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Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by metallisc(m): 6:36am On Oct 04, 2016 |
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Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by CashVessel(m): 6:38am On Oct 04, 2016 |
nickxtra: My brother you just need to confirm what her real age is. My wife's age on her drivers licence and passports were stepped down, but before marriage she told me and we agreed she will correct them which she has done. Why it is important to know the real age is because any marriage built on lies will not stand. Even the church dissolves such marriages If they wedded you guys and you are no longer interested. If she lied to you then, who knows what else she may be hiding from you; maybe ure not the father of those children, or shes got other kids out there? However, there is room for forgiveness if she can come out clean. It is still your desicion to make. May God help you |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by metallisc(m): 6:39am On Oct 04, 2016 |
Praktikals: below is the mindset most of the females on here are living with.....
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Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by nazablossom(f): 6:40am On Oct 04, 2016 |
she might be telling the truth because i hv got the same issuebwith my waec result. mine is 5years higher than my age,i wanted to correct it then but got discouraged by another victim, she said she took the result to waec office for correction and they misplaced it ,couldn't find it agaib |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Nnamdikalu: 6:42am On Oct 04, 2016 |
I jus feel like slapping the hell outta the op. |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by ayusco85(m): 6:42am On Oct 04, 2016 |
NOC1: Ur uncle na mumu. How can someone lie to u abt wat they studied? And u can't find out in this 21st century? Pls Ur uncle need to be smarter Dan he is 1 Like |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by able20(m): 6:43am On Oct 04, 2016 |
Wait oh Op, since when have Nigerians considered Lies to be a problem. After all, a whole president and his political party used Very Big Lies and propaganda to win election and we hail them: 'Sai baba, 'Sai Buhari ' some hail jagaban lagos |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Nobody: 6:44am On Oct 04, 2016 |
ItsQuinn: meaning you've absolved the wife of any wrong doing...union built on deceit anywayz...scamming is now part of life in Nigeria even the govt scamming her citizens..it's allowed 4 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Praktikals(m): 6:44am On Oct 04, 2016 |
Ranchhoddas:porting is allowed. You wont be missed. 1 Like |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Nobody: 6:44am On Oct 04, 2016 |
nickxtra: OP, too many distracting talks here. Hope you find my comments to read. Some points about your wife. 1. She is not willing to tell you her real age. Perhaps she intends to keep it till death do you part. Even if there was an error in both her WAEC and NECO certificates, she suppose to have opened up to you a long time ago, or at least when she sees that you are agitating for it. Did you never talk about your secondary school days when you were courting? That would be a good time to call attention to such mistake, if there was any. 2. She is without remorse. Instead of apologizing she is making excuses. OMG!!!! What a woman 3. She probably doesn't care either way. Judging from the reaction you just described. 4. I won't be surprised if someday she starts making the point to you that she senior you for age and starts calling you "small boy". Trust naija babe. 5. I would have trusted her more if at some point in the marriage she willingly came to you with the issue and make you understand that perhaps she didn't want to lose you which was why she did such a thing. In that case I would say you found an angel. For those calling it a trivial issue I have news for them. It was Jesus who said that he who is faithful in little will be faithful in much. There is nothing like a trivial lie. My guy would have lived a lie for God knows how long if not for this "serious job" thing. That is a marriage for worse, and self-inflicted. My take on further action 1. OP, you are justified in your anger. But please calm down. 2. Dont rush to divorce her anyway. I know that is the default setting for any marital problem nowadays. But don't do it bro. But truth be told, it would be difficult to trust her again, except she has proven herself in the past. But I insist you keep giving her chances. On the fun side Watch out, you may just have some future football stars in the making. Since your wife has started using football age I guess she is preparing those kids for the NPFL. On the issue of marrying an older man or woman. I would point out that it is a cultural thing. I have always thought that the acceptable situation is when the man is older. But haven been in the UAE for some time I have come to understand that in cultures informed by Mohammedanism, the reverse is the case. Mohammed at 25 married a 40 year old woman. So it has stuck. It is often preferred that the woman be older. Personally I still struggle to come to grasp with the idea of marrying an older woman. I always give the excuse that I don't want a woman who would always make a point that she is my elder. But it's just an excuse. I don't really know why I object. Bros I think here I rest my case. You and your wife still be like
