I’ve never understood the idea that you can’t be friends with
an ex. I mean, to some extent I get it, especially given the
circumstances. Perhaps if you end on bad terms, perhaps if
there’s underlying anger, it’d be tough to be friends. But
over time, after growing apart, it’s definitely possible to care
about someone you used to love on a friendship-level.
Personally, I don’t know how you couldn’t. You used to love
this person. Aren’t they worth enough to still be a part of
your life?

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Being friends with your ex is hard at first. You have to let go
of a lot of things, emotionally detach yourself in many ways,
and truly devote yourself to the idea of friendship—of caring
for someone with honesty, and no selfish desires or strings
attached.

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To be friends with an ex, you have to first acknowledge
whether or not you have the ability to. If you’re hoping to
get back together in the near future, if you’re hoping to fall
back in love, then you’re not truly wanting to be friends.
You’re looking for a relationship.
Then you have to be honest. This means that when you
spend time with that person, you aren’t sugar-coating
yourself, or your reaction to them because you have feelings
for them. You talk to them truthfully, as you would any
friend. And you learn to love them in a different way, as a
person rather than a lover.

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Then you open yourself up. You allow yourself to truly be
friends with this person. To not only laugh at the same jokes
and go to the same places with your group of friends, but
genuinely give a sh*t about their life. You ask them about
the potential dates they’re talking to, about the crap going
on with their family, about their biggest fears. You trust
them with things that are important to you, and you keep
things exactly as they are—a friendship, a strong bond.
Then you define boundaries. You don’t call that person for
every little thing that’s going wrong. You definitely don’t call
them when you fight with a current boyfriend or girlfriend.
You let them into your life, but you give them space, too.
You don’t dip back into the past unless talking about it
serves some purpose for your current relationships. You
don’t reminisce in an unhealthy, missing-you type of way.
And you stick to your values—you don’t kiss, you don’t
cuddle, you don’t flirt because that would not be a
friendship.

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Ultimately, you love. You love this person innocently and
platonically. You love this person because they hold a huge
chunk of you in their palms. They know the past you, the
you-you underneath the layers and walls that may have built
over time. And you know them. So you care about one
another, you keep one another in your lives, and you talk
about the hard stuff—love, breakups, new relationships—
building one another up and caring about each other’s
wellbeing because even though that person plays a different
role in your life, they matter. And in a healthy, not-ruining-
your-current-relationships type of way, they always will.

Yes, distant friendship

In my view...
The only reasons a GUY would want to remain frnds with his ex is..
1) if he feels guilty for breaking her heart

2) if his current relationship isnt as rosey as he anticipated

3) friends with benefit

4) new girlfrnd is as ugly as hell

5) he just wants to cheat....

Bottom line....
If u can be mere frnds with your ex.... Its either of two things
U never stopped loving her
Or
U never loved her!

It's possible but when you're married it's wrong to be close pals with your ex.

I don't think so this is possible... No offense but I can't lick what I spat... Not even for a mere friendship...

Nope from me

Op..continue dey deceive yrsef..
U cnt b frends wit an ex... chikena...

I agree fully.
Its very possible, but it depends on if Your ex wants to be friends with You.

Never in my lifetime will I agree to be friends with my immediate ex. The thought of it could make me throw up given the way I was treated. Sometimes, I even feel like laying curse on him.

serah88:
Never in my lifetime will I agree to be friends with my immediate ex. The thought of it could make me throw up given the way I was treated. Sometimes, I even feel like laying curse on him.

Mehn..dis is serious!!

serah88:
Never in my lifetime will I agree to be friends with my immediate ex. The thought of it could make me throw up given the way I was treated. Sometimes, I even feel like laying curse on him.

Hahahahahah.

Well if u ask me, been friends wit an ex is very possible...most ppl are just probably blinded or following d genera band wagon.

it is way easier been a friend to an ex u neva had any sexxxual encounter wit but quite hard wit someone u hav slept with.

Overall its possible...my take