of mine never told me the truth about a guy I knew, he warned me slightly, but reassured me that the guy had changed for me, and that the guy was a homeboy of his. Only to find out that the guy wasn't serious about me, and then the friend was like; "I knew it from the beginning." My point is, it sucks not knowing from the get-go some vital information about someone you're dating. However in all honesty, I probably would have succumbed to the belief that; "he's different now."

You have a very good point (as always), but from my experience I've come to realize that you dont butt into people's lives. The decision to tell should be left for the girl to make. I can tell you for a fact that even if your friend warned you about the guy you were dating, you'd still not beleive him. For christ sake when you are in love you dont doubt!! Even if your spirit tell you to, you heart just wont let you!!

Okay let me give you this scenario. The poster decides to tell his friend what he know about the girl and his friend confronts her. She has a thousand and one things to tell him to cover her actions. I mean the guys already thinks the world of her and all she has to do is to be smart about it. Lets say she was able to convince the guy that it was a one time thing and the guy beleives her, what happens to the poster? He becomes the enemy!!

What the poster can do is to try and convince the girl to be open to her BF. If she decides to tell, she'll then tell eveything. But if you force her to, beleive me she could string the guy along for all he's worth and he'll still love her!!

I belive karma has a way of taking care of these things for us. Maybe his friend deserves that kind of girl! Maybe they bothe deserve each other. Who are we to question that

Are you guys stiill arguing this? The girl is a ho. Let her pay for her sins. This will teach girls to be responsible.

All Girls are sluts!!!

Gaggi:

Are you guys stiill arguing this? The girl is a ho. Let her pay for her sins. This will teach girls to be responsible.

Will you please just shut up!!

Who the hell are you to judge somebody

galatico:

All Girls are sluts!!!

Yours is just the rantings of a fool!!

@op- tell this girl to give u your own blow J, or dnt u wanna experience what your bro experienced, and if she is not cooperatiing, just blackmail her that u gonna tell. i bet she will give u her ''magic blow J '' this can continue even after she marries your friend, andhe will never know, and she remains his decent wonderful wife. thats what u get 4 picking a wife from the red light district.

Take it eazy ma'am. Its only girls that can be labelled ho's. Thats why their mum tells them '' Keep your legs closed''.

n wat does society call d dude wu gt some 4rm a ho, isnt he jus as bad n slutful as she z??,

Players are the coolest thing since mobile phone It is way harder to be a player than to be a hoe,

even the ugliest girls can get sex from men if they want but to be a player combination of key factors comes to play

i,e looks, confidence/swag, money, personality e t c. it is a priviledge to be a player

Players are the coolest thing since mobile phone It is way harder to be a player than to be a hoe,

even the ugliest girls can get sex from men if they want but to be a player combination of key factors comes to play

i,e looks, confidence/swag, money, personality e t c. it is a priviledge to be a player

oh pleeeeeeeeeeaaaaaase spare mi.playa, slut , ho, gigolo n ol d rest fall unda d same category ov cheap n worthless. d gender dsnt make ny difference.

Ujujoan:

You have a very good point (as always), but from my experience I've come to realize that you dont butt into people's lives. The decision to tell should be left for the girl to make. I can tell you for a fact that even if your friend warned you about the guy you were dating, you'd still not beleive him. For christ sake when you are in love you dont doubt!! Even if your spirit tell you to, you heart just wont let you!!

Okay let me give you this scenario. The poster decides to tell his friend what he know about the girl and his friend confronts her. She has a thousand and one things to tell him to cover her actions. I mean the guys already thinks the world of her and all she has to do is to be smart about it. Lets say she was able to convince the guy that it was a one time thing and the guy beleives her, what happens to the poster? He becomes the enemy!!

What the poster can do is to try and convince the girl to be open to her BF. If she decides to tell, she'll then tell eveything. But if you force her to, beleive me she could string the guy along for all he's worth and he'll still love her!!

I belive karma has a way of taking care of these things for us. Maybe his friend deserves that kind of girl! Maybe they bothe deserve each other. Who are we to question that

Yup I completely agree!! It's almost a lose-lose situation, that's why it's good not to get involved, ofcourse you want to hear the juicy details of your girlfriend's relationship, but when the problems start, you'll have to play the role of confidance, and it becomes a triangle, not safe, dangerzone, beware!! I almost lost a close friend because she refused to tell me a secret the guy I just stopped seeing at the time told her. She didn't want to break his trust because he made her promise not to tell me, and it wasn't detrimental, it was just that he loved me and always will blah blah, believe me she had no feelings for him, she just doesn't like meddling, and no, I did not side with the guy, I sided with her, the only thing is that this pressure of knowing something I didn't know, made her withdraw from me, and so I was practically begging her for 'what was wrong', thank God she finally told me, and I had to really fight the urge to resent her keeping the secret from me, since I made decisions thinking he didn't care about me, after all she didn't want to get into it, and she seemed really sorry.

Some people think friends are replaceable but I think they're for life.

"Bros before Hoes as they say &
Sistahs before the Mistah!!"

galatico:

All Girls are sluts!!!

I'm guessing you're not planning on having any daughters then. .