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Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Mujaheeeden: 6:46am On Oct 04, 2016 |
Ranchhoddas:I hate to say this but i think Your comments here are the best. A lot of Nigerians don't know that trust is a deal breaker in any marriage. If the lady could lie about such then what other things is she kying about 3 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by ladypeenk: 6:47am On Oct 04, 2016 |
did u say u want to divorce her because of aga falsification, hmmmmm, I think there is more to dis dan ordinary eyes cud c. may be u ve been having issues with ur wife b4 now u can't just tel me is because of dis age issue dat u want to divorce her. u people have been having issues and u being d boss has been looking 4an avenue to justify d action u wanted to take against, which u felt u ve gotten, man get wise and save ur marriage |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by tivta(m): 6:47am On Oct 04, 2016 |
Nairaland, the only Nigerian forum that gives feminists a voice, lol. I personally hate lies if it was me I would be seriously annoyed with her, the Bible even says that marriage built on lies is bound to fall. Well the feminists here should not complain when men lie to them after marriage, daughters of jezebel... |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by chumakk: 6:48am On Oct 04, 2016 |
dollyjoy:you're a full idio*t. so giving birth is what makes a man? 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by lereinter(m): 6:57am On Oct 04, 2016 |
emeraldknytt: abeg this is not a trivial issie even oyinbo peoplwill not agree 1 Like |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Ranchhoddas: 6:59am On Oct 04, 2016 |
driand:The deed is already done. The marriage is already damaged as he's going to always wonder what else she's keeping from him. He's going to second-guess every decision she makes, everything she says is going to be scrutinized consciously or otherwise through the lens of this lie. Eventually, he's going to be irritated by her every deed and their marriage will disintegrate slowly. The divorce is only a matter or time. I won't blame him if he makes the move now...Note that I give room for the very slim possibility that he forgives her and they get to live happily ever after. 3 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Ranchhoddas: 7:01am On Oct 04, 2016 |
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Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by AreaFada2: 7:01am On Oct 04, 2016 |
Fadamant: You see, the way people think that whatever a woman does is right will only harden the hearts of men. Seeing how quick & blindly most women defend the lady here is an indication that they themselves probably tell worse lies from the pit of hell than the said lady. And it is all perfectly normal to them. The lie is bad enough, worse still is that she has not even admitted it or shown remorse or apologised and explained why she did it honestly. The fact is this: If somebody can lie about very small things, how can you expect her to be honest about big consequential things? Like destroyed womb through abortions or a serious disease or a genetic disorder (like x-linked disorder that just the mother alone can pass on to a male child)? I guess pseudo-feminists here will say since the pregnancy resulted from another guy, this man here also deserves an infertile woman. Just for being a man. If proven that she lied, it's OP's right to weigh all things and decide what to do. That includes forgiving her & filing for divorce/annulment on the ground of deception. 3 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by zikter(m): 7:03am On Oct 04, 2016 |
Amelian:come op has the right to aggrieved. who told u marriage is all abt kids? op this has happened but remember the other gud time u had with her. let her understand the value of trust in marriage and move on. all the best 1 Like |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Nobody: 7:03am On Oct 04, 2016 |
people lie about their age all the time ask footballers and civil servants.on my WAEC there was a mistake too, although it was not the year sha but the day instead of 01 they put 10, so it's possible, but even if it were to be true, this is just too trivial for divorce, let him who has not sinned cast the first stone. If you are sure that you are perfect, because seems like you have cheated on your wife from your other thread, so why the fuss?and for those shouting trust, which is worse? the op that cheated on his wife and the wife that lied about her age?,infact the bible only recognizes adultery as a ground for divorce even at that stil admonishes us to forgive,I don't see the fuss here considering that you have done worse 1 Like |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by realmindz: 7:05am On Oct 04, 2016 |
