it hurts so that we will have experience on how to handle situations with other people.

Look For " Let It Go" By TD Jakes.

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it hurts so that we will have experience on how to handle situations with other people.

That's a good point.

Anyway, I think it is because if you truly love someone you give a part of yourself to them, you allow yourself to be vulnerable, when you are in a loving relationship the two of you own each others happiness. Remember when something did not work out the way you wanted, your loved one is the person you run to for comfort, your emotional crutch. When you feel down, they are there for you, when you feel high it is usually down to them. When that person is no longer your other half they appear to take your happiness with you. They knew just what to say and just what to do to make you happy, which in itself was an acquired skill. It takes time to get to that level with anyone and this is what we call 'love'. You are scared there may be noone else up to the challenge, who can bother to understand all you need and give it to you. You are scared at the time it will take to find someone willing and then teach them to love you. Love doesn't come easy, that's why it is hard to let go of it when you find it.

One thing is for sure though, if you have courage and exercise patience you will love and be loved again. I am sure you are already loved by family members, let them be your emotional crutch (whatever part they played in your relationship), afterall not everyone has family to love them so you still have more than some.

Chin up son, move on.

Time heals everything.

We've been there and back brother and i tell you its not so easy to just "move on" as most people will be quick to suggest to you. I thought i had the perfect relationship until family interference (reference mine!) interrupted it. I would say with a benefit of hindsight now that i handled the situation foolishly as i allowed my folks to direct the relationship from day 1! I still cant help thinking about what might have been if i had been a bit more mature then. . . but you know "moving on" is real, she's moved on now.

Love hurts but like an earlier poster oppined, we go through such experiences that later in life we may be stronger and better equiped to handle other challenges that the future throws at us. Now my family find themselves almost shut out of my relationships because of that singular experience.

Grow up, move on, you will find even better ladies after her. The problem is as long as you keep holding on to the memory of yesterday you wont start living in today. I cant count how many times i've "fallen in love" only to spend half the time wishing it was the other girl!!!

You cant get her back. leave her and move on!! It was not until 4 months ago or so that i finally spoke to her for the last time and let everything go after more than a yr after we broke up.

Life dey my boy, throw urself back into some sort of activity, work, sports, new friends, anything to get your mind off and soon you'll be back on your feet. cheerio!

No sweat matey.

I know how you feel. At least for me, im at a point were i feel that dull ache, and its the best place to come after working thru so much drama and trauma.

I m beginning to look up again, and feel more positive about living again. I will try and fly again - even though i fell before.

I just pray for my baby, that God must take care of him please.

Before if you asked me to hear the words "its over" i'd literally sweat. Now im like, its ok.

It happens. So keep up that hill, after getting to the top, it only gets easier as you go down.

Take care bruv.

@lush yeh i get wat u mean now, but i no that wateva has happend is for a reason and that trash u've bn thru will b turned into Gold stay cool

Lush:


I'm trying to . Colourful way of describing it though "trash" , thanks.

lol don't worry u'll get over it!!