gotnel:

Error, it's not advisable to send any of the wife away from the house. Since the husband was married to them before been born again, he should continue to be a good husband of his wives.
Salvation is certain once you are sure of your service to God almighty and to humanity.

awelekiti:
the man never said he didn't enjoy peace living with both wives and kids. He's only seeking opinions of NL if he should discard one, now that he's a believer.

evansjeff:
I know this is not allowed in Christianity, and it has always been a cause of worry to me, any hopes of making heaven? both having kids for me already, fellow nairalanders and Christians...help a wondering heart.


help move this to Front page please

Eyekandi:


Accepting to be a second wife is a gamble,in this circumstance, this gamble didn't play well for me, I will go.

classicB:
Just do right between them. There are men in the Bible that had more than two wives. Just be a good husband and a father, sending one packing in the name of restitution will only cause hate and the kids? Do you really want them to grow up without a father figure just because their daddy have chosen the other wife over their mother

Eyekandi:

Accepting to marry as a second wife to me is like a gamble, anything can happen, now something has happened, if he has to choose it should be the first.

that's my opinion, what's yours? that's if he is to choose?

fxbomovi:
@evansjeff, you have to divorce ur 2nd wife, but settle her and her children very well. Maintain ur fatherly role to her children. Thats what u need to do.

Eyekandi:


Accepting to be a second wife is a gamble,in this circumstance, this gamble didn't play well for me, I will go.

calliope:


He just have to accept what is done is done.. Be a father to his children and love both wives.. Aleast God would understand

evansjeff:
I know this is not allowed in Christianity, and it has always been a cause of worry to me, any hopes of making heaven? both having kids for me already, fellow nairalanders and Christians...help a wondering heart.


help move this to Front page please

Student125:


look at it ds way, u met a pilot who happened to be a Nigerian and even reside in ur area, everybody in d neighborhood knws he single nd he asked u out, u accepted.. after having 2 kids for him, he now called u that hs pastor asked him to divorce hs secnd wife if he wants to mke a heaven, I knw u will be surprised at ds point cuz u knw u re nt only one but to ur surprise he says he already had a wife in another continent bfre meeting u at all probably during hs sch days. as a lady, hw wil u feel, will it b easy for u to remarry or will u ever trust any man dat comes ur way

evansjeff:
I know this is not allowed in Christianity, and it has always been a cause of worry to me, any hopes of making heaven? both having kids for me already, fellow nairalanders and Christians...help a wondering heart.


help move this to Front page please

Eyekandi:


He wants to make a choice right? someone has to go and I chose the first, if not the second wife then it would be the first wife, right?
if u were a child of the first wife, what would you say of your father?

Eyekandi:


He wants to make a choice right? someone has to go and I chose the first, if not the second wife then it would be the first wife, right?
if u were a child of the first wife, what would you say of your father?

profolaolu:
it is better U keep ur mouth shut if U dont have understanding n stop misleading pple.

Chudichu:

He doesn't want to make a choice, he asked for the best action to take, now he is a Christian. Even if he wants to make a choice, I personally would advice against it. My opinion tho
He doesn't want to make a choice, he asked for the best action to take, now he is a Christian. Even if he wants to make a choice, I personally would advice against it. My opinion tho

Chudichu:

He doesn't want to make a choice, he asked for the best action to take, now he is a Christian. Even if he wants to make a choice, I personally would advice against it. My opinion tho
He doesn't want to make a choice, he asked for the best action to take, now he is a Christian. Even if he wants to make a choice, I personally would advice against it. My opinion tho

k10:
I believe 1 Corinthians 7:12 - 17 applies here

To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.

For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.
Nevertheless, each person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches.

Eyekandi:


I'm all about happiness o! forcing to stay with him won't bring true happiness to both of us,, abeg I'm leaving.

How will I feel? Distraught and disappointed at first but after thinking it through I'd leave.

Easy for me to remarry? so long as I wish to remarry and the traits that make me marriageable are still there, I'd remarry.

Trust? Except I don't wish to marry again, of cos I'd have to trust another man again,, no choice!

life's hard enough already, all this drama adds more to it don't you think?

HARDDON:
What a dicey one!

If we send the younger one with her kids away like Abraham did( tru restitution), we might hv another form of ISIS n the likes. Even if we rent another apartment for them, care for them, how do we divorce her?
If we cant divorce her, how do we keep caring for all her needs (both emotionally n sexually?). We cant n unfortunately, another cant. What a limbo.


If we decide to maintain statues quo n just live like one big happy family, heaven might elude us.


Solution:

Explain to the younger one why u need to do this: dissolve the spiritually illegal marriage but make sure they lack nothing. Rent a nice apartment for them. That way, u wudnt owe her any sexual responsibility nor wud u bind her down from meeting n marrying another.
Even after that, care for ur kids

wiseoneking:
No man in the new testament christian era with two wives.

classicB:
Just do right between them. There are men in the Bible that had more than two wives. Just be a good husband and a father, sending one packing in the name of restitution will only cause hate and the kids? Do you really want them to grow up without a father figure just because their daddy have chosen the other wife over their mother

JackBizzle:
There is nothing that can be done.

You just have to take care of your wives and provide for your children.

Divorcing anyone at this stage will only cause you more problems.



There is always hope- at least you can advice your children or siblings on the issues with polygamy

Student125:


I ddnt feel a bit of love in ur response, u sound as if d marriage is a like a burden that was released from u.... if truely u love ur husband and ur family u will knw it s nt that easy... and maybe u re used to pain bfre,dats y u could handle d situation but mind u, nt everybdy hav dsame mind. Do u knw that alone can cause a lot, infact a desperate wife will conclude to assassinate the husband cuz she will feel it s either d man belongs to her or nobody rather than leave her for another person. if u wana understand better, relate it with bf/ gf relatnship stuff dat one partner commit suicide cuz he/she feels cheated.

evansjeff:
I know this is not allowed in Christianity, and it has always been a cause of worry to me, any hopes of making heaven? both having kids for me already, fellow nairalanders and Christians...help a wondering heart.


help move this to Front page please

tempex88:
Based on doctrines preached by churches today, they will advice u to divorce the other wives and stick to the first one. However, based on my own understanding and interpretation, number of wife's married shouldn't stop u from entering God's kingdom. However, it will limit the role u can play in the church as u can not lead