toyetade:

God and ask women who have gone through it especially if they were married before. It is better to do all you can to repair yoir marriage than becoming single again

truthsayer007:


Cheating is natural and normal ? Wow, Sister...come and date me oh, so i can be cheating on you everyday, i hope you will find it very natural and normal

Akinaukwa:


What are those knees meant for, let her go down on her knees and pray, that is the key. Some of those actions may be as a result of coming into contact with demon possessed ladies who will never let him go until his life is ruined. Prayer is the key.

Ngokafor:







......what nonsense is this now??..so pathetic!

ItsQuinn:
Cheating is natural and normal, please learn to accept that fact and ignore his actions, when he realize that you don't give a fvck about what he does, or he sees that what he does doesn't hurt you anymore, he will be forced to change. Tell him to go for stds tests, when you guys want to make love, use condoms for your own protection until you know he's clean

napa:
We've been married for five years and he has cheated all through these years. He keeps late nights without any tangible reason. He travels in and out of Nigeria for the purpose of meeting different women, he chats dirty with different women. He calls random women at home e.t.c. He is also very quick to apologise and promise to turn a new leaf anytime I confront him with evidences.
The issue here is I'm getting really fed up of his kind of life style, I feel he is taking me for granted and just playing on my emotions because he knows there is nothing I can do after his apologies. He too relaxed with me and feels he can do anything and get away with it. I work and he does too but he knows I live a triangular kind of life. From work back home then to church, I'm more of a homely person. I'm beginning to think it's my fault for him not getting on his toes. I don't intend reporting him to any of his family members because he won't be chastised.

I need candid and matured advice please.

QuietHammer:


You and silly advice are inseparable. Take the good lady's advice; stick to the romance section

Dyt:


It happened to you don't mean it will happen to someone else

It's people like you that prefers to die by cutlass in the name of being married

Oshisko

Teespice:
all ye advocates of forgiveness, what will you do of the tables were turned?

anybody quoting me should give a honest and not dancing around the circle answers

toyetade:

I've just checked your profile and find out you are into gambling and pool, so you are not my type to discuss with.

sukkot:
she must have that platinum and gold encrusted vajay-jay for a nigga to charter a flight to go get some lolzzz

oh you talking bout OP ? yeah the nigga is tired of yanshing the OP, here is my advice, he is tired of seeing the same person so she need a full body transformation and she needs to do it every year. get several color of wigs, and get new outfits and change ya body like if you are fat try to get slim. only thing that can save her is if she gets a new image over-haul to where the guy sees a new person physically and then he becomes hooked on her again. anything short of that ? just forget it. or you can just keep waiting and hanging in there and when his libido has finished and he becomes more mature he will change at his own time. or you can just face YAH fully and hopefully YAH will change him. but personally a person gets what they put out so this randy nigga is divine punishment on OP from GOD. maybe in her younger days she was mean to men or broke many mens heart etc etc and now she getting payback. thats life. we receive what we give. and YAH is no respecter of persons

Maxvasia:
Well my candid contribution is that it is obvious that there is something you are not doing right as evidenced by you, bringing ur marital issues which are meant to be sacred, to the public, which in turn is a good enough reason why he is stupid to have married u in the first place. You need self introspection and reorientation. Marriage is supposed to be sacred to u and not a matter to be discussed on Nairaland with people u dont even know.

Style007:
madam. I will advice you to have a heart to heart talk with your husband. I know people will tell you that you should not disturb yourself that who wants to cheat will cheat... ignore that type of advice

he is your husband and you know her more than all of us put together do. you can help him, as you said he apologize to you whenever you confront him. it shows he still have conscience and their is still hope for him to change. no marriage is perfect it is only when one tell you about his/hers that u will know

men are polygamous by nature. but cheating in marriage is very bad. there is this Igbo proverb that says "all dogs eats shit but its only the one that eats and didn't clean the mouth that people see"

NOW THE ADVICE

tell him how bitter u are. and how his actions are affecting you negatively. explain to him about how he can contact infections 'he knows that but still tell him' be emotional, cry if you feel like. beg him to forgive you if you have done anything wrong to him...

after all this 'if he have conscience he will beg you to forgive him' forgive him with hot se.x ....yes

now try to look out for things u guys should be doing together. bath together even if u have done yours before he came back, still bath with him..

be more romantic. be naughty sometimes, send him naughty messages sometimes if he is at work. call him on phone and tell him u miss him... look for places both of you will be going together... be it gym,wedding, outing, party.... does he like football dress sexy and follow him to field...

start looking good for him. be classy but dress like a married woman.. when u are with him dress the way people will compliment ur look... it will make him happy and proud of you

some of his friends that knows his bad ways may even join to advice him like "so u have this pretty wife and still chase girls" all those words will go a long way to change him

I know all these are what he suppose to be doing but dear understand marriage is a two way thing not a bf and a gf kinda relationship... their is a huge difference between a girl and a woman..... BE A WOMAN...... CHEERS


pardon my errors I have no time to proof read

ItsQuinn:
Cheating is natural and normal, please learn to accept that fact and ignore his actions, when he realize that you don't give a fvck about what he does, or he sees that what he does doesn't hurt you anymore, he will be forced to change. Tell him to go for stds tests, when you guys want to make love, use condoms for your own protection until you know he's clean

Teespice:
according to toks2008, he said that you should keep forgiving your husband till he's tired of the union and he walks out.

so dearest op, keep forgiving him.

Vikky014:
hahahaha. i know he will avoid dis thread...


op please work on your self esteem..he is taking you for granted

Toks2008:


Of all people you should know better that im too intellectual to chicken out...i have already responded so scroll up or check previous pages for my comment.

montezz:

The way you reason ehn...
Family section is not for you dear. Go back to romance section where you obviously belong.

Vikky014:
hahahaha. i dnt hv dt time ooo..make i guess. u told her to keep forgiving him