Ranchhoddas:Too many idiots on nairaland my guy.. They should always conduct test before peiple join this forum to confirm their level of reasoning.... some1 lied about age with a difference of 6 good years..almost a decade difference. That's a scam and she could possibly have hidden 1000 things from him. pure lack of integrity and fraud 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Nten: 7:06am On Oct 04, 2016 |
Arguementum ad hominem is the basis for the non progressive nature of our country today. people attack the person instead of the issue. To have trust in a person is to be truthful in all ramifications, but here a woman told a lie about her age to a man that only death could keep them apart and kept it secretly for that long? and instead of people castigating the woman they saying is not an issue it is just age.... let alone for me if not for the children I would have sued her to court for deceiving me into the marriage. I fire her immediately! 4 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by mrmachine: 7:06am On Oct 04, 2016 |
werthy: I feel you bro. Women age quickly more than men and nobody wants to put grandmother as wife for house. The deal is done just tell her and her family that you have lost trust in her. Over time you will learn to forget about it. |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by OCHOdee(f): 7:06am On Oct 04, 2016 |
EfemenaXY: GOD BLESS YOUR SOUL! |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by JayJayGee: 7:10am On Oct 04, 2016 |
dollyjoy:stfu... all your comments are always stupid when they were dating why did she lie? tf do you mean by risk her life to make you a man... some girls are really stupid sha 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Peacefulgold(m): 7:10am On Oct 04, 2016 |
chuksbogus2001:U said it all,but on a second tot,d wife never actually accepted she lied,it could really b possible it's a mistake as she said,but d bottom line is OP think of ur kids and d good times u spent togdr wit ur wife and imagine wat living a life witout her in d lives of ur kids and u will b like,den u will see it will b easy for u to forgive her,dats if truly it wasn't a mistake from d exam board,cos I have had such silly mistake where they termed me a female instead of a male... 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by realmindz: 7:11am On Oct 04, 2016 |
dollyjoy: bring ur brain let me weigh it with a feather.... you nairaland idiots should get it into your head, She lied and he has every right to be angry... she scammed him and she can do worse. Almost a decade difference in age...aba, women should fear God 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by JayJayGee: 7:12am On Oct 04, 2016 |
I'm amazed at how many women deem it OK to lie about their age when entering marriage and expect the guy to be cool with it he finds out 4 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by ogoplus: 7:15am On Oct 04, 2016 |
Op .... Please ignore.. I don't even know my wife's age. She is a family of civil servants age alteration is normal with all her folks.... depending on which offer they are gunning for. In fact my mother-in law once asked why I write my correct dob on my CV. But the difference here is that my wife told me from the beginning. Your wife should have told you to avoid all misgivings. 2 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by realmindz: 7:16am On Oct 04, 2016 |
werthy: I bet u don't have half of the maturity the op has.... and to people that liked ur comment, this is just a confirmation that we live among idiots. We are outnumbered by idiots, what a generation of people. 2 Likes |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by sirpnwa(m): 7:17am On Oct 04, 2016 |
Pls bros age is just a number if love yourself & your wife better hold your family well or another man go holam for you. I advice you put your house to other, tell me if you never lie to her since you started dating her. Monkey. |
Re: I Discovered My Wife Lied About Her Age After 3 Years Of Our Marriage. Help! by Imoala: 7:17am On Oct 04, 2016 |
Exactly something like this happened to me She lied to me on her age three years lower than her real age was what she told me, I discovered it when we were at the peak of our wedding preparation, I saw it on her baptismal card which she submitted to the rev. Father, it caused some arguments but that still didn't stop the wedding as long am still older in age than her But women can lie generally am telling you bro just to get what they want My advice, as long as you still older and you love her go ahead, but warn her to reveal other dirty secret and be honest with you, that is marriage for you bro. Offence and forgiveness are the lubricant of a successful marriage |
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