aureen:
The best thing for you to do as an Africa woman is to become very rich like TIWA Savage so that when your hubby decide to cheat and infect you with either STD OR HIV you can leave because you have lots of money starting from 50 million naira upward and the court will grant the custody of the children to the partner that have the financial power.


Money answereth all things.
Money is a defense.

What a senseless post! Is Tiwa rich? She sleeps around.

happney65:


Babe,Well said..I have two friends.Married friends..Both of them have girlfriends though which they come sleep with in my house..I make sure i give them condoms to use..One of them isnt a great fan of condoms,I was like which type of rubbish are you trying to do..You Bleep ur numerous girlfriends without condoms,while your wife wont Bleep any other dick..Told him times without number it is Bad..The other one is a correct and consistent user of condoms..That shows he respects he's wife..And that is how it should be...Well said my dear...If my wife wont give me STI,I should not be the one to give her one..

you allow your house to be used and you think you'd go free. What makes you think your wife wont give you STD. You trust her, same way she trusts you, yet u are messing up.

Marvel1206:


no one has the correct, accurate statistics but yours is no where near

well since you don't have yours,you are in no capacity to determine if mine is correct or not,as there is nothing to compare with,just your hunch

2dugged:
which ones?,the ones wear black socks and jihad covering their head to toe and are caged in the house,and can be thrown out when their husband decide to marry a 5th wife, so he can make it 4?or the ones who have been automatically dis inherited simply because they are women, Abeg, tell me who

your sense of reasoning is appaling. Does whatever u have put up mean there are no women that know their rights in katsina.

2dugged:
and Mr man did I tell you I don't have an education?, even PhD holders still get cheated on, it's a Nigerian factor that has got nothing to do with education, after all one can imagine that with all the education in this country, in some regions child bride is still common while in some regions the girl child doesnt have an inheritance, so what education are you talking about?, stick to the topic and stop delving into what you know little about

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How ignorant can one be

2dugged:
that I stated the facts doesn't mean I don't have the hope of getting a man form the 2% category, first have to state the obvious, that's all

arrrh woman! you weary me with your unclairvoyant and victim airs! all you stated are all figment of your wet wondering imagination.

it is a fact that when you repeat a lie to yourself over and over again, your subconscious records same as truth.

get ur head out of your butt, change your circles , stop chatting with those your negative friends, thank me later

ogeflavour:
for me,any day I prove beyond doubt that my hubby had extramarital s*x,that is the end of his conjugal right over me.

thank you jareh!!

2dugged:
well since you don't have yours,you are in no capacity to determine if mine is correct or not,as there is nothing to compare with,just your hunch

oh well, it seems you've already braced up to marry a husband that would cheat

Mindfulness:


Don't wait for the society to change, be the change yourself. Get an education before even thinking of marriage so that you are independent and tell prospective suitors that adultery is an absolute deal breaker to you. Say what you mean and mean what you say. I am tired of women complaining all the time. If they want changes, they have to make them but instead of getting involved or at least interested in politics (where laws are made and passed), they will rather watch Telemundo.

Lolz.
So you think the man will take permission before committing adultery ?

fellis:
Why are people acting as if 2dugged is talking nonsense? Are they foreigners or they don't have experience with Nigerian marriages?
Why she said is plain truth and what obtains in Nigeria unfortunately. I know a woman personally, my aunts husband whose husband was cheating on her with the female students in the universities he lectures. He even had the audacity to receive phone calls from the girls in the presence of the woman. What didn't she do to change him?
She complained to his sister who was the relative he was closest to in the house, told her to talk to the man. She became superwoman with two jobs taking care of finance and housework to prick the man's conscience, she became sullen at home, gave him silent treatment, tried sexy dressing (anytime we went to her house we would meet her wearing small shorts and handless tops and this was an old woman with five children o) she ended up being frustrated and constantly complained at home for him to stop cheating, would even bring herself down to the level of calling the girls to warn them off but the man just continued sleeping around like a shameless dog without caring about the woman's feelings.

When she finally called family meetings to report the man and say she wants to end the marriage he started feigning remorse and they told her the same thing they tell all women, that please forgive him, he will change henceforth. Go home and be a good wife to him don't let Satan ruin your home.

