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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:39pm On Oct 12, 2016

majekdom2:
and that's why I concluded you are not a smart lady. I said you shouldn't be surprised there are smarter ladies who know their rights in Katsina and you countered it by saying they are all almajiris that know nothing. You make quick assumption and generalisation even as it seems you have got no exposure. This is not too good. You need to make new friends, socialise more, travel on holidays, learn about new things,places and culture. It will really help you and your line of thoughts.

don't twist it around Mr smarty pants, you called me an ancient chic that needed exposure, so don't come her and start spewing trash abeg, respect your self so you can get it back in return, now you want to claim offended after the subtle insult, I know your type, just respect yourself

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:42pm On Oct 12, 2016

EyeofHorus:

Your post brought uncontrollable tears to my eyes.
I've lost two persons dear to me and I'm about to loose another on deathbed, just like that. All in one year.

Fvck what society thinks, I don't think I can ever get married that's why I worked so hard to become financially independent.

They just don't have the heart to leave. So sad

you trust those persons enough to believe their spouses infected them first... . You don't, you might need to edit your post.
@ second bolded, I'd assume you are a celibate.

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Originalsly: 7:42pm On Oct 12, 2016

I agree with Op...she's facing reality. Most married men do cheat.... but too many are ehmm...STUPID. The wife is not supposed to know.... all tracks should be covered. The man should also take all precautions to avoid the possibility of contracting any disease. If he didn't take precautions then that's plain dumb. ..and dumber to sleep with his wife without being tested and treated. That's a recipe for turning your kids to orphans.

Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:45pm On Oct 12, 2016

majekdom2:
you are very d*ft. *no apologies* you got your statistics from a survey you do not have answers too. So you asked a question, how many married men have answered your question? You post is no fact, it is only an assumption based on your own experiences which perhaps is not what's obtainable with others.

seems you are so pained and eager to prove your point that you are even responding to quotes for other monickers,why the zeal?, do you feel like its a reflection? anyway if you are not daft either, you will be civil enough to counter with you own correct statistics instead of running around this thread like someone with soldier ants on his scrotum

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:45pm On Oct 12, 2016

Originalsly:
I agree with Op...she's facing reality. Most married men do cheat.... but too many are ehmm...STUPID. [b]The wife is not supposed to know.... all tracks should be covered. [/b]The man should also take all precautions to avoid the possibility of contracting any disease. If he didn't take precautions then that's plain dumb. ..and dumber to sleep with his wife without being tested and treated. That's a recipe for turning your kids to orphans.

if you are married, your wife is presently covering all tracks, it's easier for her to contract too and she will not have the mind to tell you to protect yourself. So, that's double wahala.

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:48pm On Oct 12, 2016

2dugged:
seems you are so pained and eager to prove your point that you are even responding to quotes for other monickers,why the zeal?, do you feel like its a reflection? any if you are not daft either, you will be civil enough to counter with you own correct statistics instead of running around this thread like someone with soldier ants in his scrotum

you have statistical data from answers and completed survey. Where are your surveys and answers?? I'd have to agree with the guy that alleged you are yet to pass your SSCE.

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by HARDDON: 7:49pm On Oct 12, 2016

2dugged:
you have neither debunked my claim or made any meaningful statement, just big words with no impact, so I don't need to thank you

there r about 7.5 billions people on earth, almost half of that wud be men, yet u sample a few men from your village and thereafter go making unfounded n myopic statements about your wet dreams that all men cheat?

kindly remind us again, what is your claim 2drugged?

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:49pm On Oct 12, 2016

majekdom2:
you have statistical data from answers and completed survey. Where are your surveys and answers?? I'd have to agree with the guy that alleged you are yet to pass your SSCE.

hehehehehehehehehehehehehrheheheh, still not said anything reasonable, a good day to you, seems you are out of reasonable things to say

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:51pm On Oct 12, 2016

HARDDON:

there r about 7.5 billions people on earth, almost half of that wud be men, yet u sample a few men from your village and thereafter go making unfounded n myopic statements about the your wet dreams that all men cheat?

kindly remind us again, what is your claim 2drugged?

read and comprehend, I said Nigerian men,Abeg all this people self, go back to the first page and read very slowly

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by TonyeBarcanista(m): 7:51pm On Oct 12, 2016

@OP I don't know where you got your stats from but I think you are being unfair in your classification.

I will NEVER cheat on my wife(when married), even in courtship that I'm in, I've never cheated on her and will never cheat on her. I say this with every sense of responsibility.

Talking about society, I agree with you that society in the broad concept don't really see anything wrong in a man cheating, probably due to our polygamous history and traditions, but those of us from a good background will always face the backlash should our spouses report us to our families accusing us of cheating.

Specifically, my Parents will skin me alive and humiliate me if I cheat on my wife. Aside family, my conscience will deal ruthlessly with me also.

I will advice that you be careful with your spousal choice because that is the foundation of the problem.

A flirting boyfriend may most likely grow to become a cheating husband.

be wise..

