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Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by realmindz: 11:57am On Oct 23, 2016 |
BlessedHay:God of the Old Testament is same as God of new testament. God never changes, or does he? If he once allowed it, why sud he later reject it. He is all knowing, remember? his plans are perfect, what he won't accept then he won't accept from the beginning. It is immoral to chase away the mother of his children in the name of one law given to men |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by evansjeff(m): 11:59am On Oct 23, 2016 |
Coolgent:lol... I'm not really the one but this has always been in my thoughts for some time now, I just needed clarification 1 Like |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by chingydaboss(m): 12:00pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
My brother, I can see u are ready to mak Heaven.. I rejoice with you ..your first wife is your original wife , d second one is not your wife. Call ur family together, talk to them dat u love them but you want all of them to mak heaven, thereby send ur second wife back to her father's house. Take responsibility of all ur children both form the first no second, .. Tell dem wen u married two women u were blind but you can now see.. God's standard can not be altered.. Everything will b okay.. God made them one man and one woman , and let no man put asunder.. God bless you.. evansjeff: |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by lakesider(m): 12:00pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
my question is this : show me where it is clearly writing in d bible not to marry 2 wives . |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 12:02pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
it is better U keep ur mouth shut if U dont have understanding n stop misleading pple. tempex88: |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by evansjeff(m): 12:02pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
deeway200:bro legally here means traditionally... and that's payment of bride price and other necessities. |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 12:02pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Zedoo: You see aside the Islamic religion, and you dont plan to divorce, anything second wife downwards is like a gamble! I'd think the right thing to do is stick with the first, you can't say the second is perfect for you because at the time the first was perfect for you! If it were me and the man actually prefers the second to me I'd like for him to let me go!! for both our happiness and peace of mind. |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by exboyolu: 12:04pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Dear All. My candid advice is to stick to your two wives. Just to be just among them and treat both fairly. The idea of having more than one wife is not new. Several Chosen Prophets of God practiced it and they still found the face of God Almighty. In fact the present doctrine of Christianity where they strongly disallowed polygamy does not have any scriptural basis. Christianity has created lots of confusion for people who might want to worship God sincerely (apology to my fellow Christians, i don't mean to offend anyone). Look at the issue of marriage, some Churches still believe that it is better not to marry. That is why you cannot not become Pope (or even Leaders in some churches like catholics) if you are married. These unauthorized practices has forced several people into secrete fornication or adultery. There are several reasons why polygamy is the best option if you have the capability. Abraham , the father of faith practiced it and lots of other Prophets. So where did the strange of one wife one husband came from? Several ladies would have been saved from the trouble of lack of husband if Xtienity allowed this God-approved marriage to more than one wives as He allowed His beloved Prophets to do. Finally Dear brother, please stick to your wives. Divorcing at this time is not an option for you. You will end up creating more problem for your children. Do you even know which of the Children will be great personality in future and you are thinking of sacrificing such unique child upbringing due to unsupported doctrine of one man -one wife. A doctrine that is not in line with the nature of man and that does not looks practical except for few people. For more guidance and possible followup do feel free to contact me privately. Regards, Professor Expert in Family Counselling. 1 Like |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by wiseoneking: 12:05pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Zoharariel:Stop been chidish, Your writeup is ridden with abuses, curses etc, every thing shows your personality, age and maturity, enviroment, literacy level. All these names you mentioned are all under the old testament covenant but christianity is based on the new testament covenant. There is no support of polygamy in the new testament. The Op case is a different case that he should seek God's face to direct him knowing that God works in a miraculous way. May be if the second wife got born again, she may decide to leave in good faith. ETERNITY IS REAL. |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 12:06pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
ochuciano: Meaning what, pls? |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by Foxxybrown: 12:09pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Change your address . Simple. |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by Donemc(m): 12:11pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
evansjeff:call your second wife and explain things to her,if you want to make heaven,do the needful i pray God help you. |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by greatjoey: 12:12pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
evansjeff: My brother, the bible says : look unto Jesus, the author and the finisher of our faith....... Not into human doctrine or church doctrine. The bible also says, woe unto he who adds or subtracts from God's word. God is the God of yesterday, today and forever. No where in the bible did God stand in condemnation against polygamy. God Gave wives to David. Many renown men of God whom God referred to as His friends and men after His heart had more than one wife. Solomon had a handful of them before he encountered God and God did not tell him to divorce them. God is not an author of confusion. You commit a sin when you divorse anyone of them. God sees both of them as your rightful wives. Discountenance all false doctrines pls. 1 Like |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 12:12pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