After the meeting they went home and the man went right back to cheating on her. She gave up and asked for a divorce and he refused saying if she wants to leave she will have to go without the kids because he didn't want to end the marriage she was the only one that wants separation. Today they are living apart and the kids are living with the man but occasionally visit her.
All the members of his family are blaming her for the separation saying she is a heartless mother and she could have stayed for her kids. She. She's the heartless one. Not the useless dog of a husband that was exposing his wife to STDs. No. She is the heartless one.
During her kids last birthday which was held at the man's house everybody shunned her because they see her as a bad woman that used her own hands to destroy her marriage and abandoned her kids afterwards.

This is just one case I talked about here. There are others that I won't write. Leaving a cheating husband in Nigeria will most likely spell humiliation and loss of respect and even children in some cases that's why many women stay in marriage with cheating husbands not because they are not educated or independent.

And this trend isn't going to change anytime soon because Nigerian men don't respect women enough to be faithful to them and because many women have refused to fight for themselves and stick together. They would rather fight each other than face the men that cause them difficulties.

Pls are you male or female?

Your answer will hepl me in puttung this post in perspective.

BTW you are largely correct.

Are you intending to marry a non-Nigerian

There are lots of faithful men in Nigeria.
The only unfortunate thing is you can't have it all.

Joavid:
I've made up my mind Never Ever to put up with a cheating spouse.

Even the Bible permits divorce on grounds of adultery. so who's society?

Finding a Naija man that doesn't cheat is like looking for a needle in a haystack. and that's one of the reasons marriage doesn't appeal to me, (among other vital reasons).

HARDDON:


arrrh woman! you weary me with your clairvoyant and victim airs! all you stated are all figment of your wet wondering imagination.

it is a fact that when you repeat a lie to yourself over and over again, your subconscious records same as truth.

get ur head out of your butt, change your circles , stop chatting with those your negative friends, thank me latter

you have neither debunked my claim or made any meaningful statement, just big words with no impact, so I don't need to thank you

Marvel1206:

oh well, it seems you've already braced up to marry a husband that would cheat

actually I still have hope in finding one from the 2% category

Cheating is not a Nigerian thing... ..Nigerians are learning when it comes to cheating on spouses.

skypeme:
I only cheat when my wife is not available for me to access , she has travelled for too long and I can't stay without s3x for atleast a week

Look at how you are proud for not having control over yourself.
SHAME ON YOU

I just hope your wife feels the same and also does the same


DON'T YOU DARE BE ANGRY WITH HER IF SHE DOES

happney65:


Babe,Well said..I have two friends.Married friends..Both of them have girlfriends though which they come sleep with in my house..I make sure i give them condoms to use..One of them isnt a great fan of condoms,I was like which type of rubbish are you trying to do..You Bleep ur numerous girlfriends without condoms,while your wife wont Bleep any other dick..Told him times without number it is Bad..The other one is a correct and consistent user of condoms..That shows he respects he's wife..And that is how it should be...Well said my dear...If my wife wont give me STI,I should not be the one to give her one..

why not advice them to stop cheating altogether than giving them condoms..

majekdom2:
your sense of reasoning is appaling. Does whatever u have put up mean there are no women that know their rights in katsina.

I only answered from your other comment,shikena!

vislabraye:


Lolz.
So you think the man will take permission before committing adultery ?

L L . . . I swear 'Nairaland' should be 'comedyland'.

2dugged:
actually I still have hope in finding one from the 2% category

if you do eventually get one for yourself then your stats is not correct

If your statistics shows that 95% of men cheat... who are they cheating with.
If it us assumed that men cheat with different women, does it not show that there are greater percentage of woman who cheat than men.
Your premise for you statistics is floored. How you graciously exonerate the women and impale the men beats me.
Abi the men sleep with their fellow men!!!

