ok, i woke up one morning and saw a missed call on my phone by 7am,i was shocked at ho wud call so early,so i took my bfs phone just to check if it was his friend or a friend of ours,next thing,the number is that of his ex gf.i ask him y she is calling me and he says i shud call n ask her,next thing argument busts cos am now wondering y he even has her number,iv been with him for two yrs now mind u.so the girl calls me and gives a stupid lie that she called me by mistake.i asked how she got my number n she says its an error bla bla that she doesnt know anyone that knows me except my bf.me n him speak the next day to straighten things out,befre then we fought over the issue,he said i was jumping into conclusions and accusing him,he said it wud b wrong for me to think that he has something wit her.few days ago he tells me i shouldnt come over that he wants to be alone.im vexed,cos in as much as we all need space every now and then,i mean,im now thinking he has something to hide,befre he asked to b alone we were ok,no fights,said we loved each other etc,next thing,in the morning,i need to b alone.i strongly feel something is up, y do i suspect the ex got my number from his phone or she saved her number on his, i need feedback plz

Don't You think You are taking things too far as 'Your' man said?
Fighting him isn't a way to get the truth about his present r/s wiff his Ex.

i dont think im taking things too far, i dont want to be dumb n just play a fool.we had a fight over her befre,like a yr ago,i saw txt btwn them n he claimed she was helping him wit a job abi na cv.he deleted her number,now few days d number is back.i dont know this girl n have ni biz with her,y wud she call me all of a sudden.if a guy is cheating there is no way he will confess,

So, a stranger calls your fone, then you find out it's not a stranger but your bf ex then you argue, then you make up, then he wants space-----if all that is in check then all i can do is LOL (drama) !!!   What exactly do you want someone to tell you? It's either he is or he isn't cheating, trick is unless one of them fess's up you're left speculating. So what are you going to do about it?

truphie:

i dont think im taking things too far, i dont want to be dumb n just play a fool.we had a fight over her befre,like a yr ago,i saw txt btwn them n he claimed she was helping him wit a job abi na cv.he deleted her number,now few days d number is back.i dont know this girl n have ni biz with her,y wud she call me all of a sudden.if a guy is cheating there is no way he will confess,

Dear, fighting with him isn't a way to avoid being dumped like a fool.
If You think he's cheating . . . . he prolly is and besides an Ex doesn't hang around
like that unless there's something to it but fighting and nagging doesn't help it.

If You think he's not convincing enuff and You want to 'bounce' . . . Then fine.
Otherwise . . . .Talk it over wiff him amicably and sort things out.

am not gonna beat around the bush.im not scared of getting dumped.il speak to him and call it off.if he is serious about me he wud come back and beg me,if he doesnt come back begging then that will be it finito. its an ex.how much longer will i sit around before she walks thru d door? i put this online to see if im just thinking straight and perhaps someone can understand my own point of view.

Nothing wrong when a man stays friends with his EX, IMO, there is something wrong, when a man begins to lie about his relationship with his EX. I like honesty sha, just me.

It looks as though, ur boo is NOT straight forward with you BUT I suggest that you listen to your guts. Follow your instincts.


If he dumps you for this EX, let him go there is not much that you can do. What will be will be.

What would possess my husband's ex to call me?!
She wouldn't dare.

Hmmmmmm . . u shud have called the ex like ur bf said
then maybe the issue wudnt have gone this far

women and their perennial need to fight.

davidylan:

women and their perennial need to fight.

truphie:

am not gonna beat around the bush.im not scared of getting dumped.il speak to him and call it off.if he is serious about me he wud come back and beg me,if he doesnt come back begging then that will be it finito. its an ex.how much longer will i sit around before she walks thru d door? i put this online to see if im just thinking straight and perhaps someone can understand my own point of view.

I laugh in Igala.
So a man is only serious about you when he comes back begging like a wimp?

davidylan:

women and their perennial need to fight.

You cant blame the girl beside why is the girl callin her . . she dey craze?
u guys cant be trusted, for all me know the dude might still be phocking his ex
from what i have heard n seen in this life, men cannot be trusted.

I'm good friends with my exes, i dont believe a broken relationship should equal lost friendships, we were friends before dating so we're only reverting to prior status before the relationship.

Women should relax, the guy was with her for 2 yrs no problems . . . why is she fighting? And she says the guy shld come begging? For what?

davidylan:

I'm good friends with my exes, i dont believe a broken relationship should equal lost friendships, we were friends before dating so we're only reverting to prior status before the relationship.