I'm not married but my advice due to real life experiences around me,stick to your two wives...but are you emotionally,physically,spiritually,sexually n financially strong? You have to be all these to be able to cater for two wives without causing grudges but only God is perfect in all ramifications... do not maltreat any of them n you must not be partial too. 1 Like |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by Okite15(m): 12:14pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
HARDDON: This is the only solution. OP, reject all others and stick to this. Don't let these "learned" NLs think they know more than God and the bible. Gods grace to you. 1 Like |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by ezugegere(m): 12:17pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
In the Catholic Church you will be required to wed one of the women in the Church. You can choose any. You have to be sexually separated from the other but you have to take responsibility for her upkeep unless she decides to go and marry another man. If you're not ready for this condition, you're not a full member of the Church and hence cannot receive the Holy Communion. |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by KingRex1(m): 12:17pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Eyekandi:Haba |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by tankoy: 12:18pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
evansjeff: if no pastor supports ur stay with the wives, go to Pastor Moses Alu of thebridesassembly, he will bless the marriage and you move on. 1 Like |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by DukeNija(m): 12:19pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
evansjeff: If you are focused on making heaven, rather than satisfying people around you or the society, then you have to do the unthinkable. Its one man, one wife. |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by Peachess(f): 12:20pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
The last time I checked I didn't find any part of the Bible where it is stated that it is against Christianity to marry more than one wife. Look at David look at Solomon. Funny thing is that the Europeans embedded their culture in Christianity and after hundreds of years we (blacks) don't know the difference even now that we can read. Just look at how some called 'Christians' can wed gay couples in church but frown against polygamy just because it's African. Be wise and don't be deceived. Even though I'm strongly against polygamy, the Bible doesn't tell us that polygamy is a sin 1 Like |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by DukeNija(m): 12:22pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
HARDDON: +100000 Its either he wants to make heaven or satisfy the society. The second marriage was not recognized by God in the first place. 1 Like |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by Student125(m): 12:22pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
wiseoneking:bro if I get u right, it means if Christianity is based on new testament den u re nullifying everything the old testament says. 1 Like |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by gotnel: 12:23pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Eyekandi:Error, it's not advisable to send any of the wife away from the house. Since the husband was married to them before been born again, he should continue to be a good husband of his wives. Salvation is certain once you are sure of your service to God almighty and to humanity. 1 Like |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by saintneo(m): 12:24pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Eyekandi:Assuming you are the second woman, what will you do if he divorces you? 2 Likes |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by Peachess(f): 12:26pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Funny how blacks will keep on being fools for the white. Last time I checked there are a lot of polygamous people in the Bible. But I can't see one gay couple in the Bible but some so called 'Christians' Wed gay couples in the church, but they frown against polygamy because it's African. Gosh! 1 Like |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by calliope(f): 12:27pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Eyekandi:So what happens to the other and her kids.. They deserve to be tossed out right? That's what your option entails if we look at it from the " logical" point of view. |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 12:28pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
If to say man be God o... some people here are not even married o,giving advises... you don't know the kinda trauma the second wife will go through mere not seeing her husband ,talk less of a divorce let's look at this scenario, a man(Christian) marries a woman n for a long time,no fruit of the womb...he marries a second wife without the first wife knowing the second wife gives birth during this period the first wife also got pregnant n has a child at last the man didn't leave the second wife,she has another baby but... he totally ignored her,doesn't visit n it leads to the woman having mental issues who should be blamed? 1 Like |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by Okite15(m): 12:33pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Tiny23: You are off point. dats not his scenario na |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 12:36pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Eyekandi:the man never said he didn't enjoy peace living with both wives and kids. He's only seeking opinions of NL if he should discard one, now that he's a believer. 1 Like |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by Zedoo(m): 12:38pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
Eyekandi: Its hard to take....but if money dey.... And it also depends on the stage of life.... Lol. |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 12:38pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
calliope:Accepting to marry as a second wife to me is like a gamble, anything can happen, now something has happened, if he has to choose it should be the first. that's my opinion, what's yours? that's if he is to choose? |
Re: Legally Married To Two Wives Before Knowing God, What Should I Do? by Nobody: 12:40pm On Oct 23, 2016 |
saintneo: Accepting to be a second wife is a gamble,in this circumstance, this gamble didn't play well for me, I will go. |
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