cococandy:
Stop justifying rubbish

diva90:
No.1 is a stupid misconception. So the woman should expect to be cheated on and take it in good stride. I also hope the man mentally prepares himself for the day his wife would 'accidentally' cheat too. So glad many women are now 'very wise' these days Even the bible condemns infidelity, so why would anyone in their right senses condone it. It's different if the offended spouse decides to forgive and let go but where there is lack of remorse, then it's a problem!
As for no.2 it is very important that a woman has her source of funds. Don't depend on no man for everything. I know a couple that newly got married and everytime they fought over money the man would call her a wh0re and gold digger just because she was asking him to do basic stuff such as giving her money to take care of herself. They are currently separated now anyways. The issue of finance is always a problem in many marriages.
No. 3 applies to both parties. Everyone should know their duties and adhere to them.

Toks2008:
I have seen many marriages break up and it seems there is a common ground for disintegration.Today I will be as real as usual and it will be in the best interest of any married lady or intending wife to take this piece seriously.

If you are a married lady reading this I want you to understand that these 3 facts are essential for you to experience a happy union.

1. Expect your hubby to cheat on you: I have heard many times that not all men cheat and I sincerely believe but nevertheless, to be on the safer side, expect that man to cheat on you.

By having this expectation, you will not be caught unaware and you would have developed a psychological shock absorber in the advent that he does but if he remains faithful to you then good for you. It is totally foolish for a lady to hinge her marital happiness on her husband's fidelity.

And the moment you start seeing those cheating signs in him,rather that start threatening fire and brimstone which may worsen the situation, i will advice that you simply warn him to do it as far can from you because what you don't know can't hurt you and warn him to use a protection to avoid bringing home STDs.

Once you tell him this, just switch to indifferent mode as regards his sexual faithfulness to you and choose to be happy regardless. Hard I know but this is just how the cookie crumbles and this is one secret to having marital bliss even with a hopeless philanderer.

[b]This is one big secret i want every married lady reading this to know; Yes cheating must be discouraged and guys involved must understand that it is a sure way to hell but no matter how long you preach against it,men who want to cheat will still cheat on their wives but here is the secret...98% of men who cheat on their wives still love their wives so dearly but only want to take advantage of ladies who have willingly offered their-selves as side dishes...NEVER EVER GIVE UP YOUR MARRIAGE FOR A SIDE DISH TO TAKE OVER because that is what she wants you to do and even if you leave your marriage, there is no guaranty that your next man won't do worse. Believe it or not, most men always come back to their wives no matter how many side dishes they take advantage of and many men suffer from mid-life delusion crises where they believe it is their right to be with as any ladies as possible but relax, that euphoria and delusion will soon wear off and you will have your man 100% to yourself...This is one big secret i just revealed to you.[/b]

2. Make your own money: Do you know that if you are really busy with your life and very financially independent, you will care less about who your husband sees, where he goes and what he does outside the home or even what he has in his will? Do you know that men respect financially independent ladies?

What I want many married ladies to know is that once they are married and start having children, the most important thing in their life at that point is self development and that of the child(ren). When you spend time developing yourself, even your hubby will give you great respect. Please don't ever settle to be a full housewife..at worst get a shop around where you stay and do something.

3.Perform your marital duties: Men do not joke with bedroom and kitchen matters. Do you know how to cook your husband's favourite meals? do you know how to make him go crazy in the room?

Most men who cheat are lured by either good food or bed-magics of another lady. While you refuse to go down on him and give him those crazy moves, one lady out there is ready to do stuffs that will make him have an attention at work just by thinking about her.

Many married ladies keep nagging about their husband's infidelity while neglecting those virtues that will endear their husbands more to them..most times when a man is drawn away by another lady, there is usually something that lady is doing that you are lacking so focus first on becoming a great wife before you complain of your husband's infidelity.

And for the man, be communicative and let your wife knows what you want so that she can do her best to make the union a better one.
And if you are so hell bent on cheating on your wife please do it as far away as you can because one of the biggest ridicule and disrespect you can bring on your marriage is to cheat on her to her face.

I believe that if married ladies understand these three points, they will always remain happy in their marriages and infact grow old with their partners till death do them apart. You just understand that no one holds the key to your marital happiness except you.


I hope this makes sense

Jarizod:
No.4 Don't be overly suspicious/too jealous..

Some Ladies are always jealous and suspicious at every action their man take! if hes just making small talk with a Lady they assume he's cheating! -- some even go as far as snooping around his privacy in order to find incriminating sturvz and then they find an harmless conversation between the man and a colleague and they Go cray!

Only if women had batteries they would be more mindful of what they say -- Bovi 1805

Kaira333:
Nofin like privacy in my marriage. 1+1= 1. So please stop preaching nonsense. Some guys are something else chuuuuu. Rolling my eyes.

keep on rolling ur eyes..na u sabi

WindUpMerchant:
And this guy keeps deceiving people.




Non of my business though. #different strokes

Jarizod:
keep on rolling ur eyes..na u sabi

ucsparks:



[size=15pt] i stand to be corrected. Females were never created to be wise, and you naturally proved that flaw from your write up [/size]

ucsparks:



[size=15pt] i stand to be corrected. Females were never created to be wise, and you naturally proved that flaw from your write up [/size]

Millerz:
Oh look; a deranged fellow. People like you shouldnt breed cuz your retardation may affect an innocent offspring.

Let me school you, females are generally smarter and wiser than men of the same age as they are.

Compare 2 two year olds (boy and girl), I assure you, 100% of the time, the girl is always smarter. Females also learn to read and communicate way before their male counterparts.

Toks2008:


In my opinion I see it as her freewill.

Of course same goes for a man..only a foolish man will say his wife can never cheat on him.

The bottom line is that if a lady cheats and she is caught , she should be ready for the consequence and same goes for the man.

HungerBAD:


Ishilove I will not cheat on you.

But I am a man. What man don't cheat?i nearly cheated on you this afternoon with a white woman,who kept telling me she loves my accent.

But if you cheat on me ishilove,the juju of my village will make you run mad.

And if that cheating is with Naptu2, two of una go Gum.

Just saying.