2dugged:
well since you don't have yours,you are in no capacity to determine if mine is correct or not,as there is nothing to compare with,just your hunch

lovelygurl:


Look at how you are proud for not having control over yourself.
SHAME ON YOU

I just hope your wife feels the same and also does the same


DON'T YOU DARE BE ANGRY WITH HER IF SHE DOES

lovelygurl:


Look at how you are proud for not having control over yourself.
SHAME ON YOU

I just hope your wife feels the same and also does the same


DON'T YOU DARE BE ANGRY WITH HER IF SHE DOES

you know the "society" like 2dugged say don't make the women feel proud as compared to men. Only a few who are very independent don't give a Bleep. Many married women are doing same as their cheating spouses.

Marvel1206:


if you do eventually get one for yourself then your stats is not correct

you seem not to even grasp my statistics self,Abeg good day to you, I hear you

None is good...cheating and infection with disease, but to be logical, I understand the OP's point, ladies should in as much as they never want their husbands to cheat, stress should also be made on, men who can't hold on and b faithful to their wives they should always stress the point that they should always use protection and be careful with the type of gals they cheat with,in other to avoid a double tragedy. Men who can't stay faithful, should not use their acts to cause havoc to their home.

sunvick:
If your statistics shows that 95% of men cheat... who are they cheating with.
If it us assumed that men cheat with different women, does it not show that there are greater percentage of woman who cheat than men.
Your premise for you statistics is floored. How you graciously exonerate the women and impale the men beats me.
Abi the men sleep with their fellow men!!!

you seem not to understand, I said at one time have had an affair, how many Nigerian men can swear that since they married their wives they have not slept with another woman even if it was a one time thing, that's my point, and that is where I got my statistics from , and I am talking from the vantage point of the married woman, if a married man decide to cheat on his wife, he should be held responsible for lacking self control to stay true to the vow he made to his wife, not the other way round

logicab:
Your father was not properly brought up. Now, tell us where you got your stats from and stop spewing trash.

Like logicab like the OP, you two are just too aggressive in nature.

2dugged:
I only answered from your other comment,shikena!

and that's why I concluded you are not a smart lady. I said you shouldn't be surprised there are smarter ladies who know their rights in Katsina and you countered it by saying they are all almajiris that know nothing. You make quick assumption and generalisation even as it seems you have got no exposure. This is not too good. You need to make new friends, socialise more, travel on holidays, learn about new things,places and culture. It will really help you and your line of thoughts.

2dugged:
you seem not to even grasp my statistics self,Abeg good day to you, I hear you

you sound more like a confused being.
Bye tho

2dugged:
I have tried so hard to convince myself that maybe it's just my environment, maybe there are faithful married men in other parts of the country. 95 % of married Nigerian men cheat on their wives atleast once, while from the 5%, 3% have not cheated because the opportunity has not presented itself yet, and only 2% are actually faithful to their wives. I often hear statements like "men are naturally polygamous", a nairalander once said "if you can't bear your husband cheating on you,then don't get married", but I ask myself just how much do you have to bear?, a distant relative lost her life because her husband infected her with hiv, she knew he was philandering, but what could she do?,now both her and her husband are dead, it's been years, sometimes I see the kids and i just feel awful, if a man cheats, women have always have that big heart to forgive and move on,but when a man gives his wife disease, it means that man not only lacks self control but is STUPID as well

Your post brought uncontrollable tears to my eyes.
I've lost two persons dear to me and I'm about to loose another on deathbed, just like that. All in one year.


Fvck what society thinks, I don't think I can ever get married that's why I worked so hard to become financially independent.

They just don't have the heart to leave. So sad

My advise is, try to sturdy your partner before you start thinking about getting married to him/her... Any cheating threats found should be a red flag... Cos once a cheat is always a cheat.. Dont hope for them to change when you marry them, whatever made them cheat on you in the past is capable of making them cheat again. Some people's sexual desire is stronger than their self control. OKAY A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE.

2dugged:
you seem not to understand, I said at one time have has an affair, how many Nigerian men can swear that since they married their wives they have not slept with another woman even if it was a one time thing, that's my point, and that is where I got my statistics from

you are very d*ft. *no apologies* you got your statistics from a survey you do not have answers too. So you asked a question, how many married men have answered your question? You post is no fact, it is only an assumption based on your own experiences which perhaps is not what's obtainable with others.