But why wud ur ex be calling ur gf, not once or twice
if u 2 are still friends . . that doesnt mean she shud calling her, for what reasons?

Women should relax, the guy was with her for 2 yrs no problems . . . why is she fighting? And she says the guy shld come begging? For what?

I accpet that she took the whole thing to far but she stated this isnt the first time that has happened the guy shud have warned the ex to stop calling her, if it was the other way around i bet u guys wud have assumed she was cheating . . . .no?

TOPE2000!:

But why wud your ex be calling your gf, not once or twice
if u 2 are still friends . . that doesnt mean she shud calling her, for what reasons?

yeah that's wrong, the ex shldnt have called her but is that cause for a fight? She's going to throw 2 yrs away because of a random error. She's going be the loser at the end of the day, the ex would only be too glad to replace her.

davidylan:

yeah that's wrong, the ex shldnt have called her but is that cause for a fight? She's going to throw 2 yrs away because of a random error. She's going be the loser at the end of the day, the ex would only be too glad to replace her.

Lol . . .the poster is just doing shakara ni jare
but honestly is the bf a lil slow or what? i wud have expected him to take charge of the whole situation by callin the ex n tell her str8 not call his gf again.

TOPE2000!:

Lol . . .the poster is just doing shakara ni jare
but honestly is the bf a lil slow or what? i wud have expected him to take charge of the whole situation by callin the ex n tell her str8 not call his gf again.

Sometimes guys love the drama.

~Sauron~:

Sometimes guys love the drama.

Then he is an idiot, infact his ass need to be dumped if that is the case. yeye boy

TOPE2000!:

Then he is an idiot, infact his ass need to be dumped if that is the case. yeye boy

How is he an idiot?
Guys cannot have a lil bit of entertainment anymore?
Better get used to it that ma ex-chics in secondary school are going to be calling your number every night. . . . .

~Sauron~:

How is he an idiot?
Guys cannot have a lil bit of entertainment anymore?

So watching girls fight over u,dey give una erection?
When u r dating some1 for over 2yrs n ur ex still calls, where is the entertainment in that?
later u guys will say girls love attention . . look @urselves too

Better get used to it that ma ex-chics in secondary school are going to be calling your number every night. . . . .

I hope their mama n papa really love them, cuz they will surely mis them

TOPE2000!:

I hope their mama n papa really love them, cuz they will surely mis them

I went to a village school.
90% of these chics were traditional wrestlers back in the days.
So, be afraid!!!

~Sauron~:

I went to a village school.
90% of these chics were traditional wrestlers back in the days.
So, be afraid!!!

U think im going to fight with them with my well manicured hands? hell nah
I'd hire a suliat from another village to beat the hell outta them

TOPE2000!:

U think im going to fight with them with my well manicured hands? hell nah
I'd hire a suliat from another village to beat the hell outta them

U must be kidding. . . . .

Babes need to be kept in check.
The best way to keep a misbehaving babe in line is letting her know there are potential rivals out there waiting to ship in.

~Sauron~:

U must be kidding. . . . .

Babes need to be kept in check.
The best way to keep a misbehaving babe in line is letting her know there are potential rivals out there waiting to ship in.

same goes for a misbehaving guy
as long as u r not married. . . . .anything can happen

~Sauron~:


The best way to keep a misbehaving babe in line is letting her know there are potential rivals out there waiting to ship in.

The Sly:

love-vendor SLY's in the house.

TOPE2000!:

same goes for a misbehaving guy
as long as u r not married. . . . .anything can happen

Until then. . . . . . .

~Sauron~:

Until then. . . . . . .

This is why i dnt blame some girls who doesnt put their eggs in one basket, they r the smartest if u ask me
MEN CANNOT BE TRUSTED, the poster's bf might still be phocking his ex else he wudnt have kept quiet n stay out of it

Galz?
Alwayz imagining thingz.

~Sauron~:

love-vendor SLY's in the house.

That line means sumn to me bro. . . . .
They will never know what they have until they lose it.

TOPE2000!:

This is why i dnt blame some girls who doesnt put their eggs in one basket, they r the smartest if u ask me
MEN CANNOT BE TRUSTED, the poster's bf might still be phocking his ex else he wudnt have kept quiet n stay out of it

Shagging an ex is not cheating. . . . . .It's an ACCIDENT.