Talk2Bella:


It's in our genetic code especially if he's an only son or only child, I de pity my brother babes dem de hear weeen anytime my mother sets eyes on them

Ugosample:


Yea
you have made good points, but I still stand on my opinion.
You cannot tell me with all authority that this problem is as rampant in these countries than in SSA and SEA, the cultural issue makes the DIL be at a disadvantage position in these regions

Okay look at it from this angle...

A MIL is more likely to instigate the family to push out the DIL to the streets in Africa, as opposed to Europe/America.
I have seen this with my eyes

A MIL is more likely to be a live in person in Africa than in the other clime

A MIL is more likely to suggest, and Even bring a second wife to the matrimonial home than in the other clime.

To cut the long story short, the MIL has more advantage here than in other climes.
She could be more brazen in her attempt to frustrate the DIL here than elsewhere


I hope you see my point?

sweetcocoa:
That's not the topic here, except you are saying this 'advantage' automatically makes every(for emphasis) Nigerian MILs prejudiced against their DILs.

sweetcocoa:
I don't even know what you are talking about, you live in a society where women contribute nothing? Please where's that?

Ugosample:


You still don't get my point.
Worldwide, women find it difficult to get along with each other, and there are often frequent disagreements between many MILs and their DILs.
I was just bringing in a dimension into this discourse, the extent this disagreements can degenerate to, as opposed to other climes.

raumdeuter:
The OP is really naive



ABove is a picture of an American movie about Mother in law probllems, In the OP opinion they probably learnt it from Nigerians

The question you should be asking is why women always have problems with themselves. Why dont we hear of husband vs fatherinlaw problems

The mother inlaws they are complaining about today also complained about their own mother inlaws like 30yrs ago, In another 30yrs another set of wifes would be complaining about this same set of women who are complaining abut their mother inlaws

sweetcocoa:
Why can't he do dishes, is he not a human being who eats with dishes? Even if he doesn't use dishes sef, can't he be of help in the house?

Benita27:
I noticed 80% of our Nigerian mother in-laws threat their daughter in-laws badly unlike their foreign counterparts, and this trend is so common,once a man says he wants to take you to see his parents instead of excitement a certain fear creeps in.
personally i'm not scared of meeting the man's father because i assume father's trust their sons to have made the right choices, but for the mothers is not usually the same, was able to ask someone if she felt same and she confessed feeling worse.
Why are our Nigerian mother in-laws so mean?.
Need your contributions, and Ladies how do you feel when getting to meet them?.

Cc: Aderola15.
Talk2Bella.
IamNawty.
Laveda.

Benita27:
I noticed 80% of our Nigerian mother in-laws threat their daughter in-laws badly unlike their foreign counterparts, and this trend is so common,once a man says he wants to take you to see his parents instead of excitement a certain fear creeps in.
personally i'm not scared of meeting the man's father because i assume father's trust their sons to have made the right choices, but for the mothers is not usually the same, was able to ask someone if she felt same and she confessed feeling worse.
Why are our Nigerian mother in-laws so mean?.
Need your contributions, and Ladies how do you feel when getting to meet them?.

Cc: Aderola15.
Talk2Bella.
IamNawty.
Laveda.

lekanojo01:
80% of ladies presently, are not submissive. I believe that's what has been causing problems. They've forgotten that when a lady got married, she starts a new family. Her husband family is her new family. She will start learning new things nd dropping some things from her home. Every mother loves their son. Ladies should know too that they will soon become mother-in-law. Then what I'm saying will make some sense.

Benita27:
I noticed 80% of our Nigerian mother in-laws threat their daughter in-laws badly unlike their foreign counterparts, and this trend is so common,once a man says he wants to take you to see his parents instead of excitement a certain fear creeps in.
personally i'm not scared of meeting the man's father because i assume father's trust their sons to have made the right choices, but for the mothers is not usually the same, was able to ask someone if she felt same and she confessed feeling worse.
Why are our Nigerian mother in-laws so mean?.
Need your contributions, and Ladies how do you feel when getting to meet them?.

