sisisioge:


Toooo o, no be say I hold am o. You guys are now sooooo lazy...u can't even be bothered to properly woo a girl

automatix:
it's pathetic they just want a man to do all the work, as in all the works, all the time. It's why most guys prefer the show off strategy or lying approach, those that spend a lot on appearance but have no future savings. Is it a crime to look like a normal human being you would meet anywhere?

My dressing is like a Mark Zuckerberg without the fame and money-- very simple and straight forward, like an ordinary person you would meet anywhere.

Like the lady I described in the post above, we dated for 4 months before she left on the basis of sex. Let assume that's the reason. Would she say hadn't had sex since she left? NO.

Okay, let's assume it is because of finance, yeah back then I was still in school finished my NYSC not long ago. But lets just assume it was based on finance that she left, why couldn't the guy she claimed to be dating save her when she needed financial help? Yeah, while trying to reconcile with her, she said she was dating someone else. Meanwhile I was there all along, calling, trying to do everything. Why? Cos I really loved her.

But let assume she left cos of finance. Which means the guy she went with couldn't help her. And someone dare say ladies aren't crazy? There are crazy and stupid.

The reason she had the idea that I could help because I forcefully made it known that I am not what she think or have in mind about me. I made her see I have drive, I have focus, I have purpose, I am fighter, I have dreams. I expect a lady to find these things out over time but if I have to show you myself, you are likely not gonna get the best of me. I still love her and sometimes wanna do away with thought of what she had done in the past.

But on second thought, I don't want anyone liking me because she perceived some sort of potential and so, I am left the option of still searching up to chasing the recent one on facebook lol.

Nobody wants to suffer but we are firstly HUMANS before we are anything. Is there a crime liking that HUMAN figure before liking what he is carrying on his head? Cos I first like them as the HUMANS they are, not money, not sex whom they are as HUMAN. You have to apply wisdom sometimes. How about finding if a guy has ambition, drive, even though he has not much money?

I am not filty rich but heck I am not scared about the current recession in the country or the job losses.

The one on facebook, I don't know what approach to adopt really but I really appreciate the way she responded on phone when I called. I was actually expecting the usual "yes, what do you want?" like some stupid idiots do most times.

Joavid:


how can someone be poor and ugly at the same time? That's just wrong

Timbuktuo:
Barely three seconds ago, a thread about the oppressive nature of the African marriage was opened and women were nigh unanimous in agreement with the content of the OP of that thread.

Perhaps, this man thinks women might find him oppressive, perhaps not. What I do note is that he has no intentions of holding back any woman who might prefer independence from such an oppressive instirurion, incidentally "a construct of the Patriarchy". One would think the hordes of independent-minded women would jump at this offer. After all, open marriages are becoming a thing, even babymamaism.

What is the problem with this young man's request, women? Why does he have to marry the mother of his child? Last week, or thereabouts, soooo many women advised a pregnant 23year old woman to go it alone. Her boyfriend has been a bellend so "dump his trifling ass, nothing do you." Never mind, they reconciled and have decide to make the relationship work. Meanwhile, divorce is rife, I hear Badagry is a hotbed for marital dissolution these days. What, really, is the big deal about marriage? Can't a single man and a single woman just decide to have a child together. Isn't it 2016 anymore?

The mind truly boggles.




Why should a man woo? What would be the purpose, and who would the wooing benefit? Why is it lazy for a man to woo, but not a woman, in 2016 no less! Are you sexist?

Joavid:
In essence, you're looking for a babymama that you may or may not be serious with

You want to bring an innocent child into a dysfunctional family structure? you're selfish!!


you men should continue spoiling our family values because of your selfishness and wickedness.

Feanah:

Haba that's harsh...you don't know his story

Viking007:
^^^ Women are their own worst enemy.

Timbuktuo:


[b]I'm only trying to understand [/b]them is all. Hopefully, a rep of theirs can do the honours of explicating their basic tenets.

Good luck with that sire.

daddytime:


Her likes are best ignored until they get a grip of what life truly means.

thorpido:
Well people have choices and they do have that liberty to make their choice.

However,the fact still remains that raising a child in a stable and loving home where there is a father and a mother remains the best for that child.

We should put that into consideration above our selfish interests.

Timbuktuo:
Barely three seconds ago, a thread about the oppressive nature of the African marriage was opened and women were nigh unanimous in agreement with the content of the OP of that thread.

Perhaps, this man thinks women might find him oppressive, perhaps not. What I do note is that he has no intentions of holding back any woman who might prefer independence from such an oppressive institution, incidentally "a construct of the Patriarchy". One would think the hordes of independent-minded women would jump at this offer. After all, open marriages are becoming a thing, even babymamaism.

What is the problem with this young man's request, women? Why does he have to marry the mother of his child? Last week, or thereabouts, soooo many women advised a pregnant 23year old woman to go it alone. Her boyfriend has been a bellend so "dump his trifling ass, nothing do you." Never mind the fact they reconciled and have decide to make the relationship work. Meanwhile, divorce is rife, I hear Badagry is a hotbed for marital dissolution these days. What, really, is the big deal about marriage? Can't a single man and a single woman just decide to have a child together. Isn't it 2016 anymore?