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:51pm On Oct 12, 2016

2dugged:
seems you are so pained and eager to prove your point that you are even responding to quotes for other monickers,why the zeal?, do you feel like its a reflection? anyway if you are not daft either, you will be civil enough to counter with you own correct statistics instead of running around this thread like someone with soldier ants on his scrotum

What he is trying to say is you just don't make up a statistic.
You were saying 95% of Nigerian men cheat .
If people were to analyse it, it would be wrong

Because they will ask you based on what survey, studies. Where is the proof. Asking 100 Nigerian men if they cheat and another 100 Nigerian women if they are cheated on proves nothing because they are just probably 0,5% of the whole population

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:53pm On Oct 12, 2016

lovelygurl:

What he is trying to say is you just don't make up a statistic.
You were saying 95% of Nigerian men cheat .
If people were to analyse it, it would be wrong

Because they will ask you based on what survey, studies. Where is the proof. Asking 100 Nigerian men if they cheat and another 100 Nigerian women if they are cheated on proves nothing because they are just probably 0,5% of the whole population

95 % cheat and 95% have at one time cheated are two different statement with different meanings, seems English comprehension is the main problem here

Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Duru009(m): 7:54pm On Oct 12, 2016

Men donot cheat on their ownself but cheat with women .thesame women also cheat on their spouses.....

So the equation is perfectly balanced.... ..
So stop blaming men all the time and speak to your fellow women.

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by EyeofHorus: 7:55pm On Oct 12, 2016

majekdom2:
you trust those persons enough to believe their spouses infected them first... . You don't, you might need to edit your post.
@ second bolded, I'd assume you are a celibate.

My friend shut up there!

Do you think it's only in movies things as bad as this happen?

I'm about to loose a woman who took care of me from when I was a toddler to a teenager.
She stood by him til his death. She wouldn't leave. Countless times n she just wouldn't leave.

I don't have to give you details about them. I watched them live in horror.

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 7:56pm On Oct 12, 2016

2dugged:
95 % cheat and 95% have at one time cheated are two different statement with different meanings, seems English comprehension is the main problem here

And how did you come up with such numbers? Based on what?

Your experience doesn't count

Seems thinking LOGICAL is the problem here

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by HARDDON: 7:59pm On Oct 12, 2016

2dugged:
read and comprehend, I said Nigerian men,Abeg all this people self, go back to the first page and read very slowly

marry a Kenyan then cheesy

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 8:01pm On Oct 12, 2016

lovelygurl:

And how did you come up with such numbers? Based on what?

Your experience doesn't count

Seems thinking LOGICAL is the problem here

and miss logical give me your own logical statistics like the other people here who seem to have a problem with my statistics yet can't come up with the correct one,if you can't then don't bother to reply this comment to waste my time

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 8:02pm On Oct 12, 2016

HARDDON:

marry a Kenyan then

nope, team whitey is the new trend

Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 8:05pm On Oct 12, 2016

2dugged:
and miss logical give me your own logical statistics like the other people here who seem to hava problem with my statistics yet can't come up with the correct one,if you can't then don't bother to reply this comment to waste my time

Dear miss comprehension,

I don't have a logical statistic because I don't plan on making a study on this topic, asking men if they cheat or not, because I will have to ask a looooot of Nigerian men. Not talking about 1 thousand, since there are about 60 million or more Nigerian men.

People have a problem with it because it's wrong, not logical and without a proof

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Originalsly: 8:05pm On Oct 12, 2016

majekdom2:
if you are married, your wife is presently covering all tracks, it's easier for her to contract too and she will not have the mind to tell you to protect yourself. So, that's double wahala.

Lol.. true!...and knowing women... she be the one to contract a disease... know her status... sleep with the husband... then two days later be raising hell that the husband gave her disease... and we men... our mouth be denying but at the same time be trying to figure out which one of our side chicks gave it to us!

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Originalsly: 8:10pm On Oct 12, 2016

2dugged:
nope, team whitey is the new trend

Team Whitey

....they'll give you diseases you never heard about nor can't pronounce!

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 8:11pm On Oct 12, 2016

lovelygurl:

Dear miss comprehension,

I don't have a logical statistic because I don't plan on making a study on this topic, asking men if they cheat or not, because I will have to ask a looooot of Nigerian men. Not talking about 1 thousand, since there are about 60 million or more Nigerian men.

People have a problem with it because it's wrong, not logical and without a proof

people have a problem with it because people have never liked the truth splashed on their faces, show me a Nigerian man that at one time or the other during his marital journey has not slept with another woman even if it was just once, I tell you,you will be shocked

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 8:12pm On Oct 12, 2016

Originalsly:
Team Whitey....they'll give you diseases you never heard about nor can't pronounce!

hehehehehehehehehehehehehrheheheh, leave that to me grin

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 8:14pm On Oct 12, 2016

Originalsly:
Team Whitey....they'll give you diseases you never heard about nor can't pronounce!