Cc: Aderola15.
Talk2Bella.
IamNawty.
Laveda.

Benita27:
I noticed 80% of our Nigerian mother in-laws threat their daughter in-laws badly unlike their foreign counterparts, and this trend is so common,once a man says he wants to take you to see his parents instead of excitement a certain fear creeps in.
personally i'm not scared of meeting the man's father because i assume father's trust their sons to have made the right choices, but for the mothers is not usually the same, was able to ask someone if she felt same and she confessed feeling worse.
Why are our Nigerian mother in-laws so mean?.
Need your contributions, and Ladies how do you feel when getting to meet them?.

Cc: Aderola15.
Talk2Bella.
IamNawty.
Laveda.

JUSTbuchi:
Finally it did make front page


My aunt always gives praise to God that her mother in-law is no longer alive


Y'all disturbing ma mentions tho

solexybadoo:
bullsht...how would I feel if someone gives praise cause my mother is dead...

Talk2Bella:
When it gets to our turn that's how it will be, good intentions are overly overrated we will think we're doing it in his best interest before you know daughter inlaw go just de plan us

Benita27:
Wow!. Your mum is the kind we are praying for.

Acidosis:


bone of my bone

bukatyne:

LMAO!
Your kids the bone of my kids maybe?

cococandy:


All these comments make me sick. Like there's some kind of incestous connection between a woman and her son.

Eww

raumdeuter:



For you to think this is a Nigerian problem you must be either naive or unexposed

Menzy86:
Wit d quality of DIL's these days contaminated by a warped sense of gender equality, why won't MIL's b in constant battle wit them? E.g MOST 9ja babes these days think it is 'modern' or 'acceptable' not to know how to cook. Or to rule out d possibility of preparing a particular dish even if its ur husband's favourite and expect it to be ok by everyone.

Barigaboy:

I love this post and I have answers to your question. There are many reasons for those attitude.
1. We all no that women jealous each other
2. Some of our mothers feels that this lady would be controlling us.
3. They also feel that d money u r to give to them u will be spending it on d lady.
4. When she looks good, they feel is your money she lavishing.
5. When u r broke they feel she has suck u dry.
6.Finally, they don't want any lady to treat us d way they treated our father.

Solution
1. Dont praise your woman in her presence make she nuh think say u don eat vegetable.
2. Let them know that she comes from a rich background.
3. Don't ever tell them about any money transaction between u n your wife.
4 Don't ever report your wife to her.
5. Don't give her money in d presence of your mom n Don't give your mom money in her presence
7. Don't keep your mom n your wife together for too long dem go soon fight.
8. Don't be bringing your family matter into any discussion.
9. Put a long distance between dem I mean don't let dem see regularly dem no go disrespect each other.
10. Don't bring your mom to your house. If u do u r giving her opportunity to see how your wife operate which she will never like.
11. Are u aware that even your father get tolerance na him make am dey with your mama n him no wetin your mama fit do n will always tell your mama say "please leave them let them leave them n let them live their lives. She will say mo ti gbo ko si wahala. She will not beable to sleep that night. Thank God she finally sleep and started dreaming that your wife stab u in d dream. D following morning she is at your place not answering your wife greetings n telling u to drink water from a pastor n also give u small thing to dey tie for your waist Lol. Na wao

To all ladies
Some of u always pray for your fiancee mother to be dead n your arrival. Same d fiancee of your younger brother would wish your mom.
Note: all mothers are not dsame n if they r dsame. Atleast if she didn't bring up your fiancee up in d right way how would u fall in love with him. If u r d 1 wud u watch a woman to ruin d child u brought up for 30 something years? Access yourself tolerance is d key. If u can tolerate her then u can tolerate anybody in d world n u r a good wife. No matter how bad your mother inlaw shows heartred to u she knows u r a gud wife becos u can tolerate her n your husband will be proud of u. Later she wud learn to love u becos u loved her.