The mind truly boggles.




Why should a man woo? What would be the purpose, and who would the wooing benefit? Why is it lazy for a man to woo, but not a woman, in 2016 no less! Are you sexist?

daddytime:


No time even reading from the all-knowing critics..my request is straight forward enough. An aye for the interested and a nay for the uniterested. The ayes can do me a mail while we take it up from there while the nays can keep their opinions and take a quiet walk. Very simple!

sisisioge:


Ennnh! You even have an almost caustic mouth Interesting...and that bobo was actually advocating for you o. Whew, I hope the girl interested comes with a lawyer man...she's so gonna need it

sisisioge:


Whew! After all this your English, you still had to quote me? Anyways, life is all about choices with a scale of preference. Being a baby mama is not totally unheard of but definitely not one of the top on any sane girl's list. The society will be a much better place if we breed less of dysfunctional families thus improving the outputs to the society at large.

OP should keep trying...he just might find.

sisisioge:


Ennnh! You even have an almost caustic mouth Interesting...and that bobo was actually advocating for you o. Whew, I hope the girl interested comes with a lawyer man...she's so gonna need it

Timbuktuo:


Do you know whether I like you and am beginning my wooing campaign? Surely, you don't have to see the wooing coming before it is a wooing.

Anyway, I agree with the effects of irresponsible childbearing on society and I would rather OP found a good woman to marry and have children with than some surrogacy arrangement.

Daddytime, I would suggest tabling your matter before the brethren @

https://www.nairaland.com/1582623/boys-night-out-discussions

Onegai:
Daddytime, have you thought things through? What if the mother decides to relocate to another country? What if she gets married, and her new husband is now the de-facto fatherly presence in the child's life, then what?
If you really want a child, you realise that fertility clinics exist all over Nigeria where people donate eggs and Surrogates exist to carry the (if) successful pregnancy to term, giving you your own child, less complications. If you're serious about this, why not do that? Put your money where your intent is and you can get the ball rolling on the whole process.

Timbuktuo:


Are you observing a fast? You seem to misunderstand the comment you quoted.

sisisioge:




Whoops! You are gonna have to forgive me for being such a girl. Wonder what I was thinking reading words written in "guy's" language.

Daddytime,biko stick to English alone. Girls may be reading your posts too

Timbuktuo:


Do you know whether I like you and am beginning my wooing campaign? Surely, you don't have to see the wooing coming before it is a wooing.

Anyway, I agree with the effects of irresponsible childbearing on society and I would rather OP found a good woman to marry and have children with than some surrogacy arrangement.

Daddytime, I would suggest tabling your matter before the brethren @

https://www.nairaland.com/1582623/boys-night-out-discussions

sisisioge:


How I wan take know @bolded? What's so wrong in coming straight to the girl and showing her your cards? Life isn't as difficult as we are making it...does the idea of OP wooing a girl into birthing kids for him sound far-fetched? Yes, I have seen that sheet play out before, all na offerer-offeree show.

sisisioge:




Whoops! You are gonna have to forgive me for being such a girl. Wonder what I was thinking reading words written in "guy's" language.

Daddytime,biko stick to English alone. Girls may be reading your posts too

Timbuktuo:


That's for secondary school boys, or for times when a man meets a goddess. You're also discounting the number of rejections guys have accrued when they came out straight. I hear, in fact, that there are guys who masterbate and remain single than be rejected again. Don't hate the player, baby, hate the game. Some play the game in a way that doesn't tamper with their reputation and self-respect others are shameless.

Modern marriage is a gamble and quite daunting. People like to offer statistics about weddings happening every Saturday, but they fail to bring up the stats that tell divorces following up on Monday. You see that arranged marriage system that liberalism called oppressive? I guarantee you, it will make a comeback. Then, maybe, people will do away with this ridiculous notion of surrogacy.

Timbuktuo:

Aproko. Wetin consign you for Wetin men dey talk to demsef?

Onegai:
Daddytime, have you thought things through? What if the mother decides to relocate to another country? What if she gets married, and her new husband is now the de-facto fatherly presence in the child's life, then what?
If you really want a child, you realise that fertility clinics exist all over Nigeria where people donate eggs and Surrogates exist to carry the (if) successful pregnancy to term, giving you your own child, less complications. If you're serious about this, why not do that? Put your money where your intent is and you can get the ball rolling on the whole process.

elektra:


But surrogacy will require him to raise the child himself. He not only needs a womb, he also need the woman to raise the kid. (Most likely by herself since they are not married and the kid would be staying with her, but I guess it's no big deal because many of the so called married men do not participate in raising their kids sef so what is the point in marrying?) He wants the kid to bear his name and enjoy the nourishment that comes from a mother.

elektra:


But surrogacy will require him to raise the child himself. He not only needs a womb, he also need the woman to raise the kid. (Most likely by herself since they are not married and the kid would be staying with her, but I guess it's no big deal because many of the so called married men do not participate in raising their kids sef so what is the point in marrying?) He wants the kid to bear his name and enjoy the nourishment that comes from a mother.

daddytime:


Thanks dear you go school of person mind. I definitely want to be in the kid (s) life in every way thats ny responsibility.