Hello admin, please I want to be anonymous.
I am a 27 year old lady and I am dating a 33 year old guy. We love each other so much, but the problem is that he is a sickle cell patient.
We started dating since I was 18 and then I didn't know my blood group. All my siblings are blood group AA and I was thinking mine is also AA. My family knew we were dating but didn't know it could ever lead to marriage.
Some few months ago, he proposed to me, and I accepted. Then we started going for necessary lab tests and it was discovered that I am AS. Now my family is against the marriage because of the high possibility of giving birth to children that may all die off.
I want to run away with him and get married in a foreign country, but I'm scared of what the outcome might be. Not having the blessing of my parents is something I never bargained for.
Please advice is seriously needed. Do you guys think it will be wise is I ignore my parents warnings and just go with him?
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Thanks for your love

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Adopt one or two babies, don't try getting pregnant, live happily ever after.

Love oversees everything. Love him if you do. What's the guarantee a truck wouldn't kill the kids if you had them with another man?

However, you made a grave mistake by assumptions and procrastinating.

Turn to GOD

Wouldn't advised you to go ahead except u have a strong leading from God to do so.

How u take knw that ur children will die if u marry him? U have already sentence death judgement b4 arrival. God is still the unchangeable changer..U dnt need to run away to Gambia, sit down with him and talk it out.It is not by Force. wish u well

In as much dat I believe in love I wouldn't advise u to go ahead with the marriage.I don't tink u would want to go tru d emotional and financial troubles of having a sickle child it is very tiring.In order not to make ur child suffer unnecessarily, in as much its difficult its better u quit or only if u know u want to adopt kids den u can go ahead.

[size=16pt]Yea, love makes us blind to lots of things but think very well. SS kids will drain your money. You will be frustrated so tey you will forget the love you have for each other. You won't even have time for 'lovey-lovey' when they start their wahala. Think twice and think about your future and the future of your kids. It's not gonna be easy thou[/size]

Hmmm, oro re o eyin ara mi...heed ur parent' advice

this Genotype issues has really caused havoc 2 a lot of loving relationships.... leaving ur partner that never offended u is quite tough..... seek d face of God.. and if his hand is in that union... it's gotta change, if it doesn't.... then u av got 2 move on... I repeat again!! ITS A PRETTY TOUGH SITUATION.

@op Toluwani. Oluwa ni you don see Oluwa ni (In Reekado banks voice)

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Ask God

Anytime i hear sickler i remember my brother and Ymodulus my brother refused to marry because of his condition also a family friend the oldest ss have seen died at 56 not without years of crisis

Lol... I don't even want to read what you wrote... All i know is love, sickler and marriage is a no no.... Use your head and do what is right by walking away b4 you enter marriage wey u go regret give God, my sister no be everyday T.B Joshua church dey open ooooo

If u surely love him sickle cell should not be the obstacle to marrying him afterall there is confirmed herbal cure for it

Why shouting help ?
if you cant handle it simply walk away.
I dont think he's holding you prisoner...

Having said that, sicklers dont just drop dead just all of a sudden. Youre concern should be keeping him healthy - infection free and crises free. I know a couple of family friends who have already marked their 70th birthday.
considering the WHO life expectancy for the average Nigerian is 54, they have done very well.

Finally if you know youre genotype AS and you want to have kids with an SS spouse. Youre SS children will never forgive you. Thers absolutely no excuse for that in the 21st century where everyone is well informed. What excuse would you give them ?