I don't think so. Besides interracial marriages are getting more and more common. The revolution is already starting now. The black woman is tired of not being appreciated because of a stupid culture who gives them no voice. Welcome to the 21st century

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by HARDDON: 8:15pm On Oct 12, 2016

2dugged:
nope, team whitey is the new trend

oh holy heck! embarassed

if only she knows......!

on another note,

whitey? is that supposed to be a human colour? like u have seen some1 white in colour b4?

btw, how are u gono achieve that been stuck in ur village? angry

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by TonyeBarcanista(m): 8:16pm On Oct 12, 2016

Originalsly:
Lol.. true!...and knowing women... she be the one to contract a disease... know her status... sleep with the husband... then two days later be raising hell that the husband gave her disease... and we men... our mouth be denying but at the same time be trying to figure out which one of our side chicks gave it to us!

Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by 989900: 8:16pm On Oct 12, 2016

Originalsly:
Lol.. true!...and knowing women... she be the one to contract a disease... know her status... sleep with the husband... then two days later be raising hell that the husband gave her disease... and we men... our mouth be denying but at the same time be trying to figure out which one of our side chicks gave it to us!

The way women cut side shows these days ehn. shocked

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by cococandy(f): 8:36pm On Oct 12, 2016

Who is society?

2dugged:
do you also know that in some tribes, women are not allowed to return back to their fathers house after marriage?, do you also know that society tends to shame a woman who leaves her husband for what ever reason?,it's not about being independent, down here, most women are the bread winners of their family, but end up putting up with nasty husbands because cult/religion has made it seem like husband is the crown of a woman, another reason why you see people quick to shame unmarried ladies as if it's a medal, and when one decides to speak against it,she is tagged a feminist

Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 8:38pm On Oct 12, 2016

HARDDON:

oh holy heck! if only she knows......!

on another note,

whitey? is that supposed to be a human colour? like u have seen some1 white in colour b4?

btw, how are u gono achieve that been stuck in ur village?

I know you are a Nigerian and obviously know what it means when a person says whitey, but you choose to display your nauseating stupidity like it gives you the same pleasure when you are jerking off on you pen1s, anyway I hope you have gotten the release you are looking for,if not then keep jerking off on this thread, infact the way you keep quoting me upandan, the soldier ants will soon get to your scrotum so you can gyrate more on this thread, kwontinu

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by cococandy(f): 8:43pm On Oct 12, 2016

fellis:
Why are people acting as if 2dugged is talking nonsense? Are they foreigners or they don't have experience with Nigerian marriages?
Why she said is plain truth and what obtains in Nigeria unfortunately. I know a woman personally, my aunts husband whose husband was cheating on her with the female students in the universities he lectures. He even had the audacity to receive phone calls from the girls in the presence of the woman. What didn't she do to change him?
She complained to his sister who was the relative he was closest to in the house, told her to talk to the man. She became superwoman with two jobs taking care of finance and housework to prick the man's conscience, she became sullen at home, gave him silent treatment, tried sexy dressing (anytime we went to her house we would meet her wearing small shorts and handless tops and this was an old woman with five children o) she ended up being frustrated and constantly complained at home for him to stop cheating, would even bring herself down to the level of calling the girls to warn them off but the man just continued sleeping around like a shameless dog without caring about the woman's feelings.

When she finally called family meetings to report the man and say she wants to end the marriage he started feigning remorse and they told her the same thing they tell all women, that please forgive him, he will change henceforth. Go home and be a good wife to him don't let Satan ruin your home.

After the meeting they went home and the man went right back to cheating on her. She gave up and asked for a divorce and he refused saying if she wants to leave she will have to go without the kids because he didn't want to end the marriage she was the only one that wants separation. Today they are living apart and the kids are living with the man but occasionally visit her.
All the members of his family are blaming her for the separation saying she is a heartless mother and she could have stayed for her kids. She. She's the heartless one. Not the useless dog of a husband that was exposing his wife to STDs. No. She is the heartless one.
During her kids last birthday which was held at the man's house everybody shunned her because they see her as a bad woman that used her own hands to destroy her marriage and abandoned her kids afterwards.

This is just one case I talked about here. There are others that I won't write. Leaving a cheating husband in Nigeria will most likely spell humiliation and loss of respect and even children in some cases that's why many women stay in marriage with cheating husbands not because they are not educated or independent.

And this trend isn't going to change anytime soon because Nigerian men don't respect women enough to be faithful to them and because many women have refused to fight for themselves and stick together. They would rather fight each other than face the men that cause them difficulties.

@bold is the problem.

And sadly, although OP is saying the truth she has counted herself among the women who make the status quo remain.
Which Nigerian man will openly say he doesn't mind his wife cheating As long as she doesn't get an STD?

The society that gives men free pass for things they want to kill women for begins with each of us. If she's willing to accept cheating, she's part of the problem.

If I'm not allowed to cheat, the man is not allowed to as well. (No buts)
Q.E.D

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Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Originalsly: 8:46pm On Oct 12, 2016

lovelygurl:

I don't think so.

Really?... the very dreaded HIV... don't you know who first contracted it?... and spread it worldwide? Not against inter racial. ... just double check he not into beastiality.

Re: I Can Forgive A Man That Cheats On Me But Never A Man That Gives Me Disease by Nobody: 8:49pm On Oct 12, 2016

cococandy:
Who is society?

all of us

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